You probably have a specific idea of how a relationship is supposed to happen and what one should do when pursuing their love interest. Texting, calling and asking to see you on a daily basis, asking you to meet their friends, declaring the things those in love tend to declare, asking you to be exclusive, expressing harmless jealousy for your friends of the opposite sex… Sound familiar? You probably also create new ones along the way – after a date, you may feel that, if your potential partner is serious about you, they will take the next step as you envisioned it. In case they don’t, you’ll feel that your desire of being in a relationship with them isn’t manifesting and you’re doing something wrong.
Are you guilty of this way of thinking?
Now, when your desired relationship doesn’t take the path you’ve envisioned, you may start to lose hope that the Law of Attraction is working. You may begin to think your relationship will never happen.
Have you ever done this?
In order to manifest a relationship fast, you must only feel love for it, yourself, your significant other and focus on your ideal reality as you want it to be.
Resistance tends to happen with the question of how. “How will this happen?” “How can I manifest a relationship with this person if they have said this?” “How long will it take?” However, any kind of resistance towards receiving the relationship you want with any specific person means you are either not accepting them fully or are not emotionally strong enough to have a relationship with them right now. Emotional strength and stability are essential to being in a successful relationship and if you find yourself being upset at everything right now, you must work on your emotional strength.
Being continuously upset with the person you have chosen is ultimately a sign of strongly engaging in resistance.
Look at it this way – if someone wanted a relationship with you yet they were perpetually upset with you and even pointing out everything you were doing wrong, thinking they knew better about what makes you happy, would you want to be with them? Even if they didn’t say anything to you but you could see it in their face, feel them judging you, would you want to be with them?
The answer is no. And you know it. You’ve probably been there at one point or another. You know what I’m talking about.
The way to resolve this is accepting and loving the person you want to be in a relationship with for everything they are which is easier than you think. It starts with accepting yourself. When you love who you are, you are capable of loving others the same way. What we feel for others is what we feel for ourselves.
Today (and this has been true for years at this point), I don’t care if I haven’t spoken to someone in a week, a day or ever. If I want someone in my life, they are coming into it. I attract everyone with thoughts and feelings of love. Friends are attracted with love. Significant others are attracted with love. A dream career is attracted with love. Ideal physical appearance is attracted with love (I’ve done this, too, without watching my diet or working out). Favorable events and circumstances with those you love are attracted with love. Money and dream homes are attracted with love.
When actions of love are combined with related thoughts and feelings, my power is endless. When one attracts with love, attachment falls away naturally. Every single one of my moments experiencing what I call the Highest Energy State showed me this and manifested miracles into my life.
Heart energy is one of my strongest allies in manifesting anything and everything. I’ve had days, even weeks in the past, when my energy was low and I wasn’t even motivated to tap into my heart energy but as soon as it would come about spontaneously, it was such a gift that I wished I’d been living it every second. Motivation for becoming an expert in sending heart energy happened when I decided that every single day of my life would be exciting and interesting, even those recovery days off; every single day would be as happy as those when I was bursting with heart energy… And those days always brought miracles beyond my comprehension. That’s the way I want to feel every single day.
If I’m experiencing any kind of resistance, to me it is a sign that I haven’t put enough heart energy into my desire. When manifesting a specific person, I couldn’t quite see myself with them yet if I had any resistance. Usually, this resistance meant I didn’t truly wish to be with the person long-term and would give up on them shortly after the honeymoon period of the relationship ran its course. (Of course, these were my personal examples – many who experience resistance with a specific person break through it, manifest the relationships and see it last.) This or any kind of resistance was always connected to my past but also, my “paranoid” thoughts. In the past, I had an uncanny talent of assuming the worst about a boyfriend, all due to the fear of getting bored. I feared ending up in an ordinary relationship – the most powerful form of resistance on my end.
Since all feelings and manifestations of circumstances come from within, every fear of boredom truly meant I wasn’t as interested in myself as I wanted to be. In order to attract an amazing person, one must feel that they deserve one and therefore think of themselves as an amazing person who deserves another of the sort.
Being the person you consider impressive can start with doing what makes you feel good. Personally, I pride myself on my way of thinking, my patience, confidence, the friendship I offer, my honesty, talents, respect for everyone around me, love for animals, a continuous desire to be an even better person and helping others. I donate to charity, advise, empower and help whomever I can. I send heart energy to others on a daily basis. These factors make me feel good about myself. Thinking of everything I am exceptional at, feeling happiness and love for it automatically makes me happy to be deserving of living my dream life, whatever that may entail.
Many have asked me how exactly heart energy helps their relationships. Few think to use it when things are good and in a way, I understand. As long as things are good and you are grateful for this, they will continue to be good and get even better; however, if one doesn’t feel deserving of their life being so good and thinks that happiness doesn’t last, it won’t for them. Then, things go sour and that is when one usually wants back the happiness they thought they didn’t deserve. Reading it now, do you see any point to this way of thinking?
Why not just create happiness and keep it? Who are you not to deserve this in life? Everyone does and so do you.
However, if you wonder how heart energy could possibly fix things for you, here’s an example of how sending heart energy once went in my life.
I’d gotten into a bitter argument with someone I was seeing. Arguments are far from my nature and I tried to moderate this one as much as I was willing to. Then, what started to bother me was my behavior, not his. I cared about how I behaved and handled my affairs in life…so I apologized. I felt that I hadn’t really done anything wrong but I apologized because I cared about how I communicated (and finally learned what it means to truly care about someone, for better or worse). After I apologized, I decided things were going to be fine and we would experience a reboot of our special connection. So, I took care of my own happiness. I pampered myself – I had an amazing bubble bath, made an extravagant meal for myself, visited the hairdresser and enjoyed the compliments I was getting for it, went out with my friends and drowned in the music I loved. I reminded myself of how happy I was and how much I deserved to live the life I wished. I was grateful for my happiness with him and him making the next move. I visualized our happiness, sent heart energy and forgave both of us for our argument. I knew it would all happen.
Three days later, it was as if he’d turned into a different person. He was telling me how much he’d been thinking about me, what he’d been up to, singing me praises. Our argument had not only become the past but it seemed as if he never even remembered it happening. Things were great until I allowed my energy to drop again and focus on his character traits which I disliked. I was doing this because ultimately, I didn’t want to truly be in a relationship with him (again, that was me while you may want to be with the person you feel resistance for). While I did, things were going great but then, I began to look for an excuse to get out. At any point, the Universe may ask us if this person truly is who we want to be with and if an honest change of heart happens, we are allowed to say no at any time; however, if one gives up while they truly, deeply wish to be with a specific person, they are setting themselves up for continuously receiving less than they deserve in life. In this specific case, I was manifesting separate events, not a relationship… And it was great manifesting practice.
Now, truthfully, is there a good reason why you shouldn’t receive the relationship you wish to receive? No. Never. The only one standing in your own way is you.
Regardless of how far we progress in discussing different topics on this blog, manifesting love continues to be one of my favorites. Sometimes, I think manifesting love is what we live for – nothing can make us happier than the moments spent wrapped in the embrace of the person we love, looking into their eyes, knowing they feel the same.
Nothing feels better than fearlessly opening ourselves up to love, receiving magic in return and allowing ourselves to share our significant other’s world while letting them into ours.