When we talk about the state of the wish fulfilled, being a vibrational match to your desire, mind energy, heart energy and positive feelings, all that information may be confusing. However, once deciphered, assuming the state of the wish fulfilled as well as raising your vibration is not only fun and enjoyable but also full of love you generated all by yourself.
Most of the questions I receive deal with the following topics – manifesting relationships (usually with specific people), manifesting money and manifesting weight loss. Today, I am going to explain what it means to assume the state of the wish fulfilled and raise your vibration when manifesting relationships.
Neville Goddard defined the concept of assuming the state of the wish fulfilled. Everything he wrote on the topic, from belief to explaining conscious and subconscious minds in detail, states that one must visualize strongly enough to feel as if their desire were reality, experience it fully in the mind and they will be naturally able to let go and manifest. Once visualization is so strong that it satisfies the hunger we feel for our desire, he said, that desire will manifest as satisfaction grows because we already know what it’s like to have it. What we possess in our minds, we will end up possessing in the external world, in life.
You must feel that you already have everything you want. You must feel fulfilled and content. Feeling hunger for your desire shows you are still missing its presence in your life.
When we talk about raising vibration in order to match a desire, the common factor this concept shares with assuming the state of the wish fulfilled is who you choose to be. This is why the Law of Attraction is never about the other person but always about you.
After forming beliefs of ourselves while living our lives, we tend to limit the ways in which we see ourselves. We accept some things as true of ourselves and live by them, unaware that we can change everything we think and feel and therefore, change our lives.
When you convince yourself that you are the person you wish to be and love it, knowing all your convictions have already been created and you just have to receive them, your vibration will raise automatically, more and more each day. You must make yourself feel comfortable and happy with who you are and who you wish to become. Hold onto your convictions until the end and focus on doing anything and everything that makes you happy.
Allow yourself to be the person you wish to be and your vibration will rise.
When manifesting relationships, do you feel it possible to be with some people but not others? Do you think that some are on your level while others are too good for you? If you have done any of these things, never do them again. You are limiting yourself and you are the only one who has the power to do so.
On the other hand, once you become confident and equally respectful of yourself and others, you will never judge them nor will you look at them the same way again. You will observe them with different feelings and through different energy. The love and respect you feel for yourself generates love for and from others.
Now, how do you see the person you wish to manifest a love relationship with? How do you feel that person? Not feel about but simply feel.
When you look at the person you want to be with, do you see someone you can’t “have?”
Do you see the person who makes you happy?
Do you see someone you feel distant from?
And how do you feel?
Do you see yourself as the person your desired individual is in love with? When you picture your desired person saying something to you, does it feel real or not? Which words feel unreal and which are believable?
What you must do is make your desired reality believable. You have to combine the way you see yourself with the way you see the person you have chosen.
It’s all about energy. If you want to change your relationship with someone, you have to change the energy between you by feeling differently about them as well as yourself. One person is capable of accomplishing this goal – once you set your energy on a new path, the other person will follow.
If it makes you feel better, know that whenever you saw yourself as not enough for the person you desired, you also saw them as someone who wasn’t enough for you. Feeling that another is insufficient in any way automatically spreads the energy of insufficiency on both of you. Do you see what you did there?
On the other hand, you might remember a time when you met someone and it was smooth sailing. You clicked, you wanted the same things and you stayed together for as long as you were clicking.
You may have decided that you were a fan of specific qualities in your desired partners or that you were an individual who always attracted a specific kind of partner which continued to manifest in your life.
Problems often arise when you find ourselves attracted to someone different than anyone in your past or are manifesting a return of an ex you currently feel distant from. However, being different than the person you want for whatever reason means nothing. Do you think that couples have everything in common? Do you think that there are any two people or couples on Earth who are similar in every way? Absolutely not.
Anything can be created so believe that you can create your desired outcome.
Think of yourself as being equally capable of attracting anyone into your life because guess what… You are.
What is it you have to do in order to change any mutual energy? Change your own by changing your convictions!
1. Think about what you want for a few seconds and then feel it. Surrender to the feeling in every way. In the past, whenever you looked at someone you knew was in love with you, you had no doubt about it whenever you saw them. Now, you want to look at the person you want to manifest a relationship with as someone who is in love with you. Feel your love for them, see yourself as a person happily in love with them and see both of you enjoying your love. When you look at the person, feel your mutual love, even if you think it isn’t there yet; before you know it, it will be. Your feelings and your energy are the only things you need to focus on. Believe me, this is very fun to do and it’ll be even more fun once your desires manifest.
Problems arise when we feel incapable of changing the way we feel about most individuals in our lives. Sometimes, we feel emotionally paralyzed. This is often reflected in the dynamics of an individual who is in love with a friend while the friend simply fails to view them as anything but. Seeing someone as a friend, lover, partner or anything else is simply the description of the energy you respond to when it comes to the person in question. If you are in love with a friend, are you accepting that they don’t feel the same way about you? If you are, this is the reality you are creating again and again. You have to change your thoughts about them to get them to respond to a change in your energy.
This is one of the main reasons we rely on first impressions more than anything else; it is also the reason we accept the first impressions others have of us, usually doing nothing to change them but accepting the way we were seen. Do you see how we use the Law of Attraction all the time, even when we’re unaware of it?
Take any friend and observe the way you feel about them. What is your relationship like? This analysis of energy applies to anyone in the world – there is a way you view everyone you know or are aware of. You can change your perception of anyone and often do so once they make an unpredictable move, whether it’s towards you or not.
You can also change your perception of others without any moves from their side and now, you must change the way you view the person you desire to be in a relationship with. If you wait for another to make a move for you to change how you feel about them, remember that this change won’t last forever. Eventually, you will realize they are still the same person…unless you fundamentally change your feelings about them.
Now that you are familiar with the Law of Attraction, are you doing the work and sending the right energy for your specific person to manifest or return into your life? What kind of energy are you sending towards your relationship with them? How do you see and feel the relationship?
Some struggle with negative feelings about their desired partners on a regular basis. In order to resolve this, think about how the thought of being with the person is making you feel. When you imagine your conversation, your dates and your interactions, when you imagine your relationship, do you feel vibrant, happy and excited… Or do you simply feel grey? Is there enough love? Is there any positive feeling at all?
Is this person really the one you want? Do you believe they can bring magic into your life? Can you even truly want to be in a relationship with someone who takes color away from your life?
Only you know the answer.
Whatever you decide to do, remember to keep an abundance mentality. This concept is important because once you feel rich in money, love or success, more of it comes to you.
This is why when we are in a relationship, even more people try to date us while when feeling alone, that loneliness continues. Always feel abundant, regardless of the circumstances. Then, you will receive even more and at all times, you are free to choose who and what you want.
2. Make a list of who you are. That’s right, a list. This list goes for everything you wish to manifest in life. Your energy depends on who you are and you have the ability to be anything you want to be.
We don’t really see ourselves doing things, even though we think we do. In the big picture, we see who we are, meaning that we judge our actions in relation to who we choose to be.
This is where visualization comes in. Use it to become the person you want to be.
When manifesting relationships I saw myself as the following:
- An amazing girlfriend;
- Impressive to my partner;
- Fun to be around;
- A compelling conversationalist;
- Supportive and comforting;
- Admirable in every way.
The list was always about me. This is vibration – it is who you are. All I had to do when it came to my partners was see them in a positive light – I always saw them as amazing people (and, amazing men). In order for my partners to see me the way I wanted to be seen, I had to believe it first. I even thought about what I wanted to look like next to my desired partner. How was I going to dress or do my hair and make-up? What would it be like to go out in public with them and what would our date nights look like? How would I feel with them? I had positive feelings about all these scenarios. However, the moment I stopped seeing my partner as an amazing person, our relationship began to dissolve into a breakup. I had no regrets, as none of them were the person I wished to spend the rest of my life with, but I knew exactly when my energy changed. Every single time.
Are you rich? Are you always in debt? Are you a workaholic? Are you successful? Are you beautiful? Are you generous or selfish? Do people call you selfish and it bothers you even though you don’t particularly enjoy sharing? You might be fine not sharing until someone points it out. Are you loved, satisfied, content or adored? Are you a celebrity? Are you a person who possesses killer self confidence? Are you a loved and cherished partner of your desired person? Are you the person they are in love with and who loves them just as much?
If you have to change the concept you have of yourself in your mind, do it. Change is scary but if you have faith, it always leads to even more magic than you could have imagined. Dare to think of yourself differently. Dare to be happy! This is why we say that fortune favors the brave. Be brave!
If you must, change who you are. This is where your power to create rests – ignite it!
3. Drop the “how.” When it comes to manifesting relationships as well as self confidence, many wonder how particular things will occur.
“How will the person I want pick up on the change in my energy? How will they change their mind?”
Drop the “how” or it will plague you. “How” is not your concern – don’t try to make it so!
I don’t really care how anything happens. Knowing how would take a lot of the fun away and I suggest that you adopt this attitude. You can adopt it by deciding to trust the Universe.
Practice and have fun with all of this! Change scenarios if need be. Play with it and allow it to feel real – you will start to feel different in a matter of days.