Upset About Not Manifesting Your Relationship?

At times, I haven’t been a friend to everyone. I looked down on others just because their manners were not on my preferred level. For this reason, I have certainly looked down on some people instead of being focused on their positive character. Plenty of people aren’t great at expressing themselves, and we should always only judge whether or not anyone intends to be rude. In short, this is a type of judgement I shouldn’t have made.

I’ve also previously confronted two girls whom I felt had too personal conversations with my then-boyfriends, even after realizing I was in the wrong. Neither did they make a move on my then-partner nor were these conversations as personal as I had taken them. Still, I treated them both just as I did another girl, who actually came on to everything that moved including another former partner of mine. His devotion to me made her look like a fool, and I should have pitied her and laughed instead of inflicting humiliation.

My ego had gotten in the way. I was so sure of seeing enemies, forgetting that this impression was fuelled by my own frustrations. This comes from a fragile ego. A powerful obstacle in a relationship, ego is also a crippling road block when manifesting one.

And usually so when being “sure” that we’ve figured out what our special person is doing, why they aren’t responding or what they meant to say in any given moment.

HOW OFTEN DO YOU JUDGE YOUR DESIRED PARTNER’S WORDS OR LACK OF RESPONSE?

Unfortunately, the world taught us that every unpleasant communication was actually an intentional bite given by our conversational partner. This notion was instilled in us by our well-meaning but overprotective families (and sometimes friends) who tried to guard us from being overly trusting and getting hurt, exes who had actually hurt us, and everyone who ever tried to disrespect or belittle us.

Projecting is an epidemic we have become comfortable with, using any miscommunication to indulge in our wounded ego and punish someone else for it. Unfortunately, this has made our collective quest for self-confidence harder.

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When we decide that we absolutely “know” someone else’s intentions, we cannot listen even when that person tells us what they believe. They could explain their intentions and we wouldn’t care.

Every time your special person doesn’t respond to your messages, reach out enough or says something you don’t appreciate, your past experiences of disrespect or the fears created in you by excessive warnings of family, friends’ dating horror stories or relationship drama seen on TV activate your ego to try and protect you by assuming the worst. Yet Law of Attraction is the only force that ensures one outcome or another, based on you being influenced by your ego or enjoying a life of self-confidence which keeps it in check.

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Ego jumps out when self-confidence isn’t sufficiently present.

Herein lies the issue.

Projecting our fears onto the current reality means judging another person’s actions through our eyes. Self-confidence allows us to think about what our special person might be going through, knowing that nothing can come in the way of our relationship manifestation with them.

If you want to attract a relationship with someone special, you must realize that your behaviors are not their behaviors. Your fears are not their fears; much of the time, they don’t even know about your fears. Everyone is simply living their lives, which we must accept before manifesting a mutual change.

Anyone has the right to feel and act how they should. We should only know that their current feelings don’t get in the way of our desire, and we simply must be aware of that in order to manifest.

And by being aware of it, I mean you must decide it. If you have decided it, you will believe it even when it feels difficult. (Belief is something I can certainly help you with, by building your relationship manifestation confidence.) If you decide that a specific relationship is yours because you want it, you will calmly believe that the current reality is changing to your exact desire.

If You Think Law of Attraction is Fiction…

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I used to write poetry and fiction, became a published author in my preteens and eventually, decided that I preferred writing about real life. Fiction can never be as powerful as real life, no matter how much it is based on it.

Some people have asked me whether Law of Attraction was fiction or not. Some perceive visualization and the concept of living as if to be fiction for as long as it is different from “real life.” However, current reality and visualization of an ideal one are equally real, as one’s ideal reality must be seen as real in order to manifest into the current.

If you perceive visualization and living as if as fiction, how can you ever allow it to become your current reality?

You can’t. You have to believe in the possibility of your ideal reality becoming your life in order to allow it to happen.

Believing in living your ideal reality is not as scary as you think. I know it’s easy to hesitate to imagine living your ideal life for several reasons – fear of loss, fear of success, breaking out of your comfort zone… Yes, these things sound scary but as soon as you try, fear begins to fade. If you did it just a few times, it would go away completely.

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Don’t Lose It Before You Attract It!

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Do you fear losing what you have or worse, losing your desired manifestation before you attract it?

Fear of loss (or, fear of failure, if you prefer) usually happens after experiencing an unexpected loss in life – loss of a job, a relationship or one’s happiness or confidence at the least expected moment. The moment one finds oneself blindsided by something they thought would never happen to them, usually a break-up or something of similar magnitude – big enough to cause confidence issues but not so big that the damage is irreversible – fear of loss is created, causing insecurity and self-doubt. And when it comes to manifesting one’s desires, fear of loss works even before one manifests their desire, keeping it at arm’s length.

One’s desired manifestation is closer than they think but the fear of loss keeps it from manifesting in the first place.

I don’t want to say that you can’t lose what you never had in the first place because you can have anything you want if you believe it; however, I will say that the desire to have specific things in life always comes with fear if it stems from need.

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Relationship Advice – How to Attract a Relationship Despite Discomfort around a Specific Person

What do you do if the person you are not yourself around is the person you want to attract a relationship with?

We have all known someone like that, usually in a romantic sense. We have all been involved with a person who has upset or hurt us, resulting in our future interactions being filled with reactions from confusion and a damaged sense of pride when all we wanted to do was relax and be our best selves. We have all been involved with the people who had this effect on us but whether or not we chose to stay in those involvements was entirely up to us.

Choosing to stick around someone who makes you feel this way or use all your strength to walk away from them is a reflection of your personality, awareness, and, most importantly, your level of self-confidence. You might think you don’t deserve better or that the other person does so you feel the need to stick around until you figure out how to give them what you believe they deserve. You think that giving them what you feel they should have would make you happy but the flaw to this plan rests in the idea of putting them ahead of yourself.

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Are You Ashamed of Your Past/Present?

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If you are, it might be the reason you keep getting stuck, manifesting the same situations over and over again, without knowing how to break free and manifest what you want for a change.

Is shame the manifesting block you have been trying to pinpoint and overcome? If so, you are now on your way out of the darkness.

Being ashamed of something you’ve done or experienced is just another version of feeling as if you are not good enough; it is the fear of inadequacy that makes you doubt your own worth, power or ability to make life happen. That sense of shame can be strong enough to effortlessly keep you focused on your perceived mistakes instead of enjoying the visualizations of the life you want, making you feel like you don’t deserve that life because of the embarrassment endured.

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Trying to Control the Outcome, Simplified

For the past two days, a friend and I explored the reasons for their resistance in manifesting a specific desire. It got me thinking about the reasons for the resistance in many and especially, some of the blog readers according to the questions asked in the past days.

From the topics of core beliefs contradicting one’s desire to the lack of clarity for one’s manifestation and focusing on the current reality, I have realized all over again that I consider one specific aspect to be slowing many intentional manifestation practitioners down.

Even though many conclusions can be derived from any of these factors, the one I consider to be a burden for many is,

Trying to control the process of one’s desire manifesting, the outcome or the path of the manifestation, whatever you want to call it. 

If you want to manifest a relationship with a specific person yet are upset that they are not seeking you out, responding to your messages or showing up, if you are noticing them absent from your life, you are offering contradicting beliefs as well as trying to control the outcome. Instead of accepting things as they are, knowing you will get what you want, you are trying to force yourself to visualize or think that if they cared, they would have responded.

However, forceful visualization or trying to control the outcome by thinking how the other person should behave is only reaffirming the absence of your desire from your life.

Instead, only focus on your end result so that you would stop needing the contact, the responses or anything else. Feeling that you have your end result already with the help of visualization will fill your heart with happiness.

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Some go from one day to another, waiting for their desire to manifest. Whether or not they realize it, this is another way of trying to control the outcome of their manifestation. Also, this type of focus on the process ensures one is more concerned with the imaginary steps of their manifestation, most likely to manifest isolated incidents of texts or running into someone instead of a love relationship with them.

The goal is to imagine one’s end result completely unconcerned with how it will manifest. This specific way of thinking shows trust in the Universe, allows for your energetic freedom and makes you happy!

One of my closest friends said that letting go was the hardest part and it goes hand in hand with the question of “how.” Imagining your end result and seeing if you’re truly happy about living it allows you to move in the direction of your desire.

How to Break Free From “Not Having” Your Desire

The feeling of your desire missing from your life can be annoying, upsetting and can drive you into frantically working to change it in order to attract your desire instead.

I won’t even try to describe that feeling beautifully or eloquently because it isn’t; instead, this feeling is unpleasant and can lower your mood.

However, I am going to suggest several solutions for it.

Remain committed to staying in a good mood!

When your goal in life is to be in a good mood no matter what you do and where you are, knowing that bad mood is a waste of time, you will automatically want to go out and do something for yourself. Every time you fall into the bad mood, you will automatically want to change it.

When you get bored, think about what you would like to do to fix your mood. When you feel low, treat yourself (I hate that expression but it works). Go out and buy something for yourself, treat yourself to a meal you love, have a bubble bath, remember all the wonderful people in your life or, one of my favorites, donate money. In any way to anyone you want. Giving is something that will instantly raise your vibration.

Remember all those LoA sources telling you to get in a good mood first and then, think about having your desire in order to attract it even faster. To that, I want to add that when you remain in a good mood, when it becomes your goal, you will manifest your desires fast anyway.

Repeat affirmations!

When this dark feeling comes to you, you can change it by training your brain to automatically think opposite thoughts. You can repeat affirmations, self-devised or any you have read and liked, training your mind to automatically go to the positive when you think of the negative.

In addition…

You can always use the steps described here. You will notice the similarities.

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Why don’t you think you’re amazing?

I preach confidence non-stop because it makes manifestation easy. It helps you stay in a good mood. It makes everything in life easier. Many readers have told me they struggle with maintaining their confidence especially when manifesting relationships.

Confidence is a positive feeling, awareness and attitude. Confident individuals never judge themselves or others – one of the most important lessons we could ever learn. Confident people love their lives because they arrange them in all kinds of positive ways.

Now, do you love or need?

Loving the person you are allows you to love another. Feeling incomplete while thinking that another could complete you will inevitably trick you into thinking that you need them to be the person you always wanted to be.

Truth is, you don’t need anyone – relationships are a choice. You are capable of being happy on your own, allowing love to manifest into your life. Being happy on your own is also very healthy, allowing you to be the best possible partner to the person of your choice.

The most amazing partners are those who can be happy on their own.