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Choose First, Achieve Second, Without Fear?

When we want something truly and deeply, a blend of this desire with our existing fears can lead to worrying about losing it as soon as we manifest it. If you worry about losing what you wish to manifest, it means there are fears in you caused by past events that you haven’t dealt with yet.

Some past fears are easier to sweep under a rug than deal with; you may be telling yourself that you have moved on but deep down, you know exactly what you’re afraid of when it comes to your current desires and it usually has to do with emotional trauma from the past.

These fears should not have power over us and I think it’s time we dealt with them. You have to know that most of these fears have been brewing inside you for much longer than the situation causing them even lasted, and that other people who were involved in it might not have even perceived this situation the way you did.

Most of the time, when I wonder if I have made the wrong move towards someone, it turns out they actually perceive me even better than I imagined – this kind of turnaround happens easily when you develop positivity in the core of your being. On the other hand, negative feelings and powering through them with the goal of removing them ensures we come out the other side a more positive individual every single time.

Your fear of abandonment, of being made to look like a fool, of losing love and being unhappy, and my fears of boredom, misery and ending up living a life I’m indifferent to must leave for good right now.

Fears can take over our lives and I refuse to let that happen – so should you. It’s a waste of time, happiness and life. This is self-motivation at its best. 

In order to feel good about myself, I must be happy with myself first. I am a person who tries to find fun in every situation and discover its beauty, no matter how deeply hidden it is. To me, feeling like an easygoing person happens when I face my fears without worrying that admitting them would diminish my value – it is what being fearless is all about. You’re afraid yet you act; you’re afraid yet you feel like you can make it happen.

Calmly believing that only what you want is happening is enough of a refusal to let fear take over. If you believe it, you will instinctively choose the fastest course of action to take in order to achieve your goal. 

Positivity and self-belief must be your triggers and primary motivators – if you have them, you can have anything you want. You start to believe that you can make anything happen. Thinking about what you want will be making you happy instead of filling your energy with anxiety.

Most importantly, your desire to manifest what you want must be strong enough to allow you to believe it is yours. Think about your desire as yours already and be grateful for it. I understand there is an instinctive fear of not getting what you want if you have ever been hurt in the past but it is time to let go of that fear – unrealistic and holding you back, it simply doesn’t deserve your attention.

When you express gratitude for living a specific dream and repeat it several times, you start to believe it’s real already. You feel fulfilment and when you do, you attract the exact cause of that fulfilment. 

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Girl Talk: How Positive Feelings Lead to Specific Positive Experiences in Dating and Relationships

The other night, I was in a deep discussion with a friend as we were driving around the city at 2 a.m.. Sharing experiences of recent and not-so-recent encounters with men, her accurate grasp of relationships absolutely amazed me.

Insightful and astute, my friend instantly pinpointed the gist of any story she or I shared. I was humbled in the most amazing way, in adoration and respect of this fresh mind – not perspective but the mind itself, as she managed to angle her perception any which way in order to reach the necessary answers. Her mind was just flawlessly on.

My own mind wasn’t entirely on that particular night. I found myself drifting from jokes to listening without responding verbally, focused as my listening was. The night was fun but after a while, I wanted to change my current state of mind. My moments of disconnect happen rarely but I have long decided to own them when they do, admitting to thinly veiled jokes and my entirely honest thoughts. Calling it as I feel it, I feel better when I admit it anyway. Secrets have no use and pretence has no place in a happy and more importantly, free individual’s life.

Keeping secrets is a burden, mostly when you keep your own…and every individual pretending to be someone else keeps the biggest secret of all. Avoiding authenticity has no place in happy relationships and if you wish to attract them, loving and accepting yourself fully is what attracts love and acceptance from your desired partner, even in moments of disagreement.

Pretending to be anyone other than who you are equals keeping a secret.

My friend openly expressed her current views and faced the evolvement of her situation with acceptance and positivity; much to her glee, she experienced a positive turnaround less than an hour after I dropped her off. In regard to one particular discussion, she opened my mind – a gesture I was immensely grateful for. In another discussion, her kind words appealed to my already open heart.

She had made me think.

My friend attracted what she wanted by accepting the current reality for what it was, feeling good about herself and the other person, and lovingly imagining the future.

She helped me back into my sense of inner peace which I attracted with her help.

Best part, this discussion didn’t even seem heavy. I am used to feeling so light that either anything feels light or what feels heavy I apologize for bringing up but this was serious yet normal, natural and typical of the way life goes. It was comforting and positive.

I am a person with specific preferences that knows what she wants. I like my mind clear and respectfully expressive which usually leads to rediscovering that most people aren’t used to honesty. When it comes to relationships, I also experienced moments of thinking that a profoundly happy love was the simplest thing to ask for yet the most complicated goal to achieve but when I say moments, I literally mean moments – my positive mind would allow me to snap out of it momentarily and remember what I believed instead. Fleeting is not a problem as long as it doesn’t equate one’s core belief (and then, it isn’t fleeting anyway). That night, my friend reminded me of my goals instead of allowing me to indulge in short-term distractions. She helped me out of that moment and back into my positive thoughts while her story inspired me.

My relationship goals are my core and mental distractions are temporary – I feel like I’ve been coming to terms with this particular lesson since the beginning of the year.

My friend also reminded me of something unexpected – when faced with conflicted thoughts, talking them out helps. I prefer talking about my conflicted thoughts to be as brief as possible, never going into overtime, as my fastest track to their (dis)solution tends to be calling them what they are and moving forward. Indulging in them has never made me happy and I doubt it ever could. Indulging in negative thoughts is nothing but mental hibernation.

Those who indulge in negative thoughts about relationships continue to attract the same type of person and relationship over and over. If you are currently attracting the type of person and relationship you don’t want anymore, you simply must change focus.

My friend had – starting off conflicted about her relationship, she eventually began to feel good about it and manifested its improvement. She attracted improvement with the same person.

I needed to self-improve that night and she helped me. I am a better person for it, as I have faced and resolved my latest annoyances with her help.

Would you be interested in reading this? My third book idea in the works!

Hello everyone! 

I’m on holiday in the south of Spain and will catch up with emails and new comments as soon as I return! I got to answer some last week and truly hope that you were satisfied. I hope I helped you out because I appreciate you so much.

Today, I have a question – would you be interested in reading a book on “how to put the past behind you and move on from (the pain of) a past relationship using LoA?” I have just come up with this subject line about an hour ago but genuinely believe there might be something special in it.

This book would detail the process of getting over the pain from your past entirely just by focusing on you and once you should put it behind, possibly rebuilding this relationship in order to make it everything you want it to be…or finding the partner of your dreams and immersing yourself into an entirely new love story with them. Anything you want.

I would also show you my personal ways of doing this and everything that happened before I talked myself into letting go of the frustration. I would tell you how I reminded myself that nothing but happy and positive inner focus was the only way back to being myself, strong with an open heart, loving and attractive, happy and independent…everything one must be either as the partner of someone’s dreams or to be happy on their own. When you’re happy, you love yourself and others without need and attract anyone you want without effort. 

What do you think? Please share your thoughts in the comments section!

I love you all and I am looking forward to hearing from you!

Have a wonderful day!

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Positivity Equals Maturity, Maturity Equals Confidence and Confidence Equals Appeal – Why?

When we stop expecting drama, does that mean we have actually grown up?

Does expecting abundance and peace around us instead of life’s curveballs void of personal growth potential but dramatic to the core mean we have finally figured out what it’s all about?

Does expecting the best instead of expecting the road to get bumpy mean we are ready to live at peace with ourselves, our minds and other individuals, and feel love for life while knowing that our dreams belong to us?

Does a desire to happily coexist with others mean that we are ready to love ourselves and everyone else?

Yes.

Because to me, positivity is maturity. Inner peace is maturity. Maturity is emotional stability which is both happy and attractive. When you’re at peace with yourself, don’t you just see the light and realize how much you have to offer, focusing on what you have instead of what you are lacking?

All these questions have a lot to do with your inner peace, your natural happiness and your appeal to other people, including those you have set your sights on.

I feel that being positive but calm about my desires, firm in my knowing, eager to create beauty and excited about my days makes me an amazing person. 

You are attractive when you’re stronger than your negative thoughts. You feel attractive, making you attractive to others. You feel comfortable with yourself which makes you attractive to others.

Life’s too short not to love ourselves.

Life is too short not to love those we do instead of being perpetually annoyed with them. If only there was a goal to all the drama but there isn’t which means that those who attract drama probably actually like it. It’s comfortable. It’s familiar.

You have to know what would make you feel like an amazing person and just be it. Just decide to be it and start. If you feel like an amazing person, others will feel the same about you.

In the past, I had a different idea of what made me an amazing person. Much of it was the same with a dramatic aspect involved – that’s how I know that maturity actually equals peace.

Expecting the best is maturity, especially from the people we love including those we fall in love with. Putting aside the expectation of drama from another person also makes you attractive to them – those who seek and expect drama approach others with drama which is unattractive by default.

Maturity does not mean boredom; maturity means appeal, emotional stability, self-confidence – the sexiest trait of all – and the ability to have fun without attracting drama.

Thought of the Day 

Take your focus off “How long will it take to manifest?” and switch it to living life now

If you’re waiting, you aren’t living life…and that is a mistake because life is worth living. You just have to find your inspiration and make it beautiful. 

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Your Belief and Organic Happiness

“You are in touch with everything that is natural to a human being – your mindset, mood, energy, feeding regimen, health, style and chosen methods of exercise prove it,” one of my closest friends said to me about a week ago. We talked about exercise because I had gone swimming the day before – being an avid swimmer, got an intense workout out of it. We talked about my love for the water and it being a natural element as well as one of my favorite surroundings; as the discussion progressed into my veganism, my friend said that he found my choices very natural and very easy to enjoy for that very reason.

“You can’t reprogram people’s minds for them – the best you can do is to teach them to focus on what they want instead of their fears and negative feelings, teach them to believe in themselves and let them do the work because we all create our own lives,” he said in addition.

What I do is tell them that they must be happily persistent in focusing on their desired realities instead of the current or their fears.

I was recently asked how to achieve focus on the positive instead of one’s fears by a reader in the blog comments section. Visualizing having what you want, allowing yourself to be happy about it without engaging in negative feelings and changing your focus to positive when negativity tempts you instead of worrying about all the what-ifs is the core of believing consciously.

When a lack of belief translated as engaging in fear or negative feelings becomes the center of one’s focus, attachment happens. Then, fears of not getting what one desires or the feeling of waiting are formed. This can be prevented by continuing to focus on one’s desire consciously, choosing confidence and self-love over fear.

Living a life of continuously prioritizing positive feelings over the negative creates a happy, confident and loving awareness.

I cannot describe how effective it is to imagine having what you want happily while ignoring your negative thoughts. Before you know it, imagining that you have what you want translates to your mind immediately firing back with “It’s mine already!” to any negative thought – when you commit to the gratitude for living your desired reality and ignoring your negative thoughts or dismissing them as powerless over you, things fall into place fast.

You must be strong enough to ignore your negative thoughts and you can achieve that with self-love.

If you continuously go back to engaging in doubt and notice that you still haven’t manifested what you want which makes you doubt even more, it is up to you to choose to believe instead. Belief allows for letting go while continuously being distracted and set back by negative thoughts shows disbelief and refusal to let go. If you believe, you don’t doubt while continuously doubting that you can have what you want shows that you don’t actually believe.

This reader also asked how to let go and my answer is, by engaging in what makes you happy already in addition to seeing your desired reality being yours. Once you have stopped engaging in negative thoughts and giving them any power, you will have let go to manifest.

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Specific Wording and Manifesting Relationships – Use YOUR Words to Create Positive Manifestations!

Let’s talk about manifesting relationships because I have always found that the correct internal verbal expression of those relationships (which is different for every single individual) leads to positive thoughts and visualization which lead to belief.

Do you prefer to tell yourself that your desired relationship belongs to you already or internally state that it is going to manifest soon?

Which specific wording suits you better?

Some feel unnatural believing their relationships belong to them already but do feel good knowing that everything will come together soon. Others feel great about knowing that everything has already been worked out on an invisible level and just has to manifest in reality. Others genuinely feel good knowing that a relationship might manifest or that it might not, whatever feels best – there is a great deal of individuals out there who don’t practice LoA consciously when it comes to relationships because they feel it ruins the element of surprise.

It doesn’t matter which of these groups you belong to – with positive wording, the wording that feels good to you, you can allow yourself to let go of your relationship to manifest.

Any positive wording you choose will instantly be followed by the feeling as well as spontaneous visualization of your desire as if it has manifested already; however, some prefer to say to themselves that the relationship belongs to them already while others like to say it’ll happen soon. Choose the words that feel good because feeling good leads to manifesting rapidly and effortlessly.

You can also opt for an expression that has no timestamp – without defining the manifestation time of a specific desire, you can use one of the two sayings I have suggested in the past:

“It’s happening right now!” or “It’s a done deal – thank You!”

Using one of these expressions is perfect for removing your thoughts from any specific time your manifestation might come about. You just know that it’s yours without obsessing about the details.

Timestamp-free expression of your desired relationship is perfect for you if your attachment to the relationship you desire is high enough to cause negative feelings.

Timestamp-free expression will remove your attachment. If you have been experiencing attachment so strong you are aware of it, commit to this new way of describing your desired manifestation today.

I have used the timestamp-free method on several occasions of attracting people into my life. This method is highly effective because it leads to knowing while removing the need to know when. Using this method will remind you that the sooner you let go, the sooner you will manifest and refusing to worry about “how” or “when” is going to allow for letting go.

Try it and you’ll see. And, of course, report back!

 

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A Positive Individual’s Manifestation Method

My entire approach to manifestation is based on being a positive person – it’s what I’m used to, it’s organic, it feels right. I love having unwavering faith that my desire is manifesting and since positive energy coming from within helps the Law of Attraction work without effort, it makes me feel connected to my desires and love from the Universe.

Having everything I want is what feels most natural to me. Whenever I thought that I could compromise what I wanted just to accomplish some other goal (without reason, because we can have everything), I ended up partially displeased – this was when I learned that I only accept having everything I want and nothing less. “Partially displeased” is not worth it.

I am only happy when I have everything I want and to get it, I assume that I have it already. Everything we feel is reflected in our realities.

Positive energy works easily with knowing that one’s desire is manifesting; however, you don’t have to be an unnaturally positive person but only need to know that your desire is going to manifest. Knowing is key.

But…

Not being a positive person at least in part and not feeling good about yourself always leads to the risk of your desire slipping out of your hands after it is manifested. At the same time, if you’re comfortable the way you are while knowing that your manifestation is going to come to you and stay, you’re probably fine.

Why be positive?

Being a positive person is worth it in itself and for yourself! Positive attitude ensures approaching others in the same fashion and them being drawn to you.

Being a positive person means automatically assuming that your desires are going to manifest. Sometimes, you will know exactly how and at other times, you will just know they will in the most amazing way and let them go. However, emitting love helps you feel nothing but love for your desire and switch from every negative thought that comes to your mind back to feeling love instead.

A positive attitude helps you figure out what you truly want in life. When you’re happy, more happiness comes into your life, including the realization of what else would make you happy – easy, right?

A positive attitude helps the process of letting go of your desire in order to manifest it. I always say that happy people can think about plenty of things and still be happy but those that are not as positive as they would like to be cling to the thoughts of their desire because they see it as their chance at happiness. However, clinging to the thoughts of one’s desire and not enjoying anything else shows (or, creates) attachment and leads to eventually being unhappy with the prospect of one’s desire manifesting in addition to everything else. On the other hand, positive individuals find happiness in many things in life, from exciting events and circumstances to unwinding and resting.

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How to be positive…

Positive energy is easily generated and love is felt with gratitude. Feeling grateful for your desire as if it has manifested already allows you to see yourself having it and manifest it as a result. This we already knew but it can never be said too much.

Focus on the gratitude you feel for your desire being yours after you see yourself having it even just for a few seconds. Both the gratitude and the knowing that your desire belongs to you allow you to make it happen fast and prove that you’re a positive person who can give up the need to control and believe in miracles. Being this person comes from feeling good about yourself and therefore believing that you deserve to have what you want; being the person who enjoys self-love means doing whatever you have to do to feel good and be happy. Be grateful and be trusting.

After all, gratitude is still the fastest and the most effective method, if you ask me.

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Do YOU Want to Like You?

A great deal of your personal appeal rests in keeping your personal attitude unaffected by all the negativity in the world.

I am not saying that you shouldn’t care about the world but believing in it instead of faithlessly criticising it not only contributes to your happiness but to your personal appeal as well. In addition, a positive attitude allows you to emit positive energy, making the world a better place almost without realizing.

An attitude of belief in improvement is appealing. A positive game plan is appealing. Passion is appealing!

Honesty is appealing and when it comes to positive individuals, honesty will reveal their personal appeal.

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Whenever you meet someone whose truly positive personality shines through, don’t you find yourself wanting to communicate with this person? Do you not find yourself wanting to be near them, feeling that their happiness somehow makes you happier?

Those who are genuinely happy attract even more happiness to them – this is the Law of Attraction. Who you are and what you believe in attracts more of the same into your life.

LoA is life and those who claim that life is just not that simple are doing nothing but making excuses for not having what they want and being who they want to be. Choosing not to be who you want to be also translates into awareness, as you know that you are simply not as happy as you could be. Accepting this particular awareness/self-perception will probably reflect on your life and manifestations in a negative way, as you will most likely believe that you can have some things you want but not others. However, that is up to you. Your life is your choice, entirely.

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Many were raised and taught to focus on the external world first and internal second. Throughout their lives, many have come to realize their attitudes shape their realities yet some fail to work on changing their attitudes. If you truly want to make yourself happier, you will do what it takes and not see it as hard work, if this is your true heart’s desire. It doesn’t have to be as difficult as you fear.

Whether or not you actually like yourself matters. You deserve to feel good about yourself and can only do so if you nurture genuinely positive feelings. No anger, no engaging in negativity, no hate – just love.

Face your fears – you’ll be happy you did. Take it one step at a time because skipping self work will result in life staying exactly the same instead improving.

Your Personality Type and Manifestation

Combining some light psychology and manifestation can be useful. Today, we are going to discuss your personality, preferences, habits and ways of expressing yourself that can help your manifestation play out as smoothly as possible.

Some people are extroverted and others, introverted. Some are outgoing and others are shy. Some are open and others tend to be distrusting for a variety of reasons. Some love to have booming social lives while others prefer to socialize mainly with their closest friends. Some are optimists and others are pessimists, even if they wish to be optimists instead and are currently working on achieving that goal. Some love to take risks while others like to feel comfortable. All of us love novelty in different ways.

How well do you know yourself? Knowing what kind of person you are helps you reach your full manifestation potential. What are you used to? More importantly, what would you prefer to experience?

Our strongest character traits can drive us in our lives. The things we seek and the lives we value can help us define the path in which we see our future manifestations coming together. Our personalities can help us manifest if we stay positive yet true to ourselves.

Are you upbeat? Do you like to engage in the things that keep you happy and excited? Or, do you get excited about many things without effort? Either way, you can boost your manifestation with the behaviors that are organic to you.

You probably like to enjoy the things that make you excited so try and incorporate living your desire with that. What would your desired manifestation have to entail in order for you to feel comfortable with it yet never lose yourself? If you like an adrenaline rush, take action towards your desire but only if the thought of doing so makes you happy while you expect nothing in return. In this case, you would simply be feeding your own happiness. You will feel excitement just from making a move! At the same time, always remain positive.

Are you an extremely strong person? Do you feel good but are rarely rattled, reducing your worries to problems larger than your own? If you think that nothing is a big deal (or, that many others make a big deal out of nothing), you stand a great chance at fast manifestation due to your steady mind and a resistance-free outlook on life.

Just like nothing else is a big deal, neither is your manifestation – it is just as likely to happen as anything else. Believe! You can receive your desire because it’s a regular thing in life. Something you are wishing for has already manifested for someone else before you and there will be others who will manifest the same type of thing in the future. It’s not as big of a deal as it seems.

Are you a highly positive person? Do you like to turn every situation in life into something positive or better yet, something you actually want?

You might not usually manifest many specific situations but rather have a habit of turning everything you encounter into something positive, knowing it’s going to work out for the best. Use your lack of need for specific details and focus on your end result – keep your end goal simple and you’ll succeed fast!

Are you imaginative? If you are, you can use the power of visualization effortlessly. With your eyes open or closed, focused or in passing, imagine that you have what you want, now. What are you doing with it? How do you feel? Who are you? Use the power of your imagination and live your desire as if it were reality right now!

If you like to imagine what makes you feel good, simply imagine your future.

Are you usually quiet? Then, you might prefer your desires to come to you without you “doing” anything but feeling good about yourself and allowing manifestation to happen by letting go. The steps in between will align. 

Imagine a world in which your desires have manifested. You were comfortable with manifestation and are now happy. Wasn’t it easy yet you were able to be yourself, taking all the time you needed? 

When you happily think about living in the world where you have everything you wanted, say an affirmation which reflects having your desire in your life or lovingly visualize living what you wanted. Then, just be yourself. 

Be positive and believe.

Know.