THOUGHT OF THE DAY

I was listening to a song on my laptop then removed the earphones to get up.

That moment, the music video for the song in question started on TV.

Reality truly follows thoughts.

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25 thoughts on “THOUGHT OF THE DAY

  1. Hi Nina,
    Sorry to bother you with my woes.
    Things were going well as mentioned.
    But tonight my love come to stay before she goes away.
    Next weekend came up (as she’s coming back for 2 days before she goes away again) and she said she’s staying with her friend (who she is staying with before moving into her own place. Anyway, it ended up in a fight because that really hurt when she said that. She basically said we can hang out but why do we need to stay together? And 2 years ago I’ve said we are just friends but you don’t listen. When I brought up the recent weeks of intimacy and closeness she basically said oh but that’s just random.
    I’m not sure what’s going to happen now. I said I’d still pick her up from the airport when she’s back. I’ve got a week to myself to work on this and then 3 weeks before she’s back for good.
    I know I need to focus on the reality in my head but after everything I can’t believe this happened! Maybe she’s showing resistance to what she really wants. Because I know deep down she wants us…

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    1. This is the tricky part – when you feel hurt, you feel negatively towards your desire. You felt hurt because that made you feel like you don’t have the relationship but had you known that it was yours, truly believed, you wouldn’t have wondered if she would stay with you. At the same time, I get the feeling you wanted her to stay with you because you thought that would lead to the relationship which again shows you didn’t believe in having the relationship yet.
      I would suggest, since you already practice it, that you do EFT tapping to get rid of those negative feelings and then, just imagine the relationship but let it happen. Believe that even if she doesn’t stay with you, it’s for a good reason ’cause something better will manifest with you guys than those two days would have been. You must feel love and allow her to start to feel it back. Know that you can recover from this, it was just a fight. Look at it as something small, it happened, made you stronger and now you can move onto feeling better.

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      1. Thanks Nina,
        I totally agree with you.
        For this time apart I’m going to focus on me and my happiness, I will use EFT to remove my negative thoughts and then will work on my belief with visualization and writing.
        I will work on my ‘inner world’ and ignore the exterior!

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      2. I know that problems and negative thoughts can sometimes rattle one’s sense of what one wants but even if that happens, listen to your heart. It always knows 🙂

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  2. Hey .
    It’s me again .
    As I said earlier I had a feeling i needed to contact him and I did eventually (I just couldn’t help myself ) . We had brief chat and I offered a friendly drink which he said no to . He said he’s “seeing someone at the moment and meeting each other would be just messing and wasting my time ” . He never openly said anything like that to me ,which I was quite sad about at the same time I appreciate his honesty .
    Not sure if I saw that coming . Am I completely crushed and lost my faith ? No ,but I don’t know how to approach it now . I still want him despite everything and at least his honesty proves me he’s a good guy . Can’t let that kinda man go . I used to have a very law opinion about his morals but this is really great that he’s straight forward and doesn’t try to mess around . This is the guy I remember he used to be and I always wanted back .
    Maybe what I’m saying seems a little weird to you but now feel I want him even more than ever .
    I don’t know if I’m even upset very much over this ,I don’t think I am .
    How do you think I should approach this now ?
    Have you ever been in a situation where the other woman is involved ?
    I will really appreciate sone advice ?

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  3. I also kinda wonder was everything I felt lately ,all the great ,positive energy just me being delusional ? Because it might seem that was considering what happened today .

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    1. I think you might have been controlled by the need for something to happen which was why you messaged him. In addition, this shows that you didn’t fully believe that it was yours but thought it would all come together instead of it being a done deal already.
      If you still want him, you have to decide and believe – then, you’ll remove the need for it to happen.

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      1. What do I do with it now ??
        I’m sorry I’m bothering you . I’m got impatient indeed . After a great period of positivity I expected things to move forward.
        Do I want him ?? I do .

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      2. I think this is where the problem is – “I expected things to move forward.” You thought they would soon but were still aware of not having the relationship yet, looking to find out when it would happen, how it would happen instead of feeling that you have it already. When you feel like you have it, you stop looking. I strongly recommend visualization from now on, visualizing what it’s like to have the relationship as if you have it now.
        You have to reach the point where you see him with you and for that, you have to love both him and the relationship. When you love him and let that love fill your heart, he’ll choose to come back. Are you ready to feel only love for him? Do you love him or want this relationship for some other reason, to make yourself feel better? And you’re not bothering me, I’m happy to help xx

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      3. And more thing is that we haven’t really spoken a while ( a couple of weeks ) and it was actually me that walked away . I had a strong need to make peace between us and let him know I’m not angry with him .

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  4. Maybe that’s all for the best . I don’t know who he started seeing . I won’t be looking to find out. I won’t know anything about it so it won’t be going through my head . I think it’s like letting go . Its pointless to costantly think about it . It’s going to happen or not .
    I can just focus on other things in life .
    There’s so much more going on .

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  5. Thanks for replying .
    I put it that way I don’t need him ,I don’t need this relationship or any relationship to define me or make me whole . I want him . I want him because he’s an amazing ,smart ,caring person ,brings out the best in me . We had some rough times and even that made me better than I ever was ,he also changed to be a man I wished he was before .There was a time I thought I was too good for him ,there was a time I saw myself less than he is .
    I figured over time we’re just different and that’s ok but being together we both evolve and perfectly complete each other . Our happiest times are when we’re just perfectly balanced ,when we are both simply ourselves . Of course I love him . Even if there’s anothe person involved I still can only picture him with me . We’ve been on and off a lot but it’s for a reason ,we don’t last as friends but fall for each other all over again . It feels unnatural and strange otherwise . Believe me I wouldn’t be doing this if it wasn’t worth it ,if I thought there’s no love there .

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  6. Maybe I just overdone this whole thing .
    I had an amazing period of positivity and feeling great . Maybe got overexcited .🙈. The good thing is my negative ways of thinking and drama don’t bother me for too long any more .
    I felt quite awful hearing his news and was down but as you probably noticed I’m pretty much back to myself now .
    Feeling good about everything again and more than happy to ignore current circumstances .

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      1. Whatever happened it’s not a bad thing really in my opinion .
        I’m really glad me and him had a conversation and al least we sorted out our bad breakup thing . He knows I’m not mad at him and we can just be ourselves around each other ,no distance or awkwardness .I ended things with a few very harsh statements and it did bug me . In the back of my mind I kept coming back to the last words I said to him and couldn’t help but wonder ” does he avoid because he thinks I’m angry and hate him ,does he distance himself because of this ?”
        Thanks for always being so supportive .xx
        I just got one more question .
        It’s all about the feeling that visualization creates ,right ?
        Does it matter if I visualize at all as long as the feeling remains ?
        From your posts I understand that whatever were doing is change our awareness of current reality . Is it a state of mind of the feeling ?? Or both ?

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      2. You’re welcome 🙂 It doesn’t – not everyone visualizes intentionally and some feel as if they have it without that intentional visualization.
        That works because everyone visualizes spontaneously, just like everyone manifests every second of every day. Everything you experience, you have attracted. Everyone sees images in their mind which produce feelings, intentionally or not.
        Feeling that your desire belongs to you already is most important. This is the place where all your thoughts and actions flow from when it comes to intentional visualization and manifestation. This is why it’s important to feel that you have your desire already, so that you could bring it into your current reality. Feeling that you have it makes you happy! It makes you feel good 🙂 Therefore, it is your awareness that produces your feelings. The awareness of having your desire already makes you feel great while the awareness of not having it yet produces negative feelings. Everything comes from the awareness of having your desire or the belief that you don’t.

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  7. That helps .
    I get what you mean .😊
    What about letting go then ?
    Is that just knowing ? Knowing and beliving to the point that just don’t even need to think about it ?
    I found myself being too focused on things every now and again . Even tho is was all very positive and made me feel great I’d think that it was just too much positivity and too attention paid to it and I had something telling me just to leave it like that. Don’t add more too it and just let it be .

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      1. Great thing I discovered your blog and great talking to you .
        Everything you say it’s always very helpful and motivating .
        Have a great Christmas and thanks a lot for everything .xx😊😘

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  8. I’m trying to see the positive side of this scene: I went to my friend’s (the friend that I’m in love with) parents house for Christmas eve. She got there with her new significant other. And they seem pretty happy, making plans and everything. I felt like the worst person in there.
    I love her and It seems pretty hard to happen anything between us now. I feel lonely and i have no idea about what to do

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