Making sense of the current reality is challenging enough but what can happen in a manifestation process is noticing the absence of a desire becoming one’s entire point of focus on the current reality.
This never happens intentionally. I mean, who would actually want to notice the absence of their desired manifestation?! No one. However, without proper guidance, strong focus and belief, distraction could come and take you away from your goal.
Knowing that everything you want is yours implies unconditional belief (which doesn’t mean that belief absolutely must be challenged during a manifestation process but if it is, so what – you choose your reality anyway) which is exactly what keeps you focused on your goal.
When you believe, your belief is all you need. Belief doesn’t ask for proof or a timeline. Belief is just there, like your desire is already there as far as your feelings are concerned and when you feel like it’s there already, you start manifesting.
Belief is everything. Belief allows you to experience everything you want immediately, let it go and allow yourself to manifest. Belief creates the fulfillment of having your desire.
I express gratitude for what I want being mine already until I don’t feel like thinking about it anymore – to me, that is the easiest way to let go. I love my desire but I also love having other interests in life besides my desire. I love manifesting new talents because I love when life is easy for me yet I sense a great deal of apprehension when I ask others how easy life is for them.
Many feel uncomfortable with the idea of an easy life, preferring it to be a fantasy rather than reality. Growing up, many were indirectly told they would only be valued individuals if blood, sweat and tears were involved, leaving those people untrusting of anything life offers them for free.
However, Law of Attraction wants you to be given as many things for free as you want. It wants your life to be easy and give nothing but positive feelings while receiving everything in return. You don’t actually need to bargain in life, especially for the things you care most about. You can have everything.
Think about it – if the Universe wants everything to be easy, what good is it to make our lives hard?
Making our lives difficult is the way to prevent manifesting our desires.
When you perceive difficulty, more of it comes and you dislike it. That is proof enough of difficulty going against our nature and purpose.
We often forget that relationship focus and coaching exist beyond simply manifesting the relationship you want. Once it’s manifested, you must keep it, and you will do so by dealing with your deepest issues which every one of your relationship problems came from in the past. If you deal with those, Law of Attraction will draw even more love into your romance than you had before because resolving your issues results in feeling good about yourself, finally attracting your dreams as a result.
That is how the process goes.
An existing couple is no different – they might get over a fight but the same issues will keep causing new ones in the future unless they are resolved. It’s not about the fight itself but about what causes it, and unless that issue causing a fight is addressed, it will keep coming back in different forms.
Some prefer to believe that the cause of a single fight was their partner’s reaction to our words, their words or specific actions; however, the cause of a fight lies in one’s (or both parties’) issues that have existed long before they even met their partner. When a fight happens, we don’t react to something we don’t care about. We actually react because our partner’s words or actions reminded us of an unpleasant feeling we’ve been holding onto for a while before we met them. We then project their words onto those feelings and end up upset, disregarding the notion they never meant to upset us and were just expressing themselves while we took it the way we did.
Fights can take over a relationship and we shouldn’t let them. Actually facing and dealing with those issues leading to them by causing us to be upset at someone’s words are what we should actually be facing. We have to be honest with ourselves about those issues if we want them to disappear and stop making us miserable, and we can make LoA work for us by doing so.
Issues can be dealt with in two ways – by thinking positive about ourselves and everything in our lives which leads us to easily resolving them by realizing we have outgrown them, or by facing them and realizing why they don’t matter anymore. Either way, it is by devaluing them because negative thoughts can cause misery if we choose to give them meaning.
We are much better off knowing our true self is stronger than any negative thoughts we may be holding on to. What hurts you doesn’t deserve you, and it certainly doesn’t deserve your attention.
Think well of yourself and think about those you love and admire. Focus on the people whose company you adore, and imagine spending time with them. All these things will shift your focus to personal happiness which leads to confidence in yourself and seeing yourself having what you want.
I have always had a very specific trigger to negative feelings in a relationship. I value feeling special and seeing myself as such, and when a boyfriend makes me feel anything but, my taste for the relationship starts to wane. In a relationship, I always give what I wish to receive by expressing how much my partner means to me yet my patience for being with someone who doesn’t express himself well enough has left me over the years. I want someone who dares to say what he means, has the courage to dive into love, be romantic and show me how much I mean to him.
In the past, I would summon enough love to see beyond hearing what I didn’t like but today, I want someone who sees and realizes that I want to be put first, because I put my partner first. Those who have no interest in doing this can move along.
Sometimes, it is easier for us to say that we “feel like this is happening, that’s how it’s gonna play out” and let the Law of Attraction work – this particular mindset can be an easy way out when it comes to manifesting relationships, as we sometimes feel more natural thinking that the outcome is our of our control. However, even when we “can feel the relationship will go this way,” we are choosing this outcome for our lives!
Every “feeling” you think may have come from somewhere else was also your choice to acknowledge and embrace, and with that, give meaning to and decide that it was to be the outcome of your manifestation; now, since you know that, choose the outcome you want and decide that that one was meant to be!
We choose the outcome of every situation, even when we don’t think we do.
And at times, I focused on what I didn’t like to the extend that I had to decide if whether I wanted to stay or leave the relationship.
If the situation doesn’t suit you and you don’t want to fix it, walk away. Time is much better spent thinking about having what you want than disliking what you have. Some issues in a relationship we don’t care to fix.
If you want to fix your own issues on the other hand, preventing them from interfering with your future relationship with the right person, face them and realize that they’re probably outdated. Chances are you already spent a sufficient amount of time dealing with them and it is time to put them behind you – this very notion is often enough to stop thinking about a problem.
If you want closure, visualizing a positive scenario in which your issue has been resolved. Visualize injustice corrected and a chance to tell someone what you wish to tell them. Imagine this playing out in your perfect but positive scenario because visualizing it in a negative and upset way will not make it go away.
Then, you will automatically put it behind you for good.
Knowing your desire is yours but not seeing it in your current reality just yet can be frustrating. At this stage of manifestation, you might be wondering what you’re supposed to be doing or simply how to distract yourself when the thought of having your desire makes you so excited that it is all you can possibly think about.
At this stage, you might be tempted to start “doing” something to make your desire manifest faster but please refrain – in this exact moment, you should simply distract yourself by doing other things, especially enjoying the things you have time for now but won’t as much once you have manifested your desire.
Every change of circumstances changes a life. With every new chapter, we have a little less time for some aspects of the previous. There are things you could be enjoying right now that you won’t have as much time or energy for once your desire is manifested so focus on them instead. In turn, they will allow you to let go of your desire entirely only to see it appear in your current reality faster than you think!
This change of focus is more beneficial than you might currently realize.
Letting go entails accepting life until your desire manifests into it; letting go can also be made easier when you realize that your desire is not perfect.
This is how the acceptance of your desire’s current imperfections can actually help you let go while you allow it to transform into everything you want it to be.
None of us are perfect and there is nothing wrong with that yet when it comes to manifesting our desires, we magnify our imperfections in our minds to the point of turning them into self-imposed issues. We look for reasons not to manifest our desires within ourselves, wondering if we deserve to have what we want while perceiving life and its circumstances bigger than they are. We fear change and are intimidated by others instead of accepting that no human being is more deserving than the other.
Instead of worrying about our own worth, we need to accept that we are as worthy as we make our desires to be in our minds. We must find all the meaning within ourselves that we assign to our desires every day.
I know that being yourself can be difficult at times. I understand the courage to be yourself can be difficult to come by. At the same time, I feel that most of our worries come from idealizing certain situations, people and relationships while underestimating ourselves but I guess we prefer to do so over realizing that none of it is perfect…because if we think that what we desire is actually perfect, we have an ideal to strive for. Continue reading “The Art of Letting Go – Beauty, Lightness and the Magnitude of Life”
I manifested two new trips last week just because I had been visualizing that I was on an airplane. I’m not sure why but the thought of being on a plane just felt good; it always does but I think it was peaceful because of the idea of traveling somewhere specific, knowing where I’m going, reaching a destination. Deciding on a goal just brings a sense of peace.
We like to know where we’re going and that is why deciding on a specific goal leads to rapid manifestation of one’s desire.
Hello everyone! Wow, I didn’t realize how long it had been since I last posted until I just saw the date of my last article. I am so sorry but I am going to catch up with all your comments and emails very soon!
I had taken a little time off and it was good for the soul, as they say. A part of it was consisted of searching for new inspiration and another part was simply enjoying life. It takes very little time to regroup when you keep a positive attitude and allow yourself to relax.
I went out with my elementary school friends on Saturday night. Unlike our class reunion two weekends ago, this was a smaller group of just a few people who have had several nights out together since December. Those nights started spontaneously – two of us found ourselves in the workplace of the third when the fourth suddenly showed up. After that, the four of us planned a night out, two planned the reunion and two days ago, we had a fun night out enjoying drinks and live music. I loved it when we started shooting pool later on, though I believe I will never be any good at it.
The four of us have known each other for twenty five years on average. I turned thirty two in January, two others followed last week and the youngest group member will next month. Having known each other for so long and being the exact same age, there is great understanding among us.
It’s amazing to see the extent to which my oldest friends have grown up to be fascinating individuals, simply by being themselves. One of them became an online sensation last year after he declined to charge a book blogger client for a cab ride – instead of the money, he asked for recommendations on some new reads. Continue reading “The Law of Attraction and Weekend Lessons, Part II”
Let’s talk about manifesting relationships because I have always found that the correct internal verbal expression of those relationships (which is different for every single individual) leads to positive thoughts and visualization which lead to belief.
Do you prefer to tell yourself that your desired relationship belongs to you already or internally state that it is going to manifest soon?
Which specific wording suits you better?
Some feel unnatural believing their relationships belong to them already but do feel good knowing that everything will come together soon. Others feel great about knowing that everything has already been worked out on an invisible level and just has to manifest in reality. Others genuinely feel good knowing that a relationship might manifest or that it might not, whatever feels best – there is a great deal of individuals out there who don’t practice LoA consciously when it comes to relationships because they feel it ruins the element of surprise. Continue reading “Specific Wording and Manifesting Relationships – Use YOUR Words to Create Positive Manifestations!”