For the past few days, I haven’t been focusing on myself emotionally. I needed a reminder to actually focus on myself and not other things and people.
We like to imagine ourselves having what we want but we also like to think about who we are.
Everyone has a Law of Attraction block to overcome at one point or another. To some, this is distrust in the process; to others, it’s a lack of faith in their abilities. To others, it’s focusing on the current reality and being so upset about it that it prevents them from thinking about the ideal. To me, this was forgiveness.
At some point in my life, I became very unforgiving. I had created an idea in my mind that those who deserve me simply don’t make a certain kind of mistakes one should never make in a friendship or a relationship and if they did, I would discard them and move on (in most cases).
And then, I realized that I simply didn’t think these people were worth forgiving and I didn’t truly want them in my life. That moment, I knew that I would someday choose a partner who was too good of a person to make the deal-breaker type mistakes but still wondered how I would react if they committed less serious errors out of poor momentary judgement.
I started looking around and realized that most of those close to me occasionally committed these casual errors already. When I observed my reactions to those errors, they were usually harsh and, as if the person had forever let me down, resulted in a deep change in perception I had of this person. Even when I knew these errors didn’t mean that the person who committed them was entirely wrong about everything, I still held them to poor esteem simply because I didn’t want to forgive, thinking that their casual error never should have happened and that their judgement simply never should have been so off.
And then, I realized that if I never forgave even the smallest errors, those unintentional, casual and forgivable mistakes, I would never keep anyone in my life. I needed to stop being so upset and unforgiving of others’ mistakes, and focus on the people who were actually worth forgiving.
Focusing on why the person is worth forgiving and on who they are was the key. If someone simply needs to think a little more before acting because their spontaneous reactions hurt you, bring it to their attention or simply visualize them treating you with all the attentiveness you wish to receive (and then believe they will – simply choose to believe in them!). Focus on what they did right and magically, they will start making all the right moves very soon. However, if you continue to be upset with them, they will keep making the moves you dislike. Feeling good about someone now ensures their more than positive displays towards you in the near future.
In my books, blogging and personal coaching, I have always emphasized two options for using affirmations to attract the desired – being grateful for your desire being yours already or expressing gratitude for your desire being on its way. Either way works but your choice depends on what makes you comfortable, allowing you to either feel good about everything being yours already or accept its upcoming arrival without experiencing resistance from being too aware it isn’t here yet. (The latter requires being okay in your current reality as it is, until your desire arrives).
Some can easily imagine their desires being a done deal in the sense of belonging to them already – these individuals have the easiest time imagining reality as they want it to be. Others can imagine themselves having their desires but have an easier time thinking those desires are still coming to life which allows them to let go.
I still switch between the two depending on the goal in question but today, I prefer the method of expressing gratitude for living my desired reality right now. It’s my life already; it’s mine right now. Technique one.
The other night, I was in a deep discussion with a friend as we were driving around the city at 2 a.m.. Sharing experiences of recent and not-so-recent encounters with men, her accurate grasp of relationships absolutely amazed me.
I manifested two new trips last week just because I had been visualizing that I was on an airplane. I’m not sure why but the thought of being on a plane just felt good; it always does but I think it was peaceful because of the idea of traveling somewhere specific, knowing where I’m going, reaching a destination. Deciding on a goal just brings a sense of peace.
We like to know where we’re going and that is why deciding on a specific goal leads to rapid manifestation of one’s desire.
Being specific has its ups and downs. Then again, anything does.
In life, my actions always reflected a core belief of “I want this so I am going to have it – nothing else, nothing less!” which led me to certain manifestations that looked nothing like I had imagined.
I went out with my elementary school friends on Saturday night. Unlike our class reunion two weekends ago, this was a smaller group of just a few people who have had several nights out together since December. Those nights started spontaneously – two of us found ourselves in the workplace of the third when the fourth suddenly showed up. After that, the four of us planned a night out, two planned the reunion and two days ago, we had a fun night out enjoying drinks and live music. I loved it when we started shooting pool later on, though I believe I will never be any good at it.
The four of us have known each other for twenty five years on average. I turned thirty two in January, two others followed last week and the youngest group member will next month. Having known each other for so long and being the exact same age, there is great understanding among us.
It’s amazing to see the extent to which my oldest friends have grown up to be fascinating individuals, simply by being themselves. One of them became an online sensation last year after he declined to charge a book blogger client for a cab ride – instead of the money, he asked for recommendations on some new reads.