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Girl Talk: How Positive Feelings Lead to Specific Positive Experiences in Dating and Relationships

The other night, I was in a deep discussion with a friend as we were driving around the city at 2 a.m.. Sharing experiences of recent and not-so-recent encounters with men, her accurate grasp of relationships absolutely amazed me.

Insightful and astute, my friend instantly pinpointed the gist of any story she or I shared. I was humbled in the most amazing way, in adoration and respect of this fresh mind – not perspective but the mind itself, as she managed to angle her perception any which way in order to reach the necessary answers. Her mind was just flawlessly on.

My own mind wasn’t entirely on that particular night. I found myself drifting from jokes to listening without responding verbally, focused as my listening was. The night was fun but after a while, I wanted to change my current state of mind. My moments of disconnect happen rarely but I have long decided to own them when they do, admitting to thinly veiled jokes and my entirely honest thoughts. Calling it as I feel it, I feel better when I admit it anyway. Secrets have no use and pretence has no place in a happy and more importantly, free individual’s life.

Keeping secrets is a burden, mostly when you keep your own…and every individual pretending to be someone else keeps the biggest secret of all. Avoiding authenticity has no place in happy relationships and if you wish to attract them, loving and accepting yourself fully is what attracts love and acceptance from your desired partner, even in moments of disagreement.

Pretending to be anyone other than who you are equals keeping a secret.

My friend openly expressed her current views and faced the evolvement of her situation with acceptance and positivity; much to her glee, she experienced a positive turnaround less than an hour after I dropped her off. In regard to one particular discussion, she opened my mind – a gesture I was immensely grateful for. In another discussion, her kind words appealed to my already open heart.

She had made me think.

My friend attracted what she wanted by accepting the current reality for what it was, feeling good about herself and the other person, and lovingly imagining the future.

She helped me back into my sense of inner peace which I attracted with her help.

Best part, this discussion didn’t even seem heavy. I am used to feeling so light that either anything feels light or what feels heavy I apologize for bringing up but this was serious yet normal, natural and typical of the way life goes. It was comforting and positive.

I am a person with specific preferences that knows what she wants. I like my mind clear and respectfully expressive which usually leads to rediscovering that most people aren’t used to honesty. When it comes to relationships, I also experienced moments of thinking that a profoundly happy love was the simplest thing to ask for yet the most complicated goal to achieve but when I say moments, I literally mean moments – my positive mind would allow me to snap out of it momentarily and remember what I believed instead. Fleeting is not a problem as long as it doesn’t equate one’s core belief (and then, it isn’t fleeting anyway). That night, my friend reminded me of my goals instead of allowing me to indulge in short-term distractions. She helped me out of that moment and back into my positive thoughts while her story inspired me.

My relationship goals are my core and mental distractions are temporary – I feel like I’ve been coming to terms with this particular lesson since the beginning of the year.

My friend also reminded me of something unexpected – when faced with conflicted thoughts, talking them out helps. I prefer talking about my conflicted thoughts to be as brief as possible, never going into overtime, as my fastest track to their (dis)solution tends to be calling them what they are and moving forward. Indulging in them has never made me happy and I doubt it ever could. Indulging in negative thoughts is nothing but mental hibernation.

Those who indulge in negative thoughts about relationships continue to attract the same type of person and relationship over and over. If you are currently attracting the type of person and relationship you don’t want anymore, you simply must change focus.

My friend had – starting off conflicted about her relationship, she eventually began to feel good about it and manifested its improvement. She attracted improvement with the same person.

I needed to self-improve that night and she helped me. I am a better person for it, as I have faced and resolved my latest annoyances with her help.

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The Law of Attraction and Weekend Lessons, Part II

I went out with my elementary school friends on Saturday night. Unlike our class reunion two weekends ago, this was a smaller group of just a few people who have had several nights out together since December. Those nights started spontaneously – two of us found ourselves in the workplace of the third when the fourth suddenly showed up. After that, the four of us planned a night out, two planned the reunion and two days ago, we had a fun night out enjoying drinks and live music. I loved it when we started shooting pool later on, though I believe I will never be any good at it.

The four of us have known each other for twenty five years on average. I turned thirty two in January, two others followed last week and the youngest group member will next month. Having known each other for so long and being the exact same age, there is great understanding among us.

It’s amazing to see the extent to which my oldest friends have grown up to be fascinating individuals, simply by being themselves. One of them became an online sensation last year after he declined to charge a book blogger client for a cab ride – instead of the money, he asked for recommendations on some new reads. In sheer amazement, his client gifted him several books and paid for the cab ride. I had heard the story without knowing it was him and after rereading the articles (the story had come out last year and was covered by multiple websites), we had a blast discussing all the comments.

Another one wants the next big step in his life to be parenthood. He says it would make him happier than anything and he is ready. He’s a relaxed, happy and natural person with a healthy attitude towards relationships as well as a great friend. I believe it’s going to happen for him soon.

I love talking to both of them about anything I feel like sharing, laughing out loud to nearly every story I hear. We are entirely relaxed around each other and thrive on being ourselves.

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I wrote this to remind everyone that love, comfort and beauty are within.

Before all of us met up again soon after the reunion, I knew that we would have a good, fun night. We somehow remained close friends even though some of us haven’t seen each other in many years and I have been grateful for our friendship and mutual understanding. There was a Law of Attraction lesson in it – appreciate what you have and even more will come. Appreciating my friends for the great people they are showed me they were even more amazing than I knew because appreciating what you see truly leads to seeing even more than you asked for.

There’s also another fantastic benefit of having friends that have the power to truly capture your attention and make you laugh to tears.

When you spend time with friends who make you forget about everything else, your vibration shifts. You can see yourself having what you want without needing it (or needing anything else) because happiness fulfills our needs. Not anyone or anything but pure happiness.

Those who make me laugh boost the feeling of pure happiness in me.

Was there something that made you particularly happy in the past few days? Share your thoughts in the comments section!

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When You Give Yourself the Help You Need…

When something in life upsets me, no matter how briefly, I am usually grateful for having someone supportive show up at the exact moment I have calmed myself down and reaffirm my belief that the situation will be resolved.

How does a situation such as this one usually go in your life?

The person to tell you that everything will be alright will either show up as soon as you have calmed yourself down or come sooner than that, bringing their calming and loving energy to help you.

In truth, we attract these situations and individuals, just like everything else. We either invite even more upsetting or loving and calming energy with our vibration and needs. If the same person keeps coming around to help, we are grateful for them. We are also grateful for those who offer to help.

We are particularly grateful for the moments in which worry fades away even when we fear the opposite happening.

Today, I attracted help from someone after I have decided that the situation in question was not a big deal after all. In fact, I expected to be much more irritated than I was. The annoyance that ran deep lasted only minutes which shows that consistent practice can turn anyone into a positive thinker.

It also shows that our thoughts don’t have to be perfect – they can be human. Like us.

When faced with upsetting moments, don’t beat yourself up. It happens. Don’t worry about how you might have attracted this circumstance but only look ahead with faith and trust instead.

 

Are You Surrounded with True Friends?

Some of the recent events around me as well as many comments and emails prompted me to address the following:

Are your friends, family and other people close to you genuinely happy for your success in life, your positive personality and all the love, magic and gratitude you are attracting into your life?

Let’s be clear on something – they should be!

No matter what goes on in your life, you are a great friend if you’re unconditionally happy for your own friends and their success. Those who support your goals and desires are good friends and those who don’t are only expressing their limiting beliefs, making themselves less-than-exceptional friends in the process.

If someone’s constant negativity hurts your happiness and life, you can remove yourself from that person and seek out positive company instead. There is no reason not to.

Or, if this is a relationship you want to repair, you can do so as well. It’s up to you but either way, here’s what to do.

Don’t take it personally!

Those who are unable to be entirely happy for you are unable to be happy for themselves, in their own life. If you don’t love you, you can’t love another, right? We all know this. However, if you confronted them about it, they would probably act offended, confirming your claim to be true.

Once again, consider what you want – to fix the relationship or give it up?

You are free to do either. You are not obligated to keep anyone into your life – relationships of any nature are about love and positive feelings, not guilt or obligations.

Be honest with that person.

If you want to repair the relationships or simply tell the person in question how you feel, you can. Make sure your communication is entirely honest because otherwise, what’s the point in bringing this up? You can tell this person that you would like to take some time away, if that is what you truly want, but make sure to explain why. Unless honesty is fully present, nothing will be resolved.

Think about the kind of friends and support you want to have.

Thinking about what makes us happy brings it into our lives. Dedicate your time to that instead of deciphering your problems. Problems are there to be resolved, not be obsessing about. Worrying too much brings no solution.

If you want to work with the Law of Attraction successfully, you should keep it simple.

If you want to attract the life you want successfully (and, fast), make decisions and stand by them! Be courageous enough to actually make decisions and stick to them.

To make decisions successfully, you must know yourself and the best way to do so is to engage in anything that makes you happy.

Finally,

If you choose to move on…

Believe it’s for the best and feel good about your decision. You can’t have it both ways if you want to feel good – make a decision you actually feel good about!

Do You Like Your Friends?

It is often said that our friends say a great deal about who we are.

What you must know is that our friends may serve as mirrors in various ways. They could be critics, support, a getaway filled with love and relaxation or warning voices that remind us of the important things we may have forgotten over time.

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With friends in Finland in 2013.

 

Different individuals in your circle of friends could remind you of the different things you either love or struggle with – just observe your reactions to their words and you’ll understand what I mean. On the other hand, you might have one or several friends who seem to bring out the best in you.

You might also wonder where these differences come from.

Our friends do not decide who we are – they simply reflect the aspects of already existing self image back to us.

Your friends who feel good about themselves and/or your mutual friendship are probably the ones who make you feel hopeful, happy and seem to bring out the best in you. At the same time, you might have a friend who always makes you appreciate your life simply because they don’t appreciate theirs, focusing on everything that’s wrong with it. This person might make you appreciate your life but also makes you want to keep your distance due to their morose outlook.

Most importantly, what kind of people do you want to surround yourself with from now on? What specifically do you want to have in common with them? Do you want these individuals to be upbeat, creative or intellectual above everything else?

How do you see the time you want to spend together? What do you want to be doing and discussing?

As you can see, your friends can impact you in many ways. LoA states that those we meet mirror our true selves back to us but it doesn’t always explain the ways in which this might happen. Now that you know, you can examine the company you keep and why.

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So, what do you value in the company you keep and why? What have you learned from the people you choose to surround yourself with or are currently surrounded with due to your current circumstances?

Share your personal findings in the comment section below!

 

 

How Happy is Your Social Life?

Does your social life make you happy and help your manifestations?

A social life is an important part of happiness. Our friends are the people we love to share a great deal of life with – they support us, comfort us when we need it and challenge us when necessary. They love us and we love them. The people we work with, our family members we are close with and the people we date can all be a part of our social lives.

Some like an active social life and others prefer a calmer one. Some like to engage in calming activities with their friends, others like to engage in long conversations and often while some others enjoy living various adventures with their friends on a regular basis. Some like to surround themselves with many new people while others prefer spending time with their closest friends. There are many possible scenarios out there and they work for different people.

I like an active social life. I love my friends who live all around the world and I love traveling to see them only to spend time together and create new memories. In its essence, that is what we’re doing – no matter what it is we do, we will have created new memories if we make sure to have fun. My friends vary in age, nationality, occupation and residence but the one thing they all have in common is an open, heart-driven personality. This core character trait matches their different personalities in various ways, making them exactly who they are.

Who are the individuals you choose to spend your time with?

Just like with relationships, you will easily attract the friendships you feel comfortable having, want to have, believe you CAN have and feel good enough to have. You get what you believe you deserve so think the best of yourself!

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When it comes to your manifestations, friends can help you let go. Think about this – who would you turn to for distraction and a reboot of gratitude after they remind you how amazing your life is already?

Rely on your friends. Let them remind you of everything you have. Share experiences, have fun and laugh together. Appreciate each other.

Surround yourself with people you genuinely like, those who make you feel great, and you can’t go wrong. Whether your social life consists of a few close friends or many people you enjoy spending time with, be happy and laugh with them. You will be in the moment completely and won’t feel the need for anything else.

Happiness in the moment brings future happiness just waiting to be experienced.

LoA and Life Goals

I want to share with you the story of a friend of mine who used LoA in her life simply by immersing herself into positive feelings and believing she would get everything she wanted, when she wanted it.

Before I started bouncing around Europe and USA, we went to school together. We met at the age of nine when I changed schools. As it turned out, we also lived in the same building. Soon, we were good friends.

We kept in touch throughout our lives and at the age of twenty-five, I attended her wedding. This was a major life event she had manifested at the exact time she intended it.

Years earlier, she had decided she wanted to be married by the age of twenty-five. Having made the decision, she was sure her desire would manifest. She moved on with her life, enjoying work, friends and family, having fun and feeling grateful for everything she had.

When we were twenty-four, she informed me she was getting married. Informing me of the time period to give me a chance to plan my trip from abroad, I was absolutely thrilled. The wedding took place two months after her 25th birthday.

Another goal she had was to be a mother by the time she turned thirty. However, after the wedding, she was putting a great deal of importance on this goal and its manifestation. She then realized she had developed attachment to her goal and was worrying about its manifestation, preventing her from enjoying any thought she had about it. This was out of character for her.

She was a person who had used LoA effortlessly in life but had now realized she was using it incorrectly.

Attachment to one’s desire which means noticing it missing and allowing that to lower one’s vibration prevents the said desire from manifesting. In order to manifest, one must let go.

Then, she said to herself,

“I have to relax. This is going to happen but I have to relax. If it happens now, great; if not, it’ll happen when it happens.”

After that, her pregnancy happened almost immediately.

This magnificently simple story describes the essence of LoA. This is all we need to do in order to manifest. She has since used LoA to improve circumstances at work and manifest many positive circumstances for her family. She doesn’t believe anything to be impossible but knows that everything in life is a matter of choice.

This is simply all we need to do.

My Beloved Readers…

Thank you for helping and supporting each other – it’s wonderfully inspiring to read your comments and see that you want the best for one another (not to mention continuously attracting love into your own lives by expressing it to others).

I’m very grateful for you.

A Love Manifestation in Someone Else’s Life

One of my closest friends recently manifested a relationship with a specific person. In this venture, we’d joined forces. A manifestation guide and solutions to details that appeared along the way, the harnessing of energy coming from both our sides and keeping focus on the end goal resulted in waves of success.

My friend has known her current man for approximately two months. They met unexpectedly, through mutual friends. Beforehand, she’d been wishing to meet a man worthy of being in a relationship with and throughout our conversations, she’d defined this ideal man as warm, loving, gentle, easygoing and nurturing. Shortly after, she met two interesting individuals but decided neither of them were it. Refusing to give up or allow her vibration to lower, she was simply grateful for meeting them at all.

The exact list of qualities her new man had to possess allowed her to keep a clearer focus than she even realized. After meeting each of the two preceding candidates, I would ask her if she thought this was it and both times, she was unsure but completely at ease. A part of her even started to feel that being alone was what she truly needed; then, one afternoon, she informed me of meeting someone new. Shortly after, she decided that things would work out between them.

Her communication with him continued and soon, they’d made a movie date. It went so well that texting followed the hug good night but then, she suddenly feared she had said something wrong. In her mind, the texting had gone awry on her side but in mine, nothing was wrong as he continued to write to her. The two of us joined forces and gradually changed the energy she was giving to the situation.

My contention was that she’d said something wrong only if she decided so.

If she chose to see the situation as a light one and decided it was bringing her closer to her end goal, it would be so. Law of Attraction responds to our feelings and the energy we emit therefore I suggested she focused on how happy she was that their relationship was coming to life. Unsure, she would proceed to say good night to me, too. The next morning, she informed me that her feeling of having “messed things up” continued, resulting in further action on her part which perpetuated that belief. Reading her descriptive messages, I became even more convinced that details only gain magnitude if we choose to assign it to them.

My new contention stated that what she saw as a big deal didn’t have to be a big deal to him and won’t be unless she decided so.

All of us assign different meaning to different things in life. One can obsess about a text they’d received while the idea behind it may have been completely irrelevant in the sender’s mind. I once threw up after too many Mojitos in front of my date and thought it was the last I’d ever hear from him until he made a surprise visit shortly after. When I told him that I had wondered if he was put off after my amateur drinking episode, he said he hadn’t thought about it much since. We all decide what we give meaning to and I’d decided my friend needed to only give meaning to her end goal – a relationship with the man she’d chosen. Soon, she managed to replace the majority of her discomfort with relaxation and decided to forget everything she thought she’d worded wrongly. Then, she added the main ingredient – honesty.

Feeling comfortable doing so and completely relaxed, she embraced full honesty in her approach to him and told him why she’d behaved the way she did. Her delivery was honest and light. After he saw that she possessed this rare quality while being loving, spontaneous and feminine, she became irresistible to him.

I’d defined openness of heart and the wish to give love to everyone and everything as her natural manifestation strength as well as general tendencies. In my opinion, she didn’t need to visualize unless it came to her spontaneously (I am much more of a natural visualization practitioner – one must select the techniques they enjoy the most) and her need to feel love and bliss every second of the day would ensure she attached positive emotion to her desire and let it go in order to manifest rapidly. Defining one’s natural manifestation tendencies helps produce the feeling of effortless results. Her openness of heart directed her to a completely honest place, a place she continues to feel more comfortable in than she ever thought possible.

Another interesting date situation in which we’d joined energies involved his tardiness. She was unsure what had happened and I’d said everything was fine. Expecting him to come over but starting to get worried due to his absence, she was unsure of what to think. I felt calm about it and thanked the Universe for him making it safe to their date. Then, I told her he’d message within the hour and let her know he was on his way. Do you know when his message came? About a minute later and followed by a legitimate reason for his tardiness.

From then on, their communication and dates ran smoothly, even when a few small disagreements came up. “Smoothly and enjoyably” was her goal with all her attention directed towards it. Shortly after only being grateful for being together and seeing a smooth flow, their relationship became effortless. Smooth sailing manifests when it becomes all we see, regardless of what happens. When obstacles fail to be perceived as obstacles, they disappear.

How did all this make me even happier?

Manifesting help, circumstances or an end result for someone else turns out to be one of the most rewarding experiences of my life every single time I do it. Making someone I love happy equals (and equates) making myself happy. However, it also enables me to let go. In case I’m manifesting something I struggle to harness positivity towards, focusing on someone else’s goal and knowing I can help manifest it fills me with love, lightness and confidence. I have always been able to manifest for those I love and I use that gift often.