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Not Giving Up on Them – What Does it Mean?

Should I start referring to myself as a “positivity coach?” “Life and positivity coach?” I don’t know yet but I’ve been playing around with that term today.

A client of mine recently introduced me to the following quote:

“A person who truly loves you will never stop believing in you and will never let you go, no matter how hard the situation is.” (Courtesy of powerofpositivity.com) My client then asked me to elaborate on this quote and gave me plenty of ideas through which to explain it.

This quote refers to several things and several stages of a relationship (or a relationship manifestation). To me, it means the following.

  1. Not giving up on the person you want to be with when they don’t meet your expectations of how they should act towards you during your relationship manifestation.
  2. Not giving up on the person you are with when they give you a hard time in one way or another during the relationship – if they are respectful towards the relationship but momentarily uncooperative towards you, don’t get or stay mad at them because they have their own life to deal with in addition to your relationship!
  3. Not giving up on a person just because they aren’t who you would want them to be but they still are a wonderful partner to you and someone who genuinely loves you – they just might not be as polished or experienced in relationships as you would want them to be.
  4. Not giving up on someone you love and want to manifest love with just because the love hasn’t manifested in real life yet and because they aren’t acting the way you think they “should” – this person has the right to live their life but you should either love them and feel compassion for them or decide that you don’t love them and let it all go because you can’t feel negative towards the person and manifest love with them. It has to be one or the other because if you don’t accept them and love them anyway, you are actually asking them to change.
  5. Not giving up on someone you love just because they have a difficult new circumstance to deal with in life which affects you by extension. If you love someone, you will want to stay with them even when life is hard for them.
  6. Giving constructive advice to a person because you want to see them shine but not giving up or belittling them if they don’t follow the said advice as fast as you should.
  7. Not giving up on someone because they aren’t the ideal version of your dream partner but you love them anyway because they deserve to be loved.
  8. Not giving up on someone because you prioritize who you think they should be over who they are – trust them when they say they love you, love their genuine self and freely express your love without asking for anything in return.

Those were just a few examples but I think you see what I mean.

Can you relate to any of them?

Loving someone has to be done entirely if it’s going to be done right. It has to be about loving their true self instead of criticizing it.

Not giving up on another person before manifesting your relationship with them means accepting them fully – if you don’t, you might not love them the way you think you do. 

Do you tend to focus on this person qualities or faults for the most part? The answer lies right there.

If we’re talking about a person you want to be with but haven’t attracted into your life yet, you must accept them fully if that attraction is going to happen. Even if you’re aware of their flaws, you won’t attract them by focusing on those flaws. No matter how “right” you are and how “wrong they are,” you can’t attract another person without appreciating and accepting them because that is not how energy works – relationships are a choice so how can someone make you their choice if they can see you feel negative, needy or judgmental towards them?

This is just a little food for thought but I can tell you that actually accepting a person fully and enjoying your qualities, your true self and your life at the same time leads to a deeper love than we can even imagine before experiencing it. Accepting someone to that extent will ensure their equal acceptance of you, leading to a love relationship beyond your wildest dreams.

Just have fun every day and enjoy your life! Soon enough, this will give you the ability to love and enjoy others, just the way they are. Instead of changing them, focus on the details of your life and make it enjoyable for yourself; after all, you can’t be focused solely on another person and be happy by ignoring your own side of the relationship.

Right now, you might be having trouble accepting another person because you don’t truly accept yourself, as you have been ignoring yourself while staying focused on them. Now, you are taking that focus back on enjoying yourself as well as your own life, and you will soon know that you have another amazing person in it who can only add to your reasons for gratitude.

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  1. Hi Nina

    You are probably shocked to see me back on your site as I am just as shocked to be back here.

    I wanted to update you on what happened in my life in the nearly one year since I left.

    I met someone else. Out of the blue. You know when they say when you are not looking and it shows up? Well that is what happened. Although I don’t practice as a clairvoyant anymore I have a set of angel cards that I still use every now and again.

    After what the other person did, the one I used to come on here and ask you questions about, you probably don’t recall, he got his mother to attack me on the phone – I changed all my details so he would never be able to find me again.

    Anyway, getting back to the set of angel cards – I kept getting 2 cards – one said NEW LOVE the other was PAGE OF PENTACLES, a younger person with blonde hair – which means meeting someone through work.

    Well I did. I met someone thorough work. 2 months after blocking the other guy everywhere I could. He was younger than me and a true blonde and a new love.

    Meeting him was the best thing thats ever happened to me in my life. It was the best time of my life. Ive never felt more loved or cherished by anyone. It was the most passionate and intensely romantic and loving experience I’ve ever had with anyone. I purposely burned every moment, memory and conversation we had together in my mind to remind myself of what its really meant to look like.

    Unfortunately he was 19 years younger than me, but a complete gentleman who never pushed for anything. We would spend from 7pm at night until 5am in the morning everyday together. He would hold my hand everyday, even at work, when no one was looking. Every chance he got to hug or touch me when one one was looking he would take. He would always have his arm around him when were were out or holding my hand. He genuinely cared about me and i even met his mother when she come into work one day. The other person was 9 years younger. This person who was 19 years younger was *already living out of home* – was studying at uni and was close to his mother but not like the other one that I used to talk to you about where they had an unhealthy dominate/subservient relationship with his mother and still living with her at 30.

    I have often questioned WHY I keep meeting people who are always so much younger than myself but I just let it go and don’t care anymore about the WHY’s. Meeting S (the 19 years younger person) changed everything for me. It made me realise there are better people out there, even better than the specific persons.

    Unfortunately I was the one who felt the age difference was to big for a future, although all the elements were there I didn’t want to tie a 22 year old into a relationship with me for all the obvious reasons – so we parted ways and I told him I wanted him to go out and experience life, to travel etc. It was the hardest decision but I think In the end the best for him. That to me is love.

    Well…

    Fast forward to five weeks ago and I am now posted one suburb away from the house of the other guy I used to come and talk to you on here about.
    I can’t believe it! Why now? Why at all?
    I can’t believe the resistance I still have towards him to this day. Its clear to me now that I never would have manifest anything with him as all it is is BAD memories. I had one person spend months with me until the early hours of the morning and one who would never even give me the time of day. I feel no resistance to anyone else in my life but with him I can’t forget what he did and it replays every time I have to drive to work everyday knowing he is only one suburb away and I could come into contact with him at anytime as he frequents the stores I work in. I even unblocked him on fb just to see if I could let go of some of the anger and hurt, but I blocked him again. When comparing the 2 people there is no comparison. One told me I was beautiful the other told me I was ugly. One was happy go lucky and joyful the other racked with problems. The happy one treated me amazing, the one racked with problems treated me badly. How could I have attracted such different people in such a short amount of time?

    I often reflect that if we attract these people why one was so loving and why one was so violent and cruel. My conclusion is that there ARE people you need to protect yourself from. Although I respect and love Neville Goddard and have been listening to his books, not everyone knows everything.

    I just can’t forgive him.

    The quote above says that a person who really loves you will never stop believing in you and never let you go no matter how hard the situation is. Well, then I guess I wasted 5 years plus thinking I loved that person when I really didn’t? because the situation WAS to hard. I see that now with the ease and flow I had with the other person I met. He did do damage that made me not believe in him anymore and he did cause me to not want to have anything to do with him anymore.

    I’ve put in for an immediate transfer out of that store.

    Take care

    P.S I am still Vegan and going strong.

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    1. Hi Gretta and welcome back! I love that you are healthy, vegan and honest with yourself. I believe that all of this happened so that you would come to a place where you admitted and came to be ready to realize your true feelings for him and now that you did, you can proceed happily to meeting the true man of your dreams! Let the rest of your life begin! 😀

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  2. Hi Nina

    I have met someone who likes me, but I do not feel the same way. I am also studying now and doing 2 bachelors and 2 courses at once so I am very busy. He is a very sweet person, but I am not feeling it.

    The scary thing is is that he lives one street away from the person I used to come on here and talk to you about. A one car drive.

    Whats going on? Am I meant to be seeing something here and I am not? I have been seeing his initials and year of birth for a few weeks now. I’ve just been trying to ignore it, but I can’t ignore that he lives one street away from this guy.

    What are the chances of that? Maybe I am just paranoid?

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    1. Hi Gretta! Sorry for the delay 🙂 I believe you are being given a reminder of an issue and it will keep coming back until it’s resolved. I would ideally have you practice self love, one step at a time, and see yourself first in terms of being the most important person in your life and only then in terms of being someone’s partner. You are to prioritize happiness and feeling good, just being happy, and that starts with what makes you happy now in terms of work, school, friends, animals, veganism, hobbies… There is already so much, right? 😀 When you just live happily, appreciating life and all its opportunities (and we always must be aware of those and have new personal goals), you will see relationships and even him for the GOOD in them/him. Focusing on what you have now will give you even more ❤

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