The Law of Attraction can bring any two people together because it allows us to connect with the universal concept of living in love for another person.
Today, I started to think about forgiveness.
However, only in a very specific context.
I realized that a lack of enthusiasm for one’s manifestation is ultimately always connected to the lack of forgiveness. If we don’t forgive the past, the present, the negatives of our person or the situation, we will continue to focus on what made us upset rather than a positive future with our person or another desire. We will not be excited by a potential positive future with our person or another desire because we will keep thinking about what’s wrong with it or what caused us disappointment in the past; if we do that, we will continue to manifest those negatives in the present instead of manifesting a positive future we are excited about.NG
You might be upset by your negative past or present with the person whose love you want to manifest. You keep thinking about how much your person disappointed you which prevents you from seeing a happy future with them. When you think about being with them, you are not excited – you honestly think about whether or not this is even possible, as you have no idea if positive feelings about your situation could ever be revived.
You will be happy to know they can. And let me offer specific guidance as to how!
Positive feelings about your situation must be connected to forgiveness of the past because only forgiveness can make us put something behind us and stop thinking about it. For as long as we are bothered by any past or present negatives, we will continue to think about them because they easily evoke emotion in us; at the same time, when we forgive those past or present negatives, the only emotion left to focus on is the positive anticipation of our manifestation.
No one truly means to hurt you. The person you can’t seem to forgive never meant to hurt you in the first place. People do the best they can but sometimes, their best isn’t all that great when directed at you. Their best might have seemed like the right choice when they made it but it probably wasn’t the best they could have done overall, and they also probably know it.
People can lack courage and make the choices they are not proud of. They can be sorry after but their apology or knowing that they’re sorry might not mean so much to you, especially after you have already been hurt. You might say that no matter how sorry they are, they can’t ever go back and take back your hurt. They can’t go back and undo what they did, and they can’t go back and undo the hurt they caused you.
I want you to think about the following – is what they did truly so horrible that it must mean the end of the world to you? Were you in a relationship when it happened? Were their choices intended for hurting you or just a result of some poor decisions? Was everything you think you missed out on really that perfect or did you have a pretty great life in the meantime, filled with all kinds of wonderful experiences?
Was the time you spent apart from someone you wanted to be in a relationship with truly so depressing or did you enjoy your life in many other ways? If you had been in that relationship already, how many other things and experiences would you have missed out on? Was the result of your unhappy relationship, if we’re talking about an ex or a present partner, truly all on you or was it dependent on your mutual dynamics? Why feel inferior when every relationship problem comes from two sides, not just yours? It wasn’t about you – it was about your mutual connection at the time, a lack of happiness included. It was about your communication and the feelings that drove it.
Your specific person might have made some wrong choices but they might also not have been aware of the impact those choices were going to have. They might have made some wrong decisions because you hadn’t been together that long or at all, or they weren’t sure if you would still wanted to be with them. Maybe you were both bothered by certain things and didn’t know how to express yourselves.
But it’s okay. You’re human. You don’t always know how you feel straight away and you don’t always know how to change an unpleasant situation without some guidance.
If you decide that what they did was unforgivable, it’s probably time for you to walk away. But if you look closer and see that they made certain choices because you weren’t together or because they simply made a mistake, allow yourself to repaint a positive picture of them and allow for your positive expectations to allow them to make it up to you.
Say, “He/she will show me how much he/she cares. I’m going to give him/her time to do that.” But see, when you give someone time, you won’t ever wait for years – when you develop true patience, you will experience instant manifestation. Patience leads to knowing and letting go and impatience leads to prolonging of your manifestation.NG
Admit that their decisions resulted in poor choices but none of them meant the end of the road for your relationship. These choices only caused a difficult situation but were they really so unforgivable? I don’t know your specific situation but I do know that it’s possible for these wrong decisions to have been and still be forgivable. A little time has probably passed by now which can only make it easier for you to forgive – with time, the impact of the hurt we once experienced will inevitably diminish and offer us perspective instead.
Today might be the day to remind ourselves of it. Let go of the past and forgive your specific person for hurting you. Forgive them for the choices they made while you were apart. Forgive them for all the ways they left you out during your relationship, as they didn’t think they were causing you such pain to begin with. After it was all said and done, your specific person might have regretted their choices so believe them if they say so. Put yourself in their shoes and consider whether their actions should hold such consequences for the rest of your lives or not.
Losing touch with who you are is what causes unhappiness, not the change in external circumstances. Yes, this type of change can be confusing, but if we look at any changing circumstance and say, “It’ll improve,” then it truly will.
And how do you lose touch with who you are? You start to feel that you are not someone you like.NG
To me, this meant being afraid. I am only happy when I’m fearless and in the recent years, I had become aware of the things I cared about, a.k.a. had to lose. However, it doesn’t have to be that way but those were the thoughts I had had to eradicate in the recent past. It wasn’t even as bad as I thought it was going to be – I just needed to remind myself that no matter what happens, we just choose what we want. If a parent falls ill, we say they’ll get better. If one doesn’t find their ideal partner by the age of thirty, one should say to oneself that the person is coming and the relationship will only be even better than it would have been before age thirty. Turn everything into a positive because that is how we create a better life.
It is not what happens to us, it is the way we say and believe that things will get better and nothing could never derail us – that is what I’ve always said. No matter what happens, say to yourself that even this circumstance or event brought you closer to your ultimate goal. This is fearlessness, whether or not you see yourself as a fearless person. Fearlessness, courage and dauntlessness simply feel good.
When you don’t feel daunted by a change in circumstances, you begin to attract only the change in circumstances you appreciate, at least for the most part. The fact that something we dislike will occasionally happen isn’t a big deal because it will never happen with the most important things for as long as our mindset towards it remains positive.
Say that even all your negative thoughts got you closer to your goal – I do.
Say to yourself that your latest or most annoying change in circumstances is irrelevant because you and/or others involved in it will come out the other side as if nothing ever happened. As a person who used to live for new experiences, I had devised this affirmation to prevent myself from being derailed in life. And it works.
See how anyone can be fearless in practising Law of Attraction with this one simple approach? And it doesn’t even require anything besides being yourself. All it takes to be fearless is knowing that nothing can stop you from achieving your dreams and that manifesting your desires is guaranteed because the Universe loves you.
Hello everyone! I hope you had wonderful holidays and I wanted to start off 2019 with this discussion of a very common Law of Attraction occurrence.
Frustration with a person or situation we desire to attract will prevent manifestation until the said frustration is diminished. Until removed, one’s personal feelings of frustration only attract more frustration, be it from real events or one’s impression of what might be happening behind the scenes.NG
I believe we’ve all experienced this in the past, and that’s okay. It happens. People are different and acceptance is the start of love and teamwork but let me explain how this works.
Let’s say you’re upset with the person you want to attract into your life or attract a better relationship with. Your focus on why they upset you is preventing further manifestation of anything except for more upset – in this case, you must forgive the reasons why they have upset you in the past and the present, be that actual forgiveness or simply deciding to put these reasons behind you. You might have been aware of this already.
You might be questioning whether this person is the right choice for your life partner after all, as you can only see how much they upset you while struggling to remember the good times you had together – this is where frustration prevents you from seeing the big picture and the person’s true self which comes from everything they do for you and others, not everything they don’t.
Here’s the trick thought – we cannot be frustrated with another person, even one we dislike, it we aren’t already frustrated with ourselves and projecting those upsetting feelings on our lives and other people. It all comes from us. It all starts with us.NG
Admitting to ourselves that we become upset with others because we are already dissatisfied as a result of something within ourselves is not always easy. When we are fully happy with who we are, we don’t care about anyone’s negative character or mood but simply ignore them. Yes, it’s true – when we’re truly happy and now allowing anyone or anything to upset us, we just ignore those who dwell, hate and attempt to divide.
Some want to skip the part involving the creation of happiness and self-work. We often talk about creating positive feelings about a person or a circumstance we wish to attract, especially when we are in need of them. Sometimes, we want to be with someone who has upset us in the past. We might want to change our lives but don’t feel we deserve as much happiness and wealth we would love to manifest…so we tell ourselves that maybe we don’t need it after all.
Do you know why this happens? It’s because…
Waiting for the relationship one wants to manifest in order to be happy seems much easier than creating self-love and happiness first. Relationships seem like an easy fix for happiness which is why many don’t bother being happy on their own.NG
This is exactly why feeling good about yourself equals feeling good about those you have feelings for which equals manifesting great relationships with them as a result. And reaching this point isn’t as difficult as it sounds but would be entirely worth it even if it were.
Feeling frustrated leads to a distortion of our true desires. It puts us in a bad mood and, more importantly, taints our impression of what our desires truly are. If we want to manifest our desire but are frustrated with it at the same time, annoyance with a romantic interest being prime example, our impression of this person is not fully positive which makes it impossible to manifest entirely positive experiences with them as a result.Frustration creates negative expectations which reflect what we don’t want, not what we do.
Most importantly, you know that frustration with another person only comes from already fully formed frustration with yourself.
Even when you state your desire to “feel better,” engaging in frustration instead of strictly focusing on what is already great about yourself and your life continues to distort either your manifestation or the impression you have of your desire. As soon as you decide that you are amazing, lovable, unique and irreplaceable, you will only be interested in receiving love, success, positivity and adoration.
Recently, I have been asked why my personal manifestation methods are so relaxed that they don’t actually involve much “doing.” All they involve is living and visualizing.
Every time I try to manifest but felt tense or dissatisfied with what I was thinking about (usually due to certain dislikes in my current reality), I manifested the things I was oddly curious about which weren’t necessarily pleasant. I would manifest staying away from situations that made me feel uncomfortable or like I was compromising my principles but I didn’t always manifest entirely great situations as an alternative. However, they were all interesting, unique learning experiences…but do you want to know the best part?
When I imagine myself living the life I want, not only do I imagine what I would love to happen but know that it is.
Not that it will – that it is. It already is.
Many steer clear from imagining their desired realities because it makes them too emotionally stirred up. They are afraid to feel. However, you shouldn’t be.
Remember a time when you got what you wanted in life – you felt it was yours and you just knew. Even when it made you nervous, you knew.
Don’t be afraid to feel – feelings produce rapid manifestations.
You might be familiar with this situation – you want to attract a relationship with a specific person only to find yourself diving into negative thoughts instead of planning the relationship you say you want to have.
First of all, engaging in negative thoughts is always a choice – they can come unexpectedly but we either choose to engage in love or fear. Many of us have engaged in both at different times in our lives. At any moment, we have the power to change our thoughts to positive so when you notice yourself in an upsetting thought process, choose belief instead!
Choosing belief goes a long way in manifesting love because by engaging in the thoughts of having what you want already, you are consciously choosing to see the best in the person you love and emit the loving energy you wish to receive. The loving visualizations and energy you emit are your own personal communication of what you wish to receive. Continue reading “When it Comes to Love and Commitment, Are You Giving What You Want to Receive?”
I’ve noticed another manifestation epidemic – one might fear their desire to be too much for them to handle, fearing their own inadequacy in the face of true happiness.
If you have ever felt this way, you probably questioned your ability to handle everything that comes with attracting your desire. The idea of your dreams finally coming true might have been perplexing if you ever worried about losing them soon after receiving, causing you to prevent yourself from enjoying a much happier idea of living them.
Worrying about losing your dreams soon after they come true stems from idealizing them and under-appreciating yourself. Even if just subconsciously, thinking of your dream as an emotional utopia you don’t deserve causes self-doubt.