Reaching Personality Goals Doesn’t Have to Be Long, Painful or Difficult

I WANT YOU TO KNOW ME. 

Not a day goes by that I don’t consider whether I reveal enough about myself on this blog.

“Do they know everything I want them to know about me?” I wonder. 

“Do they really know who I am?” 

But at the same time, I want to grow. I want to constantly grow. Can I do the same thing in a different way, and realize that it’s the attitude, not the action, that makes me different? That it’s the attitude which makes me grow?

One of the things that causes on-and-off growth spurts in my life is giving unconditionally. Sometimes I do it and other times, I don’t. However, I have grown in the parameters of unconditional giving in the following way – the moments in which I don’t want to give unconditionally quickly pass as I realize that my giving unconditionally doesn’t come from any type of guilt but from my choice to make myself and the other person happy. 

Let me explain. 

WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT…

My goal is to give unconditionally because when I do, I worry about nothing and feel like everything I give will get back to me tenfold. This is not to say that one should give to the point of it damaging them but it is to say that when one feels safe and like nothing can damage them, nothing truly can. When you are sure that things are developing the way you want them to, that you are safe and nothing can hurt you, nothing can; on the other hand, when you feel exposed to something horrible happening, you increase your chances of it happening. 

I love knowing that everything I give, I get back, and that I can give as much goodness as I want to another person because it is for my own benefit as much as theirs. Giving unconditionally means giving good feelings and never allowing something to give you negative feelings. It means knowing that what you give will get back to you with even more goodness than you can imagine. 

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There were times when undesirable things happened to all of us and worst of all, I sometimes invited them because I didn’t know any other way for something to change. Sometimes, I invited situations that were not ideal either way because I wanted something to be different but didn’t know what. Most of the time, undesirable situations happen when you don’t truly know what you want. 

Not knowing what we want makes is too easy to invite undesirable situations but this is not an ultimate problem – nothing is – as anything can be reversed with Law of Attraction. 

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I’ve come to this place in less than three weeks. I decided that I wanted to be this positive, relaxed person nothing can phase again. This is not the same thing as being insensitive, as you can feel anything you want while staying strong, but in the recent years I had been slightly more sensitive than usual.

At first, I liked being more sensitive. I liked exploring this new personality but fast, it became about feeling the irrelevant things too much (meaning just as much as the relevant ones). It became about vocalizing all emotions but I soon noticed that vocalizing overreactions or even reasonable emotions in an overreacting fashion made me feel awful. I thought that verbalizing all of my emotions would be liberating but more than anything, it drove me into being someone I didn’t like. It drove me into the occasional complaining which I didn’t enjoy doing. 

We can still vocalize all the emotions we want but with the purpose of feeling positive, not dumping negativity on other people. When our goal is to be positive instead of telling someone how much they’ve upset us for any other purpose, such as showing them how hurt we are or trying to hurt them back, we automatically distinguish the positive emotion from the negative.

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At rare times, I felt the need to show someone who bothered me what I thought of them which would soon invite even more negative feelings into my life. For the most part though, I didn’t care about those who bothered me and would only care about my own happiness. Then, I realized I never wanted to return any negative feelings but protect my own positive feelings instead. Being upset with someone is just not worth it because it’s a waste of my time. My time is what matters more than someone who upsets me. Your time matters more than the person who upsets you. 

This is the person I am, consistently. Maybe I wasn’t 100% of the time in the past, even if I was so most of it, but knowing who you want to be is wonderful. I always wanted to be more relaxed and even more positive than ever. I’ve always known I would come to this place. 

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We tend to become addicted to temporary highs, power or other people while the light, calm and unburdened feeling of happiness is the only thing we should be addicted to.

How To Put Our Goal Preventing Issues Behind Us

We often forget that relationship focus and coaching exist beyond simply manifesting the relationship you want. Once it’s manifested, you must keep it, and you will do so by dealing with your deepest issues which every one of your relationship problems came from in the past. If you deal with those, Law of Attraction will draw even more love into your romance than you had before because resolving your issues results in feeling good about yourself, finally attracting your dreams as a result. 

That is how the process goes.

An existing couple is no different – they might get over a fight but the same issues will keep causing new ones in the future unless they are resolved. It’s not about the fight itself but about what causes it, and unless that issue causing a fight is addressed, it will keep coming back in different forms.

Some prefer to believe that the cause of a single fight was their partner’s reaction to our words, their words or specific actions; however, the cause of a fight lies in one’s (or both parties’) issues that have existed long before they even met their partner. When a fight happens, we don’t react to something we don’t care about. We actually react because our partner’s words or actions reminded us of an unpleasant feeling we’ve been holding onto for a while before we met them. We then project their words onto those feelings and end up upset, disregarding the notion they never meant to upset us and were just expressing themselves while we took it the way we did.

Fights can take over a relationship and we shouldn’t let them. Actually facing and dealing with those issues leading to them by causing us to be upset at someone’s words are what we should actually be facing. We have to be honest with ourselves about those issues if we want them to disappear and stop making us miserable, and we can make LoA work for us by doing so.

Issues can be dealt with in two ways – by thinking positive about ourselves and everything in our lives which leads us to easily resolving them by realizing we have outgrown them, or by facing them and realizing why they don’t matter anymore. Either way, it is by devaluing them because negative thoughts can cause misery if we choose to give them meaning.

We are much better off knowing our true self is stronger than any negative thoughts we may be holding on to. What hurts you doesn’t deserve you, and it certainly doesn’t deserve your attention.

Think well of yourself and think about those you love and admire. Focus on the people whose company you adore, and imagine spending time with them. All these things will shift your focus to personal happiness which leads to confidence in yourself and seeing yourself having what you want.

I have always had a very specific trigger to negative feelings in a relationship. I value feeling special and seeing myself as such, and when a boyfriend makes me feel anything but, my taste for the relationship starts to wane. In a relationship, I always give what I wish to receive by expressing how much my partner means to me yet my patience for being with someone who doesn’t express himself well enough has left me over the years. I want someone who dares to say what he means, has the courage to dive into love, be romantic and show me how much I mean to him.

In the past, I would summon enough love to see beyond hearing what I didn’t like but today, I want someone who sees and realizes that I want to be put first, because I put my  partner first. Those who have no interest in doing this can move along.

Sometimes, it is easier for us to say that we “feel like this is happening, that’s how it’s gonna play out” and let the Law of Attraction work – this particular mindset can be an easy way out when it comes to manifesting relationships, as we sometimes feel more natural thinking that the outcome is our of our control. However, even when we “can feel the relationship will go this way,” we are choosing this outcome for our lives!

Every “feeling” you think may have come from somewhere else was also your choice to acknowledge and embrace, and with that, give meaning to and decide that it was to be the outcome of your manifestation; now, since you know that, choose the outcome you want and decide that that one was meant to be! 

We choose the outcome of every situation, even when we don’t think we do. 

And at times, I focused on what I didn’t like to the extend that I had to decide if whether I wanted to stay or leave the relationship.

If the situation doesn’t suit you and you don’t want to fix it, walk away. Time is much better spent thinking about having what you want than disliking what you have. Some issues in a relationship we don’t care to fix.

If you want to fix your own issues on the other hand, preventing them from interfering with your future relationship with the right person, face them and realize that they’re probably outdated. Chances are you already spent a sufficient amount of time dealing with them and it is time to put them behind you – this very notion is often enough to stop thinking about a problem.

If you want closure, visualizing a positive scenario in which your issue has been resolved. Visualize injustice corrected and a chance to tell someone what you wish to tell them. Imagine this playing out in your perfect but positive scenario because visualizing it in a negative and upset way will not make it go away.

Then, you will automatically put it behind you for good. 

Thought of the Day – Attract Love by Being Yourself

I suggest you celebrate yourself and your life.

Wondering how?

You have to play the lead role in your own reality instead of putting the person you want to manifest a relationship with first. You can prioritize them but imagine the relationship and your love as you want it and as it makes you happy!

I mean, being able to love someone the way you want to and have them love you back…don’t you love the thought of that?

Don’t you want that?

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Choose First, Achieve Second, Without Fear?

When we want something truly and deeply, a blend of this desire with our existing fears can lead to worrying about losing it as soon as we manifest it. If you worry about losing what you wish to manifest, it means there are fears in you caused by past events that you haven’t dealt with.

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