When evaluating our negative thoughts, their origins and current form, we may be tempted to blame our pasts, parents, exes or misfortunes for all our limiting beliefs.
The truth is, everything one allows into one’s belief system creates their reality. One’s past, parents, exes or misfortunes were merely the vehicles offering specific beliefs which are one’s choice to accept or reject.
Taking responsibility for your limiting beliefs which attracted your experiences is a great way to raise your vibration. No matter what it takes, you may choose to hold onto the negative feelings or break free from them. If you genuinely want to and know that you can, you will emerge on the other side a more positive individual than you ever knew you could be.
Just to be clear, I am not saying you have asked for your specific negative experiences to manifest in your life. I am not saying you deserved them. I know that fear can be paralyzing and I don’t blame you for being unable to escape it at certain times in your life. I am merely saying that where you are today is the only thing that matters right now. From here, you can create any kind of life you want. If you genuinely want to be happy, you can and will achieve your bliss. If you genuinely desire to overcome your troubles, you can.
I’ve experienced breakups, unemployment, living in a place I hated profoundly and insecurities. Once admitting that I’ve attracted these things into my life with my temporarily negative attitude, I was already on my way to fixing them.
Once I admitted to myself that I felt guilty about not genuinely wanting to be with a boyfriend, having second thoughts, that I picked fights with him because I wanted out and made mistakes (having not loved him enough), I could make peace with a break-up and move on.
Once I became grateful for being unemployed, having all the time in the world to spend with my friends, family and dogs, go to the gym and travel for pleasure as much as I wanted to, I would find employment according to my exact specifications. During this time, I always knew that the job was mine already, already on its way to me. I just knew. That was all I needed.
Once I became determined to find the good aspects of living in a specific place which I practically hated, I got the opportunity to move. I decided to make friends, tutor students, learn to play drums and join a choir. I was also Suddenly, I got to miss school for a while and during this absence, I found out my family was to move away. I was beyond grateful.
Any and every insecurity I’d ever experienced ended when I decided it would – that was how much I wanted to be confident and happy. I knew who I wanted to be and filled this idea with pure passion. This is why having the clearest possible idea of what you truly desire is vital to your success – knowing what you want and how you want to feel can only be experienced without resistance once it resonates with your heart.
Does this sound familiar?
Taking responsibility for your past comes down to making peace with it and leaving it behind instead of bringing it back into your reality. It comes down to being unburdened by it or simply taking all of its positive aspects into your present – nothing else. The “taking responsibility” part comes down to one decision and much positive recognition to follow.
Do you feel that a negative experience from your past is preventing you from being yourself?
If a negative experience you once went through was simply too painful to attach gratitude to, finding only one positive outcome it had will already raise your vibration. Maybe your negative experience made you stronger. Maybe it raised your awareness of specific issues in the world and motivated you to help others. Ultimately, will you break free from the prison of this negative experience and claim your happiness? Because you deserve it.
If you think you can’t, consider the benefits your present situation of being stuck brings.
None. You already knew this. Now, imagine how amazing you would feel if you overcame your negative experience – don’t you think you deserve that much happiness?
Recognizing one positive outcome that came out of your negative experience is enough. It might even be enough for you to entirely make peace with the said experience.
Once you’ve made peace with your past and taken responsibility for your thoughts, fears and actions, you can put all the passion in the world into your desire.
That is how I often create.
Everything I received rapidly, I’d put endless passion into. If I couldn’t see the way something would happen, I would decide that a miracle would occur. I rely on my decisions, trust the Universe and in turn, I have experienced more miracles in life than I could almost believe. I intentionally manifested a move to another continent at age fourteen. Every relationship I’ve ever been in was manifested intentionally, with a specific or a generic person at a specific time. I received double the fees I had asked for my work. Leaving the creation part up to the Universe feels right to me, which is not to say that I never took any specific steps towards a specific desire.
When you know it’s yours, you know what to do.
However, you won’t believe it could be yours until you’ve rid yourself of limiting beliefs. Taking the responsibility for them will allow you to receive your desires. There is no reason to hold onto those limiting beliefs – you already know that, too.