We have to be the ones to validate ourselves – there’s no other way around it.
Hello everyone! I hope you had wonderful holidays and I wanted to start off 2019 with this discussion of a very common Law of Attraction occurrence.
Frustration with a person or situation we desire to attract will prevent manifestation until the said frustration is diminished. Until removed, one’s personal feelings of frustration only attract more frustration, be it from real events or one’s impression of what might be happening behind the scenes.NG
I believe we’ve all experienced this in the past, and that’s okay. It happens. People are different and acceptance is the start of love and teamwork but let me explain how this works.
Let’s say you’re upset with the person you want to attract into your life or attract a better relationship with. Your focus on why they upset you is preventing further manifestation of anything except for more upset – in this case, you must forgive the reasons why they have upset you in the past and the present, be that actual forgiveness or simply deciding to put these reasons behind you. You might have been aware of this already.
You might be questioning whether this person is the right choice for your life partner after all, as you can only see how much they upset you while struggling to remember the good times you had together – this is where frustration prevents you from seeing the big picture and the person’s true self which comes from everything they do for you and others, not everything they don’t.
Here’s the trick thought – we cannot be frustrated with another person, even one we dislike, it we aren’t already frustrated with ourselves and projecting those upsetting feelings on our lives and other people. It all comes from us. It all starts with us.NG
Admitting to ourselves that we become upset with others because we are already dissatisfied as a result of something within ourselves is not always easy. When we are fully happy with who we are, we don’t care about anyone’s negative character or mood but simply ignore them. Yes, it’s true – when we’re truly happy and now allowing anyone or anything to upset us, we just ignore those who dwell, hate and attempt to divide.
Some want to skip the part involving the creation of happiness and self-work. We often talk about creating positive feelings about a person or a circumstance we wish to attract, especially when we are in need of them. Sometimes, we want to be with someone who has upset us in the past. We might want to change our lives but don’t feel we deserve as much happiness and wealth we would love to manifest…so we tell ourselves that maybe we don’t need it after all.
Do you know why this happens? It’s because…
Waiting for the relationship one wants to manifest in order to be happy seems much easier than creating self-love and happiness first. Relationships seem like an easy fix for happiness which is why many don’t bother being happy on their own.NG
This is exactly why feeling good about yourself equals feeling good about those you have feelings for which equals manifesting great relationships with them as a result. And reaching this point isn’t as difficult as it sounds but would be entirely worth it even if it were.
Feeling frustrated leads to a distortion of our true desires. It puts us in a bad mood and, more importantly, taints our impression of what our desires truly are. If we want to manifest our desire but are frustrated with it at the same time, annoyance with a romantic interest being prime example, our impression of this person is not fully positive which makes it impossible to manifest entirely positive experiences with them as a result.Frustration creates negative expectations which reflect what we don’t want, not what we do.
Most importantly, you know that frustration with another person only comes from already fully formed frustration with yourself.
Even when you state your desire to “feel better,” engaging in frustration instead of strictly focusing on what is already great about yourself and your life continues to distort either your manifestation or the impression you have of your desire. As soon as you decide that you are amazing, lovable, unique and irreplaceable, you will only be interested in receiving love, success, positivity and adoration.
The Law of Attraction is not about making your life seem perfect or pretending that it is.
It is about knowing that your positivity, happiness, choices and desires make you who you are, not a difficult day or circumstance that simply comes and goes.
Nearly every time anyone asked me if I had faced a specific challenge at some point in life, the answer was “yes.” We all have, at least once. But it doesn’t matter. It’s not a big deal.
Challenges don’t define us – they only define those who don’t seem to want to recover from them but why let a difficult moment from once upon a time define your fate and personality?
This can particularly be applied to wanting to manifest happiness but blocking yourself with fears from your past negative experiences. If you look within, you will already see that those experiences are not who you are. For the most part, they didn’t even involve your decisions so how can they be defining you? Things we manifest unintentionally are often not what we intended but who cares?
If we manifest something we don’t like, we can just fix it. So why worry about life, ever?
This already shows us that we don’t need to worry about anything. Life is lightness – that is what it’s meant to be.
Years ago, my then boyfriend broke up with me. Break-ups are such a common topic so let’s discuss this one. I didn’t even like him all that much anymore, especially towards the end, but had gotten annoyed that someone I didn’t think much of ended it at the time. I wanted it to end as well but he had said it first so for a few days, I was irritated that someone I thought so little of ended it…until I remembered that the only relevant factor was that I wanted it to be over and that a hurt ego was simply not me. It wasn’t anything I had ever cared about before and I went back to not caring about it once again. I was just glad that it was over because my life was much happier without someone whose attitude I was finding depressing for the most part. But if you have been broke up with by a person you still care about, remember your love for them and start over. Rebuild that love and start to see them in a positive light again – in any breakup, mutual negativity and fears prevailed. If someone broke up with you, you will discover that you didn’t exactly think well of them either at that time but your positive feelings can always be rebuilt if you want to be with this person once again.
It doesn’t matter what happened and surprised you. It only matters what you choose.
It is your choices that make you who you are, not somebody else’s. If someone broke up with you, what will define you is the knowing that your relationship with them is a done deal, if you want to manifest it back, and not allowing any of life’s events but your choices alone to define you instead.
I realized something about myself today. I am addicted to results.
What do you do if the person you are not yourself around is the person you want to attract a relationship with?
We have all known someone like that, usually in a romantic sense. We have all been involved with a person who has upset or hurt us, resulting in our future interactions being filled with reactions from confusion and a damaged sense of pride when all we wanted to do was relax and be our best selves. We have all been involved with the people who had this effect on us but whether or not we chose to stay in those involvements was entirely up to us.
Choosing to stick around someone who makes you feel this way or use all your strength to walk away from them is a reflection of your personality, awareness, and, most importantly, your level of self-confidence. You might think you don’t deserve better or that the other person does so you feel the need to stick around until you figure out how to give them what you believe they deserve. You think that giving them what you feel they should have would make you happy but the flaw to this plan rests in the idea of putting them ahead of yourself.
If instead of your true heart’s desire you accept one deemed easier to manifest, it isn’t fair to anyone involved.
If you should accept any goal you consider easier to manifest than your true heart’s desire, this isn’t fair to you or anyone else.
What we want wants us back.
The Universe wants to give you what you want.
Your true heart’s desire wants you just as much as you want it.
If you are, it might be the reason you keep getting stuck, manifesting the same situations over and over again, without knowing how to break free and manifest what you want for a change.
Is shame the manifesting block you have been trying to pinpoint and overcome? If so, you are now on your way out of the darkness.
Being ashamed of something you’ve done or experienced is just another version of feeling as if you are not good enough; it is the fear of inadequacy that makes you doubt your own worth, power or ability to make life happen. That sense of shame can be strong enough to effortlessly keep you focused on your perceived mistakes instead of enjoying the visualizations of the life you want, making you feel like you don’t deserve that life because of the embarrassment endured.
Thinking about the person you want to be instead of what is happening around you is going to allow you to enjoy your current reality instead of feeling that you are missing your desired one.
If you are struggling to stay happy in your current reality, you must start focusing on yourself.
Let’s talk about manifesting relationships because I have always found that the correct internal verbal expression of those relationships (which is different for every single individual) leads to positive thoughts and visualization which lead to belief.
Do you prefer to tell yourself that your desired relationship belongs to you already or internally state that it is going to manifest soon?
Which specific wording suits you better?
Some feel unnatural believing their relationships belong to them already but do feel good knowing that everything will come together soon. Others feel great about knowing that everything has already been worked out on an invisible level and just has to manifest in reality. Others genuinely feel good knowing that a relationship might manifest or that it might not, whatever feels best – there is a great deal of individuals out there who don’t practice LoA consciously when it comes to relationships because they feel it ruins the element of surprise.