What you want is yours already.
Do you wish to attract a commodity, circumstance or a relationship you believe would change your entire life and bring you happiness almost magically? In your mind, is this particular desire the Holy Grail of your goals and personal fulfilment?
If that’s the case, you might find the impression of your desire being present or absent controlling your overall mood. The appearance of short-term manifestations or signs that make your ultimate desire feel real inevitably lift your spirits while negative signs or the feeling of loneliness can just as easily take over, giving you a sinking feeling. Even if you don’t want to feel the absence, you often end up feeling too weak to help yourself.
What is there to do?
First of all, you must know this – if you are easily upset by the absence of your desired manifestation, this is completely normal and there is nothing wrong with you.
You don’t have to beat yourself up about it – throughout our lives, we most likely haven’t been informed of the most constructive ways to deal with negative feelings. In order to shield their beloved children from disappointment or protect them from getting hurt, parents often attempt to prepare us for dealing with life but lead us to believe we should expect to not get what we want instead, as our dreams might be difficult to achieve.
If you have been told that you might not get what you want because so many others want it, too, which might prevent you from getting it, you were taught to believe that something or someone can come in between you and your dreams when in reality, they can’t.
When you want something and are sure you are going to get it, nothing and no one can prevent it from happening. The only thing that can prevent it from happening is your own absence of the right belief.
Have you ever felt that manifesting your desires absolutely must always be a struggle for you for some reason, that you can never just get what you want smoothly, happily or positively? This is a mindset in itself, the type of self-perception ensuring you will continue to complicate your manifestations until someday accepting the fact that you deserve to enjoy them.
This type of mindset happens when one is guided by fear(s) which causes one to form attachment to one’s desires.
When greatly attached to a specific relationship, positively or negatively, it is tempting to allow for that relationship to become a part of your identity – a temptation often given into. The only problem is that in this case, your mood will change with the state of your relationship and inevitably follow its ups and downs.
When attached to another person, we stop accepting them fully and attempt to mould them into whoever we think they should be and the way they should behave, even if only partially or subconsciously. When loving another person fully, for everything they are, we have no reason to want to “improve” their imperfections and with that, create any sort of attachment which only produces the need to see someone behave the way we think they should.
Don’t get sucked in by attachment! Your desired manifestation is going to be a part of your life, even if it’s an important one, but when it comes to your life, you are everything. Not your desires, present circumstances or fears – just you. Against the happy you, attachment has no chance.
This is why you must feel good to the core of your being. When you feel good, you also feel good about your desires, inevitably sending attachment away whenever it comes knocking.
The feeling of lightness boosts the manifestation of your desire…and lightness isn’t always what you think it should be.
When you feel okay with what’s happening, you assume the feeling of lightness.
Lightness is being in the flow.
Lightness means accepting what is and looking forward to what’s coming.
The other night, I was in a deep discussion with a friend as we were driving around the city at 2 a.m.. Sharing experiences of recent and not-so-recent encounters with men, her accurate grasp of relationships absolutely amazed me.
Insightful and astute, my friend instantly pinpointed the gist of any story she or I shared. I was humbled in the most amazing way, in adoration and respect of this fresh mind – not perspective but the mind itself, as she managed to angle her perception any which way in order to reach the necessary answers. Her mind was just flawlessly on.
My own mind wasn’t entirely on that particular night. I found myself drifting from jokes to listening without responding verbally, focused as my listening was. The night was fun but after a while, I wanted to change my current state of mind. My moments of disconnect happen rarely but I have long decided to own them when they do, admitting to thinly veiled jokes and my entirely honest thoughts. Calling it as I feel it, I feel better when I admit it anyway. Secrets have no use and pretence has no place in a happy and more importantly, free individual’s life.
Keeping secrets is a burden, mostly when you keep your own…and every individual pretending to be someone else keeps the biggest secret of all. Avoiding authenticity has no place in happy relationships and if you wish to attract them, loving and accepting yourself fully is what attracts love and acceptance from your desired partner, even in moments of disagreement.
Pretending to be anyone other than who you are equals keeping a secret.
My friend openly expressed her current views and faced the evolvement of her situation with acceptance and positivity; much to her glee, she experienced a positive turnaround less than an hour after I dropped her off. In regard to one particular discussion, she opened my mind – a gesture I was immensely grateful for. In another discussion, her kind words appealed to my already open heart.
She had made me think.
My friend attracted what she wanted by accepting the current reality for what it was, feeling good about herself and the other person, and lovingly imagining the future.
She helped me back into my sense of inner peace which I attracted with her help.
Best part, this discussion didn’t even seem heavy. I am used to feeling so light that either anything feels light or what feels heavy I apologize for bringing up but this was serious yet normal, natural and typical of the way life goes. It was comforting and positive.
I am a person with specific preferences that knows what she wants. I like my mind clear and respectfully expressive which usually leads to rediscovering that most people aren’t used to honesty. When it comes to relationships, I also experienced moments of thinking that a profoundly happy love was the simplest thing to ask for yet the most complicated goal to achieve but when I say moments, I literally mean moments – my positive mind would allow me to snap out of it momentarily and remember what I believed instead. Fleeting is not a problem as long as it doesn’t equate one’s core belief (and then, it isn’t fleeting anyway). That night, my friend reminded me of my goals instead of allowing me to indulge in short-term distractions. She helped me out of that moment and back into my positive thoughts while her story inspired me.
My relationship goals are my core and mental distractions are temporary – I feel like I’ve been coming to terms with this particular lesson since the beginning of the year.
My friend also reminded me of something unexpected – when faced with conflicted thoughts, talking them out helps. I prefer talking about my conflicted thoughts to be as brief as possible, never going into overtime, as my fastest track to their (dis)solution tends to be calling them what they are and moving forward. Indulging in them has never made me happy and I doubt it ever could. Indulging in negative thoughts is nothing but mental hibernation.
Those who indulge in negative thoughts about relationships continue to attract the same type of person and relationship over and over. If you are currently attracting the type of person and relationship you don’t want anymore, you simply must change focus.
My friend had – starting off conflicted about her relationship, she eventually began to feel good about it and manifested its improvement. She attracted improvement with the same person.
I needed to self-improve that night and she helped me. I am a better person for it, as I have faced and resolved my latest annoyances with her help.
I’m on holiday in the south of Spain and will catch up with emails and new comments as soon as I return! I got to answer some last week and truly hope that you were satisfied. I hope I helped you out because I appreciate you so much.
Today, I have a question – would you be interested in reading a book on “how to put the past behind you and move on from (the pain of) a past relationship using LoA?” I have just come up with this subject line about an hour ago but genuinely believe there might be something special in it.
This book would detail the process of getting over the pain from your past entirely just by focusing on you and once you should put it behind, possibly rebuilding this relationship in order to make it everything you want it to be…or finding the partner of your dreams and immersing yourself into an entirely new love story with them. Anything you want.
I would also show you my personal ways of doing this and everything that happened before I talked myself into letting go of the frustration. I would tell you how I reminded myself that nothing but happy and positive inner focus was the only way back to being myself, strong with an open heart, loving and attractive, happy and independent…everything one must be either as the partner of someone’s dreams or to be happy on their own. When you’re happy, you love yourself and others without need and attract anyone you want without effort.
What do you think? Please share your thoughts in the comments section!
I love you all and I am looking forward to hearing from you!
Have a wonderful day!