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Choose First, Achieve Second, Without Fear?

When we want something truly and deeply, a blend of this desire with our existing fears can lead to worrying about losing it as soon as we manifest it. If you worry about losing what you wish to manifest, it means there are fears in you caused by past events that you haven’t dealt with yet.

Some past fears are easier to sweep under a rug than deal with; you may be telling yourself that you have moved on but deep down, you know exactly what you’re afraid of when it comes to your current desires and it usually has to do with emotional trauma from the past.

These fears should not have power over us and I think it’s time we dealt with them. You have to know that most of these fears have been brewing inside you for much longer than the situation causing them even lasted, and that other people who were involved in it might not have even perceived this situation the way you did.

Most of the time, when I wonder if I have made the wrong move towards someone, it turns out they actually perceive me even better than I imagined – this kind of turnaround happens easily when you develop positivity in the core of your being. On the other hand, negative feelings and powering through them with the goal of removing them ensures we come out the other side a more positive individual every single time.

Your fear of abandonment, of being made to look like a fool, of losing love and being unhappy, and my fears of boredom, misery and ending up living a life I’m indifferent to must leave for good right now.

Fears can take over our lives and I refuse to let that happen – so should you. It’s a waste of time, happiness and life. This is self-motivation at its best. 

In order to feel good about myself, I must be happy with myself first. I am a person who tries to find fun in every situation and discover its beauty, no matter how deeply hidden it is. To me, feeling like an easygoing person happens when I face my fears without worrying that admitting them would diminish my value – it is what being fearless is all about. You’re afraid yet you act; you’re afraid yet you feel like you can make it happen.

Calmly believing that only what you want is happening is enough of a refusal to let fear take over. If you believe it, you will instinctively choose the fastest course of action to take in order to achieve your goal. 

Positivity and self-belief must be your triggers and primary motivators – if you have them, you can have anything you want. You start to believe that you can make anything happen. Thinking about what you want will be making you happy instead of filling your energy with anxiety.

Most importantly, your desire to manifest what you want must be strong enough to allow you to believe it is yours. Think about your desire as yours already and be grateful for it. I understand there is an instinctive fear of not getting what you want if you have ever been hurt in the past but it is time to let go of that fear – unrealistic and holding you back, it simply doesn’t deserve your attention.

When you express gratitude for living a specific dream and repeat it several times, you start to believe it’s real already. You feel fulfilment and when you do, you attract the exact cause of that fulfilment. 

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The Truth Behind Changing Your Mind in Specific Manifestations

Being specific has its ups and downs. Then again, anything does.

In life, my actions always reflected a core belief of “I want this so I am going to have it – nothing else, nothing less!” which led me to certain manifestations that looked nothing like I had imagined.

Once upon a time in college, I wanted a specific internship. The company seemed goal-oriented in my specific taste and I was excited about the interview. I had already decided that I would get it and dressed up for the interview only to be disappointed as soon as I got there. The building wasn’t in the best shape, their offices were unappealing and the job description I had read was already altered. The interviewers were describing responsibilities not listed in the job description that sounded plain boring and I walked out of there motivated to find something else.

I thought to myself, “I would fall asleep on the job every day if I had to work here!” And it would have probably been more exciting.

Upon my return to campus, I asked about some additional internship options and was told of another one. However, this company’s executive had already been to campus to conduct some interviews and left. One of the candidates he had interviewed was a friend of mine who wanted that position like I wanted my first choice before actually seeing what it looked like, and I didn’t expect a call at first. However, something was telling me to keep an open mind. I just had a feeling they would call me anyway.

About an hour later, the phone rang. It was the executive who had been to campus asking me to come in for an interview. He heard there was another candidate on campus interested in them, as I had listed them last minute, and wanted to meet. I agreed and found out that I would be interviewed by him and another female executive.

Two days later, reaching their offices proved to be a positive experience and the job position sounded as great as it did on paper. I was offered the position on the spot; however, I told them I wanted to interview with the last company I had put down on my list of internship options first. That final interview was scheduled the following day and I promised to call them straight after. Later that evening, I sat down with a friend who wanted the job I was offered and told him about the offer and that I wanted to take it. I wanted him to hear it from me. Being a wonderfully heartfelt person, he was fully supportive and even said he didn’t expect to get the job himself because the interview hadn’t gone as fascinatingly as he had thought it would. This friend of mine ended up getting a job in the first company I interviewed for and performed it with absolute ease whereas I am sure I would have done it poorly.

The next day, I skipped the final interview and called my new bosses to tell them I was accepting their offer. Apparently, they’d been on pins and needles waiting for my call. The job I skipped interviewing for that morning went to another friend of mine who loved it and wanted it for herself whereas I was only planning to go out of principle (and missed it out of that same principle in the end).

Deciding that I wanted something specific without finding out too much about it first hadn’t bothered me even when it turned out like this. I always thought that no matter how much I knew something or someone, I could always change my mind later anyway…or not. Time never meant too much to me in these cases, as I never viewed it as a sign of security in my feelings.

If the fact is that I could always change my mind, no matter how much I know (we all can), why not dive in from the beginning? Why not follow my good feelings, even if I change my mind tomorrow?

If I waited until deciding that something was either right for me or not before making a move, nothing would ever happen. Also, sometimes you simply must try to decide. If I’m not sure about wanting to try it, I usually don’t or at least wait until the moment I do. If I know immediately, great. If I know that I’ll never be interested in something no matter how much I tried, I move onto something else. However, I move with my feelings. If I want something but then change my mind, I know that changing my mind will last for a while if not forever. I know these things because that is who I am – each one of us is a different blend of awareness, wishes and preferences, and it is of utmost importance to not judge yourself for changing your mind when you do. You’re allowed to!

Being specific sometimes shows me that what I thought I wanted isn’t exactly what I had imagined and sometimes, that’s a good thing. It can be even better than you imagined! But at other times, it isn’t as good so you change your mind. This is completely normal but many have been conditioned to see it as a problem or a sign of immaturity when in fact it is a common factor in life.

If had I said that I would wait until after the interviews before deciding which of these internships I wanted, it wouldn’t have changed anything. I would have ended up in the exact same place. The goal is what’s important and when it comes to successful manifestation, it is all about focusing on one’s end goal and never worrying about the way everything will unfold.

The moment I felt that the company I ended up working for was going to call, I had made a decision to work for them. Even if I wasn’t aware of it at the time, I had made that decision. I had attracted working for them and didn’t worry about how everything happen which caused it to unfold in the most amazing way. That is the basis of Law of Attraction – keep it light, stay positive and feel good but be calm and certain.

 

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Self-Love is Your Inner Strength, Relationship Confidence and Encompassing Personal Beauty

It is what you believe you have a difficult time manifesting that causes attachment in you.

Changing yourself to assume the lightness of character, endless self-confidence and unwavering belief is achieved with self-love. Those who doubt this notion haven’t tried engaging in self-love just yet.

And when it comes to manifesting love with somebody else, self-love is your starting point. Self-love is what makes you believe that you can live the kind of love you want and deserve with somebody else (or a specific person you have fallen in love with and want to be spending your life with).

In my life, I quickly got used to following my positive feelings while keeping my freedom; at the same time, I hadn’t always sought out love as much as I sought out fun. I was confusing love with attachment and thought that engaging in love meant that I would inevitably end up feeling trapped. This was my learning period and now that I read it, it sounds very juvenile. I was always just as honest with myself about my fears of boredom or anything else and knew I would open up to love when I decided to. I had made the mistake of thinking that love inevitably leads to boredom instead of deciding that I would be experiencing the kind of love I wanted immediately. That was a (very) quick overview of my former relationship outlook.

I genuinely thought, “What is so special about making a life goal out of getting married and having children? Anyone can do it! And when it turns into a goal, one runs the risk of lowering their criteria just to find someone to marry and reproduce with as soon as possible. Marriage and children should be a part of life, not the ultimate goal because what do you do after you’ve had them?”

See what I mean?

That is not to say I haven’t given love a chance with various types of men. I just knew it wouldn’t last but wanted to enjoy it while it did. In an odd way, this was also positive – I wanted to be in a happy relationship with someone I was mesmerised with, even if I knew my fascination with his goodness wouldn’t last. Eventually, the fascination ended and all that was left was appreciation (or a lack thereof) but it was appreciation sufficient for a friendship, not a loving relationship.

My need for freedom was caused by previous relationships in which I had felt suffocated and I needed to get over that. For as long as I confused love for suffocation, I would be trying to escape it instead of enjoy it.

The truth is that we are all free – love lasts for as long as it does and even if we cannot choose how long we will love somebody for, we can choose to always treat them with honesty and respect. You get what you give. Staying with someone if you don’t want to isn’t fair but being honest with them and allowing the both of you to move on with your lives is. You don’t have to be perfect.

You just have to stand by your decisions, have integrity and have the strength to follow up, no matter how difficult it is for you. A decision is always one way – you can’t have it both ways and expect to be respected, by yourself or others.

I took a lot of heat for ending some of my relationships but knew it was the right thing to do. I just wasn’t feeling it anymore and nobody was changing my mind. However, I didn’t take it personally. It didn’t matter who disagreed with me – I only relied on my own approval.

Self-love allows you to follow your heart because making the right love-based decision for yourself means making the best decision for everyone involved. If you know something is right for you, eventually it will have proven to be so for everyone involved, maybe even sooner rather than later. 

All these personal attitudes were formed either prior to or as a result of my starting to look at relationships as something easy and natural – I’m not sure what order it went in but it doesn’t matter. One of these factors inevitably leads to another as a happy and healthy outlook is formed. After all, relationships can only work when fuelled by love, no matter how or when it happens.

Those who fear relationships and break-ups see them as difficult parts of life, causing their minds and hearts to close off to them and prevent them from manifesting.

If you see something as difficult, causing you sadness or simply impossible, you are preventing yourself from manifesting it. Emotional openness, positivity and feelings of fulfilment are the energy that attracts your desires while difficulty and sadness cause you to close yourself off from having what you want. 

Difficulty leads to noticing that your desire has not manifested yet which leads to attachment. Instead, adopt an attitude of your desires being easy to manifest! Decide that this easy manifesting is to start this second and allow your life to finally change.

Using the Law of Attraction truly shows us that everything is connected. Now, we must use this connection to attract what we love into our lives by creating the most amazing environment for it to thrive in with our own feelings and expressions of love. 

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Reminder of the Day

When you’re faced with negative thoughts, do the following.

  1. Remember they only have power if you allow them to. If you decide they are false and powerless, you can face them, even feel them, without being afraid of them messing up your life. You have to finally put yourself before your own negative thoughts. 
  2. Remind yourself that your negative thoughts might not be as clear cut as you think. Negative thoughts appear so that you could power through them and come out the other side ready to live your dreams. Negative thoughts can simply be a way of purging your energy from negativity and moving onto a more positive awareness but they will only be so if you allow them to come, help you uncover your personal blocks and help yourself release them.
  3. Your negative thoughts are a guide into the depths of your awareness. Your negative thoughts are not an indicator of what is happening but of the way you feel about yourself. Those thoughts are just a version of your self-perception and what you feel is possible for you right now, the manifestation of your fears in this case; instead, you must begin to believe that your dreams are most likely to happen to you, not your fears. You see how it all comes from you, how these are your ideas and not some sort of prophecy (besides the self-fulfilling kind, if you keep up the negative thoughts long enough)?
  4. Saying goodbye to negative thoughts leads to inner peace. When you learn to ignore them, your confidence grows with your newly found inner peace which takes over your awareness and makes you realize you deserve everything you want to have without it being a big deal. It’s natural. It’s yours.

Thought of the Day 

Being uncomfortable with what you want means being uncomfortable with yourself. It means being uncomfortable with the version of yourself living your desire, the you that chooses to live the life that makes you feel good. 

Ask yourself why. Do you not believe that living what you say you want would make you happy? Would it change your life too much? Do you fear losing it after attracting it?

Share your thoughts below.

Do You Still Remember This Little Manifestation Method?

Stepping into an entirely new life can be scary if you don’t look forward to it. This is why positive thinking, positive attitude and positive awareness help you and why LoA responds quickly when you feel happiness and love for your desired life.

If you look forward to manifesting your desires instead of being afraid, you will be open to it. Fear is a block that prevents you from manifesting and an uneasy attitude towards your desired manifestations prevents them from happening.

Among many of its benefits, writing down your new, desired life can help you keep focus and with that, resolve your fears.

When you make a list or write down your new life in any other way (an article, a story etc.), rereading that list holds your focus immediately or gradually pulls it towards your dreams. The happier you are, the faster your dreams will manifest.

Often, it isn’t that one cannot imagine having what they want – it is that they fear their life changing, actually manifesting their desire and then being disappointed with it.

I know how that sounds but we all know it’s true. Writing down your desired life as you want it to be, as if you were living it now, can ease you into the idea and gradually remove all your fears. As you reread the tale of living your desired life, you will have gotten used to the idea then understand it isn’t a big deal.

Many fear receiving what they want then things going wrong. They fear getting hurt as soon as they allow themselves to be happy. I have seen this many times – it happens because fearing success and happiness is deeply embedded  in many. Having grown up to feel guilty about everything they have because others don’t have as much, many still struggle to accept everything they deserve. They listen to their fears instead of their desires.

It is important to understand that having all the happiness you want can only make you a better person, not worse. When you’re happy, you help others. You want to see everyone just as happy and you help them get there. Giving love makes everyone happy.

Before stepping over into their new life, one must be ready. They must be ready for their new work, new lifestyle, new friends, new circumstances, new love. A change that big can sound intimidating but getting used to it leads to feeling love for it. Writing down your desire helps you with acceptance, feeling natural about living it and becoming ready for it.

Love leads to courage.

Courage leads to happiness.

Acceptance leads to love.

How to Stop Being Afraid of Change

Have you ever experienced the feeling of living your desired reality stronger than you felt living in your current one?

If you have, you know it can either be completely amazing or overwhelming as much as amazing because a new life brings profound change. Your attitude towards that change will determine your comfort level and with that, the speed of your manifestation process (and we already know one must feel comfortable with living the life they wish to manifest!). 

Imagine living the life you’re well acquainted with – your job or studies, spending time with friends and/or your partner, maybe setting your sights on a potential partner and being very interested in him or her, living in the home you know, travelling some and receiving the paycheck you are used to.

Now, imagine living an entirely different life, even if it was the one you wanted. You might be waking up in your new home, maybe in a new city or another country. You look in the mirror and see your perfect appearance, the way you wanted to see yourself. You are collaborating with entirely different people all of a sudden, in an entirely new way, for much more money. Your work dynamics changed. You might be feeling pressured to keep your new appearance instead of relaxing into it. You might be doubting your sudden success. Your days are filled with new commitments and thinking about entirely new things. On top of all of that, you have a home and a life with your perfect partner and if you have children together, they take up even more of your time. You love your life but it brings up new focus points, a new lifestyle and new commitments to juggle.

As amazing as it is, a change so profound can be scary at times. The thought of changing your routine entirely can make you feel a little uneasy…and that can slow down your manifestation process.

However…

If you can make change feel good and look forward to it, you will want to see your life touched by it.

Experiencing your desired reality in your mind stronger than the current leads to fast manifestation but you must be ready for it!

For all these reasons, I personally must fill my desired life’s ideas and visualization process with positive energy. I thrive on positive energy! Positive energy is easily generated when I create something I would truly love to live which makes it easy to see myself and everyone else involved in that life sublimely happy.

Know what you want first! You have to know what moves you. Positive energy moves me and that is why I have to see myself happy. I believe that positive energy has the power to move anyone which is why happiness makes it easy to see oneself living one’s dream life.

If you need help accepting that life is going to change when you manifest your desires, think about the following.

The thought of living a new life is easily accepted when one realizes that the good things about one’s current life can be taken with them. Not everything absolutely has to change but the aspects that could improve should indeed and one should never prefer staying in a comfort zone of inadequate circumstances just because they feel familiar.

If you accept that change is good, a positive follow-up to creating your new life, you will be eager to create it.

If you accept change as a good thing, you will feel comfortable with the idea of an entirely different lifestyle.

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Getting Used to Happiness

When you’re happy, you naturally see yourself having what you want.

Happiness is being your true self and being proud of or at least happy about it, no matter who it is you feel happy being. As long as the main reason for being and expressing your true self is love, you won’t see any reason not to. 

Love can be stifled when others tell you to not be yourself but only if you allow it. Love cannot burn out unless you put it out yourself. When you’re happy just being yourself, you are experiencing and feeling love. You are living it.

You can be happy seeing yourself in your current or desired reality as long as you don’t sink into bad mood when remembering your current reality post visualization, for example. Being grateful for what you can in your current will you bring your desired reality about.

Feeling good about myself is what makes me happy. Feeling confident makes me happy. Feeling great about living whatever I want to makes me happy, as well as going to places I want while feeling like I deserve it. I might not express gratitude in those exact words but I express it anyway.

What would make me unhappy is guilt. It would be setting aside my own happiness for whatever reason or purpose. It would be the fear of living life. Coming across people who are or have been guided by guilt their entire lives, I see how useless it is. I believe everyone knows how pointless guilt can be, as it usually leads to depriving oneself of the things one should be enjoying due to thinking that happiness means greed.

One must be comfortable with happiness if one wishes to manifest all of one’s desires. Staying calm while knowing it’s all going to happen, that it’s happening right now, is when I’m at my happiest.

Don’t let yourself sink when you return to your current reality from the visualization of your desired one – if you maintain your belief and stay on a high vibration with the help of gratitude, your life will change quickly.

 

It’s all about getting used to living on a high vibration; once you get used to it, all the guilt will disappear. Getting used to living on a high vibration lets you become heart-driven. If I feel any less than spectacular, it just feels weird. It feels like it isn’t me. It feels like something is missing, no matter where I am or what I’m doing – knowing that happiness comes from within and is produced nowhere but within makes me understand that nothing or no one else is capable of solving my worries. 

When I’m happy, I am comfortable having what I want. Many experience discomfort at the thought of living their desired realities, fearing they might lose them after gaining them, feel inadequate living them or never gain them in the first place. These feelings come from guilt or low self-esteem; knowing that you and only you can resolve and remove those feelings will help you get started on doing so. Then, you will be on your way to living on a high vibration.

Happiness can produce great amounts of excitement but let’s talk about why it is important to feel comfortable with the idea of living your desire in order to manifest quickly and effortlessly. Being comfortable with living your desire equals being comfortable living on a high vibration.

Some experience discomfort by getting too excited about their desire – a concept that reads happy but isn’t so when used to describe a desire not yet manifested. Experiencing excessive excitement about a desire not yet manifested can feel like fear, as fear and excitement tend to produce similar signals in our bodies. This is why excitement and fear produce conflicting emotions. Think about it – how many times have you gotten very excited about the prospect of your desired manifestation but moments later, began looking for reasons why it might not happen? Excitement works only when combined with the comfort of having your desire in your life.

Self-comfort goes hand in hand with self-confidence and it allows you to start living on a high vibration effortlessly. If you feel comfortable having something in your life and accept it being there, you don’t resist it and you see yourself living it.

Getting used to living on a high vibration will become easy once you start nurturing positive thoughts. Be happy, visualize positively and express gratitude – it will allow you to become as happy as you always wanted to be.

Thought of the Day

Do something that’ll make you feel like an exciting person and see it turn you into one. 

I do it. It has to be something that’ll make me happy, whether I do it just for myself or to make someone else happy as well.  

The feelings one chooses to engage in shape one’s awareness. 

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Specific Wording and Manifesting Relationships – Use YOUR Words to Create Positive Manifestations!

Let’s talk about manifesting relationships because I have always found that the correct internal verbal expression of those relationships (which is different for every single individual) leads to positive thoughts and visualization which lead to belief.

Do you prefer to tell yourself that your desired relationship belongs to you already or internally state that it is going to manifest soon?

Which specific wording suits you better?

Some feel unnatural believing their relationships belong to them already but do feel good knowing that everything will come together soon. Others feel great about knowing that everything has already been worked out on an invisible level and just has to manifest in reality. Others genuinely feel good knowing that a relationship might manifest or that it might not, whatever feels best – there is a great deal of individuals out there who don’t practice LoA consciously when it comes to relationships because they feel it ruins the element of surprise.

It doesn’t matter which of these groups you belong to – with positive wording, the wording that feels good to you, you can allow yourself to let go of your relationship to manifest.

Any positive wording you choose will instantly be followed by the feeling as well as spontaneous visualization of your desire as if it has manifested already; however, some prefer to say to themselves that the relationship belongs to them already while others like to say it’ll happen soon. Choose the words that feel good because feeling good leads to manifesting rapidly and effortlessly.

You can also opt for an expression that has no timestamp – without defining the manifestation time of a specific desire, you can use one of the two sayings I have suggested in the past:

“It’s happening right now!” or “It’s a done deal – thank You!”

Using one of these expressions is perfect for removing your thoughts from any specific time your manifestation might come about. You just know that it’s yours without obsessing about the details.

Timestamp-free expression of your desired relationship is perfect for you if your attachment to the relationship you desire is high enough to cause negative feelings.

Timestamp-free expression will remove your attachment. If you have been experiencing attachment so strong you are aware of it, commit to this new way of describing your desired manifestation today.

I have used the timestamp-free method on several occasions of attracting people into my life. This method is highly effective because it leads to knowing while removing the need to know when. Using this method will remind you that the sooner you let go, the sooner you will manifest and refusing to worry about “how” or “when” is going to allow for letting go.

Try it and you’ll see. And, of course, report back!