Attracting to Fulfill Momentary Need – Yes or No?

I used to attract out of need…but not in the way it sounds.

I would have a need to be in a relationship, manifest one and then, after my need was fulfilled, I would move on to my next momentary need (which was usually travel).

During this phase, I was thinking short term. I hadn’t thought about the things I permanently loved. I was living for the experiences rather than love.

And do you know when I realized that living for experiences meant acting out of need in my case?

When I realized I was more focused on not being bored than enjoying my life. I was focused on not experiencing what I feared instead of experiencing what I loved.

For as long as this phase lasted, I was all about keeping my life interesting. And then, I realized I could make it interesting no matter what I loved to do, even if it wasn’t something I ever imagined loving or enjoying in the past. So, this phase brought on something great. It brought answers. It brought me to the core of my passions and made me see what it was all about.

Love for what we do is enough to make the thing in question interesting for ourselves. When we accept what we love and accept that it can bring us an interesting life, we achieve blissfully relaxed awareness. What if tomorrow, I decided to become a mother when I couldn’t see myself ever doing so in the past? I would enjoy everything it entailed. What if I decided to completely turn my lifestyle around and become someone I never thought I wanted to be? If it was something that truly made me happy, I would enjoy it very much.

It’s not what you do – it’s how much you value it. And if you do, and stand by your choice, you will enjoy it and you will make it interesting. Which is great because in order to attract it into your life, you must be able to see it being yours – and what we enjoy, we can see ourselves having.

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Embracing New Beginnings Boosts Your Manifestation Powers!

If every new manifestation we bring into our lives equals starting over in one way or another, even if it’s just in that one area of life, why be afraid of new beginnings?

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Every new relationship means starting over, in the relationship area. Every new job means starting over – even every new gig, for the self-employed. Every new colleague at work marks a new beginning for the company. Every new outfit bought adds something your wardrobe has never had.

Every trip you take will include something you have never done before, even as small as getting a cup of coffee someplace you’ve never been.

So why be afraid of change, starting over or new beginnings?

Change or starting over is widely regarded as rare or uncommon; however, it’s actually a normal part of life. Visible from examples above, new beginnings are actually everywhere and we should stop seeing them as something unsettling or scary.

When it comes to Law of Attraction, welcoming new beginnings makes manifestation much easier. Those who welcome new beginnings also welcome change and are not intimidated by a new manifestation’s influence on their current life. Embracing new beginnings equals excitement over a new manifestation and its impact on one’s life, boosting the overall level of happiness for one’s desire and accelerating manifestation as a result.

Excitement speeds up manifestation as one’s love for change and new beginnings boosts that same excitement.

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Here’s something you might not have considered – change is exciting! Welcoming novelty is a thrill! You are giving yourself the opportunity to experience something you never have before which will enrich your life in every way. That new relationship you want to be in is going to be exciting so go ahead and allow yourself to have it! Don’t be afraid. That new job will be filled with new people and new knowledge, showing you things you’ve never seen before…and what could possibly be wrong with that?

Instead of being afraid, why not say, “I can’t wait!”?

You can’t only know what you desire but you must also have a desire to experience it. You must desire to live it! This is what invites excitement for change in your life.

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Where Do Positive Feelings About Our Desires Come From?

Hello everyone! I hope you had wonderful holidays and I wanted to start off 2019 with this discussion of a very common Law of Attraction occurrence.

Frustration with a person or situation we desire to attract will prevent manifestation until the said frustration is diminished. Until removed, one’s personal feelings of frustration only attract more frustration, be it from real events or one’s impression of what might be happening behind the scenes.

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I believe we’ve all experienced this in the past, and that’s okay. It happens. People are different and acceptance is the start of love and teamwork but let me explain how this works.

Let’s say you’re upset with the person you want to attract into your life or attract a better relationship with. Your focus on why they upset you is preventing further manifestation of anything except for more upset – in this case, you must forgive the reasons why they have upset you in the past and the present, be that actual forgiveness or simply deciding to put these reasons behind you. You might have been aware of this already.

You might be questioning whether this person is the right choice for your life partner after all, as you can only see how much they upset you while struggling to remember the good times you had together – this is where frustration prevents you from seeing the big picture and the person’s true self which comes from everything they do for you and others, not everything they don’t.

Here’s the trick thought – we cannot be frustrated with another person, even one we dislike, it we aren’t already frustrated with ourselves and projecting those upsetting feelings on our lives and other people. It all comes from us. It all starts with us.

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Admitting to ourselves that we become upset with others because we are already dissatisfied as a result of something within ourselves is not always easy. When we are fully happy with who we are, we don’t care about anyone’s negative character or mood but simply ignore them. Yes, it’s true – when we’re truly happy and now allowing anyone or anything to upset us, we just ignore those who dwell, hate and attempt to divide.

Some want to skip the part involving the creation of happiness and self-work. We often talk about creating positive feelings about a person or a circumstance we wish to attract, especially when we are in need of them. Sometimes, we want to be with someone who has upset us in the past. We might want to change our lives but don’t feel we deserve as much happiness and wealth we would love to manifest…so we tell ourselves that maybe we don’t need it after all.

Do you know why this happens? It’s because…

Waiting for the relationship one wants to manifest in order to be happy seems much easier than creating self-love and happiness first. Relationships seem like an easy fix for happiness which is why many don’t bother being happy on their own.

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This is exactly why feeling good about yourself equals feeling good about those you have feelings for which equals manifesting great relationships with them as a result. And reaching this point isn’t as difficult as it sounds but would be entirely worth it even if it were.

Because…

Feeling frustrated leads to a distortion of our true desires. It puts us in a bad mood and, more importantly, taints our impression of what our desires truly are. If we want to manifest our desire but are frustrated with it at the same time, annoyance with a romantic interest being prime example, our impression of this person is not fully positive which makes it impossible to manifest entirely positive experiences with them as a result.Frustration creates negative expectations which reflect what we don’t want, not what we do.

Most importantly, you know that frustration with another person only comes from already fully formed frustration with yourself.

Even when you state your desire to “feel better,” engaging in frustration instead of strictly focusing on what is already great about yourself and your life continues to distort either your manifestation or the impression you have of your desire. As soon as you decide that you are amazing, lovable, unique and irreplaceable, you will only be interested in receiving love, success, positivity and adoration.

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If You Think Law of Attraction is Fiction…

I used to write poetry and fiction, became a published author in my preteens and eventually, decided that I preferred writing about real life. Fiction can never be as powerful as real life, no matter how much it is based on it.

Some people have asked me whether Law of Attraction was fiction or not. Some perceive visualization and the concept of living as if to be fiction for as long as it is different from “real life.” However, current reality and visualization of an ideal one are equally real, as one’s ideal reality must be seen as real in order to manifest into the current.

If you perceive visualization and living as if as fiction, how can you ever allow it to become your current reality?

You can’t. You have to believe in the possibility of your ideal reality becoming your life in order to allow it to happen.

Believing in living your ideal reality is not as scary as you think. I know it’s easy to hesitate to imagine living your ideal life for several reasons – fear of loss, fear of success, breaking out of your comfort zone… Yes, these things sound scary but as soon as you try, fear begins to fade. If you did it just a few times, it would go away completely.

Thought of the Day

We are only afraid to let go of what we are afraid to receive.

Maybe we feel inadequate or undeserving.

Maybe we fear loss even before experiencing the gain.

Or maybe we are afraid of facing our own feelings.

Either way, if you fear it, you will learn from it. Let it happen – it can only result in growth.

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Not Giving Up on Them – What Does it Mean?

Should I start referring to myself as a “positivity coach?” “Life and positivity coach?” I don’t know yet but I’ve been playing around with that term today.

A client of mine recently introduced me to the following quote:

“A person who truly loves you will never stop believing in you and will never let you go, no matter how hard the situation is.” (Courtesy of powerofpositivity.com) My client then asked me to elaborate on this quote and gave me plenty of ideas through which to explain it.

This quote refers to several things and several stages of a relationship (or a relationship manifestation). To me, it means the following.

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Why Being Complete Within Ourselves Translates to Relationship Happiness

Every relationship conflict starts with an internal conflict of not knowing what one wants, doubting one’s self-worth or the fear of being alone.

No one has ever entered a relationship feeling amazing about themselves and ending up in a miserable situation out of nowhere – this just doesn’t happen. One brings one’s own issues into a relationship which can only be an expression of one’s inner world, not an uncontrollable external force that has suddenly shattered one’s confidence. We can only work with what we bring in, whether or not this specific awareness changes throughout the course of a relationship. Even if one changes during a relationship, it was one’s choice to change.

My coaching clients who are reading this blog could tell you that every relationship problem goes back to self-perception and that is why we work on their self-love and personal confidence while creating a positive perception of relationship simultaneously. Looking back on your relationship history, it would soon become apparent to you that you held onto the same inner feelings every time (or at least most of the time). Our relationships can’t change until we start to feel better about ourselves, with or without them.

One must become aware of the fact that no relationship can fix their insecurities, mood or awareness.

What we bring into a relationship, we express.

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The Art of Letting Go – Beauty, Lightness and the Magnitude of Life

Letting go entails accepting life until your desire manifests into it; letting go can also be made easier when you realize that your desire is not perfect.

This is how the acceptance of your desire’s current imperfections can actually help you let go while you allow it to transform into everything you want it to be.

None of us are perfect and there is nothing wrong with that yet when it comes to manifesting our desires, we magnify our imperfections in our minds to the point of turning them into self-imposed issues. We look for reasons not to manifest our desires within ourselves, wondering if we deserve to have what we want while perceiving life and its circumstances bigger than they are. We fear change and are intimidated by others instead of accepting that no human being is more deserving than the other.

Instead of worrying about our own worth, we need to accept that we are as worthy as we make our desires to be in our minds. We must find all the meaning within ourselves that we assign to our desires every day.

I know that being yourself can be difficult at times. I understand the courage to be yourself can be difficult to come by. At the same time, I feel that most of our worries come from idealizing certain situations, people and relationships while underestimating ourselves but I guess we prefer to do so over realizing that none of it is perfect…because if we think that what we desire is actually perfect, we have an ideal to strive for.