Silence the Thoughts of Missing Your Desire and End the Waiting Period!

The question of how long it takes for a specific desire to manifest is something I have been asked a lot recently.

Some wondered,

Why do certain desires take time? Do some desires necessarily need to take long to manifest? Why do some take long and others don’t? What can be done to speed up the manifestation process?

I say, it all comes down to the following questions.

Why do you care when some of your desires manifest but not others? Why are you attached to some of your desires but not others? Why do you perceive some of your desires as easy to manifest and normal to have in your life but not others?

Do you know that by letting go, you can manifest immediately?

However, letting go is connected to the feeling of living your desire already instead of missing it.

The answers to all those questions might give you more of a manifesting relief than you currently imagine. If you have negative thoughts, they might not even be present for the reasons you think but if you ask yourself why, you could uncover the real reasons for them.

On the other hand, there are other ways of cutting down on your manifestation waiting period, especially after you begin to understand the reasons why some desires take long to manifest.

You perceive your desires to be missing from your life.

If you feel that you’ve been waiting long, abandon that awareness immediately! If you notice that your desire is taking forever, you’re running the risk of your manifestation taking even longer if you indulge in the feelings of emptiness. What you focus on persists and if you are focused on having waited a long time and gotten nowhere, you are noticing the wait and prolonging the missing.

This is where visualization and imagining that you have your desire already works and changes your awareness, taking away your feelings of need and filing your life with happiness and a sense of security. Happily imagining that you have your desire in your life already and visualizing as well as knowing that your desire is going to manifest cut down on your waiting period and allow you to manifest even faster than you expect.

You are trying to control the process.

Many tend to focus on the process instead of the end result (or, focus on the current reality).

The “how” part is not up to you or me – it is up to the Universe but if you allow it, it will manifest your desires in an even more magical way than you expect. The Universe wants to give you what you want immediately and you can allow that to happen by nurturing happy thoughts of your desired end result.

The wait will only exist if you focus on it. Don’t! Focus on having your desire instead and be grateful for it. Know that it’s coming or imagine that you have it already. There are so many ways of being happy and feeling good so pick one!

Nothing has to take long but the sooner you stop noticing your desire missing from your life, the sooner you will manifest.

Why the wait?

You perceive the wait because you are dissatisfied with your current reality sans manifestation. However, once you become truly happy with your current reality, with everything you have simply because you appreciate it, you will see yourself living your desired reality. Even if this doesn’t make any sense to you, it is what it is – happy people see themselves having what they want while the unhappy ones don’t believe that things could improve.

You will stop waiting when you embrace the “having.” Your desire belongs to you already – accept it.

The Likelihood of Manifesting Your Desires

One of my favorite movies is Gone with the Wind and I wonder if others were as fascinated with Scarlett O’Hara’s motherly yet cool mom Ellen. After young Scarlett has been left a widow, Ellen suggests she end her mourning period, get out of the house and travel to Atlanta to party because there is always lots going on.

Ellen had given Scarlett terrific LoA tips – a pick-me-up is always better than unnaturally prolonged mourning with the sole purpose of respecting societal norms. Ellen O’Hara was a cool mom.

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On the other hand, Scarlett felt that she could have anything and anyone except for Ashley Wilkes, constantly trying to make him jealous and win him over by marrying his cousin Charles, marrying for money twice after that, nursing his wife (and cousin) Melanie back to health and making him her business partner. She feels that she has money, men, family and her business deals but due to the feeling of not being with Ashley, she keeps making one mistake after another.

I believe many feel the same way when finding themselves capable of manifesting any desire except that biggest one. That big desire usually entails a specific person.

The answer is as simple as leveling that one big desire with the rest of your desires and believing they’re all equally easy to manifest and equally likely to happen.

The bigger you make your desire in your mind, the more you feel disconnected from it.

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Self love makes any desire feel small because your happiness is bigger than all of them. You simply give your desired manifestations a chance to fit into your happiness and give them the privilege of sharing your beautiful life.

When perceiving a desire small, you can see yourself having it and let it go. This can be just as true of jobs, financial wealth, luxury and love with specific people as it is of clothes, flowers and cups of coffee.

My Creation Boost

Today, I thought about my personal boosts of positive creation energy.

In order to boost positive creation and the  manifestation of our desires, we are advised to find the manifestation helpers we enjoy. These methods can be visualization, sending out heart energy, repeating affirmations, perceiving our desires as if they have manifested already or anything similar.

One of my closest friends characterized a particular manifestation method in my case by saying,

“You’re like an excited school girl!”

And she was right.

In the company of closest friends, I love to talk about my planned manifestations as if they were a done deal, simply because they are. When I make decisions to manifest a certain desire, I love to gush about it. This doesn’t happen with every single planned manifestation but only the ones that feel good, so to speak – forgetting about some of my desires makes me happy but when it comes to some others, I love to share them with my closest friends.

This is how the process works.

When I talk about any desire that evokes a wish to gush, I am completely present in that moment. I don’t think about how exactly this specific desire might manifest and am just certain that it will, planning it while talking to a friend. When planning specific details around that desire, I adjust them to the present circumstances I see while being unattached to any details altogether, entertaining them as nothing but options and staying open to any possible manifestation path. If any negative thoughts come up during or after the planning, I already know they’re false – my post manifestation world is real, palpable, my (already) current reality and my new life.

After sharing my stories, I receive many signs of my desire manifesting.

If you were to talk about your desire today, how would you feel? Explore this as an option. If you were to discuss it, would you feel like it’s a done deal or think about your desire potentially not even manifesting?

Do you know that your desire belongs to you already but choose not to share it with anyone?

You might have a desire you wish to manifest one day but are consciously not ready for just yet. Or, you may have finally become ready to manifest a desire you’ve been wanting for a while.

You know that you’re ready to manifest your desire if you naturally dismiss any distractions and focus on the essence of attraction. Talking about your desire can provide the right focus, as long as you enjoy talking and sharing.

You Get What You Give in Manifesting Relationships

You get what you give – we often hear this phrase when dealing with LoA. I often say it but I find it comforting. Why shouldn’t I receive a great life while sending positive vibes out into the world?

But what does this idea mean in terms of manifesting relationships?

“You get what you give” means being an amazing person and believing that your partner is one so that you could attract the kind of relationship you want with that person. If you believe that the both of you are amazing people, you will believe in the possibility of your desired relationship with that person. Whether you are manifesting being with a specific or a generic person you haven’t met yet, it means knowing that the relationship you want is yours and being the kind of person that deserves it, which means being the person who is convinced of deserving to live their desires.

You already are an amazing person and so is the person you are manifesting being with. Now, all you have to do is believe in it. Neither of you needs to be superhuman – you are both amazing just as you are.

I use the term “amazing” but you can use any term you want – “great,” “kind,” “good” or simply, “deserving.” Use anything you want!

If you don’t believe that you can manifest your desire just yet, make sure to be the kind of person you admire! Accept that you are good enough now but if you need to, improve yourself as well. Do the things you always wanted to do. Contribute to yourself and the world. Do whatever you need to do in order to finally realize that you are an amazing individual.

You must love yourself first so that you could love another and offer them a reason to come into your life.

LAYING THE GROUNDWORK

When manifesting relationships, laying the groundwork is important in order to offer someone else a happy partnership. You are making sure you’re happy so that you could be the perfect partner.

If you feel that way already, just ask and receive but if you feel like you need some prep, keep reading.

Many want to manifest a relationship at the time they are unhappy which doesn’t make them a good partner. This is manifesting out of need, not love. Instead, these individuals need to be happy with what they already have in order to gain even more and be an amazing partner just the way they are.

Manifesting relationships is a serious thing because you must be a quality person in order to attract a quality partner and relationship. If you don’t feel good enough, the problem lies in your beliefs about what exactly quality means.

Too many people fear that quality means physical perfection, financial wealth, fame, fortune and similar things. They base the idea of quality on the external factors so much that they forget it is all about the internal. Not even your looks mean anything because it is all about your inner energy and if you look back on your life, you would understand why this is true, especially after observing your past relationships.

I realized a long time ago that looks, age, financial wealth or any other external factors don’t matter. Only those who think their looks and similar factors matter end up lowering their level of attraction to others. Those who believe that everyone will deem them amazing only if they do so themselves end up attracting whomever they want!

For all these reasons, giving love to yourself means laying the groundwork for a successful relationship.

How to Break Free From “Not Having” Your Desire

The feeling of your desire missing from your life can be annoying, upsetting and can drive you into frantically working to change it in order to attract your desire instead.

I won’t even try to describe that feeling beautifully or eloquently because it isn’t; instead, this feeling is unpleasant and can lower your mood.

However, I am going to suggest several solutions for it.

Remain committed to staying in a good mood!

When your goal in life is to be in a good mood no matter what you do and where you are, knowing that bad mood is a waste of time, you will automatically want to go out and do something for yourself. Every time you fall into the bad mood, you will automatically want to change it.

When you get bored, think about what you would like to do to fix your mood. When you feel low, treat yourself (I hate that expression but it works). Go out and buy something for yourself, treat yourself to a meal you love, have a bubble bath, remember all the wonderful people in your life or, one of my favorites, donate money. In any way to anyone you want. Giving is something that will instantly raise your vibration.

Remember all those LoA sources telling you to get in a good mood first and then, think about having your desire in order to attract it even faster. To that, I want to add that when you remain in a good mood, when it becomes your goal, you will manifest your desires fast anyway.

Repeat affirmations!

When this dark feeling comes to you, you can change it by training your brain to automatically think opposite thoughts. You can repeat affirmations, self-devised or any you have read and liked, training your mind to automatically go to the positive when you think of the negative.

In addition…

You can always use the steps described here. You will notice the similarities.

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Why don’t you think you’re amazing?

I preach confidence non-stop because it makes manifestation easy. It helps you stay in a good mood. It makes everything in life easier. Many readers have told me they struggle with maintaining their confidence especially when manifesting relationships.

Confidence is a positive feeling, awareness and attitude. Confident individuals never judge themselves or others – one of the most important lessons we could ever learn. Confident people love their lives because they arrange them in all kinds of positive ways.

Now, do you love or need?

Loving the person you are allows you to love another. Feeling incomplete while thinking that another could complete you will inevitably trick you into thinking that you need them to be the person you always wanted to be.

Truth is, you don’t need anyone – relationships are a choice. You are capable of being happy on your own, allowing love to manifest into your life. Being happy on your own is also very healthy, allowing you to be the best possible partner to the person of your choice.

The most amazing partners are those who can be happy on their own.

Why “Me” Time Matters

Enjoying “me” time removes need and excessive attachment to one’s desire, allowing them to enjoy their life fully and rapidly manifest entirely new miracles.

“Me” time is another positive concept which society has spun into negative, pegging it selfish and unnecessary. “Me” time allows you to reconnect with your essence and true desires, giving you a chance to be grateful for everything you have.

I love my personal time. Going to a spa, reading a book, watching movies, long walks, meditation, even shopping all by myself in some cases can give me exactly what I need. I love and deserve it; my private time reminds me of everything I love, have and deserve in life. You can feel the same way and you know it!

Much of my work is also created in private but that is an entirely different story.

Many Law of Attraction teachers advocate pampering oneself as a method of expressing self-love as well as raising awareness of one’s value. I absolutely agree.

When you start to treat yourself the way you deserve, you will only accept the same from others.

“Me” time allows you to raise your vibration as you remind yourself of how rich and wonderful life is.

OTHER METHODS

Nothing raises my vibration as effectively as a song that describes my feelings. I’m a music fan that manifests the perfect song of the moment without effort and recommend this to everyone. So many of us love music and can use this extremely easy way of raising our vibration.

Personally, I can kill an entire day listening to the same song on repeat while going about my work and errands. Connected to my desire, this particular song gives me effortless visualizations and makes me happy, preparing me for receiving and living my desire.

Your private visualization time with music on makes for fantastic “me” time.

A Classic Success Story – Meeting a Specific Person

One of my closest friends met one of her personal heroes only days ago. A sports star she respects for his talent, accomplishments and an origin close to her own, she aimed to use the Law of Attraction to manifest meeting him.

She’d said to herself that she would meet him and then, let the whole thing go. Relying on one of our past conversation during which she was reminded of letting go being the fastest manifestation formula, she relied on the notion that if she believed and genuinely felt great in the meantime, she would receive her desire. Regardless of her sports hero being a busy world traveler, she believed in meeting him; after each time the idea would enter her mind, she decided to believe and let it go.

She relied on the idea that if able to let it go, she had to receive her desire. She knew that with anything in life, the ability to breathe easy around it happens when one believes in having it.

To recap, what does letting go mean? It means knowing that one’s desire belongs to them already based on their decision to have it and their belief in receiving it. Beyond belief, their determination in the positive outcome causing the knowing that it simply must happen! Once this knowing has been established in one’s mind, they are able to relax, live their life and do their thing, knowing their desire is going to manifest.

Since letting go made her feel great, she was able to channel a great deal of passion into her desire. She focused on living the kind of life she loves. Since giving to others makes us happy and therefore allows the happiness to come back to us, she found great joy in helping her friends with anything she could. Work went smoothly for her because she was making a continuous effort to feel positively about everything in her life; for the same reason, she dove into specific activities which she enjoys profoundly.

Throughout this period of her life, she realized how amazing focusing on her happiness truly felt. Putting guilt-inducing obligations or the comfort of others before her own in the past, she now realized how much giving to herself and her own happiness truly meant. She realized it was was worth it to focus on her own happiness first because it had made her feel increasingly good about herself. In addition, she had removed any negative individuals from her inner circle and one from her life entirely.

She kept in mind that keeping her vibration high was her responsibility. Every time she had a moment of doubt, she had said to herself, “It has to happen, it is possible!” Then, she would shift her focus to something she loved and wanted to do that moment.

After letting her desire go, she also realized that only then did it start to seem possible.

While attached to a desire, one fails to connect with it profoundly, trying to make it feel “perfect” in their mind instead. This type of attachment results in a continuous battle between one’s positive and negative thoughts, causing slow progress or none at all. Thinking you could never be happy without your desire in your life causes you to continue to be unhappy without it.

Being able to be happy now, before receiving your desire yet knowing it is yours already, ensures manifestation.

Feeling that her desire was possible made it feel normal in her mind. She was still filled with happiness at the idea of having her desire but that happiness and normalcy made her desire feel like a regular thing in her life. At the same time, she felt increasingly happy because she was doing things for herself. Every time she had helped somebody else, she helped herself. We get what we give.

She simply refused to give her focus to anything but her happy existence.

During this time, she also saw almost no signs connected to her desire. However, she chose to believe anyway. She chose to feel great regardless!

One day, she went shopping with a friend when a salesgirl told them that her favorite player’s team is scheduled to do a meet-and-greet at one of their stores the following morning. She was there and so was he; they met, chatted, took photos together and he signed an autograph for her. This entire event felt absolutely normal to her while making her happy; it felt like a perfectly natural thing to happen to her.

When knowing one’s desire belongs to them already or even just believing it is to be, it feels normal. Even when charged with positive emotion, one is not surprised it happened to them, as they saw it coming. They expected it to happen.

After the salesgirl had told her about the appearance, she saw several signs.

Signs follow awareness.

Regardless of lacking in signs, she sometimes hoped and other times, knew her desire would come to be while trying to consciously put it out of her mind because letting go entirely made her feel good. When it would come to mind, she felt good about her desire for a minute and then, let it go.

She had said to herself that they should meet on October 22nd. They met on November 14th. Time was no issue in her mind and her desire manifested fast as a result.

Focusing on factors such as time is enough to make any conscious manifestation practitioner unhappy. Focusing on time shows one’s disbelief in receiving their desire.

I call this story a classic manifestation because of its sheer simplicity. This story shows how little work it all takes; focusing on life, love, yourself and your happiness is all it takes. Any manifestation of any desire works according to the same principle in life and you can apply these very steps to absolutely anything you desire.

The difference between having your desire in your mind already and waiting for it lies in living your life. If you don’t know what makes you happy, find it. If you feel that something is missing, you have to find it within yourself, within your own life; you have to find it in order to share it with anyone else.

Don’t NEED Them to Go Away And… They Will

When it comes to manifesting, we often talk about removing the need for our desires. Don’t need your relationship and it will appear. Don’t need a job but feel employed instead and you will be. Don’t need money and feel rich and then, you will be.

Sound familiar?

Many battle their negative thoughts by trying to ignore them or openly resisting them, creating even more of the same instead of eliminating them. These negative thoughts never manifest in their original form but effectively lower one’s vibration regardless, slowing down one’s manifestation process.

However…

What if, instead of feeling the need to get rid of your negative thoughts, you stopped needing to get rid of them? What if you could be happy and manifest regardless of them? It is not the negative thoughts themselves but paying attention to them that creates resistance; if you removed the need to get rid of them, you would not be bothered by them.

What do you think?

Personally, I believe negative thoughts to be useful. I’ve said it before but I truly believe them to be a great indicator of one’s specific areas of resistance. Negative thoughts say something about you, not your desire – they are an indicator of the negative, limiting views you hold of yourself. An empty fear that your desire might go wrong does NOT mean it will but you will lower your vibration and create even more empty fear for yourself… And that fear will make you exhausted and mentally distant from your desired reality.

Removing your negative thoughts but not replacing them with the positive ones doesn’t mean you’ve stepped into your desired awareness. This is why you can reach your desired state of awareness just by focusing on what you want to live, your positive thoughts, which would soon push out all the negative ones out of your awareness.

Occasionally, negative thoughts arrive because minds crave drama. Many are simply used to it. They try to add excitement to their desires yet drama creates safety in them at the same time. One may even try to use that drama, that excitement, to add any kind of emotion to one’s desire hoping for faster manifestation which leads to frustration. Love and excitement are two separate feelings, the former often being very permanent and the latter usually fading after a while, at least in several different ways.

Stop feeling guilty for not being intensely excited about your desire 24/7. You do need other things in life besides it.

Dissecting every single emotion and negative thought we might have would take a long time so instead, look at the general themes of your negative thoughts. What specific fears do they indicate? They show how you feel about yourself. They show what you fear. However, instead of continuing to fear, accept that you are now creating something new – the happiest reality you’ve ever lived. Decide it will be so.

If you start to feel exhausted from all your negative thoughts, remember that you have decided to have your dream come true reality and therefore, you must receive it. Just think about your ideal reality and enjoy the happiness it brings you. Feel gratitude for your desire, believe it is yours and in just a few days, you will know that it belongs to you unconditionally. 

Instead of focusing on your negative thoughts, you could only focus on what’s in your heart and manifest it.