Thought of the Day

I am only accepting what I want, nothing less.

I am ready – my desire is free to manifest.

I am ready to live it.

I am calm – my desire makes me happy and comfortable.

I am patient – it will arrive.

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Are You Lost in What it all Means?

It isn’t anyone’s job or duty to love you – you simply give them a reason to.

I am talking about two things – you and your relationship manifestations.

Would you love someone who claimed that you were obligated to love or respect them? Unlikely. This person would demand those things from you out of their own need.

Look back on every time you were the one to break up with someone and they disagreed with your decision. Were you obligated to stay with them? No. The sooner you start to view relationships as a choice and treat those relationships with respect (be in one or not but never for the wrong reasons), the sooner you will be focused on nothing but love, freedom and choices.

Let’s not forget that love and freedom work together.

If someone wants to leave you, let them leave; at the same time, if you want to get back together, work on your belief that being back together is a done deal. It is yours – if you truly love the person without needing to feed your own ego by getting back together, that is. I know this might not make much sense to some of you but it is one of the ways of using LoA to attract what you want – you are not resisting the current reality but believing in your ideal one.

See what I mean?

The only person obligated to love you is you. If you don’t, life gets harder so is it really worth it to not love yourself?

If you don’t love someone or even like them, is it really worth it to be with them? By loving someone, you have already given reason for them to love you. But who do you truly feel good about?

To love, you must know the difference between love and need. When it comes to relationships, there is only love but love cannot exist without self appreciation.

Thought of the Day

One of the parts of allowing your desire to manifest is living in the awareness of living your desire so strongly that the present circumstances become irrelevant.

Yes, “state of the wish fulfilled” might sound better than what I wrote.

Don’t assume or project onto your desire!

Just because you fear that the person you want has a taster’s choice of individuals doesn’t mean they do. Maybe they just seem like they do. Even if they did, it wouldn’t matter.

Just because you fear that the job you want is also coveted by candidates more qualified than you doesn’t meant that those who do the hiring believe someone else is better for the job.

I never got all As in school past the second grade. However, I knew how smart I was and held myself accordingly while pursuing my passions. I was already a published writer, studied dance and went to acting school. Other students continuously asked about my grades and were surprised at my answer because they assumed I maintained the perfect GPA which was a question of status. However, I had decided on my own status while others merely responded to my awareness.

I didn’t care about my GPA and my grades reflected that. I even felt negatively about it because I considered it to be a question of false status, as the highest grades in my junior high went to those who memorised the information. However, I held myself as different and it worked. This example still reads strong to me years later.

Sometimes, I wonder if the 13-year-old me feared that receiving the highest grades based on the “merits” I disagreed with would mean that I wasn’t special. In retrospect, it was a manifesting lesson – never engage in something that goes against your values.

Can you see why the Law of Attraction is life?

If you’re going to assume anything, assume the reality of living your desire.

Assume and project onto yourself

Work with the Universe!

This is something you simply must do.

Working with the Universe means allowing yourself to feel good so that your desires manifest. Believing that what you want is yours already, a done deal or about to happen is all that it takes once you get out of your own way.

Getting out of your way is all about listening to your positive feelings which stem from your positive decisions. Even when you “have a feeling” that something good is about to happen, it is because you decided that something good is about to happen and followed the related feelings.

A choice, positive or negative, always comes first, from your conscious or subconscious mind.

Listen to your needs – only you can fulfil them. When you’re upset, make yourself feel better. Do whatever it takes to feel better. When you’re tired, rest. A positive attitude is a choice and so is positive thinking.

One of the most important ways of working with the Universe means choosing to do what makes you happy instead of staying in the space of “waiting” for your desire which can often make you feel incomplete. And you deserve better.

Refusing to let go equals refusing to be happy. In this case, one chooses not to be happy. The choice to change your thoughts from those related to your desire is yours. Think about other things, enjoy your life, be happy and allow manifestation to happen! If you do whatever it takes to feel good, letting go will be easy.

I don’t meant to be dramatic but every time you react to your negative thoughts, you are letting something good die. You are letting your positive thoughts get lost and might struggle to retrieve them. You are allowing your positive mood to wither while replacing it with the negative.

Choose the positive because attachment sucks.

Everything in life is your choice! What you accept is your choice. Stop accepting negative thoughts and start embracing the positive.

This is how you work with the Universe to bring your desires to life.

Thought of the Day

If you see the person you want to be with with someone else in your mind, it is natural to be upset. However, none of this means that you necessarily perceive this person to be with someone else or that it must be true.

You don’t see the person you want to be with with someone else; you just don’t see them with you. Yet.

Think about it.

Are You Torn Between Your Desires and Priorities?

Often, a struggle in manifesting means one hasn’t pinpointed their priorities in life.

If you don’t know what is truly important to you, what you want to manifest and live every day, it can be difficult to find your happiness. There were times in my life when I wanted several things to a certain extent but nothing quite enough to make me choose. I either had to wait and see what I wanted (meaning, let go and see) or find something new.

However, if you know what you want and are sure that this is it, all you need to do is believe you can have it.

You must know what you want. Many of you do but there will also be those that don’t.

You might have thought you wanted something but are not ready to live it. You might like the idea of living a specific reality but honestly be unsure that you could deal with everything that reality brings every day.

For example, you might like the idea of being a parent but in truth, not be ready to accept everything that parenthood brings. You might not be able to see yourself as a parent right now or ever – at the same time, you might change your mind and realize you are ready.

If you want something but feel unprepared to accept everything that comes with it, you probably feel torn. You might not know what to do now but you must do the one thing you have been avoiding – looking within.

You must examine your own feelings and ask yourself what you truly want, without anyone else involved. You simply cannot avoid fulfilling your own needs first or put someone else’s ahead of your own.

Where are you headed? Where do you want to be headed? Decide what you want to live for yourself, not for anyone else.

Thought of the Day 

If you get overly caught up in the issues of the world, you will start to feel guilty about manifesting the life you want.

Instead, feel gratitude for the world as you want it to be.

Have You Earned a Great Relationship?

This post first appeared on my (first) blog, https://improvingconfidence.wordpress.com/

I continuously encounter individuals who believe a great relationship is something they are entitled to.

A great relationship is something everyone deserves, just like any other blessing in life. Everyone deserves to experience happiness but those that receive it have in fact earned it with their positive mindsets, respect for others and gratitude for their lives.

Everyone deserves it but a positive individual earns it, allowing a happy relationship to come into their reality.

On the other hand, those projecting negative energy (be it frustration, desperation, negative self-image, impatience, rudeness or general dissatisfaction) are continuously preventing what they deserve, a great relationship in this case, to appear in their lives.

You get what you give; genuine appreciation for life, your own and those of others, ensures you will receive an abundance of goodness in return. You merely need to find that appreciation.

The idea of an amazing relationship being earned holds truth but requires explanation; stating this idea as simply as it looks in writing may evoke negative reactions instead of positive. One becomes worthy of a great relationship by viewing oneself in a positive light, focusing on everything they enjoy in life, respecting one’s unique qualities as well as the qualities of others and having personal integrity that ensures standing by one’s personal beliefs.

Many believe they must earn a great relationship by fulfilling requirements such as career success, a larger-than-life personality, financial wealth or being classically good looking. However, basic creation principles state that one’s beliefs create one’s awareness; for example, individuals who deeply believe they cannot earn a great relationship until they have a great job will encounter specific experiences reflecting those beliefs.

Truth is, the relationship you desire has nothing to do with your social status unless you decide to believe it. Those who stick to beliefs such as “Once I get a good job, I will have inner peace and be ready for a relationship” will most likely find that the job, the relationship and the inner peace continue to elude them. Postponing those experiences by masking them as future goals will ensure they remain distant goals, making it impossible to catch up to that “perfect future.”

Now, I am not saying your desires are irrelevant but for as long as you think “I’ll be confident once I have this,” you are creating a future goal that will always remain in the future. In reality, you must feel deserving of your goals now and be confident in yourself before you can obtain them.

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Contrary to popular belief, relationships have nothing to do with your social status, level of wealth, professional success or your looks. When it comes to relationships, you merely need to be confident in the person you are. You need to draw your confidence from internal factors instead of external. You need to recognize your personal qualities, the beauty of your physical traits, your intelligence and gratitude for everything you have in life.

One of the best ways to earn a great relationship rests in developing self-confidence, self-comfort and self-acceptance.

Amplifying those character traits with a positive mindset will allow you to focus on everything you love in life instead of everything you are currently missing. If you focus on your positive traits, you will effortlessly focus on your (potential) partner’s positive traits, enjoying your relationship immensely and solving problems in it easily. Suddenly, you will come to realize relationships were intended to be easy and enjoyable instead of being a constant ego battle between opposing sides. If you have an eye on a potential partner, you will be encouraged to communicate with them as you have recognized your own qualities while appreciating them for theirs. You will realize how much there is to be liked about you!

If you believe your looks are insufficient to evoke attraction in another, you will project an unhappy demeanor, tension and insecurity. The best part is, you can decide to focus on the aspects of your appearance you like instead. You can appreciate your beauty instead of focusing on the reasons it is less than perfect. This positive energy will evoke even more of the same, allowing you to feel increasingly great about yourself.

Ultimately, is there a real reason you should feel negatively about your appearance? Everyone holds a different idea of what beauty means. More importantly, we all respond to each other’s energy much stronger than any physical attributes – every time you were attracted someone who wasn’t your “type” proves that.

Do you compare yourself to others? This is another mistake which can prevent you from receiving life’s goods. Do you believe you must match an ideal another specific person represents to you while considering anything “less” to be insufficient? This mindset only states your lack of appreciation for yourself, as you feel undeserving of love. Even if you think your (potential) partner only wants the ideal you have imagined him/her wanting, it doesn’t mean you’re right.

We all know the story – one perceives their desired partner to be “too good for me.” “He/She is out of my league,” they imagine, never making a move or deeming themselves worthy. This thought process is perpetuated until the object of their affection meets someone else.

There are plenty of similar examples. However, it all comes down to the following.

Searching for the reasons to postpone living a happy relationship only shows that you doubt your own value. If recognizing the said value undoubtedly ensures finding a great relationship, what is the point of feeling inadequate?

Why Affirmations?

Because you put all your focus into the feelings you feel and the words you repeat.

When feeling what you want to feel and repeating what you want to happen, you attract it.

Manifestation Epidemic – Big and Small Desires

You might be looking at everything you have in one way and everything you don’t in another.

Many still fail to realize that LoA is life and not some out-of-this-world concept that you’re supposed to go through the motions of. You manifest what you believe you can have and with that, what you expect is possible for you. You manifest what you expect to receive and what you see yourself having, living.

Those who can’t see themselves living their desires feel the need for them; however, some of these people might only want to “experience” their desires and not actually live them every day. You must ask yourself if this is what you really want – do you just want to see your desire manifest or, do you want to live it every single day of your life? Do you want it to be there even when you take some time for yourself and do other things? Are you ready to live it every day?

Being able to see yourself living your desire starts from the belief that it is possible. This belief will give you confidence or your confidence will result in this belief; either way, it works. This is also where a specific problem comes from – some see themselves easily having some things but never having some others, finding them almost impossible to attract.

What you must understand is that all your desires are equally likely to happen and by classifying them, you are standing in your own way. You are building your own barriers. By worrying whether or not you would receive some of your desires but not others, you are preventing your own happiness from existing.

It’s that simple.

Put your logical mind to work. Is there really a reason why you should not attract what you want? Others have done it so why not you? I know that a part of you has already realized that seeing differences in your desires makes no sense. Be grateful for it!

There are no big and small desires – only what you believe you can have. All your desires are equal in magnitude.

Just believe, know, smile and be grateful for having what you wanted in your life right now.