Manifesting love and relationships can be challenging which doesn’t make any sense. Love and relationships are separate things, especially in today’s world – love, by nature, is one of the happiest manifestations one can experience in their lifetime while relationships can be difficult to maintain.
When it comes to the Law of Attraction, it is my firm belief that in order to successfully manifest relationships, one must view them as easily and happily as they view the idea of love.
It is possible to use the Law of Attraction to manifest any kind of relationship you desire with the person you desire but you only if you see it through. Even when things get difficult, you must do the work to bring yourself back on track. This takes killer self-confidence which you are capable of obtaining. When manifesting relationships with specific people, you may fall into despair at the manifestation pace, negative thoughts or any other factor. Then, you may be in the category of those still unsure whether they truly want the person they set their eyes on due to some difficult experiences with them yet momentarily being unable to forget them. Whatever your thoughts are, I want to share some of my personal experiences and opinions of manifesting relationships based on the past seven years.
To begin with, who do you choose to be in a relationship with?
We all want excitement yet we want a relationship to sail smoothly. This takes a special kind of feeling but who do we easily feel it for? Usually, this idea is related to being with a person who is exactly (or close enough to) what we wanted…but are they the person you want or do they simply possess the ideas and the behaviors you wished to have in any specific partner you set your eyes on?
Too many times, I’ve seen people let go of the person they truly love simply because he or she refused to change specific personality traits. Painful as it is to say this, those who expected their partners to change were not always keen on changing themselves while in any relationship situation, both parties contribute to any given problem. I’ve been on both sides of the problem in the past and an additional one – I once tried my hardest to love a person who simply fulfilled my ego needs and of course, the relationship ran past its due course and died a painful death. At the same time, there was another person in my life I loved but didn’t want to be in a relationship with. Complicated, right? However, over the years, I have only become even more convinced that love and relationships truly were two separate things but they can be synchronized and they can both be easy.
So, how does the Law of Attraction come into place in manifesting and experiencing relationships?
Case in point, I was projecting the energy which was the opposite of what I wished to create in every single way. One of the two behaved the way I wanted while the other was who I wanted… But he didn’t behave as I wished him to. Eventually, I criticized the one who behaved as I wanted just as much as the other, effectively going back to square one. There is no reason to think that the person you want to be with is simply beneath you because as a result, you will be less of a person you need to be in order to manifest a happy relationship, as the energy we project onto another we also project onto ourselves.
I deemed some people relationship-ready while others I deemed the opposite. In reality, I was looking for excuses not to be with the person I truly wanted to be with, leading them to never wanting to fully commit to me either. You may choose who you want but never look down on anyone, for any reason…and I had looked down on him. I thought of him disposable. Years later, the person I loved was still in my life and I decided to experience the best in him. I began to entertain the idea of us becoming a couple and we became closer than ever. This lasted for as long as it made us both feel good. Then, we naturally went our separate ways. No hurt feelings, no arguments, no tears. I loved him but knew he wasn’t the one for life and the Law of Attraction responded accordingly – we enjoyed our connection, then separated. The last thing I wished for our relationship was to have a calm separation, which it did. Today, I wish him well but never entertain more than a few seconds of thought when it comes to him, as my once strong feelings faded a long time ago.
But what about those who still, or once again, wish to live a happy relationship with the person they love? Whether this is a new person in your life, someone you are involved with or your ex, you will achieve results if you drop the unnecessary amounts of ego and then, achieve a seemingly impossible task of combining the love and the relationship into one. If you are still manifesting a relationship with the person you love, you may be holding a grudge over any unpleasant, hurtful experience you ever had with them. However, thinking about those hurtful experiences will not improve your relationship but bring more of the same. In order to resolve this, it is necessary to stop focusing on all the hurtful experiences one had with the person they are inviting back into their life.
Love is necessary for manifesting anything and making it last. Whether it is a career, money, a relationship or anything else, nothing will become a permanent fixture in your life unless you love it.
Now, you may ask what to do if you love a person but wish they would treat you better than they have so far, whether you are in a relationship with them already or are manifesting it right now?
The answer is…
When you truly love a person for who they are, with all their qualities and all their faults, you will never ask them to change. There’s a clear difference between wanting to improve your relationship with a person and wanting to blatantly try and change them. When wishing to improve your relationship with someone, you wish for the both of you to be happier, whether you realize it or not. When trying to simply change a person, you are only looking out for your own interests.
Who do you love enough to want to make them happy while wanting to allow them to make you happy? Is this person already in your life? Be honest. Who is it?
On the other end, how do you know that someone doesn’t make you happy? It is when you don’t want to find yourself sharing happiness with them. You want to share it with someone else or at least someone different. This new person may have any kind of personality in the world but if you can love them, you will want to share your world with them.
I see people fighting for love – that cannot be denied. However, I see twice as many fighting ego battles, digging deep into the insults instead of thinking about everything worthy of love in the person they desire. This is often the case when one is manifesting an ex back into their life or when one wishes to become an exclusive partner of the person they are involved with casually. In these two cases, many hurtful experiences may arise but if the person you have this type of relationship with is the one you want, you must become strong using only love.
The golden rule of insults – the name you have been called by another describes the opinion this person has of themselves, not you or anybody else.
Those who are confident never judge; the insecure ones look for counterparts and if needed, they attempt to bring others down to their level. Give them love and give yourself respect or vice versa. It will come back to you.
Unfortunately, this also means that every time you looked down on your ex for upsetting you, answering to insults with negative thoughts, they managed to drag you down to their level. Your ex might have made a mistake but by entertaining negative thoughts, you made the same mistakes you judge them for.
The only way to rise above is to feel love for yourself, then feel love for your ex and bring them back up with you. You must put the hurt feelings behind and stop living in the past. You must love the new relationship you have in your mind for the two of you, one of nothing but love and happiness.
Are you ready to embrace the relationship with the person you truly want? Because embracing it means releasing your other options, if you have kept any, safety nets and idea of settling for less than what you truly want away from yourself. It means being ready to be their partner, be in an entirely new relationship with them and be happy with them, all of which you can manifest. You must distinguish a person you truly love, for better or worse, from the people you find manageable.
Since relationships are such difficult experiences for many, these individuals opt for a candidate they can handle – one who will offer them some kind of security. Choosing someone other than the person you want and starting a relationship with them doesn’t make you enlightened; being with someone you know you don’t truly love comes out of need while being with someone you love comes out of want. Relationships are meant to be wanted, not needed, as we are perfectly capable of living and breathing whether or not we are in one. We already possess everything we need to stay alive but the questions is, what and who do we want? Only a loving mindset will allow us to be with the person we truly want, as we naturally want to give them all of ourselves. A desperate and needy mindset an a loving mindset are so different that when entering the latter, you can barely remember what it was like to be in the former…it simply feels like a lifetime ago.
Once you become ready to embark upon using the Law of Attraction to manifest a relationship with the person you want, you may face several challenges. There is an easy way to resolve all of them.
Some struggle with time. Even though you want to manifest your dream relationship now, you can still make it happen sooner than you think. In the meantime, cherish your life just as it is and make your visualizations so powerful that they simply become effortless. Time serves as an amazing reminder of why we love, like, cherish or value someone. This is why the time apart makes us miss and remember the reasons we love another person. Enjoy the process because, guess what, you already have everything you need which makes you free to live and be happy in anticipation of the day you will get what you want!
Some struggle with thoughts of their existing relationship (or a lack thereof) with the person they love. We hate to admit it but negative thoughts can be comforting. When suspecting that something is wrong, a part of you may wish to be proven right in order to end the suspense and finally relax. They want an excuse to give up because it’s easier that way. In relationships, suspense is a negative feeling and we are usually willing to do whatever it takes to end it and return to security. In today’s world, it is also very difficult to get used to being happy. However, you have to try and once you do, you will find it natural. The reason it feels so foreign is because happiness is impossible to achieve without being yourself which is a rarity in today’s world. You must be free to be yourself and love who you are. Love is more than you think in every way, which is why so few understand it. You must view love and relationships as a feeling, an energy, instead of viewing them as a set of behaviors. Love is a feeling and you choose who you share it with but only after you share it with yourself.
Some struggle with thoughts of what could go wrong once they have the relationship they wanted. When manifesting a relationship, only think about the relationship. Do not think about its end unless you wish to manifest it. Allow yourself to sink into your visualizations, experiencing and feeling them as real as possible. Then, they will translate into your life as soon as possible.
Some struggle to leave the past in the past. This notion encompasses many problems of many relationships but since when is living in the past a beneficial experience? Unless you wish to recreate a positive manifestation from your past, leave it where it belongs. Never think about the past unless you truly wish to bring it into the present.
Know what you want. Prepare for happiness. Imagine the loving relationship you want with the person you want and be ready to experience it. Live in the present.
Above all, know that you are getting what you want. Unconditionally believe it’s already yours because you are the only one responsible for obtaining it.