Do You Cling to Specific Behaviors?

Do You Cling to Specific Behaviors?

When it comes to men and women especially, a difference in behaviors, reasons for those behaviors, habits and approach methods can cause a riff between the two sides, resulting in arguments and resentment. One side feels that the other should act a certain way if they care while the other feels that they did nothing wrong but lived their life while also building a potential relationship and expressed their feelings.

Let’s deal with the side of an intentional manifestation practitioner who wants to know their desired relationship is manifesting.

A manifestation practitioner who feels this way wants to see evidence of their desire manifesting now. However, letting go is the only way to see results now but instead, they incessantly check their phone, email and social media hoping to see something there.

They are displaying the need for their desire to manifest instead of love and trust that it will.

I know you know this by now but this is not criticism. We are simply discussing it because that type of behavior prevents you from manifesting your desired relationship. In addition, it prevents you from being happy now since looking for something that you feel is missing is enough to make you miserable.

The knowing of your desired relationship manifesting is inside you, not among the signs you receive or the reactions you get. All of those things follow your awareness.

You could do every couple thing with someone and still not be a couple. Or, you could not even have communicated with another for a long time and suddenly, you became a couple. You have to realize that this is where creation rests, not in the number of texts you receive.

This type of conflict happens between men and women for various reasons.

There was a period of my life when I entered relationships faster than you could blink. Not flings, relationships. I would be introducing my new boyfriend around, not caring whether or not I might want him a month from then. I was living in the moment. I was positive it was the right thing to do and I still am convinced it was so. I was enjoying loving feelings for as long as they lasted, expressing myself freely. I was going with the flow of the relationship. At the same time, I would see others in miserable long-term relationships yet staying together. I was in a long-term relationship once as well, for as long as I was happy in it. However, I manifest and have relationships when I want them because I don’t condition them to last forever. I want to be happy. I focus on the love instead of things that have nothing to do with a happy relationship. It can last or it doesn’t have to but let’s see how it goes.

However, not all my exes took that as lightly. After a while, one took me for granted, thinking a relationship would last just because he had found someone he wanted to settle down with. He thought I would stay with him just because we were together for a long time but I ended it because he had stopped trying. Once I knew I wanted out, I ended it. Two others expected that I would want a long-term relationship with them just because they did but had put their needs before mine. They thought I should give them what they wanted by default but relationships are a choice. I choose to be with someone or, not. However, they depended on me for their happiness and self-esteem. So, I left.

Do you see what I mean? Because this is something men and women have in common.

You cannot expect to only be happy around your specific person or with them in your life and expect to stay attractive to them. Why? Because depending on another for happiness doesn’t make you feel good either. You must have your own life, work, activities, hobbies, interests, purpose, friends and the things you love. You can share as much as you want with your specific person but not be practically incapable of living without them. This is especially important for women to know.

Trying to rush your manifestation frantically shows that you cannot feel good unless you have it in your life. This energy blocks it from coming just like depending on another for your happiness blocks them from seeing you as someone they want to be in a relationship with.

You don’t have to be superwoman – just a woman who feels comfortable with herself, values herself and loves everything she is, which gives her confidence. Only when you love you will you able to love another.

A happy relationship is created when you love the person enough to allow them to be themselves instead of wanting them to cater to your needs. A happy relationship is created when you think positively enough about the person to want to give to them and the relationship instead of thinking what they should want to give to you. Imagine wanting to spend time with them and wanting to make them happy!

Now, let’s talk about those of you who know that someone is “the one” for life. If I can be relaxed without needing a relationship to last, why couldn’t you be happy knowing you have found someone with him you will manifest a lasting relationship? You have it figured out so be happy! You know you can manifest this so why entertain the thoughts that make you miserable, such as those of you two being apart?

Do you see how many good things you have to look forward to? If you focus on them, you will allow the Universe to work out the details for you.

A reader pointed out her area of struggle, believing her desire belongs to her already, saying:

“Would you please kindly address more how can I be sure myself that I can have it and how to gain that strong intention–”

I could once again say “capture the feeling of having it” or “visualize having it once and stick to it” but a permanent solution to this problem can be achieved by looking within and asking yourself why you don’t feel that you can have and live your desire.

Once you realize why you are blocking yourself from receiving your desire, why you believe to be undeserving, you can remember that we all manifest what we believe. Then, think about what you want to believe. How do you want to see yourself? Because the way you see yourself is the way others see you.

If you fear away from exploring your limiting beliefs, it will be difficult to manifest what you want. Some have told me they felt embarrassed after looking within and finding guilt, shame and an inferiority complex.

However, I have an easy answer which will make you see that exploring and resolving limiting beliefs can be easy.

You don’t have to be afraid or ashamed – nobody feels amazing every minute. Let a negative feeling go and move on. In the moments you feel less than great, you can again feel great when you stop pretending, admit how you feel and stop seeing it as a big deal or something embarrassing.

Be confident about your feelings, no matter what they are. I can openly say how I feel and move on. If I ever felt embarrassed, I would say it and as soon as I did, it went away. That was how I eventually lost the grasp of what embarrassment felt like. If I feel sad, I say it and feel better immediately. You could vocalize negative emotions with the purpose of releasing them and then move on from them.

You could also admit to someone you trust that you feel inadequate (including your fellow readers on this blog) and not only will they remind you of how worthy you are, you will feel that it is false as soon as you say it. As you explore your feelings, you will see how much there is in your life to be grateful for and feel positively about. You are surrounded by people who love you and you have so much! You cannot put all of life’s importance to a desire you are now wanting to manifest. You have to be complete before it comes to you.

Awakening all of these ideas inside you is enough to make you see that you can have anything you want but have to have a life outside of it, too. Clinging to a desire too much makes you feel like you don’t have it, blocking your desired manifestation. However, realizing there is no reason to cling to this desire is very important. You already have a rich life.

If you could see yourself as rich, valuable and colorful as you want to be, you will easily accomplish your goals. Confidence is the answer to everything, if you ask me. Tell yourself you are ready to receive and live your desire and then, visualize having it. Thank the Universe for it, let it go and in the moments of doubt, remind yourself that since you asked for your desire, you must receive it because the Universe knows what you want. You have to trust it to give you what you want – that way, you are allowing it to do the work for you.

The Lack of Inspiration Factor

I consider helping others create their happiness my purpose in life. For as long as I can remember, I have naturally understood the essence of creation, human behavior and feelings while enjoying myself immensely when revealing those things to other people. Helping someone else feel good about themselves while giving them the ultimate answer to what to do, to what works, has always been endlessly rewarding. However, I sometimes forget that I occasionally need to breathe a little, too.

I recently told my mother that I was feeling uninspired around the idea of doing any work besides writing. She said, “You’re allowed to feel this way. Things will get better soon.”

This conversation was proof that one can stop chasing their perfect awareness and develop techniques that will prompt them back into their happy awareness instead.

Even if you think that your ideal reality means you will always have everything figured out, you only will if you manifest being the person who has it all figured out. 

However, the awareness of having everything figured out also has to happen now, not once you have all your desires.

I prefer the occasional moments of not having it all figured out, as they are the ultimate learning moments…and learning about life, creation and feelings makes me happy!

I wanted to feel inspired again so I did the only thing I could – I let it go. Last night, I let the idea go, knowing that inspiration would strike back. I wondered what could bring it back. This morning, it started to come back all on its own. I’m not rushing it. There are a million things to do in life until this one comes back to me fully.

It is my firm belief that one holds onto their desire when they fear receiving it. When truly wanting to live one’s desire, letting go is much easier.

If you feel that receiving your desire today makes you feel afraid, you are showing slight resistance to living it. Do you feel nervous around having your desire? This feeling varies among different individuals but the real question is, do you feel that your desire is yours already while the nervousness will pass? Or, is that nervous feeling preventing you from being able to see yourself living your desire?

Another reason for holding onto a desire too tightly manifests in one’s anxiousness to bring their desire to life as fast as possible. Trying for fast only leads to more trying for fast.

At some point, you might have been thinking, “What do I do until it comes into my life? How do I entertain myself when I am so eager to start living this desire?”

You’re partly right about this one but simply have to find the things you enjoy right now. Also, love that you’re so passionate about your desire and be grateful for it.

Do you ever wonder why, as soon as you expect manifestations to be long and difficult, they refuse to appear in your reality?

Because manifestations are meant to be easy and come directly to you!

Why The Universe Doesn’t Decide For Us

Why The Universe Doesn’t Decide For Us

I narrowed it down to two things.

1. We make choices. If the Universe decided what we could have or not, we would not be free to choose. What would be the point of choosing?

This idea raises the question of where one’s choice begins and ends.

There are several areas which many would like to be set in stone and meant to be. This often refers to marriages – many (not all, of course) who marry want to believe it is supposed to be forever regardless of the quality, if you will. They marry for security instead of love, thinking that no matter how loveless they allow the relationship to get, their spouse should never leave them. However, it is much easier to criticize the one we’re with instead of accepting that two partners are equally responsible for the quality of their relationship.

Marriage is intended to feed on mutual love instead of existing as some kind of a safety net. People choose to marry and when they do, they still don’t own each other and never will. Marriage is a choice. When a marriage breaks, it happens by as much of a choice as entering it once did. We are free to choose where and with whom we want to be.

If the Universe decided for us, none of these life factors would be present. You truly are free to choose and create whatever you want.

2. If Universe decided for us, there would be limits and we wouldn’t know of choices. If one could truly create some things but not others, the Universe would be deciding on one’s destiny; however, it tells each and every one of us that we can choose it ourselves. There are no limits to creation, as anything we decide we can create and any energy we choose to produce can manifest.

If the Universe decided on who, what and where, there would be no such things as career change, ups and downs, perceived success and failure according to one’s awareness, divorce, break-ups or any change of heart. We would feel no change or consequences as the Universe wants to give us what makes us happy quickly and perfectly – we would all just be in a pre-decided place yet we’re not. We make choices, we change our minds, we fall in and out of love and we choose those that are special to us. If our choices become unsatisfactory over time, we may change them. We admire some individuals but not others even though we can choose to respect absolutely anyone. We choose careers but sometimes change our minds and go in a different direction. If the Universe decided on what we could have, there would be no choices or changes.

You might be thinking, “Shouldn’t there be some things that are meant to be? How much confidence do I need to have to keep what I want in my life? How much love do I need to feel for something in order to bring it about?”

You might be thinking how difficult it is to feel confident about your desires in a negative world.

However, if you don’t feel good about the relationship you want to manifest, why should the person you want to be with? If you avoid looking for ways to be happy in life, what do you expect to receive? Especially since we get what we give.

Energy works in a simple way, if you ask me.

What To Do With Fear…

What To Do With Fear…

When consciously manifesting, many start to fear the negative. They fear losing their desire instead of bringing it to life.

Some continuously battle their negative thoughts which can be deeply upsetting. These thoughts lower one’s vibration by saddening and exhausting them, creating massive fear.

Fear tends to be the most draining negative emotion of all. Sadness goes away when we focus on the generators of happiness in our lives; I truly believe that sadness can pass faster than one realizes, as one of the great human tendencies is to seek out happiness.

Fear is an empty, false emotion which enables us to scare ourselves to the point of mental paralysis based on the thoughts we’ve produced ourselves.

Fear tends to go away when one feels that external proof of their desire manifesting is present… But only short-term. Unless resolved, disabled and eliminated, fear will continue to return until removed.

The trick is to give your negative thoughts a positive meaning. Do you feel capable of doing this? That part has to do with your self-confidence.

When thinking about your relationship, you may be consumed by many fears connected to it instead of enjoying the happiness it brings. These fears did not appear to prevent your relationship from coming to you but for the purpose of resolving them. Don’t feel guilty for having these fears either – everyone has experienced them.

Often, there is a specific set of circumstances one tends to dread, causing the fear to keep coming back. The phrase of “nothing to fear but fear itself” applies perfectly, as being terrified of a “what if” scenario prevents the manifestation of your desires.

Not to mention that negative thoughts mean one doesn’t believe of having their desire yet; negative thoughts are just another way of expressing one’s disbelief in living their dream.

Let’s be clear – a literal scenario one may fear rarely manifests, if ever. However, one might become so paralyzed by the idea of this fear, lowering their vibration horribly and manifesting unrelated but also undesirable circumstances in life.

What is there to do when a scenario such as this one occurs?

Feel gratitude for your negative thoughts and consider why they appeared. The truth is, they are here to give you the chance for a permanent freedom from their prison.

When negative thoughts appear, say, “Thank you for these negative thoughts, as they point out my limiting beliefs. What do I believe about myself? Let’s resolve it. Why do I fear this-and-that? Because of my past? Because of how I feel about myself? Do I feel inadequate in this-or-that area of my life, my personality or because of my looks?”

The answers will keep coming to you. Face them without resentment or resistance. Be honest with yourself; don’t be embarrassed of your self-perception, as it can be changed to better. Nobody has to know you are thinking about these things; you can do it quietly.

Once you are capable of feeling gratitude for the good and the bad, the positive and the negative, the empowering and the weakening thoughts, you will be transforming all of them into positive thoughts. The negative will disappear after you’ve learned your lesson from them – you will realize why you attracted some positive and some negative things in the past. Once you start to focus on the positive sides of yourself and your life, you will be attracting positive things.

Most importantly, you must start seeing happiness as a natural thing!

It is natural that the person you want to be with should want to be with you. It is natural that the money you want to manifest should come to you. It is natural that you should live where you want to, wear the clothes that make you happy and work where you would love to. Fear is not real, therefore it should never stop you. However, facing it should set you free.

Why Is It So Easy?

Why Is It So Easy?

Most people are taught to work hard for everything they want. This limiting belief follows us around for the majority of our lives while breaking it down goes into the meta of creation.

Thinking you must work hard to achieve what you want will bring exactly that – you will work hard with certainty that this tactic must lead to your goal and then, it will.

But what would have happened if you considered that reaching your goal was easy, without overly hard work having to be involved?

Thinking that working hard might bring you to your goal will cause exactly that – you will work hard but reaching your goal will depend on your thoughts along the way.

However… What if you just decided that your goal was yours, easy to reach while feeling only love and gratitude for it? Then, any work that might have to be done along the way will never be difficult to do.

Law of Attraction is easy to use but because of society’s limiting beliefs, this idea can be difficult to open up to. Too many have grown up thinking they’re not allowed to be happy and have it easy, deeming those ideas negative.

When it comes to the teachings of the world, they are in direct collision with the laws of the Universe. Law of Attraction is consisted of a relaxed state of being, having fun, feeling love and gratitude as well as knowing for certain that your desire belongs to you already. Working hard for it or considering it difficult to reach sets you up for unnecessary frustration and hard work.

Growing up, you were probably taught that hard work is necessary to achieve everything you desire while still not being a guarantee that you will. You may have been taught that opportunities are only given to certain kinds of people and that desiring success and happiness is selfish and greedy.

Parents who teach their children these limiting beliefs are afraid of losing them, losing their family tradition or afraid of the opinions of those around them. Does that sound fair to their child – not being everything they desire to be only to not hurt their parents?

Does it sound fair that one compromises who they are for someone else?

Why so many difficult and limiting ideas?

The idea of having to work hard in life brings a negative connotation. In truth, when one loves their desire and is certain of its manifestation in their life, they want to do what it takes to bring it to life. They are open to taking action they feel is right when it comes to achieving their dreams, which is the definition of inspired action.

When one loves their desire enough, the amount of work they do to accomplish it may seem like hard work to some but is easy and fun to them. It isn’t that they do nothing – they simply love what they do and never work harder than necessary as a result. They have fun with it every day.

When one loves their desire enough (or completely), that much love allows effortlessly letting go in order to manifest. Then, all the action necessary to take along the way seems like child’s play.

However, many find it difficult to accept how easy Law of Attraction is supposed to be. On some level, they’d rather work hard for their desires because that is what they’re used to, fearing how easily those desires actually are to attract and receive. They feel guilty for being happy, loving life and having fun simply because many around them refuse to open their own hearts to happiness and continue to complain about their own realities.

The truth is, everyone has the power to completely alter their reality. If you come across an individual refusing to do so yet you’ve taught them what you know because you wanted to help, send them positive thoughts and heart energy from now on. Let them come to you for help. Everyone decides when they are ready to improve their lives but it will be your positive energy that motivates them if words ever failed to. This will be the right solution for you, too, as you will be much happier after letting go of a frustrating situation.

The happier you are, the more you will achieve – this is why all the unnecessary hard work will never bring your goal to you. If you desire to do everything possible with the Law of Attraction with a guarantee that you will achieve your desire, this is the wrong way to do. You are only supposed to use the manifesting tools you love, think thoughts you love and redirect them when thinking about your desire becomes taxing.

Happy thoughts come first, regardless of what they’re about.

Obstacles or Desires – Which Do You Choose?

Obstacles or Desires – Which Do You Choose?

Do you ever experience trouble sticking to a decision you made, wanting to manifest your goal but simply becoming discouraged along the way?

It all starts from one’s belief that they can indeed manifest their desires. If one knows the magnitude of their power and knows exactly what they want, they’re there already. Those who know that they can manifest anything only have to choose what exactly makes them happy while those who perceive obstacles simply don’t believe that the Law of Attraction is working for them. Even if they believe in the Law of Attraction, they don’t believe in their own power. They never feel that their desires belong to them already and instead of feeling love for having an amazing life, they are upset about not having what they want.

Sticking to a decision is easy when one knows their desired reality belongs to them already. That’s all there is to it. Allowing yourself to be derailed from knowing that you have what you desire already, focusing on how difficult it is to feel good and achieve any goal not only shows you don’t believe it’s yours but also, that you never believed you had it in the first place.

Achieve focus on your desired reality and feel love for it. Everyone has to do this part for themselves.

THE WILL TO ACHIEVE

Getting clear on a specific goal is one thing but being willing to do whatever it takes to achieve it is another. This doesn’t mean one must invite obstacles into their manifestation – it simply means being relaxed about that manifestation and its possible ways of coming to life. A true attitude of willingness to do anything in order to manifest one’s desire is not even thinking about the option of not manifesting it.

Energy is difficult to describe but I try every day; at the same time, it’s a fantastic writing challenge.

I fear that many attempts to figure out one’s personal energy and actions made towards achieving their desires makes their thought process even more complicated. Like attracts like and for as long as one continues to try and find the solution, they’ll keep looking for it.

The purpose of energy clearing is to feel good, not invite even more need for energy clearing. Waiting to start feeling the way you want to feel will only invite more waiting.

Clear your thoughts and relax completely but continue to focus on your goal. The only thing I recommend is focusing on your goal, being grateful for it and feeling as if you’re living it already. Work on self-confidence and the knowing you can manifest anything you desire into your life. Once you have achieved this, you won’t need anything else. You’ll simply be happy already, being sure of what to do whenever an opportunity presents itself and more often than not, without having to do anything yourself – when you’re that happy and completely grateful for your amazing life, opportunities fall into your lap.

The time one puts into figuring out the ways to manifest successfully is the time spent swerving from their end goal. When one takes searching for their answers too far, over-analyzing their current circumstances instead of focusing on their dream ones, this is where they end up. They move into the in-between and start living there. They know that they haven’t reached their goals quite yet while at the same time, feel the progress already being made without knowing how to take it further.

My suggestion – drop the issues of the mind. Expand your heart energy instead, feel unconditional love for your desire and keep focus on it. Focusing on “resolving issues” creates the need to resolve them. Too many are caught up in their need to “resolve” instead of the gratitude for living their dreams.

There are two options – feeling love for your desired reality or being blocked by the fear of having to live without it. Which do you choose? If you already spend your time thinking about what you might be doing wrong, why not use that time to focus on your goal instead?

Don’t Believe Everything You Think!

Don’t Believe Everything You Think!

“Don’t believe everything you think.”

I am continuously surprised at the amount of truth hidden in this phrase which goes beyond its initial impression of explaining the reality behind one’s personal origin of thought.

If you feel that something awful is happening and you start digging for it, specific event you might have imagined may be nowhere near the truth… But the fact that you already allowed so much negative energy to come in may cause you to see negativity everywhere, regardless of its source. Translation – if you are afraid that something undesirable is happening, you will unlikely discover that you’re right about it but if your negativity is strong enough, you will find something else you’ll dislike and perpetuate your dissatisfaction.

When you’re happy, you attract positive events and circumstances which bring you even more happiness. When you allow the negativity in and then add emotion to it, you attract even more of it. Nothing even has to happen to invite more negativity – you just see it everywhere even without any new developments in the world. Feelings create so wouldn’t you rather be filled with great feelings therefore creating even great feelings?

GIVING LOVE TO OTHERS

Those who are manifesting new relationships with their former partners may be battling the rush of negative and positive feelings coming at them all at once. Now, let’s address the negative ones.

When manifesting relationships, negative feelings may come up but the good news is that they are not based on reality. One might imagine every possible scenario in which things could go wrong but when it comes to our perception of others, things are never as simple as we assume. It is impossible to know and understand another person’s pattern of thought, their past and their former experiences until we have known them for years therefore the things we assume about them are most likely incorrect. What we need to remember is that we judge others according to our former experiences and this is mostly the way through which we create expectations directed at them.

The Law of Attraction says we must let go of all the assumptions we could possibly have in order to manifest exactly what we want. If we continue to stick to them, we might manifest several undesirable circumstances or hardly manifest anything at all.

WHY DO WE BECOME NEGATIVE?

Can you recognize the circumstances in which you often start to feel particularly negative? For me, this used to happen when I was bored. Finding happiness and different ways of contribution to the world in the moments of boredom was something I needed to learn.

We tend to become negative when we envision things to be happening a certain way and yet, they don’t. We envision it because, based on our past once again, we think that we know how things are supposed to go. But isn’t the idea that the Universe knows better comforting? Isn’t the idea that all we need to do is trust just liberating? Isn’t the idea that all we need to do is send out loving energy absolutely magical?

Love felt for the end result aligns all our actions. Let go of the how – the Universe knows. Allow room for some positive suspense. Your negative thoughts are merely an indicator of your fears but are as false and empty as those fears .

Negative thoughts are always insignificant. Remember this.