Before deciding what kind of relationship you want to be in, know who you are.
When something in life upsets me, no matter how briefly, I am usually grateful for having someone supportive show up at the exact moment I have calmed myself down and reaffirm my belief that the situation will be resolved.
How does a situation such as this one usually go in your life?
The person to tell you that everything will be alright will either show up as soon as you have calmed yourself down or come sooner than that, bringing their calming and loving energy to help you.
In truth, we attract these situations and individuals, just like everything else. We either invite even more upsetting or loving and calming energy with our vibration and needs. If the same person keeps coming around to help, we are grateful for them. We are also grateful for those who offer to help.
We are particularly grateful for the moments in which worry fades away even when we fear the opposite happening.
Today, I attracted help from someone after I have decided that the situation in question was not a big deal after all. In fact, I expected to be much more irritated than I was. The annoyance that ran deep lasted only minutes which shows that consistent practice can turn anyone into a positive thinker.
It also shows that our thoughts don’t have to be perfect – they can be human. Like us.
When faced with upsetting moments, don’t beat yourself up. It happens. Don’t worry about how you might have attracted this circumstance but only look ahead with faith and trust instead.
Experiences define you only if you allow them to.
Some of the recent events around me as well as many comments and emails prompted me to address the following:
Are your friends, family and other people close to you genuinely happy for your success in life, your positive personality and all the love, magic and gratitude you are attracting into your life?
Let’s be clear on something – they should be!
No matter what goes on in your life, you are a great friend if you’re unconditionally happy for your own friends and their success. Those who support your goals and desires are good friends and those who don’t are only expressing their limiting beliefs, making themselves less-than-exceptional friends in the process.
If someone’s constant negativity hurts your happiness and life, you can remove yourself from that person and seek out positive company instead. There is no reason not to.
Or, if this is a relationship you want to repair, you can do so as well. It’s up to you but either way, here’s what to do.
Don’t take it personally!
Those who are unable to be entirely happy for you are unable to be happy for themselves, in their own life. If you don’t love you, you can’t love another, right? We all know this. However, if you confronted them about it, they would probably act offended, confirming your claim to be true.
Once again, consider what you want – to fix the relationship or give it up?
You are free to do either. You are not obligated to keep anyone into your life – relationships of any nature are about love and positive feelings, not guilt or obligations.
Be honest with that person.
If you want to repair the relationships or simply tell the person in question how you feel, you can. Make sure your communication is entirely honest because otherwise, what’s the point in bringing this up? You can tell this person that you would like to take some time away, if that is what you truly want, but make sure to explain why. Unless honesty is fully present, nothing will be resolved.
Think about the kind of friends and support you want to have.
Thinking about what makes us happy brings it into our lives. Dedicate your time to that instead of deciphering your problems. Problems are there to be resolved, not be obsessing about. Worrying too much brings no solution.
If you want to work with the Law of Attraction successfully, you should keep it simple.
If you want to attract the life you want successfully (and, fast), make decisions and stand by them! Be courageous enough to actually make decisions and stick to them.
To make decisions successfully, you must know yourself and the best way to do so is to engage in anything that makes you happy.
If you choose to move on…
Believe it’s for the best and feel good about your decision. You can’t have it both ways if you want to feel good – make a decision you actually feel good about!
Once you accept that your negative thoughts are false and powerless, you automatically ignore their existence.
Don’t get caught up in them!
The more I look, the more I notice the amount of emotional guilt many have grown up with and feel to this day, effectively preventing themselves from manifesting the life they want to live.
Has anyone ever tried to make you feel that you should make them happy instead of yourself? Do you agree to the things you don’t want in life just to make others happy? Do you feel undeserving of the things you want or feel that you’re asking for too much? You don’t have to feel any of these things but emotional guilt connected to them might still bother you.
Emotional guilt goes together with inadequacy, fear of letting others down and fear of greediness instead of enjoying the abundance of life.
HOW LOVE CAN HELP
Many don’t realize the magnitude of their emotional guilt until they find something or someone they love with their entire heart. Then, they suddenly see the difference between love and need, realizing that loving someone means accepting them for everything they are. If you don’t fully accept someone, you cannot love them. This is when it dawns on them just how much many people in their lives tried to project their neediness on them while masking it as love (or worse, believing it truly was love).
Love doesn’t make you feel bad. Love makes you feel great! One cannot be treating themselves and others in a way that makes them feel poorly and call it love because it is not.
When you know what love is, you can use LoA effectively. You can attract the life you want because love makes you realize what it is you want.
HAVE YOU RECOVERED?
Do you feel that getting hurt prevents you from feeling love?
Whatever you went through in life, don’t let it make you feel damaged. Don’t tell yourself that you are worthless because everyone goes through something. However, your sense of self worth decides on your life therefore allowing yourself to create your own environment should include the people you want to spend time with and love for the right reasons.
What we give emotion to, we manifest – good or bad.
Start putting positive emotion into the idea of experiencing what you want! Focusing on what you don’t want to experience will keep you stuck.
Imagine being the kind of person you respect.
It is often said that our friends say a great deal about who we are.
What you must know is that our friends may serve as mirrors in various ways. They could be critics, support, a getaway filled with love and relaxation or warning voices that remind us of the important things we may have forgotten over time.
Different individuals in your circle of friends could remind you of the different things you either love or struggle with – just observe your reactions to their words and you’ll understand what I mean. On the other hand, you might have one or several friends who seem to bring out the best in you.
You might also wonder where these differences come from.
Our friends do not decide who we are – they simply reflect the aspects of already existing self image back to us.
Your friends who feel good about themselves and/or your mutual friendship are probably the ones who make you feel hopeful, happy and seem to bring out the best in you. At the same time, you might have a friend who always makes you appreciate your life simply because they don’t appreciate theirs, focusing on everything that’s wrong with it. This person might make you appreciate your life but also makes you want to keep your distance due to their morose outlook.
Most importantly, what kind of people do you want to surround yourself with from now on? What specifically do you want to have in common with them? Do you want these individuals to be upbeat, creative or intellectual above everything else?
How do you see the time you want to spend together? What do you want to be doing and discussing?
As you can see, your friends can impact you in many ways. LoA states that those we meet mirror our true selves back to us but it doesn’t always explain the ways in which this might happen. Now that you know, you can examine the company you keep and why.
So, what do you value in the company you keep and why? What have you learned from the people you choose to surround yourself with or are currently surrounded with due to your current circumstances?
Share your personal findings in the comment section below!
For every desired manifestation, I only need to find the right affirmation.
With me, it’s not just about words – it’s about the right words.
The right affirmation triggers my being into most amazing visualizations, into the right visualizations.
How do I know they’re right? Because they reflect exactly what I wanted.
They make me feel the way I wanted to feel.
Over several minutes of boredom one day, I decided to manifest a free trip. Days later, I was offered one.
I hadn’t thought about many details of the trip and soon, it dawned on me that I should have. I didn’t like many of the conditions or the accommodation which ultimately caused me to pass on the trip altogether.
I was grateful for having received the offer but every offer in life is there for us to accept or decline. And that’s okay.
When manifesting something specific, be specific on all the details important to you!
In order to get specific, one must know exactly what kind of life they want.
What is it that makes you happy? Do you feel that you deserve it? Are you brave enough to believe that you deserve it?
Thinking positively about oneself takes courage yet it should be the most natural thing in the world.
So why do many avoid it?
Some people say they never ask for much in life, an attitude that translates into being unappreciated by the world. They try to bargain their low maintenance attitude into the belief of their desire belonging to them but end up feeling undeserving of it instead. Those who feel that asking for nothing is a virtue usually feel undeserving of most things as their personal guilt urges them to never ask for anything in fear of looking greedy. These individuals feel that they don’t have enough while others, usually those unlikable to them, have too much.
These individuals were taught that only greedy people want to experience life’s abundance while they should focus on being a good person instead. However, a “good” person is “good,” rich or poor. A “bad” person will be “bad” whether they are wealthy or poor. Those who don’t care what other people think won’t care no matter what happens in their life.
You will be criticized by the world, no matter who you are, and that criticism will come from the awareness of those who criticize you, not from your personal lifestyle. The critical will stay critical, unless they choose to change. The critical will criticize you, no matter who you are.
I hope this says enough.