THOUGHT OF THE DAY

I recently wrote about one of my closest friends meeting one of her personal heroes. While reflecting on her manifestation just yesterday, she said:

“When you feel exhausted, you are clinging to your desire. You feel worn out trying to attract it but are suffocating the flow instead. This is when you have to let go of your desire without fear.”

You can read her story here.

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27 thoughts on “THOUGHT OF THE DAY

  1. Hi Nina!
    Once again I love that you’re writing again! I love logging on and seeing all your inspiring posts. 🙂
    I’m stuck in an interesting spot in my head.
    Me and my love still spend time together, lots actually. We spend most of last weekend together, hanging out, being close and intimate etc.
    I’m still stuck because we are not official, and she won’t/doesn’t want that?!
    I know its because of my beliefs, I don’t believe this can happen and I’m so stuck in this spot!
    Its crazy because I’ve manifested so much goodness in our relationship recently. We went from not really talking, (I just said to myself she wants to talk to me and spend time together again, believed it and it happened)
    I guess I just need some motivation! I have no problem believing we will spend time together or be intimate etc, we see each other 4 days a week, message everyday, and recently she has wanted to spend lots and lots of time together, even week nights which she never liked with early work the next day.
    How do I ignore the reality and make this happen?! I know it can happen quick, and I know I am capable but I’m still at the point where I can’t see it. So frustrating! haha!
    I’m at the point where I want to let go, I’m generally happy in life, meeting new friends, doing things I love and being very active. But she’s always on my mind.

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    1. Hi!! 😀 Thank you so, so much! It means a great deal to me 😀
      I think that your tiny hiccup lies in this idea – you keep clinging to that “making it official” moment which is why it keeps eluding you. You’ve detached from the relationship and manifested it because you believed it. Now, you basically have the relationship without having made it official.
      This attachment to “making it official” might be happening because you are too eager for it to happen, to go a certain way or you just feel like you need it to happen because it is too important to skip. It declares that you are a couple and it makes sense that it’s important to you but just like everything else, you have to allow it to happen. Now, you feel that you don’t have it because the conversation hasn’t taken place so you doubt her feelings around the issue but as soon as you become convinced that the act of “making it official” is yours and allow it to happen, it will. She might not even say it or you might not, at least not in those words, but she might just start to call you two a couple instead and then, it’s done 😀 Allow the official declaration to happen just like everything else did 🙂

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  2. Hi Nina,

    I have this feeling a lot, of being fatigued and exhausted all the time. Granted, I suffer from pretty bad allergies & sinus problems, that also seem to be affecting this. I also feel a little lethargic and depressed sometimes in general, but somedays it is hard to stay energized, and I just feel really tired. I’m not sure if the tired feeling & allergies makes me feel lethargic or the lethargic feeling makes me feel tired and have allergies.

    How can you use LOA to feel better physically, with allergies and/or depression? As you can imagine they can be hard to deny the feelings/symptoms while they are happening.

    Thank you,
    C

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    1. Dear C,
      I would focus on creating the exact opposite of what you are feeling now. I am saying this because whenever you feel “exhausted,” you can redirect to “energized.” Whenever you feel depressed, you can change it to “hopeful and happy.” Do you see what I mean?
      Directing your attention to the very opposite will be easy to remember and imagine – I think we’re all very good at imagining opposites and extremes, if you will.
      Your thoughts of the very opposite can be like a magnet, pulling you to the very opposite direction. Every time you think that opposite thought, you’ll automatically feel light since it’s a positive one. If you try it, I’m sure you’ll find it easy. When you think the opposite, you will automatically feel what it would be like to have it. This will be a light feeling that you can experience and let go. I really think it’ll make you feel better 🙂

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  3. Wow! That’s so spot on! 🙂 Thank you!!
    Things aren’t quite like they used to be when we were a couple, like she doesn’t express her feelings or send all the cute messages we used to. But its all getting better and better and I am getting lots of little hints too.
    I guess I just need to relax and let it happen. I know exactly what you mean, I’ve put a block up around ‘making this official’ which all revolves around being that close close couple (messages and declaring feelings etc). The universe knows what I want, so I’m guessing I just need to expect it to happen (as I have so so many good things happen already) and let go of all the negative thoughts. And keep sending heart energy.
    Now you have identified that as the issue which is awesome! I can do some EFT to remove that block!
    And you are also right, I actually have the relationship in real life, so I’m not sure why I’m even doubting!!!

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  4. Hi Nina .
    I told you a little bit about my story in earlier posts and I think all is moving in a right direction . I know everything will be just the way I want it to be . Without the doubt this is something I’m certain of and at times even if I wanted to I find it hard to imagine it any other way .
    Already sings started appearing here and there (they always the same sings prior to manifestation ).
    At the moment i feel kinda stucked . The thought of him avoiding me keep trying to take over ,I don’t even know why because at the same time I aware it’s just a imaginary thing . I don’t believe it affects much in relation to my relationship coming to life .
    I’m kinda torn between that strange feeling of him not wanting to see me and my view of him changing ( I actually see him as a kind ,carriying and loving person which I couldn’t see in him before or a least for a long time ) . It a such a contradiction to me . I’m not too sure how to handle this . Would you have any advice for me ? I would really appreciate your opinion on this .

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  5. Just to add . I know all this doesn’t matter anyway and whatever is now will change . That is something that became clear and obvious to me and I’m not worried . It’s just an uncomfortable thought which I’m focusing too much on .

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    1. Hi Josie! I wanna say that this could be great practice for you 😀 You can simply train yourself to ignore your negative thoughts while feeling gratitude or any positive emotion for the positive ones 🙂 What do you think?

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      1. Hey . Thanks for a reply . I put way too much focus on those thoughts . I have tried EFT a long time ago and decided to use it again . It certainly did nothing good for me but made me feel awful and then I came to a conclusion that I’m trying to create and fix an issue that doesn’t even exist (except in my head ) . It’s an extra work that doesn’t need to be done .
        I’m kind of glad you didn’t respond earlier . That way I had a chance to work it out myself .
        When I’m positive and feel great everything seems easy and stuff seems to shift (I just feel it inside ) but in my experience those periods of positivity are broken every now and again by short moments of negativity ,paranoia.
        I think those are the moments when you have to stick to your belief and see what is yours despite all those doubts creeping in ,you have remain focused on your goal . To me that is a real strength .
        What’s very intriguing here is that I now think of fear as a great opportunity to exercise my brain which is exactly what you said 😂😂😊!!

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      2. I love it! 😀 You know, we all have familiar thought patterns which we sink into too easily, especially at certain points in a manifestation. Those times may occur during a manifestation or they may not but if they do, they’re old habits. I am so glad I was busy as well and that you could break them on your own! 😀

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      3. HI Nina
        I have a few more questions.
        1)How long did it take for you to attract a specific person?
        2)Did you ever just feel like giving up? If yes, why? If no, why not?
        In all the time I’ve been reading the stories on The Secret website I only ever came across 3 stories of people who attracted a specific person who had told them they were not attracted to them. The rest are all stories about people getting back together or ex’s. 3 stories out of thousands and thousands. I’m at the stage of where I feel like giving up again. Not because I don’t feel worthy or undeserving or any of that but more like… if he didn’t want me from the start and telling me he wasn’t attracted to me, why would I want him to be with me if that’s not what he ever wanted? I can’t see a man telling you he isn’t attracted to you if he was.
        When I visualize and feel good I get what I would call non stop signs and when I don’t visualize I get nothing. I don’t care about the signs, my point is, these supposed signs I am seeing could just me thinking they are signs because I’ve been visualizing about us? I’m all clear with the past, I don’t hold any grudges towards him or for his mother telling him that I would emotionally hurt him, I have eft’d my head off. I am up against a person who was told that I would be a threat to their life emotionally. I don’t feel sad about it, Infact it’s the biggest load of bullshit I’ve ever heard said about me as all my life, I’ve only ever heard that I helped and changed people’s lives. I no longer have ANY anger or hurt towards him or his mother or whoever else told him I was no good because I know it’s not true, it’s….. not my resolve, I’ve known deep down all along what I wanted, it’s that it’s been 2.5 years that I have known him and I feel like my life is slipping by hoping this guy will realize what he was told about me was bullshit. Would you want to talk to or be around a person who you heard about or was lead to believe wouldn’t be good for your life? I probably wouldn’t either. He likes slim pretty young girls and when you look at the reality of the situation – and I am none of these. He is younger than me. I was sick for years and gained weight and although I don’t think I am ugly, I’ve seen his ex’s and they look like models. So you take him believing his mother and his conditioning of the world and what his type of girl is and you see another day slip past you think … Why am I still trying to attract someone who had no problems telling me they were not attracted to me? Part of me just wants to say fuck it and find someone who likes me from the start without all the conditions and part of me doesn’t want to give up.
        Do you think I still am having a problem Believing? I AM exhausted but not from holding on to tightly, Im exhausted from hope. It kind of just makes me want to give up but I know giving up means I didn’t believe. Out of all the times we reconnected and spoke again it was always me that had to initate the contact and everytime it ended the same, we would stop talking because I wanted more and he didn’t. What’s my issue?
        Sorry for the rant and thanks again.

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      4. Dear Gretta,
        I saw the post 🙂 These success stories might seem rare because manifesting a specific person produces fears, resistance, guilt and many other feelings that many people find frightening. Love is an emotional subject for many and at the same time, most people have been taught the wrong things about relationships, confusing love with need or impatience with desire.
        However, these people all probably have something else in their lives which they attract easily. I’ve been attracting specific people since kindergarten – that’s right! Already then, it would seem that I would like a specific boy and the next day, my mom would come to pick me up while I was playing with him away from everyone else, with all the other parents saying it was “first love” which was adorable. However, most people tend to fear relationships, as the world continuously tries to tell them that relationships are hard, and they expect them to go badly. Some people wrongly teach each other that relationships have to have a purpose of marriage, companionship and children instead of being based on love. This way, people create the NEED for relationships and when one needs, they continue to need. You have to be a complete person to draw a relationship into your life, not the other way around. Love and happiness are the purpose of relationships. When choosing a specific person and relationship, many then feel guilty for wanting their specific person to let them into their life, rearrange it for them, love and want them… And, why? You are supposed to be with someone only because you love them and want to share their life, not adjust it completely to YOU. This is also accepting a person for who they are.
        Your comments show that you don’t really appreciate him for who he is and maybe you don’t want to because you think you deserve better. That’s an honest change of heart and that’s OK. If you give up because you feel that it’s impossible to have, you are going against your wishes but if you truly had a change of heart, you are following it and making the choices that will make you HAPPY! I don’t think that choosing to love him is making you happy for now but neither do you, clearly. And, if you changed your mind, it’s OK. You don’t like him enough.
        I only had moments when I would decide I didn’t like the person after we got together because the relationship itself would manifest fast. After a while, I didn’t feel good about being with them even if I thought they were good people, if you will. Then, a break-up would happen but that’s also OK. You can only know whether or not you want to stay with someone if you can both be yourselves. If you can draw out the positive in each other, that’s even better but that happens for as long as love lasts. From what I am reading here, I am not sure if you still love him… If you did, you wouldn’t really care how the relationship manifests because you would just care about being with him.

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      5. Hi Nina
        I think you might have not seen my post above the video I shared? I think it might be the last time I will need the help.
        Thanks again. Xxx

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      6. Hi Nina
        Thanks again for the reply! 🙂
        Do you smack yourself in the forehead when you see another post from me? Hahaha. I do it just about everytime I send a post through.
        This wanting to let go forever thing always happens when I stop visualizing or go a few days not doing it. I cried at the thought of letting go and not ‘trying’ anymore so I do know I still do love him. It just gets hard because I remember the things he said in regards to what he wants in a woman and I don’t fit that look, although working on myself (for myself) my confidence has risen, I am not bashing myself as much and a post you made the other day about ‘steps’ I often sometimes think I can manifest him after I look the way I think he would want, I know I have to stop this as that is also creating a block.
        I will continue with the EFT as I still can’t seem to shift the ‘not worth’ ‘not deserving’ ‘not believing’
        I do feel different today. Before it was like ‘he’ll never be interested in me’ and I can feel that that has moved into a feeling of ‘it’s possible’ – I just need to get myself to the point of definite. When I was visualizing I asked for the most specific sign and I got it only 2 days later right at my back door. I knew from the second day that I wanted to marry him and that has not happened to me before, I just get scared because he is very conditioned in his thinking from ages differences to what people should look like and that makes the doubts come back in. I’ll continue with the EFT. I know it will work because of all the other things that have disappeared. It’s been a long life of feeling like I can’t be loved and struggling so I am not surprised that trying to shift I am not good enough and the rest of the feelings above is taking a bit longer. I am not good at receiving love, money, health etc.
        It’s been the same pattern now that I look back, every guy, I always thought the same thing, that they would reject me based on how I looked, my fave mainly. I had an ill mother she told me daily that no one would ever want me because I looked like a boy. I don’t actually. But to hear that for 15 years plus other things – this is why I always start off meeting someone thinking – they would never be interested in me and I always manifest them saying that to me. I know I’m a powerful manifestor from the things I’ve got in my life already from lemons to a car. It’s just a deep seated fear of not being able to be loved or revive love because I don’t feel good enough, I guess with not worthy and undeserving of receiving.
        I will get back into the eft and I think look at aspects of having to control because I do think I am still interfering with the how and when.
        Thanks again for your help.
        Xxx

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  6. Does it happen to you too ?
    It seems like visualisation sorts it out for me and I get into a different feeling (positive I mean ) easier and easier .
    I don’t want it like I’m overanalysing I’m just curious and love learning about it .

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    1. Actually, that’s characteristic of everyone. When a person feel good, it is easy for them to imagine what they want. When things go bad, it is human nature to fear more bad and struggle to focus on the good but that is when you can refocus on gratitude and raise your vibration.

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      1. I completely agree with you . I really wanted to understand how the whole habbit concept works. It’s not even about fear of things go badly but why the same negative thought always show up ? There’s no new drama scenarios going through our head but the same familiar one over and over again . Just today I had a silly situation at home . I rearranged my place a good few months ago ,most things got moved but at this stage I’m obviously familiar with it and know exactly where everything is. I changed it all myself . Today i ended up heading to the same spot where my expression machine used to be even tho I know exactly where I it’s new place is . I make that mistake several times a day for a past 4/5 months .That got to realize that made realize that I only get to it when I’m focus on its new location otherwise I’d always head to the old spot . That is a habbit !! I go to where the it used to be anyway because it was my habbit to make myself an expresso and read some news in that particular spot which doesn’t exist any more . That moment I understood that my brain works the same way when it comes to my negative ,positive thoughts . It’s not logical ,doesn’t make a lot of sense ,reality doesn’t support it yet we still tend to head towards what we know and are familiar with . To me that’s a brilliant discovery.🤗
        I hope you don’t mind I share all that . I honestly have never felt more open to understand all this and thanks to you it’s just flowing and everything gets clearer . Knowing things feels powerful .
        I’m very grateful for that.😘

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  7. Hi Nina. It’s Bea again. How do you raise your vibration level when you are sad and frustrated? I feel like I am in a vicious cycle right now. I want to feel positive that my ex will come back but when I don’t see any signs that is happening (such as not hearing from him) I feel sad and like it is useless. I know you have to feel good to manifest, but how do I feel good unless I have a sign of hope? I am have a difficult time convincing myself I already have the relationship I want when my phone is silent (meaning I don’t hear from him). I don’t know how to break free and let go. I have been doing EFT and meditate. It helps a little, but it doesn’t last when the hours and days tick by with no signs. Thank you.

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    1. Even though it seems to be the opposite, anything we manifest is a result of our inner thoughts. Outer always follows inner. Even the first time you two were together, you were able to see it, consciously or not.
      Think back to how you felt the first time you were together. You believed!
      Your inner belief has to come first, before you see results. That one you know but deciding that this is yours and sticking to it, visualization and heart energy will help you.
      You have a lot of resistance but think of it this way – is it more important to do what it takes to manifest or stay in this vicious circle? You could try the following techniques. Write down your desire on a piece of paper and look at it whenever you need to remind yourself that it is yours. Use visualization and/or heart energy to feel what it would be like to have your desire. Ask yourself if you are afraid of receiving it after all or why you expect it to go badly. Waiting for his call means you’re still NOT hearing from him so why do you believe that his calls will continue to be absent from your life? That will help you face and clear your resistance.

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      1. Thank you, Nina. I love your advice and guidance. It is much appreciated.

        When I write my desire. Do I write it as “I want ____” or “I am ____?”

        Also, are you saying that I am making not hearing from him my reality because that is what I am focused on?

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      2. Thank YOU so much 🙂
        “I am” is the way to go 🙂
        In a way, yes. Even though you don’t mean to, waiting for his call and not believing that your desire is yours until you receive it shows that you are aware of not having your desire. So, waiting leads to more waiting. Do you see what I mean? When you become sure that this is yours, you will stop waiting and let go.

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