The Phases of Loving Your Life

Loving my life has always been a rich source of self-confidence and motivation; a passion for living and effortless feelings of value are produced easily in a life filled with love for itself.

Feeling deserving, riches of the world yours to choose from, being happy for everything you have while knowing that even more is coming… Loving one’s life is the essence of abundance.

Think about it.

No matter what it seems like, you do have plenty in your life to be grateful for. You have plenty to love. These may be different things and different people to each and every one of you.

But what happens on the days when we don’t love our lives?

I experience moments of annoyance with my life, during which I remind myself that everything I have, I created myself and am therefore capable of changing it. I can create everything I want and the Universe showed me that many times over.

I can easily experience frustration when someone tries to “keep” me around. A temporary workplace trying to keep me, friends wanting me to stay close to them when I plan on moving away, exes who refuse to accept the end our relationship or any other situation cause gratitude for being loved together with frustration for trying to be held down… And they make me run like the wind, never looking back. In moments such as those, I feel suffocated, followed by an immense need to remove myself from these individuals or groups as soon as possible.

Once I remember that I have created everything myself, I forgive myself for being frustrated, calmly keep my distance from those I want to be distant from and go back to creating my dream life. Or, I allow for those I want to stay on good terms with to realize what I need instead of what they would want for or from me.

Then, I put that energy towards increasing my burning desire to make my dreams come true. I feel grateful for the motivation.

We can turn anything into something beneficial for ourselves.


What does loving your life mean in relation to the Law of Attraction being all about you instead of the person you are attracting into your reality?

Loving one’s life increases one’s confidence when attracting another.

I have brought specific people into my life on numerous occasions boosted by the conviction of showing them something they’d never seen before. Owning my uniqueness makes me feel good and therefore, boosts my creation. How do you identify yourself? What makes you feel good to think of yourself?

It isn’t that you have to possess specific superficial qualities in order to attract your dream relationship; you simply have to own the person you like to be without allowing anyone else’s opinion to affect your true preferences. Any traits and preferences can be backed with confidence and turn you into an attractive person. Daring to be who you wish to be gives you confidence and produces your happiness, the most magnetic of qualities.

If you feel incapable of achieving this, think about it this way – are you happy when depending on the opinions of others? Or, are you happier when you only cherish your own approval of your desired activities and preferences, immersing yourself into them without caring what anyone else thinks?

Many deem their lives “nothing special,” creating bland events and circumstances as a result. Some deem their jobs boring and others, their general interests, forgetting (or, not knowing) those are circumstances external to love and therefore, irrelevant for it. Nothing is related to love but the feeling of love itself, causing many to forget that money, social status, occupation, distance and other falsely perceived obstacles are irrelevant. The world’s insisting on making them relevant allows us to see whose heart is closed and whose is open.

If you are displeased with your life, change it for you; it is you that has to be happy living your own life. 

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Your Reactions = Your Awareness

Your reactions to appearances and external stimuli effortlessly show where your awareness is and with that, where you feel your current place in life to be.

Sometimes, it isn’t that we attract entirely different events or see the signs we want from the start; often, it is all about which ones we relate to and react to.

Here’s an example.

You hear two songs on the radio. One is almost heartbreaking and another uplifting. The one you reacted to positively or negatively indicates how you feel about the relationship you currently have or want to have. Your complete relaxation could be a positive indicator of confidence in your perfect reality. The sadness you feel might say a lot about your current relationship and your perception of it.

See what I mean? That is what Law of Attraction is about. What did you react to and how?

How do you want to feel, on the other hand?

When you see a happy couple, do you feel sadness for not having love in your life? Do you fear that you might be alone forever? Or, do you agree with their happiness, feeling that they deserve it? Are you happy for them, following that sentiment with gratitude for your perfect relationship?

Do you find a happy couple easy to relate to?

Who are you? Because who you are is reflected in your beliefs, actions, interactions and reactions.

Do you relate to your friends’ relationships or their sad dating stories? Do you feel that there are any similarities between the lives of those around you and yours? Who do you feel connected to? Ask yourself and answer honestly because those answers will give you an insight into your own awareness.

It’s time to create your life as you want it.

If you feel disconnected to those around you or are you comfortable around them? Who would you like to be in a close proximity to and see every day? Do you feel that this possible?

Your feelings about seeing any type of signs related to your desire also serve as proof to your awareness.

Seeing the sings that remind you of your desire can serve as a confidence boost; however, looking for them proves you are not yet convinced that your desire is all yours. If you need to see signs, you are not sure that your desire is yours already. When you know it’s yours, you’re relaxed and/or excited.

You are sure.

You are convinced.

If you feel that you don’t have your desire already, ask yourself why. Why do you feel incapable of manifesting your dream life? Are you sure you want it after all? Do you beat yourself up for any negative thoughts that cross your mind?

No one feels confident or thrillingly happy every second and you don’t have to either. You can manifest your dream life just as you are – you are good enough, smart enough, attractive enough already. You are worthy. All you have to do is own your qualities.

Remind yourself that simply because you’ve decided so, manifesting your desire is a done deal.

Changing your awareness means accepting a new addition to your identity. Just as you now feel that some things are out of reach while others are more likely to appear in your life, you can allow yourself to feel that anything is within your reach.

Your desires are within your reach.

Those who wait for the external world to reflect their desires in order to feel that they have them emit a signal of not having them, needing them and feeling desperate for them. Don’t beat yourself up if you have ever felt this way – you can change your awareness this very second. You can!

You can feel your desire within your reach. You have to be convinced that living your desire is who you are, that this is already your reality and a part of your life.

If you don’t mean it, you can’t do it.

Awareness vs. Mind (In Short)

Some believe their busy minds disturb the flow of their manifestations. “How can I stop negative thoughts from coming?,” they ask, allowing their minds to do the leading instead of the following. We’ve all done this in our lives and manifestations; this problem that can end with an easy change of focus.

One often allows their mind to dictate the course of their awareness instead of allowing it to follow.

How do we allow a mind to follow?

We stick to the awareness of having our desires already. Whenever a mind introduces an undesirable idea, we simply choose to refuse to accept it. This refusal has to be done calmly and even lovingly if possible, as the mind will accept what an awareness decides to allow.

For this to work, one’s awareness must contain one’s authentic dreams, true heart’s desires, comfort around them and an organic sensation of the said desires belonging in one’s life.

For this to work, the love for one’s desires must be immense, as that very love holds the power to create the feeling of ease around them.

Who you choose to be is your awareness – the heart leads this awareness through creation while the mind follows. Mind follows heart while the heart should stream through the awareness.

My awareness equals who I choose to be and therefore what I attract while the mind only follows. So when my mind presents fears and unwanted thoughts, I simply ignore them because what I choose to accept equals what I manifest; at the same time, I don’t accept everything my mind attempts to suggest. I only choose what I like.

Once you start following your awareness and your choices, feeling truly happy about your manifestation decisions, life improves.

Paradigm Shifting Made Personal

I taught the first Law of Attraction seminar of my life on Friday. This experience felt as if the next chapter in my career had started yet I needed a nudge when I pitched the idea. My Mom was convinced it was time, was certain that I would succeed and I realized that I agreed with her. I pitched the topic and it was accepted immediately.

I’ve been teaching a series of university seminars and introduced various Law of Attraction principles to the proposed practices and solutions simply because this has been my way of life; however, I have now broken down the practice for a group of university students. They advised with me on specific topics during and after the seminar while a professor in attendance also stated their own feeling of increased positivity.

Having shared the results of the seminar with my Mom, she thrillingly stated that she was certain the time had come for me to teach this seminar. She knew it would open eyes and minds. Same goes for the core purpose of this blog – sharing my work/money/relationship experience (and views) shows you how you feel about it in your own life. You could discover your own feelings about any particular topic discussed and learn how your current reality arranged itself in response to your awareness.

Recently, we’d discussed confusions in energy rearrangement on this blog (https://thelawofattractionandmylife.wordpress.com/2015/05/04/confusions-in-a-paradigm-shift/), showing one’s reality seemingly falling apart while in truth, is merely rearranging itself to allow new manifestations to arrive. When I explained this concept during the seminar, one of the students suddenly exclaimed, “Now I get it!”

A fantastic question was asked by the same student. He had read somewhere that all thoughts carry equal power yet I stated that positive thoughts were unquestionably much more powerful. When he asked me why, I explained that positive thoughts evoke positive emotion automatically which makes them immensely powerful as a result. Energy is an irreplaceable manifestation boost. Happiness is organic to human beings and causes the most powerful response. He automatically agreed and remembered several instances from his own life in which his own happiness magnetically attracted many desired circumstances.

Today, I want to add to the topic of energy rearrangement.

Whenever my life is rearranging itself in response to accepting a manifestation into it, I might feel physically different but I know I want to live my desire no matter what. This isn’t as serious as it sounds, don’t worry – it means that during the manifestation process, I may examine my own energy but if I truly desire to live a specific reality, I am grateful for the lessons I continue to learn while knowing that my desired reality is truly mine. These lessons are always contained in me, having been learned from everything that goes on in my mind even when those thoughts are energetically empty and devoid of feelings. Still, I examine the reasons for experiencing them and am always grateful for having done so, as I uncover my own limiting beliefs which makes it possible to resolve them. When one’s self-appreciation is high, they will only accept the best for themselves and do as much energy clearing as it takes to reach their goal.

Connecting to one’s sense of self-love will clear one’s energy without effort. However, I believe one must face their resistance without resisting it. Ask yourself why your limiting beliefs exist. How do they relate to your past? Do you deeply believe you can be happy having your desire in your life, an element essential to manifesting successfully? What specific fears have you been carrying around for months or years? Be honest with yourself. After uncovering your fears, you will be able to release them while knowing that you deserve what you desire and only that. We all do.

If you are courageous enough to believe in your manifestation even when you feel that your mind is working against you, you will reach a place of comfort after powering through, allowing you to let go effortlessly in order to welcome your manifestations into your reality. Having them will feel so natural to you that you’ll fail to remember what life was ever like without them. It will be you and your love for your own life that brings those manifestations into it. Sometimes, simply being tired of resisting your own mind will be enough to make a permanent change in it.

Until We Get There…

For two days, I thought about the practice of attracting those who mirror us, allowing our deepest issues to finally surface and be dealt with – an opportunity we take or miss every time. I began to wonder why I occasionally look for a specific personality aspect in a man yet his execution of that aspect might make me question my initial desire. I wondered if I still even remember how to be in a happy relationship, the kind of relationship I desire. Given the space to create a new professional opportunity at the beginning of the week, I needed a nudge but was thrilled once it was finalized (of course). I felt partially disconnected, alien. I wondered what had happened to my confidence.

These thoughts somehow failed to scare me – I simply observed them and attempted to figure out why they appeared. I thanked the Universe for allowing me to sink into the awareness I’d been chasing as a result and simply listened to my body, mind and heart trying to help me. I knew that a period of silent contemplation might come as a result of my awareness changing, especially during the present time. My life is changing rapidly – I have been manifesting new professional as well as personal circumstances and I already know everything that I am soon going to be enjoying but also, be dealing with. Wheels are in motion already, my life and awareness are rearranging accordingly and I have decided to eliminate some unsatisfying views as a result.

I knew that the sooner I dealt with it, the sooner I would step into a new awareness and stay there.

Those who truly want to manifest their desires indeed do so. They choose to sink into their own ability to manifest. They look for (and, find) ways while others look for excuses.

The other day, one of my closest friends and I found a Law of Attraction tip online. This tip stated that one should be like a postage stamp when it comes to manifesting any desire – sticking to it until arrival. I’ve thought about it since and realized how many energy stages are involved in this idea.

When asking the Universe to receive one’s desire, an ecstatic feeling may follow. Knowing our desire is created and belongs to us the minute we ask for it can cause a rush of feelings, butterflies, tingles and pure love. Eventually, that seemingly continuous rush will fade, even if just for moments; if one’s conclusion states their desire is still alive inside them, even when the rush is over, their awareness stills into the feeling of living it. This particular energy state ensures letting go effortlessly in order to receive the said desire.

Knowing one’s desire belongs to them already is an energy state difficult to describe. One exists in this state as easily as they exist in any place they are used to. They simply do; one simply is. One is as easily as they are in their own home – they love it and are grateful for it but feel ecstatic about it in between the moments of stillness and habit. They appreciate it while knowing it’s there. If they should fail to appreciate it, they may lose it.

Sticking like a postage stamp ensures that the feeling of being there is reached and eased into. The persistence to reach that point is consisted of sticking to one’s conscious conviction of their desire being a meant-to-be manifestation in their lives.

This postage stamp idea provided easier focus for me. A great reminder of my intention, it reminded me that focus is obtained easier than expected when it is nurtured with love. Then, letting go is effortless and automatic; so is the manifestation of one’s desire.

Confusions in a Paradigm Shift

On one occasion, I read about the meaning of one’s entire life seemingly becoming a mess when they’re manifesting something new into it. Life can cause confusion when making room for new manifestations; while manifesting something new and amazing, I sometimes have too much on my plate, experience disagreements with others and get sick in the meantime.

I remember the times of manifesting changes during which I would lose a job I’d begun to dislike only to gain a desirable one or unexpectedly lose money only to gain double the amount. Failing to understand why I had lost a job before gaining a new one or had lost the money before receiving double the amount soon after, I had decided that my only choice was to believe it was all for the purpose of something even better coming along. I would eventually learn that these types of events were nothing but normal occurrences in energy rearrangement.

The Law of Attraction is sometimes fascinatingly easy to understand when one looks back on their life.

Even though I am used to things rapidly changing to better or simply staying put for a few days until a manifestation appears, I have occasionally experienced messy paradigm shifts. Years ago, I manifested a relationship I desired so fast that three months later, we were already living together. (I was receptive because it was so easy and since then, I’ve learned that I could be as receptive towards anything I wished.) However, in the process, I was bed-ridden with flu for two weeks, lost the weight I’d been wanting to lose for a long time as a result and also started having problems at work which were intertwined with fantastic moments – it was purely black and white. On different occasions, others would inform me that their expected manifestations would cause them to feel confused at times, receiving odd vibes or experiencing incomprehensible occurrences. These individuals wondered why, causing some of them to give up on their manifestations which was unnecessary but on this occasion, provided the perfect explanation.

Every moment is perfect for reaffirming your desire or change your mind. There are no rules. However, if you are certain that your desired reality is exactly what you wish to live, feeling only love and gratitude for it will cause your manifestation process to run smoothly. In my experience, you must allow yourself to feel immense love and gratitude for a smooth manifestation to occur. Focusing on even a tiny issue or perceived obstacle will create more of them. The subconscious mind is fed through the conscious, which has to accept or reject any given idea and allow it into one’s awareness…or not.

Personally, my thoughts and feelings always reflected my main problem in the past – wanting something or someone enough, without boredom appearing or labelling the situation insufficient. Even when things ran smoothly, I often knew how long I would want something or someone for. Sometimes, I received the perfect opportunities for leaving something behind yet refused to take them; other times, I decided I wanted my desire no matter what and things began to run smoothly.

Energy shifts occur in various ways. While dissecting every aspect of any energy shift would take too long, as we are all different and operate on different principles, it would also be an entirely unnecessary practice. The only idea we need to follow is keeping the focus on our goals.

The process itself causes confusion for many – wired to think they have to know “how” things should happen in life, many individuals thrive on trying to control the Law of Attraction process, clogging it as a result.

One of my close friends recently told me that the unseen part of manifestation occasionally causes frustration in them. That frustration produced several attempts to control the process, wishing to manifest specific events just to feel that they were seeing results. The only constant in this case was excessive attachment to their desire, sending out a signal to the Universe that they didn’t have it yet.

In order to manifest, it is time to drop the “how” part entirely. There are no rules for “how” things will work out. No situation must ever repeat but it could; it all depends on you and your point of focus which ultimately reflects the core of your awareness.

Are you courageous enough to decide who you are without listening to the world trying to tell you who you should be?

Very few are.

Personally, only I have to believe anything I desire. In no time, everyone else does, too. My heart is the leading force in my life, knowing what I love and desire, knowing that I am living it already. One’s heart works alongside of them when they have self-respect, which is another manifestation coming from the heart itself. Awareness will ultimately lead to a desire, the course of action and a specific result – reprogram your subconscious mind through the conscious, stick to your decisions and you will see a change. If you make a decision today and stick to it, you will see a change in your life.

The Illness of Settling

The necessity of giving what we expect to receive in life became apparent to me yet again after a member of my extended family shared the following story with me.

She was once in a relationship that caused disapproval from various sides. At first, they didn’t care but eventually allowed themselves to, failing to realize that those who refuse to support you are those that don’t accept you fully. They hadn’t paid much attention to the disapproval at first but eventually gave in, trying to make everyone else happy instead of only paying attention to each other. The opinions of the world infiltrated every aspect of their relationship, causing a riff between them. Dealing with these problems continued to be postponed until one of them decided the relationship was over and left.

I was baffled at the course of this tale, wondering why so many still fail to understand that listening to opinions of the world is the easiest (and often, the most effective) way to make their lives utterly unhappy.

Here is the Law of Attraction explanation for this principle – making a life changing decision with the intention of making others happy, pleased or satisfied, thinking it’s “the right thing to do” will only lead to having to do more of the same. You will continue to comply and feel that you should “do the right thing,” waiting for the day things change (which will only lead to more waiting). After sacrificing your true happiness, you would suddenly end up sacrificing all your happiness. Along the way, you will have lost all motivation to even strive for future happiness, thinking you have missed the boat. And what will your life look like? You will be living it for others instead of yourself until the feeling of emptiness renders you incapable of contributing to anyone or anything. You will simply be wondering why you hadn’t made the choices you truly wished to make but were too afraid to upset others. Then, you will resent yourself as well as those you allowed to dictate the course of your life, realizing you’d given your freedom away (to them).

You must give what you wish to receive and if you put yourself second while allowing others to dictate the way you live your life, no one else will put you first. Worst of all, you will be the only one to blame.

Even worse, you know how you would feel if you saw another doing this to their own life. You would mock them, feel sorry for them and never be able to respect them.

Human beings tend to seek permanent security in external factors of the world, failing to understand that this sense of endless security is somewhere inside of them. All it takes to bring this sense of security into every orifice of one’s life is intention.

To bring this intention to the surface, think about what it is that truly gives you a sense of security in life. On the other hand, what does settling for something you don’t truly want give you? A feeling of having absolutely nothing. You may not agree with me now but if you allow yourself to live like this, you will agree someday.

In order to attract an amazing person, you have to be an amazing person. This is why the Law of Attraction is all about you. Being a person who settles will bring even more of the same, more to have to settle for – is that what you want?

In order to attract the person you want, you have to be the person you wish to be yourself, otherwise you will never feel deserving of being with them. The way to start being the person you wish to be starts with full self-acceptance, moving into changing the traits you dislike about yourself in the most painless way possible.

Accepting yourself fully means accepting yourself regardless of where you are in life or what you have. If you don’t, no one else will.

What kind of person do you wish to be? Do you accept yourself fully? You cannot make the Law of Attraction work if you avoid examining yourself while focusing on everyone else. Settling in order to make someone else happy is one of the easiest ways to avoid taking a look within.

You have the right to justify these ideas any way you wish, thinking you absolutely must settle in one way or another. However, what you feel is what you are going to attract.

The choice is yours.

Happiness Is in the Conviction

The Law of Attraction states that a change in paradigm, awareness or one’s deepest convictions is necessary to change one’s physical reality. We attract that which we are therefore self-perception is key and beyond that, necessary to change in order for one’s life to change accordingly.

Some struggle with self-perception, as their minds insist on keeping focus on their current physical realities, while others have a different problem – even though they have arranged their lives exactly as they’d wished to, they cannot even imagine where to start in order to create the one thing they are missing. They know that same principles apply but often need a hand putting them into practice.

When changing awareness in order to bring something into my life, I am happy. I choose the experiences I wish to have because they make me happy. I love them so much that I know they’re meant to be. They’re mine, everyone involved in them is happy, impressed and inspired, feeling the magic. I find happiness in bringing new experiences into my life, as they make it even more interesting than it is today. I thrive on new life experiences, every minute of them, because I have consciously chosen them. I sometimes cannot wait to see what happens. There is a great amount of excitement to be found in changing one’s awareness and introducing a new life-changing circumstance into the present.

This is the best possible reason to embrace change – if you fear this, just remember that you can always change things back to where they were. So, why not try? Really, why not?

The choice is yours.

When one’s conviction is complete, their power of intention is effortless – so is letting go. Like many, I had to practice this in the past. Some thing I was able to let go without effort while others I had to relax around. However, that relaxation was worth it.

Once, I thought I had lost my dog. I actually knew she was somewhere close by but when I called her, she wasn’t coming back. Even though negative thoughts about what could have happened to her tried to creep up on me, I kept repeating to myself that she was OK and every time that one positive thought came into my awareness, I felt a sense of ease, even if was just for a few seconds. I kept repeating the positive and of course, she appeared soon enough. I allowed that single positive thought to enter my awareness, even if I didn’t entirely feel it happening. We don’t need to know how we become aware of our desired thoughts. Sometimes, we simply need to relax and repeat them until they stick.

If you’re manifesting anything, you know. You already know it’s yours, somewhere deep down. Law of Attraction works by the exact same principle on every manifestation you may desire. The example of fearing I’d lost my dog taught me that.

If suddenly, I am involved in a new professional engagement, I am excited for new challenges to create greatness… And that always makes me happy. I love being the person who creates greatness and deals with challenges easily. This change never makes me fear what could happen to my life – I merely see it as an addition to me, making me an even better person. That is why I see it as effortless while allowing various aspects of myself to adapt in order to contribute the most of my abilities to these experiences.

One must allow their perception of themselves to improve.

When negative thoughts appear, you can even laugh at them. Laughter is one of the most positive manifestations we could experience. Laughter makes us happy! You know those thoughts are false. You know that you can create anything you want and you have already decided to do so.

You can always choose who you wish to be.



ADDITIONAL EXAMPLES

When manifesting a new professional involvement, feel it almost effortlessly. If it’s writing, I can already see my articles and all the comments to them. I can hear editors praising my talent and my work, grateful for how helpful and inspiring it is. If it’s teaching, I can already feel being at the university, standing in a room full of students, convinced that my words are empowering them. I can already fully experience being greeted by fellow professors, students who are happy to see me, hearing praises for my work from those in charge. I know what I’m going to wear on many different days. I know what to eat and drink in order to feel full but light and keep absolute focus during the entire day. I already know the contents of my purse and all the other practical factors involved.

If suddenly, I am someone’s girlfriend, that realization makes me want to dive into my new life dynamics and scintillating experiences. I love being the one to love and inspire my significant other. I love caring about someone so much that I’m feeling almost lucky to be a part of their life. I love being in a relationship full of mutual adoration and admiration and factoring this relationship into all areas of my life. I want to know how it’ll be. Am I going to feel the same way once things have aligned? Or am I going to love it so much that I will want to keep it in my life for a long time? How will that affect me?

One must always allow their perception of themselves to change.