photo couple walking street Warsaw Poland photography my work photographer

Thought of the Day

If instead of your true heart’s desire you accept one deemed easier to manifest, it isn’t fair to anyone involved.

If you should accept any goal you consider easier to manifest than your true heart’s desire, this isn’t fair to you or anyone else.

What we want wants us back.

The Universe wants to give you what you want.

Your true heart’s desire wants you just as much as you want it.

Advertisements
warsaw park fountain beautiful peaceful water nature stones summer

Positivity Equals Maturity, Maturity Equals Confidence and Confidence Equals Appeal – Why?

When we stop expecting drama, does that mean we have actually grown up?

Does expecting abundance and peace around us instead of life’s curveballs void of personal growth potential but dramatic to the core mean we have finally figured out what it’s all about?

Does expecting the best instead of expecting the road to get bumpy mean we are ready to live at peace with ourselves, our minds and other individuals, and feel love for life while knowing that our dreams belong to us?

Does a desire to happily coexist with others mean that we are ready to love ourselves and everyone else?

Yes.

Because to me, positivity is maturity. Inner peace is maturity. Maturity is emotional stability which is both happy and attractive. When you’re at peace with yourself, don’t you just see the light and realize how much you have to offer, focusing on what you have instead of what you are lacking?

All these questions have a lot to do with your inner peace, your natural happiness and your appeal to other people, including those you have set your sights on.

I feel that being positive but calm about my desires, firm in my knowing, eager to create beauty and excited about my days makes me an amazing person. 

You are attractive when you’re stronger than your negative thoughts. You feel attractive, making you attractive to others. You feel comfortable with yourself which makes you attractive to others.

Life’s too short not to love ourselves.

Life is too short not to love those we do instead of being perpetually annoyed with them. If only there was a goal to all the drama but there isn’t which means that those who attract drama probably actually like it. It’s comfortable. It’s familiar.

You have to know what would make you feel like an amazing person and just be it. Just decide to be it and start. If you feel like an amazing person, others will feel the same about you.

In the past, I had a different idea of what made me an amazing person. Much of it was the same with a dramatic aspect involved – that’s how I know that maturity actually equals peace.

Expecting the best is maturity, especially from the people we love including those we fall in love with. Putting aside the expectation of drama from another person also makes you attractive to them – those who seek and expect drama approach others with drama which is unattractive by default.

Maturity does not mean boredom; maturity means appeal, emotional stability, self-confidence – the sexiest trait of all – and the ability to have fun without attracting drama.

law of attraction my quote desire have fun choose

Thought of the Day

When it comes to manifestation, you might be closer to your goal than you realize.

You might think you have no money only to discover that your bank account balance increased while you weren’t looking.

You might deem it impossible to imagine living the life you want only to find yourself indulging in related visualizations soon after and coming out a different, more positive person.

A simple change in your daily dynamics could help you realize how far you’ve come and what a positive person you genuinely are.

You might fear you will never attract the person you want to be with (back) into your life only to finally let go as a result, shift your awareness entirely and all of a sudden, manifest.

pink lotus coy pond back yard garden

Are You Ashamed of Your Past/Present?

If you are, it might be the reason you keep getting stuck, manifesting the same situations over and over again, without knowing how to break free and manifest what you want for a change.

Is shame the manifesting block you have been trying to pinpoint and overcome? If so, you are now on your way out of the darkness.

Being ashamed of something you’ve done or experienced is just another version of feeling as if you are not good enough; it is the fear of inadequacy that makes you doubt your own worth, power or ability to make life happen. That sense of shame can be strong enough to effortlessly keep you focused on your perceived mistakes instead of enjoying the visualizations of the life you want, making you feel like you don’t deserve that life because of the embarrassment endured.

This might read like a childish concept to some but many adults carry a burden of shame. The need to be better instead of accepting that you are good enough already and can be anything you want to be does not always vanish with age and maturity (if anything, the pressure to keep proving oneself often grows); however, it should. It should vanish in anyone of any age who is suffering from shame or a sense of inadequacy because we decide who we are and how we feel.

No one needs to be ashamed of themselves or their actions if those actions came from the heart and from the best of intentions to pursue one’s happiness. Those who feel ashamed of their actions which had hurt another human or living being can proceed to find self-love and self-respect after forgiving themselves for their actions, no matter what it takes…and anyone has the ability to take these steps.  

Let’s discuss the root causes of shame and why it is self-inflicted. Let’s show exactly how and why one’s sense of shame can be permanently removed from one’s life.

 

First of all, I don’t believe in mistakes. Short of committing a crime, mistakes are non-existent. What we make are choices and for better or worse, who we are determines the choices we are going to make.

If you have made a choice that made you feel bad about yourself, you have already outgrown that sort of behavior and learned from it. You have already outgrown the choice you had made if you are sure that you would never make it again and for that, your experience might have just been worth it. 

If your choice resulted in the shame connected with your perceived lack of ability to attract the person or the relationship you want, that limiting belief of your “lack of ability” is the problem, not the sense of shame it caused.

A sense of shame is always the result of a deep limiting belief that prevents you from manifesting your desired reality. 

Look beyond the shame itself – look at what it is that makes you feel ashamed. Why do you feel ashamed? Therein lies the root of your problem, your self-imposed limiting belief. But how does that belief lead to shame in the first place?

Oftentimes, it is not the choice you made that was the problem but the way it made you feel. Most of the time, the reason you are ashamed is not as big of a deal as you fear it to be but the sensation it continues to cause inside you says something about your self-perception, self-confidence and a sense of self-worth.

For example…

The reason you might fear what the person you are interested in might think of you is because deep down, you already deem yourself inadequate. You have already made that decision about yourself and now you fear someone else mirroring it back to you. Do you see how it all starts with you? 

You may have made a seemingly silly move but it’s important to remember that it’s not what you did – it’s how you feel about it. What seemed silly and embarrassing to you might have gone unnoticed by the person you have set your sights on and anyway, that’s not the point. Again, the question of why you feel the shame remains.

Do you think that you would only feel good about yourself if you were perfect? Is the need for perfection without which you feel inadequate the reason for the shame you carry around? Or do you feel that something you have done or experienced in the past has made you undeserving of happiness for the rest of your life? 

If you feel that way, you must get rid of a deceptive idea that there are better or perfect people in the world. If you feel undeserving, you probably hold an idea of the kind of people who are more deserving than you; however, you must remember that these ideas are only in your head and nowhere near reality. You are not any less valuable than anyone else. Nobody in the world is better than you.

 

We are all worthy individuals, as we have stated on this blog many times. Try to respect yourself as much as you do some others and you’ll see how great it will make you feel. Know that if you decide that all your “shameful” moments are over and forgotten, you will stop reacting to the thoughts of them or completely forget about them just as everyone else will, too.

Trust me.

Manifesting Situation 

I manifested two new trips last week just because I had been visualizing that I was on an airplane. I’m not sure why but the thought of being on a plane just felt good; it always does but I think it was peaceful because of the idea of traveling somewhere specific, knowing where I’m going, reaching a destination. Deciding on a goal just brings a sense of peace. 

We like to know where we’re going and that is why deciding on a specific goal leads to rapid manifestation of one’s desire. 

Thought of the Day 

When you don’t pay too much attention to your dreams but one day you wake up and realize that last night’s dream gave you an insight into something you are ready for (and with that, who you are), it is the most wonderful feeling. Amost as wonderful as having your desire already. 

Have you had any interesting dream experiences recently? Share your thoughts! 

bee lavender nature photography beauty back yard garden

The Truth Behind Changing Your Mind in Specific Manifestations

Being specific has its ups and downs. Then again, anything does.

In life, my actions always reflected a core belief of “I want this so I am going to have it – nothing else, nothing less!” which led me to certain manifestations that looked nothing like I had imagined.

Once upon a time in college, I wanted a specific internship. The company seemed goal-oriented in my specific taste and I was excited about the interview. I had already decided that I would get it and dressed up for the interview only to be disappointed as soon as I got there. The building wasn’t in the best shape, their offices were unappealing and the job description I had read was already altered. The interviewers were describing responsibilities not listed in the job description that sounded plain boring and I walked out of there motivated to find something else.

I thought to myself, “I would fall asleep on the job every day if I had to work here!” And it would have probably been more exciting.

Upon my return to campus, I asked about some additional internship options and was told of another one. However, this company’s executive had already been to campus to conduct some interviews and left. One of the candidates he had interviewed was a friend of mine who wanted that position like I wanted my first choice before actually seeing what it looked like, and I didn’t expect a call at first. However, something was telling me to keep an open mind. I just had a feeling they would call me anyway.

About an hour later, the phone rang. It was the executive who had been to campus asking me to come in for an interview. He heard there was another candidate on campus interested in them, as I had listed them last minute, and wanted to meet. I agreed and found out that I would be interviewed by him and another female executive.

Two days later, reaching their offices proved to be a positive experience and the job position sounded as great as it did on paper. I was offered the position on the spot; however, I told them I wanted to interview with the last company I had put down on my list of internship options first. That final interview was scheduled the following day and I promised to call them straight after. Later that evening, I sat down with a friend who wanted the job I was offered and told him about the offer and that I wanted to take it. I wanted him to hear it from me. Being a wonderfully heartfelt person, he was fully supportive and even said he didn’t expect to get the job himself because the interview hadn’t gone as fascinatingly as he had thought it would. This friend of mine ended up getting a job in the first company I interviewed for and performed it with absolute ease whereas I am sure I would have done it poorly.

The next day, I skipped the final interview and called my new bosses to tell them I was accepting their offer. Apparently, they’d been on pins and needles waiting for my call. The job I skipped interviewing for that morning went to another friend of mine who loved it and wanted it for herself whereas I was only planning to go out of principle (and missed it out of that same principle in the end).

Deciding that I wanted something specific without finding out too much about it first hadn’t bothered me even when it turned out like this. I always thought that no matter how much I knew something or someone, I could always change my mind later anyway…or not. Time never meant too much to me in these cases, as I never viewed it as a sign of security in my feelings.

If the fact is that I could always change my mind, no matter how much I know (we all can), why not dive in from the beginning? Why not follow my good feelings, even if I change my mind tomorrow?

If I waited until deciding that something was either right for me or not before making a move, nothing would ever happen. Also, sometimes you simply must try to decide. If I’m not sure about wanting to try it, I usually don’t or at least wait until the moment I do. If I know immediately, great. If I know that I’ll never be interested in something no matter how much I tried, I move onto something else. However, I move with my feelings. If I want something but then change my mind, I know that changing my mind will last for a while if not forever. I know these things because that is who I am – each one of us is a different blend of awareness, wishes and preferences, and it is of utmost importance to not judge yourself for changing your mind when you do. You’re allowed to!

Being specific sometimes shows me that what I thought I wanted isn’t exactly what I had imagined and sometimes, that’s a good thing. It can be even better than you imagined! But at other times, it isn’t as good so you change your mind. This is completely normal but many have been conditioned to see it as a problem or a sign of immaturity when in fact it is a common factor in life.

If had I said that I would wait until after the interviews before deciding which of these internships I wanted, it wouldn’t have changed anything. I would have ended up in the exact same place. The goal is what’s important and when it comes to successful manifestation, it is all about focusing on one’s end goal and never worrying about the way everything will unfold.

The moment I felt that the company I ended up working for was going to call, I had made a decision to work for them. Even if I wasn’t aware of it at the time, I had made that decision. I had attracted working for them and didn’t worry about how everything happen which caused it to unfold in the most amazing way. That is the basis of Law of Attraction – keep it light, stay positive and feel good but be calm and certain.

 

Thought of the Day

Successful manifestation is all about starting to believe you’re an individual for whom life is just easy and to whom success comes naturally. You know you deserve it.

Change your core, change your life. 

Croatia village Dalmatia coast nature beauty

Self-Love is Your Inner Strength, Relationship Confidence and Encompassing Personal Beauty

It is what you believe you have a difficult time manifesting that causes attachment in you.

Changing yourself to assume the lightness of character, endless self-confidence and unwavering belief is achieved with self-love. Those who doubt this notion haven’t tried engaging in self-love just yet.

And when it comes to manifesting love with somebody else, self-love is your starting point. Self-love is what makes you believe that you can live the kind of love you want and deserve with somebody else (or a specific person you have fallen in love with and want to be spending your life with).

In my life, I quickly got used to following my positive feelings while keeping my freedom; at the same time, I hadn’t always sought out love as much as I sought out fun. I was confusing love with attachment and thought that engaging in love meant that I would inevitably end up feeling trapped. This was my learning period and now that I read it, it sounds very juvenile. I was always just as honest with myself about my fears of boredom or anything else and knew I would open up to love when I decided to. I had made the mistake of thinking that love inevitably leads to boredom instead of deciding that I would be experiencing the kind of love I wanted immediately. That was a (very) quick overview of my former relationship outlook.

I genuinely thought, “What is so special about making a life goal out of getting married and having children? Anyone can do it! And when it turns into a goal, one runs the risk of lowering their criteria just to find someone to marry and reproduce with as soon as possible. Marriage and children should be a part of life, not the ultimate goal because what do you do after you’ve had them?”

See what I mean?

That is not to say I haven’t given love a chance with various types of men. I just knew it wouldn’t last but wanted to enjoy it while it did. In an odd way, this was also positive – I wanted to be in a happy relationship with someone I was mesmerised with, even if I knew my fascination with his goodness wouldn’t last. Eventually, the fascination ended and all that was left was appreciation (or a lack thereof) but it was appreciation sufficient for a friendship, not a loving relationship.

My need for freedom was caused by previous relationships in which I had felt suffocated and I needed to get over that. For as long as I confused love for suffocation, I would be trying to escape it instead of enjoy it.

The truth is that we are all free – love lasts for as long as it does and even if we cannot choose how long we will love somebody for, we can choose to always treat them with honesty and respect. You get what you give. Staying with someone if you don’t want to isn’t fair but being honest with them and allowing the both of you to move on with your lives is. You don’t have to be perfect.

You just have to stand by your decisions, have integrity and have the strength to follow up, no matter how difficult it is for you. A decision is always one way – you can’t have it both ways and expect to be respected, by yourself or others.

I took a lot of heat for ending some of my relationships but knew it was the right thing to do. I just wasn’t feeling it anymore and nobody was changing my mind. However, I didn’t take it personally. It didn’t matter who disagreed with me – I only relied on my own approval.

Self-love allows you to follow your heart because making the right love-based decision for yourself means making the best decision for everyone involved. If you know something is right for you, eventually it will have proven to be so for everyone involved, maybe even sooner rather than later. 

All these personal attitudes were formed either prior to or as a result of my starting to look at relationships as something easy and natural – I’m not sure what order it went in but it doesn’t matter. One of these factors inevitably leads to another as a happy and healthy outlook is formed. After all, relationships can only work when fuelled by love, no matter how or when it happens.

Those who fear relationships and break-ups see them as difficult parts of life, causing their minds and hearts to close off to them and prevent them from manifesting.

If you see something as difficult, causing you sadness or simply impossible, you are preventing yourself from manifesting it. Emotional openness, positivity and feelings of fulfilment are the energy that attracts your desires while difficulty and sadness cause you to close yourself off from having what you want. 

Difficulty leads to noticing that your desire has not manifested yet which leads to attachment. Instead, adopt an attitude of your desires being easy to manifest! Decide that this easy manifesting is to start this second and allow your life to finally change.

Using the Law of Attraction truly shows us that everything is connected. Now, we must use this connection to attract what we love into our lives by creating the most amazing environment for it to thrive in with our own feelings and expressions of love.