A Natural Way of Letting Go

A Natural Way of Letting Go

Feeling badly about your desire usually comes down to not seeing yourself having it in your life; on the other hand, you may nurture the thoughts of having your desire in your life all you want.

When you think thoughts of having your desire, those thoughts naturally go away after a while. You can only think about something you already have for so long before changing focus. Think about it – when the fact that you are living in your house comes to mind, or driving your car, going to university or work, your clothes, your pets, kids or anything else you have, you briefly think about it then change focus to something else. That is what we do.

I always suggest (in my book included) to start with and stick to knowing that your desire belongs to you already because that notion will literally turn into your awareness.

All in all, you see what you have right now. And when you see your desire in your mind as if you have it right now, you live it and then, you live something else you have.

When you live something that hasn’t manifested yet in your mind as if it were your current reality, you manifest it. You don’t want to live anything 24/7 even if you want to keep it in your life – a life on repeat would bore you. You remove the need for it because you have just lived it and felt like you had it already.

This is why it is important to see your desire as if you had it now. Seeing that you have it now will remove the need for its manifestation and make you feel like you have it instead of missing it. Then, you will manifest it. You just had it in your mind so now, you will have it in your life.

This is also why the power of visualization is an absolutely incredible manifestation aid but you must practice its content steadily. You must focus on having your desire. When you visualize living your desire in any way, visualize as if you had it now. And if you practice for just a few days, you can feel your desire being yours. However, you must not rush – just see yourself living your desire because that will remove the need for it and allow you to manifest it.

The Likelihood of Manifesting Your Desires

The Likelihood of Manifesting Your Desires

One of my favorite movies is Gone with the Wind and I wonder if others were as fascinated with Scarlett O’Hara’s motherly yet cool mom Ellen. After young Scarlett has been left a widow, Ellen suggests she end her mourning period, get out of the house and travel to Atlanta to party because there is always lots going on.

Ellen had given Scarlett terrific LoA tips – a pick-me-up is always better than unnaturally prolonged mourning with the sole purpose of respecting societal norms. Ellen O’Hara was a cool mom.

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On the other hand, Scarlett felt that she could have anything and anyone except for Ashley Wilkes, constantly trying to make him jealous and win him over by marrying his cousin Charles, marrying for money twice after that, nursing his wife (and cousin) Melanie back to health and making him her business partner. She feels that she has money, men, family and her business deals but due to the feeling of not being with Ashley, she keeps making one mistake after another.

I believe many feel the same way when finding themselves capable of manifesting any desire except that biggest one. That big desire usually entails a specific person.

The answer is as simple as leveling that one big desire with the rest of your desires and believing they’re all equally easy to manifest and equally likely to happen.

The bigger you make your desire in your mind, the more you feel disconnected from it.

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Self love makes any desire feel small because your happiness is bigger than all of them. You simply give your desired manifestations a chance to fit into your happiness and give them the privilege of sharing your beautiful life.

When perceiving a desire small, you can see yourself having it and let it go. This can be just as true of jobs, financial wealth, luxury and love with specific people as it is of clothes, flowers and cups of coffee.

Why I Love to Manifest

Why I Love to Manifest

When it comes to LoA, I know that some fear it, don’t believe in it, find it too difficult or simply don’t believe in themselves. I am positive that most individuals realize that there are ways of making their dreams a reality but don’t believe the process can be easy; I am sure that some of those individuals believe LoA to be real but resist using it for various reasons.

Every time I attract things many don’t believe to be possible within hours, days or weeks, I realize how much I love to manifest all over again. I love it when I receive the exact work gigs I wanted. I love it when I manifest living somewhere I wanted to live. I love being offered even greater professional fees than I had imagined. I love manifesting contact from anyone I wanted to talk to. And, I love the feeling of immense excitement and gratitude every time I manifest intentionally.

Today, I loved manifesting one of my closest friends coming to visit me just weeks after I had taken a trip to see her. We’ve been close for twelve years and never failed to visit each other wherever we lived after college, the first day of which we had met. We spent a week together in June and wanted that to continue; we’d been talking about another week together since parting and today, an hour after I expressed gratitude for her coming to visit me, she informed me that she had booked her tickets.

In moments like these, my love for intentional manifestation seems to be the greatest whenever I do something to make both myself and others happy. When it comes to friendships and loves, we manifest mutual love and adoration. When it comes to manifesting the happiness, prosperity and well-being of others, we also manifest mutual love that is both ours for directing happy feelings at another and theirs for receiving the abundance of all sorts. If you wish someone well, their life will get even better.

Always wish others well – it will come back to you tenfold. Always manifest loving friendships and relationships, and cherish all those amazing individuals in your life. Always be convinced of your personal power and your ability to make others happy, and you will have the most amazing friendships and relationships in your life; your friends will support your relationships and your friendships will be even richer in love and value.

Have You Been Trying and Failing?

Have You Been Trying and Failing?

I have been thinking about possible ways of resolving resistance around the desires of those who have been trying to manifest something specific for a long time. These individuals have gone through stages of love, grief, happiness, frustration and anything else you could think of.

If you’ve been trying for a while and felt hopeless at times, I’d like to contribute the following methods because I know that the thought of feeling good about your specific desire might seem impossible at times.

I suggest you first take a few days, a week at most (even though I am sure four days will already make a difference), to get used to feeling like your desire is yours already with the help of these methods/techniques. You can practice them all continuously or in any kind of order you wish – do what makes you feel good. Some, you might only have to practice once (if not all). Even if it takes continuous work to achieve results, the faster you believe and decide to persist, the faster you will start to feel different. Just embrace your belief and insist on it within yourself, no matter what.

Today, you must decide to manifest what you desire and stick to it. You must believe that you can! If you believe, you will stick to that belief and be able to let go in order to manifest.

1. List (or simply admit) your worries.

If an attempted manifestation or simply the thought of your desire causes you any kind of upset, followed by a lack of detachment or a highly negative state of mind, figure out why. Since everything translates back to us and the way we feel about ourselves, think about what a specific fear you may have says about you.

You might worry about your specific person seeing someone else yet this is probably a disguised personal fear of not being enough to make your specific person happy, in addition to being aware of your desire remaining far away from you or impossible instead of being yours.

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How Do Others See You?

How Do Others See You?

Do you ever think about the perception of yourself some people seem to hold? Not that it matters; we are looking at this just for fun.

Or…does the perception of you held by others ever upset you?

This may have happened rarely overall but at one point, it happened several consecutive times. Some would see me as overly kind or a “good girl” simply because I was willing to help people, work very hard when I loved my job or simply agreed to be in a relationship with someone who had the idea it would last forever without giving me enough reason to want to stay. Those misconceptions ended as soon as these individuals displayed such behaviors. As soon as they hinted at overstepping boundaries, I would fire back. Then, they were confused; having had a different picture in their mind, they didn’t know what to do when suddenly having to show integrity. I never kept in touch with most of them – spending even a minute with downers whose goal is to not feel better but stay in their negative comfort zone instead is a waste of life. However, I always wished them well. These individuals need compassion more than anything else.

Does this sound familiar to you?

I have once quit working for someone who expected me to work full time for insufficient compensation. When I refused and quit, this person was shocked but why would anyone have to do that? Nobody does and by disagreeing, in addition to it being a job offer I didn’t love, I remained true to myself.

I swiftly ended most of my relationships as soon as I didn’t enjoy them anymore. One of my closest friends once said, matter-of-factly, that most people vocalize their issues with a relationship, give things a chance to turn around but I didn’t and always left instead. However, she did say that some attempt to “resolve issues” not out of love but out of attachment, habit and the fear of being alone. I always knew that someone wasn’t “it” just before I left, proven by the fact that I never went back.

Today, I find myself choosing kind but truly confident men, those who are comfortable with themselves and grateful for everything they have. And I am proud of myself for it. I don’t have the will to choose men who are kind but seem to need another to build them up – I want a complete, confident person. I always felt good about myself but do so even more as the years go by so maybe that has something to do with it.

Those who truly love their exes find a way back to them. The examples above were just my situations. You have to know yourself. You also have to know that things don’t go the same way for all of us – your life depends on your beliefs. However, anyone can improve their beliefs and manifest the life they want.

Most of the time I left, my exes knew I couldn’t appreciate them because they didn’t fully appreciate themselves. Feeling insecure is one thing but allowing it to dictate your life and relationship is quite another. Self-love is enough to turn yourself and your life around.

You cannot use another for your personal happiness – you have to enjoy it before you can share it with them.

These are just several examples showing how completeness, self confidence and perception create our lives and relationships.

LoA and Initiating Contact

LoA and Initiating Contact

There was a time in my life when I preferred always being the one to initiate contact with the men I wanted to be in a relationship with. It was amusing until I wanted to experience the opposite.

I would be the one to ask someone on a first date. I would be the one to initiate contact through social media. I would call first. It wasn’t a rule but instead, something I enjoyed. The men involved did their fair share of contact initiation, calling and planning our dates but I enjoyed my own share of it as well.

Over time, I developed a preference of just thinking about how much I liked someone and wanted to be with them only to have him make the first move. However, it depends from one situation to another – sometimes, it will still be my move. The ultimate point is, it doesn’t matter who makes the first move. I only used to do it first because I enjoyed it while knowing my desire belonged to me already.

What does matter is the reason for wanting to make specific contact with a specific person.

Many want to make a move due to the fear of their desire not manifesting or wanting to speed it up. This energetic state says one is affirming the absence of their desire – why would they want to speed it up otherwise?

Do you see the difference?

I only ever made a move after achieving the belief that the relationship was mine already. Once you achieve this awareness, you can do whatever you want!

Readers have asked me if they should contact the person they are interested in but since many of them also say that they are unsure if they can manifest the relationship, I usually advise against it. Their questions come from fear and the sense of absence of their desire. Also, they focus on making the contact now instead of focusing on their end goal, manifesting that contact instead of their end goal.

When contact is made out of the sense of absence of one’s desire, the absence of that desire perpetuates.

The other person doesn’t respond for whatever reason but the one that initiated contact interprets this as he/she pleases, creating unpleasant scenarios in their mind. Instead of trusting the Universe, trusting their desire belongs to them already, they reach out wanting to see proof and instead showing they don’t believe in having their desire already (otherwise they would not feel the need to see any proof of it).

When initiating any kind of contact, one must do so out of sheer enjoyment and no expectation. Just like attachment to the end result prevents it from manifesting, attachment to see specific results from specific contact prevents the said results from manifesting. In some specific situations, one will know that initiating contact will bring them results and it does. However, if the motivation for initiating contact lies in wanting to escape the feeling of NOT having the relationship yet, don’t do it!

When initiating contact, you have to feel good about yourself. You have to be convinced you add value. It’s that simple.

The feeling of having one’s desired relationship is the most important thing one needs to achieve. Once that feeling is present, relaxation follows. Trust follows.

When you follow the manifestation steps named here, it is easy to focus on the end result and remember why it doesn’t matter who makes contact first – all that matters is living in the awareness of having your relationship already.

LoA and Life Goals

LoA and Life Goals

I want to share with you the story of a friend of mine who used LoA in her life simply by immersing herself into positive feelings and believing she would get everything she wanted, when she wanted it.

Before I started bouncing around Europe and USA, we went to school together. We met at the age of nine when I changed schools. As it turned out, we also lived in the same building. Soon, we were good friends.

We kept in touch throughout our lives and at the age of twenty-five, I attended her wedding. This was a major life event she had manifested at the exact time she intended it.

Years earlier, she had decided she wanted to be married by the age of twenty-five. Having made the decision, she was sure her desire would manifest. She moved on with her life, enjoying work, friends and family, having fun and feeling grateful for everything she had.

When we were twenty-four, she informed me she was getting married. Informing me of the time period to give me a chance to plan my trip from abroad, I was absolutely thrilled. The wedding took place two months after her 25th birthday.

Another goal she had was to be a mother by the time she turned thirty. However, after the wedding, she was putting a great deal of importance on this goal and its manifestation. She then realized she had developed attachment to her goal and was worrying about its manifestation, preventing her from enjoying any thought she had about it. This was out of character for her.

She was a person who had used LoA effortlessly in life but had now realized she was using it incorrectly.

Attachment to one’s desire which means noticing it missing and allowing that to lower one’s vibration prevents the said desire from manifesting. In order to manifest, one must let go.

Then, she said to herself,

“I have to relax. This is going to happen but I have to relax. If it happens now, great; if not, it’ll happen when it happens.”

After that, her pregnancy happened almost immediately.

This magnificently simple story describes the essence of LoA. This is all we need to do in order to manifest. She has since used LoA to improve circumstances at work and manifest many positive circumstances for her family. She doesn’t believe anything to be impossible but knows that everything in life is a matter of choice.

This is simply all we need to do.