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Are You Ashamed of Your Past/Present?

If you are, it might be the reason you keep getting stuck, manifesting the same situations over and over again, without knowing how to break free and manifest what you want for a change.

Is shame the manifesting block you have been trying to pinpoint and overcome? If so, you are now on your way out of the darkness.

Being ashamed of something you’ve done or experienced is just another version of feeling as if you are not good enough; it is the fear of inadequacy that makes you doubt your own worth, power or ability to make life happen. That sense of shame can be strong enough to effortlessly keep you focused on your perceived mistakes instead of enjoying the visualizations of the life you want, making you feel like you don’t deserve that life because of the embarrassment endured.

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What Makes You YOU – Who You Are or What You Have?

Thinking about the person you want to be instead of what is happening around you is going to allow you to enjoy your current reality instead of feeling that you are missing your desired one.

If you are struggling to stay happy in your current reality, you must start focusing on yourself.

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LoA and My Life in 2016

I wanted to give you guys an update on my life. I want to document what I do, especially now that I am looking forward to new challenges, opportunities and events as I have just introduced a great new change to my life.

I worked as an independent associate with one university but decided I had accomplished everything I desired and chose to leave this collaboration behind. I had created a program of counselling and seminars for this university unique to the entire country; this type of work was meaningful, challenging and an irreplaceable opportunity. I wanted to leave this job sooner but then realized I hadn’t accomplished everything just yet; this opportunity contributed to my personal satisfaction as well as my professional.

Ever since making the decision to leave, I have been dedicating all my time to writing. I plan on finishing my second book very soon and with that, the year 2016 might be the year I self-published two books. How cool is that!? It definitely is to me.

That was me at age thirty one. I turn thirty two on January 5th.

I have lived about five different lives. Different countries, people and work offered me everything I wanted and I wanted all those lives. I had five lives and a million dreams. Now, especially with my work concluding when I wanted it to, I am ready to move countries once again. Having been close to my family for two or three years was great after being away from them for six years before that and it offered different dynamics which I was craving at the time. I continued to travel and collaborate with various people while spending more time close to my family and now, I need a change once again. I want that change and I look forward to it.

We often discuss love and relationships in this community so let’s talk about that now.

Everyone in this community already chose their perfect person – I might not currently have a great love to manifest but I am open to it! That’s a good start, don’t you think? I look forward to the next chapter. I must admit that I hadn’t missed being in a relationship – many members of this community are or have manifested being in one but I wasn’t ready for the one just yet, if you want to put it that way. And I knew it. There were however options yet had I felt the need for them, they would have eluded me. I have a great family and friends to share love and happiness with. I have met some new, amazing people and all of this blended into an attitude that ensured meeting quality men throughout this time.

This year however, I manifested some great friendships. I had also reaffirmed some existing friendships which showed me whom I wanted to stay close to. I want to keep my friends but some are just closer than others and that’s perfectly fine. Others we stay close with no matter how much time passed. I love these nuances of relationships and life, as they provide fascinating change and dynamics. We all share fun times with each other which is enough to remain appreciative of one another.

Now, I look forward to sharing the news of my new life! Just as importantly, I feel as if it’s 2017 and I am exactly where I wanted to be.

I want to hear about your favorite manifestation of 2016! Please share.

LOVE you all! 😀

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Resolving Emotional Guilt – Can You Focus on Abundance Instead?

The more I look, the more I notice the amount of emotional guilt many have grown up with and feel to this day, effectively preventing themselves from manifesting the life they want to live.

Has anyone ever tried to make you feel that you should make them happy instead of yourself? Do you agree to the things you don’t want in life just to make others happy? Do you feel undeserving of the things you want or feel that you’re asking for too much? You don’t have to feel any of these things but emotional guilt connected to them might still bother you.

Emotional guilt goes together with inadequacy, fear of letting others down and fear of greediness instead of enjoying the abundance of life.

 

HOW LOVE CAN HELP

Many don’t realize the magnitude of their emotional guilt until they find something or someone they love with their entire heart. Then, they suddenly see the difference between love and need, realizing that loving someone means accepting them for everything they are. If you don’t fully accept someone, you cannot love them. This is when it dawns on them just how much many people in their lives tried to project their neediness on them while masking it as love (or worse, believing it truly was love).

Love doesn’t make you feel bad. Love makes you feel great! One cannot be treating themselves and others in a way that makes them feel poorly and call it love because it is not.

When you know what love is, you can use LoA effectively. You can attract the life you want because love makes you realize what it is you want.

 

HAVE YOU RECOVERED?

Do you feel that getting hurt prevents you from feeling love?

Whatever you went through in life, don’t let it make you feel damaged. Don’t tell yourself that you are worthless because everyone goes through something. However, your sense of self worth decides on your life therefore allowing yourself to create your own environment should include the people you want to spend time with and love for the right reasons.

What we give emotion to, we manifest – good or bad.

Start putting positive emotion into the idea of experiencing what you want! Focusing on what you don’t want to experience will keep you stuck.

What Happens When You Start to Feel Good?

A significant outcome of one’s self-perception improving and self confidence growing together with one’s happiness is that moments of anger and annoyance pass rapidly, proving their insignificance and futility.

Those moments are a waste of time and suddenly, you are aware of it.

You come to understand that feeling good about yourself (and others) is the only thing that is worth your time.

Last week, I felt uncomfortable in someone’s company. This sensation only lasted a few minutes but after the impression wore off, I realized it wasn’t a big deal. There is no other way to put it – it wasn’t a big deal. When that happens, one comes to realize that it takes no effort to simply see the good in people; even if you do so for the most part, you can still encounter moments in which you feel uncomfortable in someone’s presence for whatever reason. However, as your self confidence grows in life, you come to see that a lack of comfort related to any person or issue appears very rarely.

Self confidence, comfort and awareness grow as you practice happiness and focus on the positive things about yourself. Then, you focus on the positive in others.

 You will start to see the evidence of this as soon as you begin to feel better about yourself. You will feel comfortable in almost any situation because you feel comfortable with yourself. 

Then, you will start to feel comfortable with everything you aim to manifest. And even though you will not engage in negative thoughts about others for longer time periods, you will naturally move yourself away from the individuals that don’t contribute to your happiness. 

 

IGNORING THE CURRENT REALITY

Some find it difficult to focus on their desires while their current reality continues to hurt them.

The way to ignore your current reality is to make the perception of your desired reality simply magical.

When you imagine living your desired reality, allow yourself to be happy. Just give in – it’s enough.

Are You Lost in What it all Means?

It isn’t anyone’s job or duty to love you – you simply give them a reason to.

I am talking about two things – you and your relationship manifestations.

Would you love someone who claimed that you were obligated to love or respect them? Unlikely. This person would demand those things from you out of their own need.

Look back on every time you were the one to break up with someone and they disagreed with your decision. Were you obligated to stay with them? No. The sooner you start to view relationships as a choice and treat those relationships with respect (be in one or not but never for the wrong reasons), the sooner you will be focused on nothing but love, freedom and choices.

Let’s not forget that love and freedom work together.

If someone wants to leave you, let them leave; at the same time, if you want to get back together, work on your belief that being back together is a done deal. It is yours – if you truly love the person without needing to feed your own ego by getting back together, that is. I know this might not make much sense to some of you but it is one of the ways of using LoA to attract what you want – you are not resisting the current reality but believing in your ideal one.

See what I mean?

The only person obligated to love you is you. If you don’t, life gets harder so is it really worth it to not love yourself?

If you don’t love someone or even like them, is it really worth it to be with them? By loving someone, you have already given reason for them to love you. But who do you truly feel good about?

To love, you must know the difference between love and need. When it comes to relationships, there is only love but love cannot exist without self appreciation.

Have You Earned a Great Relationship?

This post first appeared on my (first) blog, https://improvingconfidence.wordpress.com/

I continuously encounter individuals who believe a great relationship is something they are entitled to.

A great relationship is something everyone deserves, just like any other blessing in life. Everyone deserves to experience happiness but those that receive it have in fact earned it with their positive mindsets, respect for others and gratitude for their lives.

Everyone deserves it but a positive individual earns it, allowing a happy relationship to come into their reality.

On the other hand, those projecting negative energy (be it frustration, desperation, negative self-image, impatience, rudeness or general dissatisfaction) are continuously preventing what they deserve, a great relationship in this case, to appear in their lives.

You get what you give; genuine appreciation for life, your own and those of others, ensures you will receive an abundance of goodness in return. You merely need to find that appreciation.

The idea of an amazing relationship being earned holds truth but requires explanation; stating this idea as simply as it looks in writing may evoke negative reactions instead of positive. One becomes worthy of a great relationship by viewing oneself in a positive light, focusing on everything they enjoy in life, respecting one’s unique qualities as well as the qualities of others and having personal integrity that ensures standing by one’s personal beliefs.

Many believe they must earn a great relationship by fulfilling requirements such as career success, a larger-than-life personality, financial wealth or being classically good looking. However, basic creation principles state that one’s beliefs create one’s awareness; for example, individuals who deeply believe they cannot earn a great relationship until they have a great job will encounter specific experiences reflecting those beliefs.

Truth is, the relationship you desire has nothing to do with your social status unless you decide to believe it. Those who stick to beliefs such as “Once I get a good job, I will have inner peace and be ready for a relationship” will most likely find that the job, the relationship and the inner peace continue to elude them. Postponing those experiences by masking them as future goals will ensure they remain distant goals, making it impossible to catch up to that “perfect future.”

Now, I am not saying your desires are irrelevant but for as long as you think “I’ll be confident once I have this,” you are creating a future goal that will always remain in the future. In reality, you must feel deserving of your goals now and be confident in yourself before you can obtain them.

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Contrary to popular belief, relationships have nothing to do with your social status, level of wealth, professional success or your looks. When it comes to relationships, you merely need to be confident in the person you are. You need to draw your confidence from internal factors instead of external. You need to recognize your personal qualities, the beauty of your physical traits, your intelligence and gratitude for everything you have in life.

One of the best ways to earn a great relationship rests in developing self-confidence, self-comfort and self-acceptance.

Amplifying those character traits with a positive mindset will allow you to focus on everything you love in life instead of everything you are currently missing. If you focus on your positive traits, you will effortlessly focus on your (potential) partner’s positive traits, enjoying your relationship immensely and solving problems in it easily. Suddenly, you will come to realize relationships were intended to be easy and enjoyable instead of being a constant ego battle between opposing sides. If you have an eye on a potential partner, you will be encouraged to communicate with them as you have recognized your own qualities while appreciating them for theirs. You will realize how much there is to be liked about you!

If you believe your looks are insufficient to evoke attraction in another, you will project an unhappy demeanor, tension and insecurity. The best part is, you can decide to focus on the aspects of your appearance you like instead. You can appreciate your beauty instead of focusing on the reasons it is less than perfect. This positive energy will evoke even more of the same, allowing you to feel increasingly great about yourself.

Ultimately, is there a real reason you should feel negatively about your appearance? Everyone holds a different idea of what beauty means. More importantly, we all respond to each other’s energy much stronger than any physical attributes – every time you were attracted someone who wasn’t your “type” proves that.

Do you compare yourself to others? This is another mistake which can prevent you from receiving life’s goods. Do you believe you must match an ideal another specific person represents to you while considering anything “less” to be insufficient? This mindset only states your lack of appreciation for yourself, as you feel undeserving of love. Even if you think your (potential) partner only wants the ideal you have imagined him/her wanting, it doesn’t mean you’re right.

We all know the story – one perceives their desired partner to be “too good for me.” “He/She is out of my league,” they imagine, never making a move or deeming themselves worthy. This thought process is perpetuated until the object of their affection meets someone else.

There are plenty of similar examples. However, it all comes down to the following.

Searching for the reasons to postpone living a happy relationship only shows that you doubt your own value. If recognizing the said value undoubtedly ensures finding a great relationship, what is the point of feeling inadequate?

Bring Out the Best by Giving Your Best

Weeks ago, I experienced a problem with a business associate. A slip had happened and finances suffered. At first, I barely reacted and just said, “It’ll all be resolved.” Easily obtaining the money to patch up the financial end of the story, I then got into a slight disagreement with the said associate over the entire situation. I openly expressed my disapproval to them and they reacted accordingly.

Then, I stopped to reassess.

I genuinely liked working with this person and I knew they meant well but had gotten upset because I blamed them for the problem. However, studying energy reminded me it was me who had attracted those problems in the first place and I knew exactly how. I also knew that this entire event was happening due to a raise in vibration I had been experiencing and would only make room for something even better in my life.

Over the next few days, I was able to calm down about everything. After a week or so, I emailed my associate and we spoke as if nothing happened. Prior to that, I had asked the Universe for our relationship to bounce back and become positive again. We continued to talk as if nothing happened whenever we had something to discuss. Then, I did something that mattered to me because I care about who I am as well as my own integrity and happiness. I apologized to my associate for my reaction to the entire thing and decided to put it behind us. After all, there are more important things in life than disagreements, in my opinion. The only thing that mattered was whether or not I wanted this to change our relationship.

I hadn’t gotten an apology in return but let the whole thing go anyway. I worked with my associate as if nothing happened, fully moving on or starting over (depending on how you see it). Over the next few weeks, up until yesterday, my associate surprised me in the ways I never thought were possible. They arranged for the entire situation to be fully resolved through new contacts, making all the effort to solve it for good. They handled all the paperwork and the story ended yesterday when I found out that I would be reimbursed for all the charges that had been made.

I never asked for this but received even more miracles than I had asked for. All I did was accept the situation, apologized for the bad and saw the good in my associate. I had decided that the entire situation was irrelevant because I did my part in attracting it into my life and could then move on, deciding that I didn’t want my professional relationship to suffer as a result.

After the final meeting I had taken yesterday to resolve the issue for good, I went for breakfast with my mother. Then, we did a little shopping (buying things we’d both been thinking about for weeks) and I headed home, making an appointment for a beauty treatment several hours later. In the meantime and after my visit to the beauty salon, I got work done. Everything aligned perfectly, showing me all over again that Law of Attraction is a way of life.

This story provided several valuable lessons.

Appreciating another person just as they are and focusing on the good in them comes back to you tenfold. When you give love, appreciation or acceptance, you always receive even more of it in return.

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Feel good about yourself. Be convinced that you bring quality into everyone’s reality and every situation. Feel deserving of the good things in life.

I was convinced I brought something amazing into the situation by apologizing. I felt good about myself due to this particular approach.

Always do what makes you feel good. Follow your heart. Make the decisions you will stand by.

Because ultimately…

Giving your best to another makes them want to do their best for you.

Why “Me” Time Matters

Enjoying “me” time removes need and excessive attachment to one’s desire, allowing them to enjoy their life fully and rapidly manifest entirely new miracles.

“Me” time is another positive concept which society has spun into negative, pegging it selfish and unnecessary. “Me” time allows you to reconnect with your essence and true desires, giving you a chance to be grateful for everything you have.

I love my personal time. Going to a spa, reading a book, watching movies, long walks, meditation, even shopping all by myself in some cases can give me exactly what I need. I love and deserve it; my private time reminds me of everything I love, have and deserve in life. You can feel the same way and you know it!

Much of my work is also created in private but that is an entirely different story.

Many Law of Attraction teachers advocate pampering oneself as a method of expressing self-love as well as raising awareness of one’s value. I absolutely agree.

When you start to treat yourself the way you deserve, you will only accept the same from others.

“Me” time allows you to raise your vibration as you remind yourself of how rich and wonderful life is.

OTHER METHODS

Nothing raises my vibration as effectively as a song that describes my feelings. I’m a music fan that manifests the perfect song of the moment without effort and recommend this to everyone. So many of us love music and can use this extremely easy way of raising our vibration.

Personally, I can kill an entire day listening to the same song on repeat while going about my work and errands. Connected to my desire, this particular song gives me effortless visualizations and makes me happy, preparing me for receiving and living my desire.

Your private visualization time with music on makes for fantastic “me” time.