For the past few days, I haven’t been focusing on myself emotionally. I needed a reminder to actually focus on myself and not other things and people.
Unconditional love and acceptance, masked as not caring about what a person does or simply loving them for everything they are, allow us to manifest relationships rapidly. However, when forgiveness for the past or the present is involved, hurt feelings can get in the way of appreciating someone unconditionally.
It’s easy for us to accept the people we don’t care about or don’t perceive as important to our lives. On the other hand, those important to us are those we expect certain behaviors from and if our preferred behaviors are not immediately present, we can develop resentment or fear that our relationship is simply “not working out.”
The trick is to accept the person for who they are because then, we are able to imagine them treating us exactly the way we want to be treated. But if we don’t accept them to start, we won’t be able to imagine them being even better because we will continue to focus on their flaws and nothing else.
An dip into negative feelings can happen when we project our needs to the other person and expect them to fulfil those needs – in this case, we must ask ourselves if we are projecting onto them the needs we can only fulfil ourselves.
We don’t feel good when we are needy and this neediness often translates into wanting to receive more communication from the person. However, the way to achieve that is to imagine receiving this communication in the way that makes you feel good! You simply must give into good, positive feelings to make the Law of Attraction work – you want to imagine happily living your life with this person and being treated the way you want to be.
If you simply focus on them not doing what you want and not fulfilling your needs, you will lower your vibration and think permanently negatively of them as a result…and that will hurt your manifestation. Thinking poorly of someone translates into you seeing them not fulfilling your needs and not doing what you want, and your impression of the relationship growing in negativity.
Now is the time to ask yourself if you are asking your specific person to fulfil both sides of the equation – their own needs and your own? Because this doesn’t work. You have to do your part if you expect them to do theirs. Everything we give back, we receive in return.
When you love and accept a specific person unconditionally, they give the same to you.
On the other hand, when you are upset with a person’s behavior, they fail to give you the love and attention you desire and a relationship doesn’t manifest.
We must assume and visualize everything we wish to receive from a specific person while calling our negative thoughts false and paranoid. We simply must tell ourselves to think positive because only then can we assume the best of ourselves and everyone else.
We must only imagine the scenarios that make us the happiest.
Have you ever been involved with someone who has a negative influence on you in terms of you having a hard time accepting them yet still wanting to be with them and then, attracting problems into your own life as a result of a perpetually low vibration?
This usually happens when you love someone whose behavior in the current reality upsets you.
Want to know a secret? We’ve all been there and there is nothing that we can’t reverse in life with LoA so in reality, there is nothing to worry about. It doesn’t matter what situations you put yourself in – you can reverse them and their effect on your life.
LoA sometimes suggests that we can do anything without consequences but that’s not true. A low vibration due to whatever one has done is the worst consequence of all – that’s why we should always do good and expect good.
You will reverse someone’s impact on your low vibration by deciding that you are the most important person in your life and that nobody’s behavior should have the power to influence yours; with this, you will know that you must take care of your happiness first and attract a specific person second.
You will take care of your happiness first by pampering yourself, enjoying your friends or manifesting new ones – oftentimes, manifesting friendships can be easier than manifesting relationships and you should use that! Create your own identity first with a desired career, lifestyle, friends and pampering yourself/knowing what makes you happy. Once you have defined yourself, manifest a relationship.
Unless we know who we are, we cannot be happy with another person because we won’t know what exactly it is that makes us happy. We first have to decide.
In the past, I thought that one could simply wait to discover what they want and then manifest it; however, when I thought that, I had forgotten an important point I had always known in life.
One cannot grow into the person they wish to be unless they think about who exactly they want to be, what kind of person they wish to be and what exactly makes them happy. We have to think about these things until we find the answers – otherwise, we will go through life getting used to being in the comfort zone of “searching” for ourselves and never actually finding ourselves.
And once we know who we are and what we want, we will be able to manifest it.
We should expect nothing less than our desires manifesting and if we’re going to receive them, we must know that what happened in the past doesn’t matter because the moment you change your awareness and declare your intention, your present life is going to change. Your desire isn’t to be manifested in the future but in the present; the moment you ask for it, it’s yours entirely.
We can only produce miracles if we see no boundaries.
Knowing your desire is yours but not seeing it in your current reality just yet can be frustrating. At this stage of manifestation, you might be wondering what you’re supposed to be doing or simply how to distract yourself when the thought of having your desire makes you so excited that it is all you can possibly think about.
At this stage, you might be tempted to start “doing” something to make your desire manifest faster but please refrain – in this exact moment, you should simply distract yourself by doing other things, especially enjoying the things you have time for now but won’t as much once you have manifested your desire.
Every change of circumstances changes a life. With every new chapter, we have a little less time for some aspects of the previous. There are things you could be enjoying right now that you won’t have as much time or energy for once your desire is manifested so focus on them instead. In turn, they will allow you to let go of your desire entirely only to see it appear in your current reality faster than you think!
This change of focus is more beneficial than you might currently realize.
You might be familiar with this situation – you want to attract a relationship with a specific person only to find yourself diving into negative thoughts instead of planning the relationship you say you want to have.
First of all, engaging in negative thoughts is always a choice – they can come unexpectedly but we either choose to engage in love or fear. Many of us have engaged in both at different times in our lives. At any moment, we have the power to change our thoughts to positive so when you notice yourself in an upsetting thought process, choose belief instead!
Choosing belief goes a long way in manifesting love because by engaging in the thoughts of having what you want already, you are consciously choosing to see the best in the person you love and emit the loving energy you wish to receive. The loving visualizations and energy you emit are your own personal communication of what you wish to receive.
In my books, blogging and personal coaching, I have always emphasized two options for using affirmations to attract the desired – being grateful for your desire being yours already or expressing gratitude for your desire being on its way. Either way works but your choice depends on what makes you comfortable, allowing you to either feel good about everything being yours already or accept its upcoming arrival without experiencing resistance from being too aware it isn’t here yet. (The latter requires being okay in your current reality as it is, until your desire arrives).
Some can easily imagine their desires being a done deal in the sense of belonging to them already – these individuals have the easiest time imagining reality as they want it to be. Others can imagine themselves having their desires but have an easier time thinking those desires are still coming to life which allows them to let go.
I still switch between the two depending on the goal in question but today, I prefer the method of expressing gratitude for living my desired reality right now. It’s my life already; it’s mine right now. Technique one.
I’ve noticed another manifestation epidemic – one might fear their desire to be too much for them to handle, fearing their own inadequacy in the face of true happiness.
If you have ever felt this way, you probably questioned your ability to handle everything that comes with attracting your desire. The idea of your dreams finally coming true might have been perplexing if you ever worried about losing them soon after receiving, causing you to prevent yourself from enjoying a much happier idea of living them.
Worrying about losing your dreams soon after they come true stems from idealizing them and under-appreciating yourself. Even if just subconsciously, thinking of your dream as an emotional utopia you don’t deserve causes self-doubt.
What has happened when one suddenly has much to share about one’s life, wanting to shout it from the rooftops? At the same time, this thing one is simply dying to share also requires nurturing and privacy, for certain aspects of it were meant to be cherished behind closed doors?
You might have guessed it – one has fallen in love.
The question of how one becomes aware of being in love is obsolete – when we know, we just know.
If you say you’ve decided to manifest your desire but then engage in self-doubt, you haven’t truly decided.
Making a decision means placing all your belief into that decision.