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Thought of the Day

Whenever you find yourself noticing your desire missing from your life, remember that since you asked for it, you must receive it.

As soon as you remind yourself of it, you will believe it; you will know that what you want is yours already. Your belief will create.

Noticing your desire missing and worrying about it manifesting is attachment. Knowing your desired manifestation is a done deal is positive awareness.

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Are You Putting Your Happiness Into the Hands of Your Desire?

Do you wish to attract a commodity, circumstance or a relationship you believe would change your entire life and bring you happiness almost magically? In your mind, is this particular desire the Holy Grail of your goals and personal fulfilment?

If that’s the case, you might find the impression of your desire being present or absent controlling your overall mood. The appearance of short-term manifestations or signs that make your ultimate desire feel real inevitably lift your spirits while negative signs or the feeling of loneliness can just as easily take over, giving you a sinking feeling. Even if you don’t want to feel the absence, you often end up feeling too weak to help yourself.

What is there to do?

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Thought of the Day

If instead of your true heart’s desire you accept one deemed easier to manifest, it isn’t fair to anyone involved.

If you should accept any goal you consider easier to manifest than your true heart’s desire, this isn’t fair to you or anyone else.

What we want wants us back.

The Universe wants to give you what you want.

Your true heart’s desire wants you just as much as you want it.

What Makes You YOU – Who You Are or What You Have?

Thinking about the person you want to be instead of what is happening around you is going to allow you to enjoy your current reality instead of feeling that you are missing your desired one.

If you are struggling to stay happy in your current reality, you must start focusing on yourself.

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Do You Feel Good about Abundance?

Over several minutes of boredom one day, I decided to manifest a free trip. Days later, I was offered one.

I hadn’t thought about many details of the trip and soon, it dawned on me that I should have. I didn’t like many of the conditions or the accommodation which ultimately caused me to pass on the trip altogether.

I was grateful for having received the offer but every offer in life is there for us to accept or decline. And that’s okay.

When manifesting something specific, be specific on all the details important to you!

In order to get specific, one must know exactly what kind of life they want.

What is it that makes you happy? Do you feel that you deserve it? Are you brave enough to believe that you deserve it?

Thinking positively about oneself takes courage yet it should be the most natural thing in the world.

So why do many avoid it?

Some people say they never ask for much in life, an attitude that translates into being unappreciated by the world. They try to bargain their low maintenance attitude into the belief of their desire belonging to them but end up feeling undeserving of it instead. Those who feel that asking for nothing is a virtue usually feel undeserving of most things as their personal guilt urges them to never ask for anything in fear of looking greedy. These individuals feel that they don’t have enough while others, usually those unlikable to them, have too much.

These individuals were taught that only greedy people want to experience life’s abundance while they should focus on being a good person instead. However, a “good” person is “good,” rich or poor. A “bad” person will be “bad” whether they are wealthy or poor. Those who don’t care what other people think won’t care no matter what happens in their life.

You will be criticized by the world, no matter who you are, and that criticism will come from the awareness of those who criticize you, not from your personal lifestyle. The critical will stay critical, unless they choose to change. The critical will criticize you, no matter who you are.

I hope this says enough.

When One Doesn’t Need a Relationship…

The more I think about it, the more I’m convinced that self-confidence and the ability to let go share a deep connection.

I was given permission to share this story. Recently, a friend of mine got out of a long-term relationship and while wanting to relax before hitting the dating scene, they became a target of some very interested individuals instead. My friend’s lack of interest in anything serious removed the internal need for a relationship which resulted in becoming magnetic to the opposite sex. However, these individuals who are targeting my friend overdo it to say the least, reciprocating every iota of interest with a snowball of excessive attention. With my friend’s breakup still fresh in their mind, causing some conflicted personal values, they have come to fear refusing these individuals’ advances and hurting their feelings.

There is no doubt that my friend needs to regain their confidence and values before entering a new relationship but the behavior of these two individuals who have their eye on this friend of mine shows attachment instead of confidence.

How do I know?

Let me explain.

My friend doesn’t feel that either of these two individuals is quite captivating. They feel that both individuals are sweet but overplaying their hand, possibly insecure and coming on strongly instead of respecting the need for space my friend (verbally) expressed. Instead of receiving the space requested, my friend is being chased which is a primal reaction on an energetic level but a poor choice on their admirers’ side.

I have said before that one can make moves only when certain that what he/she wants belongs to them already. On the other hand, making moves in order to “get” something one doesn’t have yet is generally a bad idea. Simple as that.

What my friend does have in this case is fulfillment in their single life – having come out of a relationship, they feel the need for a new one and attract admirers as a result. My friend feels good on their own right now which is a requirement for anyone wishing to attract new people.

At the same time, my friend is attracting the people they are not interested in having long term (or, any kind of) involvements with. This is because they are putting the pieces of their personal happiness back together yet none of the individuals pursuing my friend are convinced that they can make the relationship happen.

There are plenty of LoA lessons in this example. If one of my friend’s admirers decided that they wanted a relationship and had unconditional faith, that relationship could happen.

If one of my friend’s admirers loved themselves as much as they keep asking my friend to “love” them, my friend would feel much stronger attraction for them.

To sum up,

Those who love themselves and are confident in their abilities can let go of their desire to manifest. They already have much love in their lives…because they give it to themselves.

Are You Lost in What it all Means?

It isn’t anyone’s job or duty to love you – you simply give them a reason to.

I am talking about two things – you and your relationship manifestations.

Would you love someone who claimed that you were obligated to love or respect them? Unlikely. This person would demand those things from you out of their own need.

Look back on every time you were the one to break up with someone and they disagreed with your decision. Were you obligated to stay with them? No. The sooner you start to view relationships as a choice and treat those relationships with respect (be in one or not but never for the wrong reasons), the sooner you will be focused on nothing but love, freedom and choices.

Let’s not forget that love and freedom work together.

If someone wants to leave you, let them leave; at the same time, if you want to get back together, work on your belief that being back together is a done deal. It is yours – if you truly love the person without needing to feed your own ego by getting back together, that is. I know this might not make much sense to some of you but it is one of the ways of using LoA to attract what you want – you are not resisting the current reality but believing in your ideal one.

See what I mean?

The only person obligated to love you is you. If you don’t, life gets harder so is it really worth it to not love yourself?

If you don’t love someone or even like them, is it really worth it to be with them? By loving someone, you have already given reason for them to love you. But who do you truly feel good about?

To love, you must know the difference between love and need. When it comes to relationships, there is only love but love cannot exist without self appreciation.

Have You Earned a Great Relationship?

This post first appeared on my (first) blog, https://improvingconfidence.wordpress.com/

I continuously encounter individuals who believe a great relationship is something they are entitled to.

A great relationship is something everyone deserves, just like any other blessing in life. Everyone deserves to experience happiness but those that receive it have in fact earned it with their positive mindsets, respect for others and gratitude for their lives.

Everyone deserves it but a positive individual earns it, allowing a happy relationship to come into their reality.

On the other hand, those projecting negative energy (be it frustration, desperation, negative self-image, impatience, rudeness or general dissatisfaction) are continuously preventing what they deserve, a great relationship in this case, to appear in their lives.

You get what you give; genuine appreciation for life, your own and those of others, ensures you will receive an abundance of goodness in return. You merely need to find that appreciation.

The idea of an amazing relationship being earned holds truth but requires explanation; stating this idea as simply as it looks in writing may evoke negative reactions instead of positive. One becomes worthy of a great relationship by viewing oneself in a positive light, focusing on everything they enjoy in life, respecting one’s unique qualities as well as the qualities of others and having personal integrity that ensures standing by one’s personal beliefs.

Many believe they must earn a great relationship by fulfilling requirements such as career success, a larger-than-life personality, financial wealth or being classically good looking. However, basic creation principles state that one’s beliefs create one’s awareness; for example, individuals who deeply believe they cannot earn a great relationship until they have a great job will encounter specific experiences reflecting those beliefs.

Truth is, the relationship you desire has nothing to do with your social status unless you decide to believe it. Those who stick to beliefs such as “Once I get a good job, I will have inner peace and be ready for a relationship” will most likely find that the job, the relationship and the inner peace continue to elude them. Postponing those experiences by masking them as future goals will ensure they remain distant goals, making it impossible to catch up to that “perfect future.”

Now, I am not saying your desires are irrelevant but for as long as you think “I’ll be confident once I have this,” you are creating a future goal that will always remain in the future. In reality, you must feel deserving of your goals now and be confident in yourself before you can obtain them.

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Contrary to popular belief, relationships have nothing to do with your social status, level of wealth, professional success or your looks. When it comes to relationships, you merely need to be confident in the person you are. You need to draw your confidence from internal factors instead of external. You need to recognize your personal qualities, the beauty of your physical traits, your intelligence and gratitude for everything you have in life.

One of the best ways to earn a great relationship rests in developing self-confidence, self-comfort and self-acceptance.

Amplifying those character traits with a positive mindset will allow you to focus on everything you love in life instead of everything you are currently missing. If you focus on your positive traits, you will effortlessly focus on your (potential) partner’s positive traits, enjoying your relationship immensely and solving problems in it easily. Suddenly, you will come to realize relationships were intended to be easy and enjoyable instead of being a constant ego battle between opposing sides. If you have an eye on a potential partner, you will be encouraged to communicate with them as you have recognized your own qualities while appreciating them for theirs. You will realize how much there is to be liked about you!

If you believe your looks are insufficient to evoke attraction in another, you will project an unhappy demeanor, tension and insecurity. The best part is, you can decide to focus on the aspects of your appearance you like instead. You can appreciate your beauty instead of focusing on the reasons it is less than perfect. This positive energy will evoke even more of the same, allowing you to feel increasingly great about yourself.

Ultimately, is there a real reason you should feel negatively about your appearance? Everyone holds a different idea of what beauty means. More importantly, we all respond to each other’s energy much stronger than any physical attributes – every time you were attracted someone who wasn’t your “type” proves that.

Do you compare yourself to others? This is another mistake which can prevent you from receiving life’s goods. Do you believe you must match an ideal another specific person represents to you while considering anything “less” to be insufficient? This mindset only states your lack of appreciation for yourself, as you feel undeserving of love. Even if you think your (potential) partner only wants the ideal you have imagined him/her wanting, it doesn’t mean you’re right.

We all know the story – one perceives their desired partner to be “too good for me.” “He/She is out of my league,” they imagine, never making a move or deeming themselves worthy. This thought process is perpetuated until the object of their affection meets someone else.

There are plenty of similar examples. However, it all comes down to the following.

Searching for the reasons to postpone living a happy relationship only shows that you doubt your own value. If recognizing the said value undoubtedly ensures finding a great relationship, what is the point of feeling inadequate?

Silence the Thoughts of Missing Your Desire and End the Waiting Period!

The question of how long it takes for a specific desire to manifest is something I have been asked a lot recently.

Some wondered,

Why do certain desires take time? Do some desires necessarily need to take long to manifest? Why do some take long and others don’t? What can be done to speed up the manifestation process?

I say, it all comes down to the following questions.

Why do you care when some of your desires manifest but not others? Why are you attached to some of your desires but not others? Why do you perceive some of your desires as easy to manifest and normal to have in your life but not others?

Do you know that by letting go, you can manifest immediately?

However, letting go is connected to the feeling of living your desire already instead of missing it.

The answers to all those questions might give you more of a manifesting relief than you currently imagine. If you have negative thoughts, they might not even be present for the reasons you think but if you ask yourself why, you could uncover the real reasons for them.

On the other hand, there are other ways of cutting down on your manifestation waiting period, especially after you begin to understand the reasons why some desires take long to manifest.

You perceive your desires to be missing from your life.

If you feel that you’ve been waiting long, abandon that awareness immediately! If you notice that your desire is taking forever, you’re running the risk of your manifestation taking even longer if you indulge in the feelings of emptiness. What you focus on persists and if you are focused on having waited a long time and gotten nowhere, you are noticing the wait and prolonging the missing.

This is where visualization and imagining that you have your desire already works and changes your awareness, taking away your feelings of need and filing your life with happiness and a sense of security. Happily imagining that you have your desire in your life already and visualizing as well as knowing that your desire is going to manifest cut down on your waiting period and allow you to manifest even faster than you expect.

You are trying to control the process.

Many tend to focus on the process instead of the end result (or, focus on the current reality).

The “how” part is not up to you or me – it is up to the Universe but if you allow it, it will manifest your desires in an even more magical way than you expect. The Universe wants to give you what you want immediately and you can allow that to happen by nurturing happy thoughts of your desired end result.

The wait will only exist if you focus on it. Don’t! Focus on having your desire instead and be grateful for it. Know that it’s coming or imagine that you have it already. There are so many ways of being happy and feeling good so pick one!

Nothing has to take long but the sooner you stop noticing your desire missing from your life, the sooner you will manifest.

Why the wait?

You perceive the wait because you are dissatisfied with your current reality sans manifestation. However, once you become truly happy with your current reality, with everything you have simply because you appreciate it, you will see yourself living your desired reality. Even if this doesn’t make any sense to you, it is what it is – happy people see themselves having what they want while the unhappy ones don’t believe that things could improve.

You will stop waiting when you embrace the “having.” Your desire belongs to you already – accept it.