The more I think about it, the more I’m convinced that self-confidence and the ability to let go share a deep connection.
I was given permission to share this story. Recently, a friend of mine got out of a long-term relationship and while wanting to relax before hitting the dating scene, they became a target of some very interested individuals instead. My friend’s lack of interest in anything serious removed the internal need for a relationship which resulted in becoming magnetic to the opposite sex. However, these individuals who are targeting my friend overdo it to say the least, reciprocating every iota of interest with a snowball of excessive attention. With my friend’s breakup still fresh in their mind, causing some conflicted personal values, they have come to fear refusing these individuals’ advances and hurting their feelings.
There is no doubt that my friend needs to regain their confidence and values before entering a new relationship but the behavior of these two individuals who have their eye on this friend of mine shows attachment instead of confidence.
How do I know?
Let me explain.
My friend doesn’t feel that either of these two individuals is quite captivating. They feel that both individuals are sweet but overplaying their hand, possibly insecure and coming on strongly instead of respecting the need for space my friend (verbally) expressed. Instead of receiving the space requested, my friend is being chased which is a primal reaction on an energetic level but a poor choice on their admirers’ side.
I have said before that one can make moves only when certain that what he/she wants belongs to them already. On the other hand, making moves in order to “get” something one doesn’t have yet is generally a bad idea. Simple as that.
What my friend does have in this case is fulfillment in their single life – having come out of a relationship, they feel the need for a new one and attract admirers as a result. My friend feels good on their own right now which is a requirement for anyone wishing to attract new people.
At the same time, my friend is attracting the people they are not interested in having long term (or, any kind of) involvements with. This is because they are putting the pieces of their personal happiness back together yet none of the individuals pursuing my friend are convinced that they can make the relationship happen.
There are plenty of LoA lessons in this example. If one of my friend’s admirers decided that they wanted a relationship and had unconditional faith, that relationship could happen.
If one of my friend’s admirers loved themselves as much as they keep asking my friend to “love” them, my friend would feel much stronger attraction for them.
To sum up,
Those who love themselves and are confident in their abilities can let go of their desire to manifest. They already have much love in their lives…because they give it to themselves.