Just because negative beliefs are sometimes easier than positive doesn’t mean you should choose and adopt them.
I used to write poetry and fiction, became a published author in my preteens and eventually, decided that I preferred writing about real life. Fiction can never be as powerful as real life, no matter how much it is based on it.
Some people have asked me whether Law of Attraction was fiction or not. Some perceive visualization and the concept of living as if to be fiction for as long as it is different from “real life.” However, current reality and visualization of an ideal one are equally real, as one’s ideal reality must be seen as real in order to manifest into the current.
If you perceive visualization and living as if as fiction, how can you ever allow it to become your current reality?
You can’t. You have to believe in the possibility of your ideal reality becoming your life in order to allow it to happen.
Believing in living your ideal reality is not as scary as you think. I know it’s easy to hesitate to imagine living your ideal life for several reasons – fear of loss, fear of success, breaking out of your comfort zone… Yes, these things sound scary but as soon as you try, fear begins to fade. If you did it just a few times, it would go away completely.
We are only afraid to let go of what we are afraid to receive.
Maybe we feel inadequate or undeserving.
Maybe we fear loss even before experiencing the gain.
Or maybe we are afraid of facing our own feelings.
Either way, if you fear it, you will learn from it. Let it happen – it can only result in growth.
Every relationship conflict starts with an internal conflict of not knowing what one wants, doubting one’s self-worth or the fear of being alone.
No one has ever entered a relationship feeling amazing about themselves and ending up in a miserable situation out of nowhere – this just doesn’t happen. One brings one’s own issues into a relationship which can only be an expression of one’s inner world, not an uncontrollable external force that has suddenly shattered one’s confidence. We can only work with what we bring in, whether or not this specific awareness changes throughout the course of a relationship. Even if one changes during a relationship, it was one’s choice to change.
My coaching clients who are reading this blog could tell you that every relationship problem goes back to self-perception and that is why we work on their self-love and personal confidence while creating a positive perception of relationship simultaneously. Looking back on your relationship history, it would soon become apparent to you that you held onto the same inner feelings every time (or at least most of the time). Our relationships can’t change until we start to feel better about ourselves, with or without them.
One must become aware of the fact that no relationship can fix their insecurities, mood or awareness.
What we bring into a relationship, we express. Read More
Letting go entails accepting life until your desire manifests into it; letting go can also be made easier when you realize that your desire is not perfect.
This is how the acceptance of your desire’s current imperfections can actually help you let go while you allow it to transform into everything you want it to be.
None of us are perfect and there is nothing wrong with that yet when it comes to manifesting our desires, we magnify our imperfections in our minds to the point of turning them into self-imposed issues. We look for reasons not to manifest our desires within ourselves, wondering if we deserve to have what we want while perceiving life and its circumstances bigger than they are. We fear change and are intimidated by others instead of accepting that no human being is more deserving than the other.
Instead of worrying about our own worth, we need to accept that we are as worthy as we make our desires to be in our minds. We must find all the meaning within ourselves that we assign to our desires every day.
I know that being yourself can be difficult at times. I understand the courage to be yourself can be difficult to come by. At the same time, I feel that most of our worries come from idealizing certain situations, people and relationships while underestimating ourselves but I guess we prefer to do so over realizing that none of it is perfect…because if we think that what we desire is actually perfect, we have an ideal to strive for. Read More
Wanna talk about signs?
Just as I had begun browsing new laptops over the weekend, my current one suddenly became the only device I own refusing to connect to Wi-Fi.
What do you think that means?
Below, you can watch a video of your fellow reader and my lovely beauty blogger client Jiya who talked about several LoA coaching lessons on her own YouTube channel!
Whenever you find yourself noticing your desire missing from your life, remember that since you asked for it, you must receive it.
As soon as you remind yourself of it, you will believe it; you will know that what you want is yours already. Your belief will create.
Noticing your desire missing and worrying about it manifesting is attachment. Knowing your desired manifestation is a done deal is positive awareness.
Being specific has its ups and downs. Then again, anything does.
In life, my actions always reflected a core belief of “I want this so I am going to have it – nothing else, nothing less!” which led me to certain manifestations that looked nothing like I had imagined.
It is what you believe you have a difficult time manifesting that causes attachment in you.
Changing yourself to assume the lightness of character, endless self-confidence and unwavering belief is achieved with self-love. Those who doubt this notion haven’t tried engaging in self-love just yet.
Self-love is in your best interest. Read More