The other night, I was in a deep discussion with a friend as we were driving around the city at 2 a.m.. Sharing experiences of recent and not-so-recent encounters with men, her accurate grasp of relationships absolutely amazed me.
I went out with my elementary school friends on Saturday night. Unlike our class reunion two weekends ago, this was a smaller group of just a few people who have had several nights out together since December. Those nights started spontaneously – two of us found ourselves in the workplace of the third when the fourth suddenly showed up. After that, the four of us planned a night out, two planned the reunion and two days ago, we had a fun night out enjoying drinks and live music. I loved it when we started shooting pool later on, though I believe I will never be any good at it.
The four of us have known each other for twenty five years on average. I turned thirty two in January, two others followed last week and the youngest group member will next month. Having known each other for so long and being the exact same age, there is great understanding among us.
It’s amazing to see the extent to which my oldest friends have grown up to be fascinating individuals, simply by being themselves. One of them became an online sensation last year after he declined to charge a book blogger client for a cab ride – instead of the money, he asked for recommendations on some new reads.
When something in life upsets me, no matter how briefly, I am usually grateful for having someone supportive show up at the exact moment I have calmed myself down and reaffirm my belief that the situation will be resolved.
How does a situation such as this one usually go in your life?
The person to tell you that everything will be alright will either show up as soon as you have calmed yourself down or come sooner than that, bringing their calming and loving energy to help you.
In truth, we attract these situations and individuals, just like everything else. We either invite even more upsetting or loving and calming energy with our vibration and needs. If the same person keeps coming around to help, we are grateful for them. We are also grateful for those who offer to help.
We are particularly grateful for the moments in which worry fades away even when we fear the opposite happening.
Today, I attracted help from someone after I have decided that the situation in question was not a big deal after all. In fact, I expected to be much more irritated than I was. The annoyance that ran deep lasted only minutes which shows that consistent practice can turn anyone into a positive thinker.
It also shows that our thoughts don’t have to be perfect – they can be human. Like us.
When faced with upsetting moments, don’t beat yourself up. It happens. Don’t worry about how you might have attracted this circumstance but only look ahead with faith and trust instead.
Some of the recent events around me as well as many comments and emails prompted me to address the following:
Are your friends, family and other people close to you genuinely happy for your success in life, your positive personality and all the love, magic and gratitude you are attracting into your life?
Let’s be clear on something – they should be!
No matter what goes on in your life, you are a great friend if you’re unconditionally happy for your own friends and their success. Those who support your goals and desires are good friends and those who don’t are only expressing their limiting beliefs, making themselves less-than-exceptional friends in the process.
If someone’s constant negativity hurts your happiness and life, you can remove yourself from that person and seek out positive company instead. There is no reason not to.
Or, if this is a relationship you want to repair, you can do so as well. It’s up to you but either way, here’s what to do.
It is often said that our friends say a great deal about who we are.
What you must know is that our friends may serve as mirrors in various ways. They could be critics, support, a getaway filled with love and relaxation or warning voices that remind us of the important things we may have forgotten over time.
Different individuals in your circle of friends could remind you of the different things you either love or struggle with – just observe your reactions to their words and you’ll understand what I mean. On the other hand, you might have one or several friends who seem to bring out the best in you.
You might also wonder where these differences come from.
Our friends do not decide who we are – they simply reflect the aspects of already existing self image back to us.
Your friends who feel good about themselves and/or your mutual friendship are probably the ones who make you feel hopeful, happy and seem to bring out the best in you. At the same time, you might have a friend who always makes you appreciate your life simply because they don’t appreciate theirs, focusing on everything that’s wrong with it. This person might make you appreciate your life but also makes you want to keep your distance due to their morose outlook.
Most importantly, what kind of people do you want to surround yourself with from now on? What specifically do you want to have in common with them? Do you want these individuals to be upbeat, creative or intellectual above everything else?
How do you see the time you want to spend together? What do you want to be doing and discussing?
As you can see, your friends can impact you in many ways. LoA states that those we meet mirror our true selves back to us but it doesn’t always explain the ways in which this might happen. Now that you know, you can examine the company you keep and why.
So, what do you value in the company you keep and why? What have you learned from the people you choose to surround yourself with or are currently surrounded with due to your current circumstances?
Share your personal findings in the comment section below!
Does your social life make you happy and help your manifestations?
A social life is an important part of happiness. Our friends are the people we love to share a great deal of life with – they support us, comfort us when we need it and challenge us when necessary. They love us and we love them. The people we work with, our family members we are close with and the people we date can all be a part of our social lives.
Some like an active social life and others prefer a calmer one. Some like to engage in calming activities with their friends, others like to engage in long conversations and often while some others enjoy living various adventures with their friends on a regular basis. Some like to surround themselves with many new people while others prefer spending time with their closest friends. There are many possible scenarios out there and they work for different people.
I like an active social life. I love my friends who live all around the world and I love traveling to see them only to spend time together and create new memories. In its essence, that is what we’re doing – no matter what it is we do, we will have created new memories if we make sure to have fun. My friends vary in age, nationality, occupation and residence but the one thing they all have in common is an open, heart-driven personality. This core character trait matches their different personalities in various ways, making them exactly who they are.
Who are the individuals you choose to spend your time with?
Just like with relationships, you will easily attract the friendships you feel comfortable having, want to have, believe you CAN have and feel good enough to have. You get what you believe you deserve so think the best of yourself!
Did you know…
When it comes to your manifestations, friends can help you let go. Think about this – who would you turn to for distraction and a reboot of gratitude after they remind you how amazing your life is already?
Rely on your friends. Let them remind you of everything you have. Share experiences, have fun and laugh together. Appreciate each other.
Surround yourself with people you genuinely like, those who make you feel great, and you can’t go wrong. Whether your social life consists of a few close friends or many people you enjoy spending time with, be happy and laugh with them. You will be in the moment completely and won’t feel the need for anything else.
Happiness in the moment brings future happiness just waiting to be experienced.
I want to share with you the story of a friend of mine who used LoA in her life simply by immersing herself into positive feelings and believing she would get everything she wanted, when she wanted it.
Before I started bouncing around Europe and USA, we went to school together. We met at the age of nine when I changed schools. As it turned out, we also lived in the same building. Soon, we were good friends.
We kept in touch throughout our lives and at the age of twenty-five, I attended her wedding. This was a major life event she had manifested at the exact time she intended it.
Years earlier, she had decided she wanted to be married by the age of twenty-five. Having made the decision, she was sure her desire would manifest. She moved on with her life, enjoying work, friends and family, having fun and feeling grateful for everything she had.
When we were twenty-four, she informed me she was getting married. Informing me of the time period to give me a chance to plan my trip from abroad, I was absolutely thrilled. The wedding took place two months after her 25th birthday.
Another goal she had was to be a mother by the time she turned thirty. However, after the wedding, she was putting a great deal of importance on this goal and its manifestation. She then realized she had developed attachment to her goal and was worrying about its manifestation, preventing her from enjoying any thought she had about it. This was out of character for her.
She was a person who had used LoA effortlessly in life but had now realized she was using it incorrectly.
Attachment to one’s desire which means noticing it missing and allowing that to lower one’s vibration prevents the said desire from manifesting. In order to manifest, one must let go.
Then, she said to herself,
“I have to relax. This is going to happen but I have to relax. If it happens now, great; if not, it’ll happen when it happens.”
After that, her pregnancy happened almost immediately.
This magnificently simple story describes the essence of LoA. This is all we need to do in order to manifest. She has since used LoA to improve circumstances at work and manifest many positive circumstances for her family. She doesn’t believe anything to be impossible but knows that everything in life is a matter of choice.
This is simply all we need to do.
Thank you for helping and supporting each other – it’s wonderfully inspiring to read your comments and see that you want the best for one another (not to mention continuously attracting love into your own lives by expressing it to others).
I’m very grateful for you.
One of my closest friends recently manifested a relationship with a specific person. In this venture, we’d joined forces. A manifestation guide and solutions to details that appeared along the way, the harnessing of energy coming from both our sides and keeping focus on the end goal resulted in waves of success.
My friend has known her current man for approximately two months. They met unexpectedly, through mutual friends. Beforehand, she’d been wishing to meet a man worthy of being in a relationship with and throughout our conversations, she’d defined this ideal man as warm, loving, gentle, easygoing and nurturing. Shortly after, she met two interesting individuals but decided neither of them were it. Refusing to give up or allow her vibration to lower, she was simply grateful for meeting them at all.
The exact list of qualities her new man had to possess allowed her to keep a clearer focus than she even realized. After meeting each of the two preceding candidates, I would ask her if she thought this was it and both times, she was unsure but completely at ease. A part of her even started to feel that being alone was what she truly needed; then, one afternoon, she informed me of meeting someone new. Shortly after, she decided that things would work out between them.
Her communication with him continued and soon, they’d made a movie date. It went so well that texting followed the hug good night but then, she suddenly feared she had said something wrong. In her mind, the texting had gone awry on her side but in mine, nothing was wrong as he continued to write to her. The two of us joined forces and gradually changed the energy she was giving to the situation.
My contention was that she’d said something wrong only if she decided so.
If she chose to see the situation as a light one and decided it was bringing her closer to her end goal, it would be so. Law of Attraction responds to our feelings and the energy we emit therefore I suggested she focused on how happy she was that their relationship was coming to life. Unsure, she would proceed to say good night to me, too. The next morning, she informed me that her feeling of having “messed things up” continued, resulting in further action on her part which perpetuated that belief. Reading her descriptive messages, I became even more convinced that details only gain magnitude if we choose to assign it to them.
My new contention stated that what she saw as a big deal didn’t have to be a big deal to him and won’t be unless she decided so.
All of us assign different meaning to different things in life. One can obsess about a text they’d received while the idea behind it may have been completely irrelevant in the sender’s mind. I once threw up after too many Mojitos in front of my date and thought it was the last I’d ever hear from him until he made a surprise visit shortly after. When I told him that I had wondered if he was put off after my amateur drinking episode, he said he hadn’t thought about it much since. We all decide what we give meaning to and I’d decided my friend needed to only give meaning to her end goal – a relationship with the man she’d chosen. Soon, she managed to replace the majority of her discomfort with relaxation and decided to forget everything she thought she’d worded wrongly. Then, she added the main ingredient – honesty.
Feeling comfortable doing so and completely relaxed, she embraced full honesty in her approach to him and told him why she’d behaved the way she did. Her delivery was honest and light. After he saw that she possessed this rare quality while being loving, spontaneous and feminine, she became irresistible to him.
I’d defined openness of heart and the wish to give love to everyone and everything as her natural manifestation strength as well as general tendencies. In my opinion, she didn’t need to visualize unless it came to her spontaneously (I am much more of a natural visualization practitioner – one must select the techniques they enjoy the most) and her need to feel love and bliss every second of the day would ensure she attached positive emotion to her desire and let it go in order to manifest rapidly. Defining one’s natural manifestation tendencies helps produce the feeling of effortless results. Her openness of heart directed her to a completely honest place, a place she continues to feel more comfortable in than she ever thought possible.
Another interesting date situation in which we’d joined energies involved his tardiness. She was unsure what had happened and I’d said everything was fine. Expecting him to come over but starting to get worried due to his absence, she was unsure of what to think. I felt calm about it and thanked the Universe for him making it safe to their date. Then, I told her he’d message within the hour and let her know he was on his way. Do you know when his message came? About a minute later and followed by a legitimate reason for his tardiness.
From then on, their communication and dates ran smoothly, even when a few small disagreements came up. “Smoothly and enjoyably” was her goal with all her attention directed towards it. Shortly after only being grateful for being together and seeing a smooth flow, their relationship became effortless. Smooth sailing manifests when it becomes all we see, regardless of what happens. When obstacles fail to be perceived as obstacles, they disappear.
How did all this make me even happier?
Manifesting help, circumstances or an end result for someone else turns out to be one of the most rewarding experiences of my life every single time I do it. Making someone I love happy equals (and equates) making myself happy. However, it also enables me to let go. In case I’m manifesting something I struggle to harness positivity towards, focusing on someone else’s goal and knowing I can help manifest it fills me with love, lightness and confidence. I have always been able to manifest for those I love and I use that gift often.