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Positivity Equals Maturity, Maturity Equals Confidence and Confidence Equals Appeal – Why?

When we stop expecting drama, does that mean we have actually grown up?

Does expecting abundance and peace around us instead of life’s curveballs void of personal growth potential but dramatic to the core mean we have finally figured out what it’s all about?

Does expecting the best instead of expecting the road to get bumpy mean we are ready to live at peace with ourselves, our minds and other individuals, and feel love for life while knowing that our dreams belong to us?

Does a desire to happily coexist with others mean that we are ready to love ourselves and everyone else?

Yes.

Because to me, positivity is maturity. Inner peace is maturity. Maturity is emotional stability which is both happy and attractive. When you’re at peace with yourself, don’t you just see the light and realize how much you have to offer, focusing on what you have instead of what you are lacking?

All these questions have a lot to do with your inner peace, your natural happiness and your appeal to other people, including those you have set your sights on.

I feel that being positive but calm about my desires, firm in my knowing, eager to create beauty and excited about my days makes me an amazing person. 

You are attractive when you’re stronger than your negative thoughts. You feel attractive, making you attractive to others. You feel comfortable with yourself which makes you attractive to others.

Life’s too short not to love ourselves.

Life is too short not to love those we do instead of being perpetually annoyed with them. If only there was a goal to all the drama but there isn’t which means that those who attract drama probably actually like it. It’s comfortable. It’s familiar.

You have to know what would make you feel like an amazing person and just be it. Just decide to be it and start. If you feel like an amazing person, others will feel the same about you.

In the past, I had a different idea of what made me an amazing person. Much of it was the same with a dramatic aspect involved – that’s how I know that maturity actually equals peace.

Expecting the best is maturity, especially from the people we love including those we fall in love with. Putting aside the expectation of drama from another person also makes you attractive to them – those who seek and expect drama approach others with drama which is unattractive by default.

Maturity does not mean boredom; maturity means appeal, emotional stability, self-confidence – the sexiest trait of all – and the ability to have fun without attracting drama.

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Thought of the Day

When it comes to manifestation, you might be closer to your goal than you realize.

You might think you have no money only to discover that your bank account balance increased while you weren’t looking.

You might deem it impossible to imagine living the life you want only to find yourself indulging in related visualizations soon after and coming out a different, more positive person.

A simple change in your daily dynamics could help you realize how far you’ve come and what a positive person you genuinely are.

You might fear you will never attract the person you want to be with (back) into your life only to finally let go as a result, shift your awareness entirely and all of a sudden, manifest.

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The Truth Behind Changing Your Mind in Specific Manifestations

Being specific has its ups and downs. Then again, anything does.

In life, my actions always reflected a core belief of “I want this so I am going to have it – nothing else, nothing less!” which led me to certain manifestations that looked nothing like I had imagined.

Once upon a time in college, I wanted a specific internship. The company seemed goal-oriented in my specific taste and I was excited about the interview. I had already decided that I would get it and dressed up for the interview only to be disappointed as soon as I got there. The building wasn’t in the best shape, their offices were unappealing and the job description I had read was already altered. The interviewers were describing responsibilities not listed in the job description that sounded plain boring and I walked out of there motivated to find something else.

I thought to myself, “I would fall asleep on the job every day if I had to work here!” And it would have probably been more exciting.

Upon my return to campus, I asked about some additional internship options and was told of another one. However, this company’s executive had already been to campus to conduct some interviews and left. One of the candidates he had interviewed was a friend of mine who wanted that position like I wanted my first choice before actually seeing what it looked like, and I didn’t expect a call at first. However, something was telling me to keep an open mind. I just had a feeling they would call me anyway.

About an hour later, the phone rang. It was the executive who had been to campus asking me to come in for an interview. He heard there was another candidate on campus interested in them, as I had listed them last minute, and wanted to meet. I agreed and found out that I would be interviewed by him and another female executive.

Two days later, reaching their offices proved to be a positive experience and the job position sounded as great as it did on paper. I was offered the position on the spot; however, I told them I wanted to interview with the last company I had put down on my list of internship options first. That final interview was scheduled the following day and I promised to call them straight after. Later that evening, I sat down with a friend who wanted the job I was offered and told him about the offer and that I wanted to take it. I wanted him to hear it from me. Being a wonderfully heartfelt person, he was fully supportive and even said he didn’t expect to get the job himself because the interview hadn’t gone as fascinatingly as he had thought it would. This friend of mine ended up getting a job in the first company I interviewed for and performed it with absolute ease whereas I am sure I would have done it poorly.

The next day, I skipped the final interview and called my new bosses to tell them I was accepting their offer. Apparently, they’d been on pins and needles waiting for my call. The job I skipped interviewing for that morning went to another friend of mine who loved it and wanted it for herself whereas I was only planning to go out of principle (and missed it out of that same principle in the end).

Deciding that I wanted something specific without finding out too much about it first hadn’t bothered me even when it turned out like this. I always thought that no matter how much I knew something or someone, I could always change my mind later anyway…or not. Time never meant too much to me in these cases, as I never viewed it as a sign of security in my feelings.

If the fact is that I could always change my mind, no matter how much I know (we all can), why not dive in from the beginning? Why not follow my good feelings, even if I change my mind tomorrow?

If I waited until deciding that something was either right for me or not before making a move, nothing would ever happen. Also, sometimes you simply must try to decide. If I’m not sure about wanting to try it, I usually don’t or at least wait until the moment I do. If I know immediately, great. If I know that I’ll never be interested in something no matter how much I tried, I move onto something else. However, I move with my feelings. If I want something but then change my mind, I know that changing my mind will last for a while if not forever. I know these things because that is who I am – each one of us is a different blend of awareness, wishes and preferences, and it is of utmost importance to not judge yourself for changing your mind when you do. You’re allowed to!

Being specific sometimes shows me that what I thought I wanted isn’t exactly what I had imagined and sometimes, that’s a good thing. It can be even better than you imagined! But at other times, it isn’t as good so you change your mind. This is completely normal but many have been conditioned to see it as a problem or a sign of immaturity when in fact it is a common factor in life.

If had I said that I would wait until after the interviews before deciding which of these internships I wanted, it wouldn’t have changed anything. I would have ended up in the exact same place. The goal is what’s important and when it comes to successful manifestation, it is all about focusing on one’s end goal and never worrying about the way everything will unfold.

The moment I felt that the company I ended up working for was going to call, I had made a decision to work for them. Even if I wasn’t aware of it at the time, I had made that decision. I had attracted working for them and didn’t worry about how everything happen which caused it to unfold in the most amazing way. That is the basis of Law of Attraction – keep it light, stay positive and feel good but be calm and certain.

 

Thought of the Day 

I’ve always wanted to be someone that makes other people think, 

“I’m also choosing to be happy! I want it to be that easy! Life is beautiful!” 

How to Stop Being Afraid of Change

Have you ever experienced the feeling of living your desired reality stronger than you felt living in your current one?

If you have, you know it can either be completely amazing or overwhelming as much as amazing because a new life brings profound change. Your attitude towards that change will determine your comfort level and with that, the speed of your manifestation process (and we already know one must feel comfortable with living the life they wish to manifest!). 

Imagine living the life you’re well acquainted with – your job or studies, spending time with friends and/or your partner, maybe setting your sights on a potential partner and being very interested in him or her, living in the home you know, travelling some and receiving the paycheck you are used to.

Now, imagine living an entirely different life, even if it was the one you wanted. You might be waking up in your new home, maybe in a new city or another country. You look in the mirror and see your perfect appearance, the way you wanted to see yourself. You are collaborating with entirely different people all of a sudden, in an entirely new way, for much more money. Your work dynamics changed. You might be feeling pressured to keep your new appearance instead of relaxing into it. You might be doubting your sudden success. Your days are filled with new commitments and thinking about entirely new things. On top of all of that, you have a home and a life with your perfect partner and if you have children together, they take up even more of your time. You love your life but it brings up new focus points, a new lifestyle and new commitments to juggle.

As amazing as it is, a change so profound can be scary at times. The thought of changing your routine entirely can make you feel a little uneasy…and that can slow down your manifestation process.

However…

If you can make change feel good and look forward to it, you will want to see your life touched by it.

Experiencing your desired reality in your mind stronger than the current leads to fast manifestation but you must be ready for it!

For all these reasons, I personally must fill my desired life’s ideas and visualization process with positive energy. I thrive on positive energy! Positive energy is easily generated when I create something I would truly love to live which makes it easy to see myself and everyone else involved in that life sublimely happy.

Know what you want first! You have to know what moves you. Positive energy moves me and that is why I have to see myself happy. I believe that positive energy has the power to move anyone which is why happiness makes it easy to see oneself living one’s dream life.

If you need help accepting that life is going to change when you manifest your desires, think about the following.

The thought of living a new life is easily accepted when one realizes that the good things about one’s current life can be taken with them. Not everything absolutely has to change but the aspects that could improve should indeed and one should never prefer staying in a comfort zone of inadequate circumstances just because they feel familiar.

If you accept that change is good, a positive follow-up to creating your new life, you will be eager to create it.

If you accept change as a good thing, you will feel comfortable with the idea of an entirely different lifestyle.

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Getting Used to Happiness

When you’re happy, you naturally see yourself having what you want.

Happiness is being your true self and being proud of or at least happy about it, no matter who it is you feel happy being. As long as the main reason for being and expressing your true self is love, you won’t see any reason not to. 

Love can be stifled when others tell you to not be yourself but only if you allow it. Love cannot burn out unless you put it out yourself. When you’re happy just being yourself, you are experiencing and feeling love. You are living it.

You can be happy seeing yourself in your current or desired reality as long as you don’t sink into bad mood when remembering your current reality post visualization, for example. Being grateful for what you can in your current will you bring your desired reality about.

Feeling good about myself is what makes me happy. Feeling confident makes me happy. Feeling great about living whatever I want to makes me happy, as well as going to places I want while feeling like I deserve it. I might not express gratitude in those exact words but I express it anyway.

What would make me unhappy is guilt. It would be setting aside my own happiness for whatever reason or purpose. It would be the fear of living life. Coming across people who are or have been guided by guilt their entire lives, I see how useless it is. I believe everyone knows how pointless guilt can be, as it usually leads to depriving oneself of the things one should be enjoying due to thinking that happiness means greed.

One must be comfortable with happiness if one wishes to manifest all of one’s desires. Staying calm while knowing it’s all going to happen, that it’s happening right now, is when I’m at my happiest.

Don’t let yourself sink when you return to your current reality from the visualization of your desired one – if you maintain your belief and stay on a high vibration with the help of gratitude, your life will change quickly.

 

It’s all about getting used to living on a high vibration; once you get used to it, all the guilt will disappear. Getting used to living on a high vibration lets you become heart-driven. If I feel any less than spectacular, it just feels weird. It feels like it isn’t me. It feels like something is missing, no matter where I am or what I’m doing – knowing that happiness comes from within and is produced nowhere but within makes me understand that nothing or no one else is capable of solving my worries. 

When I’m happy, I am comfortable having what I want. Many experience discomfort at the thought of living their desired realities, fearing they might lose them after gaining them, feel inadequate living them or never gain them in the first place. These feelings come from guilt or low self-esteem; knowing that you and only you can resolve and remove those feelings will help you get started on doing so. Then, you will be on your way to living on a high vibration.

Happiness can produce great amounts of excitement but let’s talk about why it is important to feel comfortable with the idea of living your desire in order to manifest quickly and effortlessly. Being comfortable with living your desire equals being comfortable living on a high vibration.

Some experience discomfort by getting too excited about their desire – a concept that reads happy but isn’t so when used to describe a desire not yet manifested. Experiencing excessive excitement about a desire not yet manifested can feel like fear, as fear and excitement tend to produce similar signals in our bodies. This is why excitement and fear produce conflicting emotions. Think about it – how many times have you gotten very excited about the prospect of your desired manifestation but moments later, began looking for reasons why it might not happen? Excitement works only when combined with the comfort of having your desire in your life.

Self-comfort goes hand in hand with self-confidence and it allows you to start living on a high vibration effortlessly. If you feel comfortable having something in your life and accept it being there, you don’t resist it and you see yourself living it.

Getting used to living on a high vibration will become easy once you start nurturing positive thoughts. Be happy, visualize positively and express gratitude – it will allow you to become as happy as you always wanted to be.

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The Law of Attraction and Weekend Lessons, Part II

I went out with my elementary school friends on Saturday night. Unlike our class reunion two weekends ago, this was a smaller group of just a few people who have had several nights out together since December. Those nights started spontaneously – two of us found ourselves in the workplace of the third when the fourth suddenly showed up. After that, the four of us planned a night out, two planned the reunion and two days ago, we had a fun night out enjoying drinks and live music. I loved it when we started shooting pool later on, though I believe I will never be any good at it.

The four of us have known each other for twenty five years on average. I turned thirty two in January, two others followed last week and the youngest group member will next month. Having known each other for so long and being the exact same age, there is great understanding among us.

It’s amazing to see the extent to which my oldest friends have grown up to be fascinating individuals, simply by being themselves. One of them became an online sensation last year after he declined to charge a book blogger client for a cab ride – instead of the money, he asked for recommendations on some new reads. In sheer amazement, his client gifted him several books and paid for the cab ride. I had heard the story without knowing it was him and after rereading the articles (the story had come out last year and was covered by multiple websites), we had a blast discussing all the comments.

Another one wants the next big step in his life to be parenthood. He says it would make him happier than anything and he is ready. He’s a relaxed, happy and natural person with a healthy attitude towards relationships as well as a great friend. I believe it’s going to happen for him soon.

I love talking to both of them about anything I feel like sharing, laughing out loud to nearly every story I hear. We are entirely relaxed around each other and thrive on being ourselves.

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I wrote this to remind everyone that love, comfort and beauty are within.

Before all of us met up again soon after the reunion, I knew that we would have a good, fun night. We somehow remained close friends even though some of us haven’t seen each other in many years and I have been grateful for our friendship and mutual understanding. There was a Law of Attraction lesson in it – appreciate what you have and even more will come. Appreciating my friends for the great people they are showed me they were even more amazing than I knew because appreciating what you see truly leads to seeing even more than you asked for.

There’s also another fantastic benefit of having friends that have the power to truly capture your attention and make you laugh to tears.

When you spend time with friends who make you forget about everything else, your vibration shifts. You can see yourself having what you want without needing it (or needing anything else) because happiness fulfills our needs. Not anyone or anything but pure happiness.

Those who make me laugh boost the feeling of pure happiness in me.

Was there something that made you particularly happy in the past few days? Share your thoughts in the comments section!

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Your Belief and Organic Happiness

“You are in touch with everything that is natural to a human being – your mindset, mood, energy, feeding regimen, health, style and chosen methods of exercise prove it,” one of my closest friends said to me about a week ago. We talked about exercise because I had gone swimming the day before – being an avid swimmer, got an intense workout out of it. We talked about my love for the water and it being a natural element as well as one of my favorite surroundings; as the discussion progressed into my veganism, my friend said that he found my choices very natural and very easy to enjoy for that very reason.

“You can’t reprogram people’s minds for them – the best you can do is to teach them to focus on what they want instead of their fears and negative feelings, teach them to believe in themselves and let them do the work because we all create our own lives,” he said in addition.

What I do is tell them that they must be happily persistent in focusing on their desired realities instead of the current or their fears.

I was recently asked how to achieve focus on the positive instead of one’s fears by a reader in the blog comments section. Visualizing having what you want, allowing yourself to be happy about it without engaging in negative feelings and changing your focus to positive when negativity tempts you instead of worrying about all the what-ifs is the core of believing consciously.

When a lack of belief translated as engaging in fear or negative feelings becomes the center of one’s focus, attachment happens. Then, fears of not getting what one desires or the feeling of waiting are formed. This can be prevented by continuing to focus on one’s desire consciously, choosing confidence and self-love over fear.

Living a life of continuously prioritizing positive feelings over the negative creates a happy, confident and loving awareness.

I cannot describe how effective it is to imagine having what you want happily while ignoring your negative thoughts. Before you know it, imagining that you have what you want translates to your mind immediately firing back with “It’s mine already!” to any negative thought – when you commit to the gratitude for living your desired reality and ignoring your negative thoughts or dismissing them as powerless over you, things fall into place fast.

You must be strong enough to ignore your negative thoughts and you can achieve that with self-love.

If you continuously go back to engaging in doubt and notice that you still haven’t manifested what you want which makes you doubt even more, it is up to you to choose to believe instead. Belief allows for letting go while continuously being distracted and set back by negative thoughts shows disbelief and refusal to let go. If you believe, you don’t doubt while continuously doubting that you can have what you want shows that you don’t actually believe.

This reader also asked how to let go and my answer is, by engaging in what makes you happy already in addition to seeing your desired reality being yours. Once you have stopped engaging in negative thoughts and giving them any power, you will have let go to manifest.

Are You Surrounded with True Friends?

Some of the recent events around me as well as many comments and emails prompted me to address the following:

Are your friends, family and other people close to you genuinely happy for your success in life, your positive personality and all the love, magic and gratitude you are attracting into your life?

Let’s be clear on something – they should be!

No matter what goes on in your life, you are a great friend if you’re unconditionally happy for your own friends and their success. Those who support your goals and desires are good friends and those who don’t are only expressing their limiting beliefs, making themselves less-than-exceptional friends in the process.

If someone’s constant negativity hurts your happiness and life, you can remove yourself from that person and seek out positive company instead. There is no reason not to.

Or, if this is a relationship you want to repair, you can do so as well. It’s up to you but either way, here’s what to do.

Don’t take it personally!

Those who are unable to be entirely happy for you are unable to be happy for themselves, in their own life. If you don’t love you, you can’t love another, right? We all know this. However, if you confronted them about it, they would probably act offended, confirming your claim to be true.

Once again, consider what you want – to fix the relationship or give it up?

You are free to do either. You are not obligated to keep anyone into your life – relationships of any nature are about love and positive feelings, not guilt or obligations.

Be honest with that person.

If you want to repair the relationships or simply tell the person in question how you feel, you can. Make sure your communication is entirely honest because otherwise, what’s the point in bringing this up? You can tell this person that you would like to take some time away, if that is what you truly want, but make sure to explain why. Unless honesty is fully present, nothing will be resolved.

Think about the kind of friends and support you want to have.

Thinking about what makes us happy brings it into our lives. Dedicate your time to that instead of deciphering your problems. Problems are there to be resolved, not be obsessing about. Worrying too much brings no solution.

If you want to work with the Law of Attraction successfully, you should keep it simple.

If you want to attract the life you want successfully (and, fast), make decisions and stand by them! Be courageous enough to actually make decisions and stick to them.

To make decisions successfully, you must know yourself and the best way to do so is to engage in anything that makes you happy.

Finally,

If you choose to move on…

Believe it’s for the best and feel good about your decision. You can’t have it both ways if you want to feel good – make a decision you actually feel good about!

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Thought of the Day 

For every desired manifestation, I only need to find the right affirmation.

With me, it’s not just about words – it’s about the right words.

The right affirmation triggers my being into most amazing visualizations, into the right visualizations.

How do I know they’re right? Because they reflect exactly what I wanted.

They make me feel the way I wanted to feel.