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Girl Talk: How Positive Feelings Lead to Specific Positive Experiences in Dating and Relationships

The other night, I was in a deep discussion with a friend as we were driving around the city at 2 a.m.. Sharing experiences of recent and not-so-recent encounters with men, her accurate grasp of relationships absolutely amazed me.

Insightful and astute, my friend instantly pinpointed the gist of any story she or I shared. I was humbled in the most amazing way, in adoration and respect of this fresh mind – not perspective but the mind itself, as she managed to angle her perception any which way in order to reach the necessary answers. Her mind was just flawlessly on.

My own mind wasn’t entirely on that particular night. I found myself drifting from jokes to listening without responding verbally, focused as my listening was. The night was fun but after a while, I wanted to change my current state of mind. My moments of disconnect happen rarely but I have long decided to own them when they do, admitting to thinly veiled jokes and my entirely honest thoughts. Calling it as I feel it, I feel better when I admit it anyway. Secrets have no use and pretence has no place in a happy and more importantly, free individual’s life.

Keeping secrets is a burden, mostly when you keep your own…and every individual pretending to be someone else keeps the biggest secret of all. Avoiding authenticity has no place in happy relationships and if you wish to attract them, loving and accepting yourself fully is what attracts love and acceptance from your desired partner, even in moments of disagreement.

Pretending to be anyone other than who you are equals keeping a secret.

My friend openly expressed her current views and faced the evolvement of her situation with acceptance and positivity; much to her glee, she experienced a positive turnaround less than an hour after I dropped her off. In regard to one particular discussion, she opened my mind – a gesture I was immensely grateful for. In another discussion, her kind words appealed to my already open heart.

She had made me think.

My friend attracted what she wanted by accepting the current reality for what it was, feeling good about herself and the other person, and lovingly imagining the future.

She helped me back into my sense of inner peace which I attracted with her help.

Best part, this discussion didn’t even seem heavy. I am used to feeling so light that either anything feels light or what feels heavy I apologize for bringing up but this was serious yet normal, natural and typical of the way life goes. It was comforting and positive.

I am a person with specific preferences that knows what she wants. I like my mind clear and respectfully expressive which usually leads to rediscovering that most people aren’t used to honesty. When it comes to relationships, I also experienced moments of thinking that a profoundly happy love was the simplest thing to ask for yet the most complicated goal to achieve but when I say moments, I literally mean moments – my positive mind would allow me to snap out of it momentarily and remember what I believed instead. Fleeting is not a problem as long as it doesn’t equate one’s core belief (and then, it isn’t fleeting anyway). That night, my friend reminded me of my goals instead of allowing me to indulge in short-term distractions. She helped me out of that moment and back into my positive thoughts while her story inspired me.

My relationship goals are my core and mental distractions are temporary – I feel like I’ve been coming to terms with this particular lesson since the beginning of the year.

My friend also reminded me of something unexpected – when faced with conflicted thoughts, talking them out helps. I prefer talking about my conflicted thoughts to be as brief as possible, never going into overtime, as my fastest track to their (dis)solution tends to be calling them what they are and moving forward. Indulging in them has never made me happy and I doubt it ever could. Indulging in negative thoughts is nothing but mental hibernation.

Those who indulge in negative thoughts about relationships continue to attract the same type of person and relationship over and over. If you are currently attracting the type of person and relationship you don’t want anymore, you simply must change focus.

My friend had – starting off conflicted about her relationship, she eventually began to feel good about it and manifested its improvement. She attracted improvement with the same person.

I needed to self-improve that night and she helped me. I am a better person for it, as I have faced and resolved my latest annoyances with her help.

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Manifesting Situation 

I manifested two new trips last week just because I had been visualizing that I was on an airplane. I’m not sure why but the thought of being on a plane just felt good; it always does but I think it was peaceful because of the idea of traveling somewhere specific, knowing where I’m going, reaching a destination. Deciding on a goal just brings a sense of peace. 

We like to know where we’re going and that is why deciding on a specific goal leads to rapid manifestation of one’s desire. 

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The Truth Behind Changing Your Mind in Specific Manifestations

Being specific has its ups and downs. Then again, anything does.

In life, my actions always reflected a core belief of “I want this so I am going to have it – nothing else, nothing less!” which led me to certain manifestations that looked nothing like I had imagined.

Once upon a time in college, I wanted a specific internship. The company seemed goal-oriented in my specific taste and I was excited about the interview. I had already decided that I would get it and dressed up for the interview only to be disappointed as soon as I got there. The building wasn’t in the best shape, their offices were unappealing and the job description I had read was already altered. The interviewers were describing responsibilities not listed in the job description that sounded plain boring and I walked out of there motivated to find something else.

I thought to myself, “I would fall asleep on the job every day if I had to work here!” And it would have probably been more exciting.

Upon my return to campus, I asked about some additional internship options and was told of another one. However, this company’s executive had already been to campus to conduct some interviews and left. One of the candidates he had interviewed was a friend of mine who wanted that position like I wanted my first choice before actually seeing what it looked like, and I didn’t expect a call at first. However, something was telling me to keep an open mind. I just had a feeling they would call me anyway.

About an hour later, the phone rang. It was the executive who had been to campus asking me to come in for an interview. He heard there was another candidate on campus interested in them, as I had listed them last minute, and wanted to meet. I agreed and found out that I would be interviewed by him and another female executive.

Two days later, reaching their offices proved to be a positive experience and the job position sounded as great as it did on paper. I was offered the position on the spot; however, I told them I wanted to interview with the last company I had put down on my list of internship options first. That final interview was scheduled the following day and I promised to call them straight after. Later that evening, I sat down with a friend who wanted the job I was offered and told him about the offer and that I wanted to take it. I wanted him to hear it from me. Being a wonderfully heartfelt person, he was fully supportive and even said he didn’t expect to get the job himself because the interview hadn’t gone as fascinatingly as he had thought it would. This friend of mine ended up getting a job in the first company I interviewed for and performed it with absolute ease whereas I am sure I would have done it poorly.

The next day, I skipped the final interview and called my new bosses to tell them I was accepting their offer. Apparently, they’d been on pins and needles waiting for my call. The job I skipped interviewing for that morning went to another friend of mine who loved it and wanted it for herself whereas I was only planning to go out of principle (and missed it out of that same principle in the end).

Deciding that I wanted something specific without finding out too much about it first hadn’t bothered me even when it turned out like this. I always thought that no matter how much I knew something or someone, I could always change my mind later anyway…or not. Time never meant too much to me in these cases, as I never viewed it as a sign of security in my feelings.

If the fact is that I could always change my mind, no matter how much I know (we all can), why not dive in from the beginning? Why not follow my good feelings, even if I change my mind tomorrow?

If I waited until deciding that something was either right for me or not before making a move, nothing would ever happen. Also, sometimes you simply must try to decide. If I’m not sure about wanting to try it, I usually don’t or at least wait until the moment I do. If I know immediately, great. If I know that I’ll never be interested in something no matter how much I tried, I move onto something else. However, I move with my feelings. If I want something but then change my mind, I know that changing my mind will last for a while if not forever. I know these things because that is who I am – each one of us is a different blend of awareness, wishes and preferences, and it is of utmost importance to not judge yourself for changing your mind when you do. You’re allowed to!

Being specific sometimes shows me that what I thought I wanted isn’t exactly what I had imagined and sometimes, that’s a good thing. It can be even better than you imagined! But at other times, it isn’t as good so you change your mind. This is completely normal but many have been conditioned to see it as a problem or a sign of immaturity when in fact it is a common factor in life.

If had I said that I would wait until after the interviews before deciding which of these internships I wanted, it wouldn’t have changed anything. I would have ended up in the exact same place. The goal is what’s important and when it comes to successful manifestation, it is all about focusing on one’s end goal and never worrying about the way everything will unfold.

The moment I felt that the company I ended up working for was going to call, I had made a decision to work for them. Even if I wasn’t aware of it at the time, I had made that decision. I had attracted working for them and didn’t worry about how everything happen which caused it to unfold in the most amazing way. That is the basis of Law of Attraction – keep it light, stay positive and feel good but be calm and certain.

 

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The Law of Attraction and Weekend Lessons, Part II

I went out with my elementary school friends on Saturday night. Unlike our class reunion two weekends ago, this was a smaller group of just a few people who have had several nights out together since December. Those nights started spontaneously – two of us found ourselves in the workplace of the third when the fourth suddenly showed up. After that, the four of us planned a night out, two planned the reunion and two days ago, we had a fun night out enjoying drinks and live music. I loved it when we started shooting pool later on, though I believe I will never be any good at it.

The four of us have known each other for twenty five years on average. I turned thirty two in January, two others followed last week and the youngest group member will next month. Having known each other for so long and being the exact same age, there is great understanding among us.

It’s amazing to see the extent to which my oldest friends have grown up to be fascinating individuals, simply by being themselves. One of them became an online sensation last year after he declined to charge a book blogger client for a cab ride – instead of the money, he asked for recommendations on some new reads. In sheer amazement, his client gifted him several books and paid for the cab ride. I had heard the story without knowing it was him and after rereading the articles (the story had come out last year and was covered by multiple websites), we had a blast discussing all the comments.

Another one wants the next big step in his life to be parenthood. He says it would make him happier than anything and he is ready. He’s a relaxed, happy and natural person with a healthy attitude towards relationships as well as a great friend. I believe it’s going to happen for him soon.

I love talking to both of them about anything I feel like sharing, laughing out loud to nearly every story I hear. We are entirely relaxed around each other and thrive on being ourselves.

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I wrote this to remind everyone that love, comfort and beauty are within.

Before all of us met up again soon after the reunion, I knew that we would have a good, fun night. We somehow remained close friends even though some of us haven’t seen each other in many years and I have been grateful for our friendship and mutual understanding. There was a Law of Attraction lesson in it – appreciate what you have and even more will come. Appreciating my friends for the great people they are showed me they were even more amazing than I knew because appreciating what you see truly leads to seeing even more than you asked for.

There’s also another fantastic benefit of having friends that have the power to truly capture your attention and make you laugh to tears.

When you spend time with friends who make you forget about everything else, your vibration shifts. You can see yourself having what you want without needing it (or needing anything else) because happiness fulfills our needs. Not anyone or anything but pure happiness.

Those who make me laugh boost the feeling of pure happiness in me.

Was there something that made you particularly happy in the past few days? Share your thoughts in the comments section!

Manifesting Situation

While shopping once, I bought a blazer which didn’t fit right on a second glance. I was surprised but as it turned out, my mother had bought a T-shirt that same day which she decided wasn’t right after all. We switched – my blazer fit her perfectly and her T fit me.

Sometimes, you will find the right fit in a way you hadn’t imagined but know one thing – manifestation can only happen in an even better way than imagined.

Simplicity, as my LoA savvy T says.

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My new T-shirt print happened to be the essence of LoA.