The more I think about it, the more I believe we sometimes don’t feel comfortable with living smooth and easy lives due to the guilt over so many other people’s difficulties.
On a drive taking care of my morning errands an hour ago, I started thinking how much any kind of anger or frustration with another person just isn’t worth it. Ever.
We are to focus on our goals and not the people involved in them. Oftentimes, the people we think are involved in them are actually irrelevant to the process – it’s all about knowing that you have what you want already and you will soon become aware that nothing can prevent it from happening.
Instead of thinking about all those negative people from your past, believe in meeting only the best kind of people in your future. Not everyone is worth your time – focus on meeting those who are and only those that suit your goals.
Tailor your life to yourself.
If you want to repair your relationship with someone, they are already worthy of your love. You can repair your relationship by reviewing their positive traits and being grateful for the traits you want to see them display to you. Think about how they fit into your life, not how you fit into theirs – if you want to be with this person, you will believe that you’re already the perfect fit. Why would you think otherwise about someone you chose?
Why say that you want someone in your life but then say you’re not right for them? That would be a waste of time.
Why assume you’re wrong for a job or lifestyle you want, or that those are wrong for you? That would be a waste of time. We must assume we are exactly right for anything that would make us happy to have in our lives and that is how we’ll manifest it.
You have to assume that you’re right for what you want and that what you want is right for you – otherwise, why bother? If you don’t assume that what you want is right for you and that you are right for it, you will automatically worry about manifesting it whether you realize it or not.
We like to imagine ourselves having what we want but we also like to think about who we are.
Everyone has a Law of Attraction block to overcome at one point or another. To some, this is distrust in the process; to others, it’s a lack of faith in their abilities. To others, it’s focusing on the current reality and being so upset about it that it prevents them from thinking about the ideal. To me, this was forgiveness.
At some point in my life, I became very unforgiving. I had created an idea in my mind that those who deserve me simply don’t make a certain kind of mistakes one should never make in a friendship or a relationship and if they did, I would discard them and move on (in most cases).
And then, I realized that I simply didn’t think these people were worth forgiving and I didn’t truly want them in my life. That moment, I knew that I would someday choose a partner who was too good of a person to make the deal-breaker type mistakes but still wondered how I would react if they committed less serious errors out of poor momentary judgement.
I started looking around and realized that most of those close to me occasionally committed these casual errors already. When I observed my reactions to those errors, they were usually harsh and, as if the person had forever let me down, resulted in a deep change in perception I had of this person. Even when I knew these errors didn’t mean that the person who committed them was entirely wrong about everything, I still held them to poor esteem simply because I didn’t want to forgive, thinking that their casual error never should have happened and that their judgement simply never should have been so off.
And then, I realized that if I never forgave even the smallest errors, those unintentional, casual and forgivable mistakes, I would never keep anyone in my life. I needed to stop being so upset and unforgiving of others’ mistakes, and focus on the people who were actually worth forgiving.
Focusing on why the person is worth forgiving and on who they are was the key. If someone simply needs to think a little more before acting because their spontaneous reactions hurt you, bring it to their attention or simply visualize them treating you with all the attentiveness you wish to receive (and then believe they will – simply choose to believe in them!). Focus on what they did right and magically, they will start making all the right moves very soon. However, if you continue to be upset with them, they will keep making the moves you dislike. Feeling good about someone now ensures their more than positive displays towards you in the near future.
If you are, it might be the reason you keep getting stuck, manifesting the same situations over and over again, without knowing how to break free and manifest what you want for a change.
Is shame the manifesting block you have been trying to pinpoint and overcome? If so, you are now on your way out of the darkness.
Being ashamed of something you’ve done or experienced is just another version of feeling as if you are not good enough; it is the fear of inadequacy that makes you doubt your own worth, power or ability to make life happen. That sense of shame can be strong enough to effortlessly keep you focused on your perceived mistakes instead of enjoying the visualizations of the life you want, making you feel like you don’t deserve that life because of the embarrassment endured.
It is what you believe you have a difficult time manifesting that causes attachment in you.
Changing yourself to assume the lightness of character, endless self-confidence and unwavering belief is achieved with self-love. Those who doubt this notion haven’t tried engaging in self-love just yet.
Self-love is in your best interest.
Thinking about the person you want to be instead of what is happening around you is going to allow you to enjoy your current reality instead of feeling that you are missing your desired one.
If you are struggling to stay happy in your current reality, you must start focusing on yourself.
I wanted to give you guys an update on my life. I want to document what I do, especially now that I am looking forward to new challenges, opportunities and events as I have just introduced a great new change to my life.
I worked as an independent associate with one university but decided I had accomplished everything I desired and chose to leave this collaboration behind. I had created a program of counselling and seminars for this university unique to the entire country; this type of work was meaningful, challenging and an irreplaceable opportunity. I wanted to leave this job sooner but then realized I hadn’t accomplished everything just yet; this opportunity contributed to my personal satisfaction as well as my professional.
Ever since making the decision to leave, I have been dedicating all my time to writing. I plan on finishing my second book very soon and with that, the year 2016 might be the year I self-published two books. How cool is that!? It definitely is to me.
That was me at age thirty one. I turn thirty two on January 5th.
I have lived about five different lives. Different countries, people and work offered me everything I wanted and I wanted all those lives. I had five lives and a million dreams. Now, especially with my work concluding when I wanted it to, I am ready to move countries once again. Having been close to my family for two or three years was great after being away from them for six years before that and it offered different dynamics which I was craving at the time. I continued to travel and collaborate with various people while spending more time close to my family and now, I need a change once again. I want that change and I look forward to it.
We often discuss love and relationships in this community so let’s talk about that now.
Everyone in this community already chose their perfect person – I might not currently have a great love to manifest but I am open to it! That’s a good start, don’t you think? I look forward to the next chapter. I must admit that I hadn’t missed being in a relationship – many members of this community are or have manifested being in one but I wasn’t ready for the one just yet, if you want to put it that way. And I knew it. There were however options yet had I felt the need for them, they would have eluded me. I have a great family and friends to share love and happiness with. I have met some new, amazing people and all of this blended into an attitude that ensured meeting quality men throughout this time.
This year however, I manifested some great friendships. I had also reaffirmed some existing friendships which showed me whom I wanted to stay close to. I want to keep my friends but some are just closer than others and that’s perfectly fine. Others we stay close with no matter how much time passed. I love these nuances of relationships and life, as they provide fascinating change and dynamics. We all share fun times with each other which is enough to remain appreciative of one another.
Now, I look forward to sharing the news of my new life! Just as importantly, I feel as if it’s 2017 and I am exactly where I wanted to be.
I want to hear about your favorite manifestation of 2016! Please share.
LOVE you all! 😀
The more I look, the more I notice the amount of emotional guilt many have grown up with and feel to this day, effectively preventing themselves from manifesting the life they want to live.
Has anyone ever tried to make you feel that you should make them happy instead of yourself? Do you agree to the things you don’t want in life just to make others happy? Do you feel undeserving of the things you want or feel that you’re asking for too much? You don’t have to feel any of these things but emotional guilt connected to them might still bother you.
Emotional guilt goes together with inadequacy, fear of letting others down and fear of greediness instead of enjoying the abundance of life.
HOW LOVE CAN HELP
Many don’t realize the magnitude of their emotional guilt until they find something or someone they love with their entire heart. Then, they suddenly see the difference between love and need, realizing that loving someone means accepting them for everything they are. If you don’t fully accept someone, you cannot love them. This is when it dawns on them just how much many people in their lives tried to project their neediness on them while masking it as love (or worse, believing it truly was love).
Love doesn’t make you feel bad. Love makes you feel great! One cannot be treating themselves and others in a way that makes them feel poorly and call it love because it is not.
When you know what love is, you can use LoA effectively. You can attract the life you want because love makes you realize what it is you want.
HAVE YOU RECOVERED?
Do you feel that getting hurt prevents you from feeling love?
Whatever you went through in life, don’t let it make you feel damaged. Don’t tell yourself that you are worthless because everyone goes through something. However, your sense of self worth decides on your life therefore allowing yourself to create your own environment should include the people you want to spend time with and love for the right reasons.
What we give emotion to, we manifest – good or bad.
Start putting positive emotion into the idea of experiencing what you want! Focusing on what you don’t want to experience will keep you stuck.
A significant outcome of one’s self-perception improving and self confidence growing together with one’s happiness is that moments of anger and annoyance pass rapidly, proving their insignificance and futility.
Those moments are a waste of time and suddenly, you are aware of it.
You come to understand that feeling good about yourself (and others) is the only thing that is worth your time.
Last week, I felt uncomfortable in someone’s company. This sensation only lasted a few minutes but after the impression wore off, I realized it wasn’t a big deal. There is no other way to put it – it wasn’t a big deal. When that happens, one comes to realize that it takes no effort to simply see the good in people; even if you do so for the most part, you can still encounter moments in which you feel uncomfortable in someone’s presence for whatever reason. However, as your self confidence grows in life, you come to see that a lack of comfort related to any person or issue appears very rarely.
Self confidence, comfort and awareness grow as you practice happiness and focus on the positive things about yourself. Then, you focus on the positive in others.
You will start to see the evidence of this as soon as you begin to feel better about yourself. You will feel comfortable in almost any situation because you feel comfortable with yourself.
Then, you will start to feel comfortable with everything you aim to manifest. And even though you will not engage in negative thoughts about others for longer time periods, you will naturally move yourself away from the individuals that don’t contribute to your happiness.
IGNORING THE CURRENT REALITY
Some find it difficult to focus on their desires while their current reality continues to hurt them.
The way to ignore your current reality is to make the perception of your desired reality simply magical.
When you imagine living your desired reality, allow yourself to be happy. Just give in – it’s enough.