Feeling badly about your desire usually comes down to not seeing yourself having it in your life; on the other hand, you may nurture the thoughts of having your desire in your life all you want.
When you think thoughts of having your desire, those thoughts naturally go away after a while. You can only think about something you already have for so long before changing focus. Think about it – when the fact that you are living in your house comes to mind, or driving your car, going to university or work, your clothes, your pets, kids or anything else you have, you briefly think about it then change focus to something else. That is what we do.
I always suggest (in my book included) to start with and stick to knowing that your desire belongs to you already because that notion will literally turn into your awareness.
All in all, you see what you have right now. And when you see your desire in your mind as if you have it right now, you live it and then, you live something else you have.
When you live something that hasn’t manifested yet in your mind as if it were your current reality, you manifest it. You don’t want to live anything 24/7 even if you want to keep it in your life – a life on repeat would bore you. You remove the need for it because you have just lived it and felt like you had it already.
This is why it is important to see your desire as if you had it now. Seeing that you have it now will remove the need for its manifestation and make you feel like you have it instead of missing it. Then, you will manifest it. You just had it in your mind so now, you will have it in your life.
This is also why the power of visualization is an absolutely incredible manifestation aid but you must practice its content steadily. You must focus on having your desire. When you visualize living your desire in any way, visualize as if you had it now. And if you practice for just a few days, you can feel your desire being yours. However, you must not rush – just see yourself living your desire because that will remove the need for it and allow you to manifest it.
Just like every time I manifest a life change, my current reality seemingly starts to fall apart; there’s beauty in that because that makes it easier to leave.
In order to manifest a new reality, you must be prepared to give up the current, even in a single aspect. If you want a relationship, you must be ready to give up being single, especially if it has become your comfort zone. If you want wealth, you must be ready to deal with having money from now on – taxes, an accountant and banking might be take up a little more of your time from now on. If you want a job, you must be ready to work and want to spend your days doing so. You must want to wake up and go to work.
I believe I have found the way of ignoring my current reality every time I want to manifest a new and better one. This is also a way of turning the negative into the positive.
I always say one must be happy in their current reality in order to manifest a better one. Our minds keep us away from what we believe is negative for us.
Every time I start to manifest a new reality, I am grateful that my current one is hectic in a very particular way because that means I’m leaving soon.
I have also manifested desired change when I felt perfectly happy and satisfied in my current reality. Both ways work because they both mean no resistance which allows letting go.
When my current reality isn’t enough, I seek happiness elsewhere. I visualize and soon manifest the current reality I truly desire. When focusing on my new reality, I find it OK to be in my current because current boredom makes it easy for me to see a happier one. We naturally gravitate toward happiness.
There are several desires I have been entertaining thoughts about and for the past few days, I have been increasingly happier about them. Yesterday, that happiness escalated, leaving me to feel super calm and loving about those desires while prompting my current reality to start to fall apart.
The following occurred yesterday and it shows exactly why living my life happens to be the most exciting thing that has ever happened to me. While we manifest our new realities, our personal energies rearrange and make room for the new by weeding out the old – sometimes, this turns into chaos. A chaotic rearrangement might confuse some, making them think that their life is falling apart but in truth, it is actually coming together to become what they want it to be.
My hairdresser called me at noon to come in at one. On the way out, I ran through a pavement cleaning project, muddying it slightly. Even though I hoped to make the bus to my destination because it practically leaves me at its door, I tried to do some banking beforehand, missed the bus and had to cab it. Somewhere on the way, a man slipped me his phone number which I forwarded into the paper recycling container in the street. My hairdresser had a scheduling conflict but having plenty of time, I backed out of my appointment and asked if I could have another attempt at the bank while she took care of business. No one else was at that bank so I was done in a minute but on the way back, one of my sandals completely fell apart in the middle of the street and I had to walk back to the salon completely barefoot. There was no supermarket nearby to even buy an emergency pair of flip flops in. My hairdresser gave me cleaning wipes and lent me a pair of shoes while my mother, whose appointment was booked later on, brought me another pair to wear home, as I had to throw out my entirely broken platforms which I’d owned for five years. I tend to love to wear my shoes until they break but this was the first time they ever broke on me. While I was in the hairdresser’s chair, drinking coffee and getting my hair done, I got a sudden case of violent cough. And I never get sick, not even when I’m tired. Everyone knows that! From the chair next to mine, I heard a sign of one of my current desires which I had even seen coming and immediately knew it was coming true. I like to think that a lesser woman would have been worried if her desires would still want her in this state but I refused to be rattled.
If you want to see the sexy pair of shoes I had to wear home, scroll down to my Instagram shots. The good part was that they were ridiculously comfortable. After getting my hair done, I had to pick something up at the mall with several passers-by staring at my shoes.
Paying zero attention to the current reality means being OK without my desire until it manifests. For me, letting go is all that comes with accepting the current reality.
For as long as my current reality is filled with good stories, I stop paying attention to “improving” it. I like a dynamic reality and eventful day-to-days. There is no comfort zone here.
My feet still ache from the hot concrete pavement I had the pleasure of feeling yesterday. The featured photos are of me yesterday evening, tired but safe at home.
While shopping once, I bought a blazer which didn’t fit right on a second glance. I was surprised but as it turned out, my mother had bought a T-shirt that same day which she decided wasn’t right after all. We switched – my blazer fit her perfectly and her T fit me.
Sometimes, you will find the right fit in a way you hadn’t imagined but know one thing – manifestation can only happen in an even better way than imagined.
When you feel good, you know you contribute quality. When you feel good about yourself, you want to share it with the world and bring it into other people’s lives. You know how to make others happy and more importantly, want to. All of this makes manifesting easier because it takes away all the reasons why you should not get what you want.
You forget to remember the time. When you simply enjoy life and your own happiness, you don’t think about how long it takes to manifest. I’ve mostly manifested within days or weeks. Sometimes, two months. Every time I manifested moving countries, the planning and the aligning of opportunities took less than a year. I often want to hear from someone and it happens within an hour or a day; two or three times, it took three weeks to a month. But do you know how long it just took me to remember all of that!? When you simply enjoy life and don’t need, you let go and manifest. The beauty in patience is the reward of receiving your desire rapidly.
Because you want to give. You think about what you’re going to contribute to the lives of those you want in yours because you know how much you’re worth. You know how much you have to give. Those who feel they’re not enough to receive their desires wish for a world in which those desires would make them better but after accepting that you are good enough, you think about why your desire also desires you.
The reasons are simple – can you remember any time you brought happiness into the lives of others as well as your own? This often happens when starting a new relationship, enjoying and contributing to mutual happiness. What about a time when you made a friend or a family member happy, or changed someone’s life for the better because you could?
You are special. That says enough.
Whether we practice self confidence, self love or trust in the Universe, we can perceive the value in ourselves easily. We were meant to feel valuable in our own lives.
Connect with your happiness at the start of each day. Be grateful, and start the day by doing something you love. It can be anything you want as long as it makes you happy. This positive start to the day will keep you on a positive track.
Knowing your desire is manifesting is the key to your success. When you know, you are guided by it or at least I am which means you can be, too.
To those of you who like to think about your desire a lot, remember that I told you you could as long as those thoughts are happy and reflect living the life of your dreams? Well, I’ve manifested that way, too. This is a perfectly valid manifestation method but only if you are happy and you nurture the thoughts of living your desire.
If you love to drown in the thoughts of your desire, you want those thoughts to be happy, positive, fulfilling, filled with love and as confident as your energy.
When manifesting love, I imagine it as the most magical thing. I dare to get excited about it and I imagine finding all the magic I want in real life while I am living my relationship. I imagine needing nothing but happiness about being together and loving each other while nothing else matters. If you accept someone, accepting their entire life is the best choice you can make and all I care about is having an amazing time just being together.
When manifesting professional opportunities, I love being the person others love to work with because she delivers even greater results than imagined. I don’t necessarily focus on easily getting along with everyone I work with, as I accept a difference in opinions and admittedly, workplace relationships have had only limited importance to me. It isn’t that I want to be difficult but I live in the awareness of having immense patience for the people I want to work with but wanting to walk away from those I don’t; that type of awareness serves as a reminder to level the bumps in collaboration and be patient when knowing that a particular collaboration is ultimately beneficial. For all these reasons, I focus on the end result when manifesting professional accomplishments.
I have additional examples but I chose these two to compare and contrast.
If you reread the passages written above, you will see that the nature of all these thoughts is one of having my desire in my life. You can do the same.
If you practice seeing yourself living your desire, you will soon begin to gravitate towards those thoughts.
We cannot skip letting go. Remember that letting go is knowing your desire will manifest and living your life happily in the present moment. You don’t have to forget about your desire in order to let go but if you continue to nurture the thoughts of having it in your life, letting go will be easier because you will fill your heart with knowing and remove the need. Sometimes, visualizing once is enough to let go but if you like to think about having your desire, think about it. You will have gotten used to the idea of having it, remove the need for it to manifest in your life and then, it will appear.
LoA is when you make pizza, eat the entire thing in one sitting and remain at your ideal weight.
Many feel guilty about what they have and wanting what they do. Guilt is nothing but empty emotion and an inexhaustible source of personal manifesting blockage.
Guilt is contradictory to manifesting because it evokes negative feelings while manifesting is all about the positive.
Some refuse to even remove negativity from their lives because they feel guilty about dropping it and actually feeling better; feelings of this nature go back to one’s fear/awareness of being unworthy of their desired manifestation.
The reasons for engaging in certain behavior during your manifestation period say a lot about your awareness. Do you visualise because you love living your desire or because you feel that you should in order to receive your desire (a.k.a. because you feel your desire missing from your life and want to attract it)?
Do you actively feel guilty about wanting what you do or feel that you deserve it?
The question of how long it takes for a specific desire to manifest is something I have been asked a lot recently.
Why do certain desires take time? Do some desires necessarily need to take long to manifest? Why do some take long and others don’t? What can be done to speed up the manifestation process?
I say, it all comes down to the following questions.
Why do you care when some of your desires manifest but not others? Why are you attached to some of your desires but not others? Why do you perceive some of your desires as easy to manifest and normal to have in your life but not others?
Do you know that by letting go, you can manifest immediately?
However, letting go is connected to the feeling of living your desire already instead of missing it.
The answers to all those questions might give you more of a manifesting relief than you currently imagine. If you have negative thoughts, they might not even be present for the reasons you think but if you ask yourself why, you could uncover the real reasons for them.
On the other hand, there are other ways of cutting down on your manifestation waiting period, especially after you begin to understand the reasons why some desires take long to manifest.
You perceive your desires to be missing from your life.
If you feel that you’ve been waiting long, abandon that awareness immediately! If you notice that your desire is taking forever, you’re running the risk of your manifestation taking even longer if you indulge in the feelings of emptiness. What you focus on persists and if you are focused on having waited a long time and gotten nowhere, you are noticing the wait and prolonging the missing.
This is where visualization and imagining that you have your desire already works and changes your awareness, taking away your feelings of need and filing your life with happiness and a sense of security. Happily imagining that you have your desire in your life already and visualizing as well as knowing that your desire is going to manifest cut down on your waiting period and allow you to manifest even faster than you expect.
You are trying to control the process.
Many tend to focus on the process instead of the end result (or, focus on the current reality).
The “how” part is not up to you or me – it is up to the Universe but if you allow it, it will manifest your desires in an even more magical way than you expect. The Universe wants to give you what you want immediately and you can allow that to happen by nurturing happy thoughts of your desired end result.
The wait will only exist if you focus on it. Don’t! Focus on having your desire instead and be grateful for it. Know that it’s coming or imagine that you have it already. There are so many ways of being happy and feeling good so pick one!
Nothing has to take long but the sooner you stop noticing your desire missing from your life, the sooner you will manifest.
Why the wait?
You perceive the wait because you are dissatisfied with your current reality sans manifestation. However, once you become truly happy with your current reality, with everything you have simply because you appreciate it, you will see yourself living your desired reality. Even if this doesn’t make any sense to you, it is what it is – happy people see themselves having what they want while the unhappy ones don’t believe that things could improve.
You will stop waiting when you embrace the “having.” Your desire belongs to you already – accept it.