The Law of Attraction can bring any two people together because it allows us to connect with the universal concept of living in love for another person.
Whenever I think about how much I love people, I get the most wonderful things in return. Continue reading “When You Love People, This is How They Love You Back”
Today, I started to think about forgiveness.
However, only in a very specific context.
I realized that a lack of enthusiasm for one’s manifestation is ultimately always connected to the lack of forgiveness. If we don’t forgive the past, the present, the negatives of our person or the situation, we will continue to focus on what made us upset rather than a positive future with our person or another desire. We will not be excited by a potential positive future with our person or another desire because we will keep thinking about what’s wrong with it or what caused us disappointment in the past; if we do that, we will continue to manifest those negatives in the present instead of manifesting a positive future we are excited about.NG
You might be upset by your negative past or present with the person whose love you want to manifest. You keep thinking about how much your person disappointed you which prevents you from seeing a happy future with them. When you think about being with them, you are not excited – you honestly think about whether or not this is even possible, as you have no idea if positive feelings about your situation could ever be revived.
You will be happy to know they can. And let me offer specific guidance as to how!
Positive feelings about your situation must be connected to forgiveness of the past because only forgiveness can make us put something behind us and stop thinking about it. For as long as we are bothered by any past or present negatives, we will continue to think about them because they easily evoke emotion in us; at the same time, when we forgive those past or present negatives, the only emotion left to focus on is the positive anticipation of our manifestation.
No one truly means to hurt you. The person you can’t seem to forgive never meant to hurt you in the first place. People do the best they can but sometimes, their best isn’t all that great when directed at you. Their best might have seemed like the right choice when they made it but it probably wasn’t the best they could have done overall, and they also probably know it.
People can lack courage and make the choices they are not proud of. They can be sorry after but their apology or knowing that they’re sorry might not mean so much to you, especially after you have already been hurt. You might say that no matter how sorry they are, they can’t ever go back and take back your hurt. They can’t go back and undo what they did, and they can’t go back and undo the hurt they caused you.
I want you to think about the following – is what they did truly so horrible that it must mean the end of the world to you? Were you in a relationship when it happened? Were their choices intended for hurting you or just a result of some poor decisions? Was everything you think you missed out on really that perfect or did you have a pretty great life in the meantime, filled with all kinds of wonderful experiences?
Was the time you spent apart from someone you wanted to be in a relationship with truly so depressing or did you enjoy your life in many other ways? If you had been in that relationship already, how many other things and experiences would you have missed out on? Was the result of your unhappy relationship, if we’re talking about an ex or a present partner, truly all on you or was it dependent on your mutual dynamics? Why feel inferior when every relationship problem comes from two sides, not just yours? It wasn’t about you – it was about your mutual connection at the time, a lack of happiness included. It was about your communication and the feelings that drove it.
Your specific person might have made some wrong choices but they might also not have been aware of the impact those choices were going to have. They might have made some wrong decisions because you hadn’t been together that long or at all, or they weren’t sure if you would still wanted to be with them. Maybe you were both bothered by certain things and didn’t know how to express yourselves.
But it’s okay. You’re human. You don’t always know how you feel straight away and you don’t always know how to change an unpleasant situation without some guidance.
If you decide that what they did was unforgivable, it’s probably time for you to walk away. But if you look closer and see that they made certain choices because you weren’t together or because they simply made a mistake, allow yourself to repaint a positive picture of them and allow for your positive expectations to allow them to make it up to you.
Say, “He/she will show me how much he/she cares. I’m going to give him/her time to do that.” But see, when you give someone time, you won’t ever wait for years – when you develop true patience, you will experience instant manifestation. Patience leads to knowing and letting go and impatience leads to prolonging of your manifestation.NG
Admit that their decisions resulted in poor choices but none of them meant the end of the road for your relationship. These choices only caused a difficult situation but were they really so unforgivable? I don’t know your specific situation but I do know that it’s possible for these wrong decisions to have been and still be forgivable. A little time has probably passed by now which can only make it easier for you to forgive – with time, the impact of the hurt we once experienced will inevitably diminish and offer us perspective instead.
Today might be the day to remind ourselves of it. Let go of the past and forgive your specific person for hurting you. Forgive them for the choices they made while you were apart. Forgive them for all the ways they left you out during your relationship, as they didn’t think they were causing you such pain to begin with. After it was all said and done, your specific person might have regretted their choices so believe them if they say so. Put yourself in their shoes and consider whether their actions should hold such consequences for the rest of your lives or not.
There was an interesting period in my life when I wanted to change but didn’t know who the new me wanted to be.
Equally, I didn’t know who I wanted the new me to be.
That’s what makes us lonely – not knowing who we are. And when we attach an idea of who we are to another person, a lover or a specific person we want to manifest a relationship with, we feel lonely without them.
We need them.
We falsely worry that our life would be empty without them.
Change the outcome by changing your attitude, awareness and behavior.
Change the outcome by engaging in self-love and putting yourself first.
Stop putting your desired partner before yourself, no matter how much you miss them – put yourself first at all times. And do so by knowing that your ideal relationship with them is a done deal.
I continuously encounter individuals who believe a great relationship is something they are entitled to.
A great relationship is something everyone deserves, just like any other blessing in life. Everyone deserves to experience happiness but those that receive it have in fact earned it with their positive mindsets, respect for others and gratitude for their lives.
Everyone deserves it but a positive individual earns it, allowing a happy relationship to come into one’s reality.
On the other hand, those projecting negative energy (be it frustration, desperation, negative self-image, impatience, rudeness or general dissatisfaction) are continuously preventing what they deserve, a great relationship in this case, to appear in their lives.
You get what you give; genuine appreciation for life, your own and those of others, ensures you will receive an abundance of goodness in return. You merely need to find that appreciation.
The idea of an amazing relationship being earned holds truth but requires explanation; stating this idea as simply as it looks in writing may evoke negative reactions instead of positive. One becomes worthy of a great relationship by viewing oneself in a positive light, focusing on everything they enjoy in life, respecting one’s unique qualities as well as the qualities of others and having personal integrity that ensures standing by one’s personal beliefs.
Many believe they must earn a great relationship by fulfilling requirements such as career success, a larger-than-life personality, financial wealth or being classically good looking. However, basic creation principles state that one’s beliefs create one’s awareness; for example, individuals who deeply believe they cannot earn a great relationship until they have a great job will encounter specific experiences reflecting those beliefs.
The truth is, the relationship you desire has nothing to do with your social status unless you decide to believe it. Those who stick to beliefs such as “Once I get a good job, I will have inner peace and be ready for a relationship” will most likely find that the job, the relationship and the inner peace continue to elude them. Postponing those experiences by masking them as future goals will ensure they remain distant goals, making it impossible to catch up to that “perfect future.”
Now, I am not saying your desires are irrelevant but for as long as you think “I’ll be confident once I have this,” you are creating a future goal that will always remain in the future. In reality, you must be feel deserving of your goals now, feeling confident in yourself before you can obtain them.
Contrary to popular belief, relationships have nothing to do with your social status, level of wealth, professional success or your looks. When it comes to relationships, you merely need to be confident in the person you are. You need to draw your confidence from internal factors instead of external. You need to recognize your personal qualities, the beauty of your physical traits, your intelligence and gratitude for everything you have in life.
One of the best ways to earn a great relationship rests in developing self-confidence, self-comfort and self-acceptance.
Amplifying those character traits with a positive mindset will allow you to focus on everything you love in life instead of everything you are currently missing. If you focus on your positive traits, you will effortlessly focus on your (potential) partner’s positive traits, enjoying your relationship immensely and solving problems in it easily. Suddenly, you will come to realize relationships were intended to be easy and enjoyable instead of being a constant ego battle between opposing sides. If you have an eye on a potential partner, you will be encouraged to communicate with them as you have recognized your own qualities while appreciating them for theirs. You will realize how much there is to be liked about you!
If you believe your looks are insufficient to evoke attraction in another, you will project an unhappy demeanor, tension and insecurity. The best part is, you can decide to focus on the aspects of your appearance you like instead. You can appreciate your beauty instead of focusing on the reasons it is less than perfect. This positive energy will evoke even more of the same, allowing you to feel increasingly great about yourself.
Ultimately, is there a real reason you should feel negatively about your appearance? Everyone holds a different idea of what beauty means. More importantly, we all respond to each other’s energy much stronger than any physical attributes – every time you were attracted someone who wasn’t your “type” proves that.
Do you compare yourself to others? This is another mistake which can prevent you from receiving life’s goods. Do you believe you must match an ideal another specific person represents to you while considering anything “less” to be insufficient? This mindset only states your lack of appreciation for yourself, as you feel undeserving of love. Even if you think your (potential) partner only wants the ideal you have imagined he/she must, it doesn’t mean you’re right.
We all know the story – one perceives their desired partner to be “too good for me.” “He/She is out of my league,” they imagine, never making a move or deeming themselves worthy instead. This thought process is perpetuated until the object of their affection meets someone else.
There are plenty of similar examples. However, it all comes down to the following.
Searching for the reasons to postpone living a happy relationship only shows that you doubt your own value. If recognizing the said value undoubtedly ensures finding a great relationship, what is the point of feeling inadequate?
I suggest you celebrate yourself and your life.
You have to play the lead role in your own reality instead of putting the person you want to manifest a relationship with first. You can prioritize them but imagine the relationship and your love as you want it and as it makes you happy!
I mean, being able to love someone the way you want to and have them love you back…don’t you love the thought of that?
Don’t you want that?