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Girl Talk: How Positive Feelings Lead to Specific Positive Experiences in Dating and Relationships

The other night, I was in a deep discussion with a friend as we were driving around the city at 2 a.m.. Sharing experiences of recent and not-so-recent encounters with men, her accurate grasp of relationships absolutely amazed me.

Insightful and astute, my friend instantly pinpointed the gist of any story she or I shared. I was humbled in the most amazing way, in adoration and respect of this fresh mind – not perspective but the mind itself, as she managed to angle her perception any which way in order to reach the necessary answers. Her mind was just flawlessly on.

My own mind wasn’t entirely on that particular night. I found myself drifting from jokes to listening without responding verbally, focused as my listening was. The night was fun but after a while, I wanted to change my current state of mind. My moments of disconnect happen rarely but I have long decided to own them when they do, admitting to thinly veiled jokes and my entirely honest thoughts. Calling it as I feel it, I feel better when I admit it anyway. Secrets have no use and pretence has no place in a happy and more importantly, free individual’s life.

Keeping secrets is a burden, mostly when you keep your own…and every individual pretending to be someone else keeps the biggest secret of all. Avoiding authenticity has no place in happy relationships and if you wish to attract them, loving and accepting yourself fully is what attracts love and acceptance from your desired partner, even in moments of disagreement.

Pretending to be anyone other than who you are equals keeping a secret.

My friend openly expressed her current views and faced the evolvement of her situation with acceptance and positivity; much to her glee, she experienced a positive turnaround less than an hour after I dropped her off. In regard to one particular discussion, she opened my mind – a gesture I was immensely grateful for. In another discussion, her kind words appealed to my already open heart.

She had made me think.

My friend attracted what she wanted by accepting the current reality for what it was, feeling good about herself and the other person, and lovingly imagining the future.

She helped me back into my sense of inner peace which I attracted with her help.

Best part, this discussion didn’t even seem heavy. I am used to feeling so light that either anything feels light or what feels heavy I apologize for bringing up but this was serious yet normal, natural and typical of the way life goes. It was comforting and positive.

I am a person with specific preferences that knows what she wants. I like my mind clear and respectfully expressive which usually leads to rediscovering that most people aren’t used to honesty. When it comes to relationships, I also experienced moments of thinking that a profoundly happy love was the simplest thing to ask for yet the most complicated goal to achieve but when I say moments, I literally mean moments – my positive mind would allow me to snap out of it momentarily and remember what I believed instead. Fleeting is not a problem as long as it doesn’t equate one’s core belief (and then, it isn’t fleeting anyway). That night, my friend reminded me of my goals instead of allowing me to indulge in short-term distractions. She helped me out of that moment and back into my positive thoughts while her story inspired me.

My relationship goals are my core and mental distractions are temporary – I feel like I’ve been coming to terms with this particular lesson since the beginning of the year.

My friend also reminded me of something unexpected – when faced with conflicted thoughts, talking them out helps. I prefer talking about my conflicted thoughts to be as brief as possible, never going into overtime, as my fastest track to their (dis)solution tends to be calling them what they are and moving forward. Indulging in them has never made me happy and I doubt it ever could. Indulging in negative thoughts is nothing but mental hibernation.

Those who indulge in negative thoughts about relationships continue to attract the same type of person and relationship over and over. If you are currently attracting the type of person and relationship you don’t want anymore, you simply must change focus.

My friend had – starting off conflicted about her relationship, she eventually began to feel good about it and manifested its improvement. She attracted improvement with the same person.

I needed to self-improve that night and she helped me. I am a better person for it, as I have faced and resolved my latest annoyances with her help.

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Thought of the Day

Successful manifestation is all about starting to believe you’re an individual for whom life is just easy and to whom success comes naturally. You know you deserve it.

Change your core, change your life. 

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Self-Love is Your Inner Strength, Relationship Confidence and Encompassing Personal Beauty

It is what you believe you have a difficult time manifesting that causes attachment in you.

Changing yourself to assume the lightness of character, endless self-confidence and unwavering belief is achieved with self-love. Those who doubt this notion haven’t tried engaging in self-love just yet.

And when it comes to manifesting love with somebody else, self-love is your starting point. Self-love is what makes you believe that you can live the kind of love you want and deserve with somebody else (or a specific person you have fallen in love with and want to be spending your life with).

In my life, I quickly got used to following my positive feelings while keeping my freedom; at the same time, I hadn’t always sought out love as much as I sought out fun. I was confusing love with attachment and thought that engaging in love meant that I would inevitably end up feeling trapped. This was my learning period and now that I read it, it sounds very juvenile. I was always just as honest with myself about my fears of boredom or anything else and knew I would open up to love when I decided to. I had made the mistake of thinking that love inevitably leads to boredom instead of deciding that I would be experiencing the kind of love I wanted immediately. That was a (very) quick overview of my former relationship outlook.

I genuinely thought, “What is so special about making a life goal out of getting married and having children? Anyone can do it! And when it turns into a goal, one runs the risk of lowering their criteria just to find someone to marry and reproduce with as soon as possible. Marriage and children should be a part of life, not the ultimate goal because what do you do after you’ve had them?”

See what I mean?

That is not to say I haven’t given love a chance with various types of men. I just knew it wouldn’t last but wanted to enjoy it while it did. In an odd way, this was also positive – I wanted to be in a happy relationship with someone I was mesmerised with, even if I knew my fascination with his goodness wouldn’t last. Eventually, the fascination ended and all that was left was appreciation (or a lack thereof) but it was appreciation sufficient for a friendship, not a loving relationship.

My need for freedom was caused by previous relationships in which I had felt suffocated and I needed to get over that. For as long as I confused love for suffocation, I would be trying to escape it instead of enjoy it.

The truth is that we are all free – love lasts for as long as it does and even if we cannot choose how long we will love somebody for, we can choose to always treat them with honesty and respect. You get what you give. Staying with someone if you don’t want to isn’t fair but being honest with them and allowing the both of you to move on with your lives is. You don’t have to be perfect.

You just have to stand by your decisions, have integrity and have the strength to follow up, no matter how difficult it is for you. A decision is always one way – you can’t have it both ways and expect to be respected, by yourself or others.

I took a lot of heat for ending some of my relationships but knew it was the right thing to do. I just wasn’t feeling it anymore and nobody was changing my mind. However, I didn’t take it personally. It didn’t matter who disagreed with me – I only relied on my own approval.

Self-love allows you to follow your heart because making the right love-based decision for yourself means making the best decision for everyone involved. If you know something is right for you, eventually it will have proven to be so for everyone involved, maybe even sooner rather than later. 

All these personal attitudes were formed either prior to or as a result of my starting to look at relationships as something easy and natural – I’m not sure what order it went in but it doesn’t matter. One of these factors inevitably leads to another as a happy and healthy outlook is formed. After all, relationships can only work when fuelled by love, no matter how or when it happens.

Those who fear relationships and break-ups see them as difficult parts of life, causing their minds and hearts to close off to them and prevent them from manifesting.

If you see something as difficult, causing you sadness or simply impossible, you are preventing yourself from manifesting it. Emotional openness, positivity and feelings of fulfilment are the energy that attracts your desires while difficulty and sadness cause you to close yourself off from having what you want. 

Difficulty leads to noticing that your desire has not manifested yet which leads to attachment. Instead, adopt an attitude of your desires being easy to manifest! Decide that this easy manifesting is to start this second and allow your life to finally change.

Using the Law of Attraction truly shows us that everything is connected. Now, we must use this connection to attract what we love into our lives by creating the most amazing environment for it to thrive in with our own feelings and expressions of love. 

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The Law of Attraction and Weekend Lessons, Part II

I went out with my elementary school friends on Saturday night. Unlike our class reunion two weekends ago, this was a smaller group of just a few people who have had several nights out together since December. Those nights started spontaneously – two of us found ourselves in the workplace of the third when the fourth suddenly showed up. After that, the four of us planned a night out, two planned the reunion and two days ago, we had a fun night out enjoying drinks and live music. I loved it when we started shooting pool later on, though I believe I will never be any good at it.

The four of us have known each other for twenty five years on average. I turned thirty two in January, two others followed last week and the youngest group member will next month. Having known each other for so long and being the exact same age, there is great understanding among us.

It’s amazing to see the extent to which my oldest friends have grown up to be fascinating individuals, simply by being themselves. One of them became an online sensation last year after he declined to charge a book blogger client for a cab ride – instead of the money, he asked for recommendations on some new reads. In sheer amazement, his client gifted him several books and paid for the cab ride. I had heard the story without knowing it was him and after rereading the articles (the story had come out last year and was covered by multiple websites), we had a blast discussing all the comments.

Another one wants the next big step in his life to be parenthood. He says it would make him happier than anything and he is ready. He’s a relaxed, happy and natural person with a healthy attitude towards relationships as well as a great friend. I believe it’s going to happen for him soon.

I love talking to both of them about anything I feel like sharing, laughing out loud to nearly every story I hear. We are entirely relaxed around each other and thrive on being ourselves.

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I wrote this to remind everyone that love, comfort and beauty are within.

Before all of us met up again soon after the reunion, I knew that we would have a good, fun night. We somehow remained close friends even though some of us haven’t seen each other in many years and I have been grateful for our friendship and mutual understanding. There was a Law of Attraction lesson in it – appreciate what you have and even more will come. Appreciating my friends for the great people they are showed me they were even more amazing than I knew because appreciating what you see truly leads to seeing even more than you asked for.

There’s also another fantastic benefit of having friends that have the power to truly capture your attention and make you laugh to tears.

When you spend time with friends who make you forget about everything else, your vibration shifts. You can see yourself having what you want without needing it (or needing anything else) because happiness fulfills our needs. Not anyone or anything but pure happiness.

Those who make me laugh boost the feeling of pure happiness in me.

Was there something that made you particularly happy in the past few days? Share your thoughts in the comments section!

Your Personality Type and Manifestation

Combining some light psychology and manifestation can be useful. Today, we are going to discuss your personality, preferences, habits and ways of expressing yourself that can help your manifestation play out as smoothly as possible.

Some people are extroverted and others, introverted. Some are outgoing and others are shy. Some are open and others tend to be distrusting for a variety of reasons. Some love to have booming social lives while others prefer to socialize mainly with their closest friends. Some are optimists and others are pessimists, even if they wish to be optimists instead and are currently working on achieving that goal. Some love to take risks while others like to feel comfortable. All of us love novelty in different ways.

How well do you know yourself? Knowing what kind of person you are helps you reach your full manifestation potential. What are you used to? More importantly, what would you prefer to experience?

Our strongest character traits can drive us in our lives. The things we seek and the lives we value can help us define the path in which we see our future manifestations coming together. Our personalities can help us manifest if we stay positive yet true to ourselves.

Are you upbeat? Do you like to engage in the things that keep you happy and excited? Or, do you get excited about many things without effort? Either way, you can boost your manifestation with the behaviors that are organic to you.

You probably like to enjoy the things that make you excited so try and incorporate living your desire with that. What would your desired manifestation have to entail in order for you to feel comfortable with it yet never lose yourself? If you like an adrenaline rush, take action towards your desire but only if the thought of doing so makes you happy while you expect nothing in return. In this case, you would simply be feeding your own happiness. You will feel excitement just from making a move! At the same time, always remain positive.

Are you an extremely strong person? Do you feel good but are rarely rattled, reducing your worries to problems larger than your own? If you think that nothing is a big deal (or, that many others make a big deal out of nothing), you stand a great chance at fast manifestation due to your steady mind and a resistance-free outlook on life.

Just like nothing else is a big deal, neither is your manifestation – it is just as likely to happen as anything else. Believe! You can receive your desire because it’s a regular thing in life. Something you are wishing for has already manifested for someone else before you and there will be others who will manifest the same type of thing in the future. It’s not as big of a deal as it seems.

Are you a highly positive person? Do you like to turn every situation in life into something positive or better yet, something you actually want?

You might not usually manifest many specific situations but rather have a habit of turning everything you encounter into something positive, knowing it’s going to work out for the best. Use your lack of need for specific details and focus on your end result – keep your end goal simple and you’ll succeed fast!

Are you imaginative? If you are, you can use the power of visualization effortlessly. With your eyes open or closed, focused or in passing, imagine that you have what you want, now. What are you doing with it? How do you feel? Who are you? Use the power of your imagination and live your desire as if it were reality right now!

If you like to imagine what makes you feel good, simply imagine your future.

Are you usually quiet? Then, you might prefer your desires to come to you without you “doing” anything but feeling good about yourself and allowing manifestation to happen by letting go. The steps in between will align. 

Imagine a world in which your desires have manifested. You were comfortable with manifestation and are now happy. Wasn’t it easy yet you were able to be yourself, taking all the time you needed? 

When you happily think about living in the world where you have everything you wanted, say an affirmation which reflects having your desire in your life or lovingly visualize living what you wanted. Then, just be yourself. 

Be positive and believe.

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A “Big Deal” Manifestation – Has it Ever Happened to You?

This often happens with relationships but can also be experienced with any desire one considers to be a gigantic life change or the answer to all their problems, the ultimate escape from their current reality.

Some simply see their desire as a big deal that would make them happy beyond their wildest dreams and change their life forever. Even though positive in its core, this particular way of looking at your desire can cause resistance in you instead of allowing for a smooth manifestation process.

If you think your desired manifestation will be the answer to all your problems or somehow add value to your person and life, remember that you are the one who has to provide their own life with value. Someone can be an addition to you but you must hold your own value. You could have more money, your dream career or a bigger home but you still must provide value to your own life.

See what I mean?

You might think that you will be validated when your specific person asks you to marry them or when you get that perfect job. However, you must validate yourself now. You are the only person who has to recognize your own value before anyone else does. If you know your value, you will know your power. You will know what you deserve and that is everything you want.

If you want your desired manifestation to make you valuable, think about it again. If you don’t feel valuable, why should your desired manifestation happen in the first place?

When we feel poorly about ourselves, nothing happens but when we feel good, we make everything happen for ourselves with our thoughts and feelings.

When you feel valuable, you are happy to contribute to the world, your relationships and choose the life you want simply because you deserve it. When you realize you are valuable and beautiful, your desired manifestation seems like the natural next step for you instead of some goal that will forever be out of reach.

Don’t be afraid to feel and think well of yourself – you deserve it.

 

Why I Love to Manifest

When it comes to LoA, I know that some fear it, don’t believe in it, find it too difficult or simply don’t believe in themselves. I am positive that most individuals realize that there are ways of making their dreams a reality but don’t believe the process can be easy; I am sure that some of those individuals believe LoA to be real but resist using it for various reasons.

Every time I attract things many don’t believe to be possible within hours, days or weeks, I realize how much I love to manifest all over again. I love it when I receive the exact work gigs I wanted. I love it when I manifest living somewhere I wanted to live. I love being offered even greater professional fees than I had imagined. I love manifesting contact from anyone I wanted to talk to. And, I love the feeling of immense excitement and gratitude every time I manifest intentionally.

Today, I loved manifesting one of my closest friends coming to visit me just weeks after I had taken a trip to see her. We’ve been close for twelve years and never failed to visit each other wherever we lived after college, the first day of which we had met. We spent a week together in June and wanted that to continue; we’d been talking about another week together since parting and today, an hour after I expressed gratitude for her coming to visit me, she informed me that she had booked her tickets.

In moments like these, my love for intentional manifestation seems to be the greatest whenever I do something to make both myself and others happy. When it comes to friendships and loves, we manifest mutual love and adoration. When it comes to manifesting the happiness, prosperity and well-being of others, we also manifest mutual love that is both ours for directing happy feelings at another and theirs for receiving the abundance of all sorts. If you wish someone well, their life will get even better.

Always wish others well – it will come back to you tenfold. Always manifest loving friendships and relationships, and cherish all those amazing individuals in your life. Always be convinced of your personal power and your ability to make others happy, and you will have the most amazing friendships and relationships in your life; your friends will support your relationships and your friendships will be even richer in love and value.

A Great Person?

Why feel good about yourself? There is simply no reason not to. You already know I believe that.

Greatly discussing manifesting relationships on this blog, I often preach “being a great person in order to have a great relationship.”

But what is a great person?

A great person is happy about their life, feels good about their goals, stands by their decisions and knows how much quality they possess. They are aware of bringing quality into the lives of others as well as creating it in their own life. No matter who you are and what you love to do, be proud of it! Feel good about yourself! Otherwise, how else are you supposed to live a happy life? How else are your specific people supposed to feel good about you?

When you’re down, do what you believe would make you feel better. You don’t have to be perfect or in a perfectly good mood all the time but you have to know that your sadness is fleeting and under no circumstances is it to define you.

When you cherish you, keeping focus on your heart’s desires is easy and natural.

This specific awareness brings great results in life, manifestation and letting go. Yes, all those things are connected but this amazing type of awareness which anyone can have allows one to feel light and manifest easily.

When you feel good about yourself and your life, you can easily let go to manifest. You know that you will receive your desires and you know that you deserve them – simple as that.

You don’t have to be perfect. The specific person you want isn’t perfect. Your dream job won’t be perfect every day. Your dream home will still need improvements every once in a while. However, it is the feeling of loving what you have and want to manifest that keeps it not perfect but just as you want it.

I think you see why anyone can be this person.

The following example is where many get confused trying to figure out what it is that makes them attractive and a potential romantic partner to the quality individuals.

Some have accomplished great things in their professional lives and still remained individuals of dull personalities. It is primarily your personal awareness that dictates your life and your level of attraction. Relying on any external factors in hope to accomplish these specific goals equals looking for a shortcut to facing your inner world.

You aren’t a great partner to someone because you have a good job but because you are happy. If your great career makes you happy, it makes you happy for yourself which in turn makes you a great partner due to your personal happiness.

See what I mean?

However, in order to achieve that amazing career, you have to be happy with what you have now instead of trying to run away from it and achieve that great career.

See why LoA is all about you and your feelings?

I love you all. Have an amazing day!