You’re not putting effort into change because it’s easier to remain the person you are used to being.
As most of you know, I travel to, stay in and work from different countries but in the recent years, I have set up camp in my birthplace to which I return after each trip. Just like in various others, I have taken jobs in Zagreb, Croatia that were all speaking, workshop giving and seminar teaching engagements.
I recently wanted to manifest another collaboration opportunity here. Let us begin.
As I have said before, the first opportunity won’t always be the one when manifesting a specific goal. If you’re manifesting a job, your first interview or offer might not be what you want and it is up to you to stay positive and keep going. If you’re manifesting your ideal appearance, maybe it’ll come together one step at a time instead of all at once. If you’re manifesting your soul mate, it might not be the first person you go on a date with (but it also might!).
And as I was reminded, the first opportunity you stumble upon might be a complete opposite of what you want in a work engagement.
Since the field of education in this city is an efficient network and I taught university seminars for students and professors for two years, I was referred to another private school for a similar opportunity. They were looking for someone to give a lecture or a workshop in CV writing and interview skills, and I was given an email address for the person in charge. I wanted to be offered lecture dates with satisfying compensation I am used to receiving so I sent an email detailing my work experience and professional goals.
Twelve hours later, I received a reply. The person in charge of booking the lectures outlined exact demands my work experience was perfect for. We both agreed that the needs of this school were exactly what I offered but their email was concluded with the following lines.
“I must tell you though that our school does not offer compensation for these lectures. 🙂 ”
Yes. They put a smiley face at the end of that sentence.
“So, what do you think? Kind regards!”
I was baffled.
A private school in which students pay tuition on a regular basis wanted to hire a lecturer willing to work for free. What did I think? In the following email, this individual proved to be made aware of the unappealing terms but at the same time, those terms were not up to them.
After a few seconds of laughter, I realized I wasn’t even all that surprised. Local organizations offering fair compensation and looking for exceptional candidates are well aware of ones like this damaging the reputation of everyone in the field. One of the people that referred me to this position was borderline outraged, having been unaware of these terms.
I declined the offer with the following statement.
“Thank you for your email but given the terms, I will have to pass on this opportunity.”
Not to mention that the word “opportunity” evoked sarcasm in my mind.
Unless it’s valuable volunteer work, a private university that values their collaborative force so little is of no interest to me. To be fair, they didn’t reach out to me – I reached out to them after being referred to them. I thought they might be my next collaboration opportunity, a desire not specific to a country, city or school, but maybe this means I should get more specific in my goal and I will reach it faster.
Looking at it from the point of view of both the Law of Attraction and peculiar business practices, I find it very interesting that a private university whose staff routinely complains about a lack of quality in the skills of their student body isn’t willing to invest in someone who would improve those skills. And what are those students paying tuition for, if they are not getting the skills they need by the very admission of their own university?
I wanted to point some of these things out because quality of education and fair compensation are highly important topics in today’s world, as they have been at any point in history. But in the spirit of why we’re here on this blog, we could argue their Law of Attraction skills or we could argue mine. They give nothing and then complain about having developed nothing in their students. I will keep going and soon receive everything I asked for, just like I always do.
You get what you give – LoA tells us that every day. Last university I worked with in this city gave me one of the most valuable experiences of my life and having had such experiences, I wasn’t going to let this one take advantage of me. Unless you value yourself, how can others see your worth? What you accept for yourself sends others a message of the kind of treatment you deserve.
I am having new ideas on collaboration manifestations as we speak.
I suggest you celebrate yourself and your life.
You have to play the lead role in your own reality instead of putting the person you want to manifest a relationship with first. You can prioritize them but imagine the relationship and your love as you want it and as it makes you happy!
I mean, being able to love someone the way you want to and have them love you back…don’t you love the thought of that?
Don’t you want that?
You might be familiar with this situation – you want to attract a relationship with a specific person only to find yourself diving into negative thoughts instead of planning the relationship you say you want to have.
First of all, engaging in negative thoughts is always a choice – they can come unexpectedly but we either choose to engage in love or fear. Many of us have engaged in both at different times in our lives. At any moment, we have the power to change our thoughts to positive so when you notice yourself in an upsetting thought process, choose belief instead!
Choosing belief goes a long way in manifesting love because by engaging in the thoughts of having what you want already, you are consciously choosing to see the best in the person you love and emit the loving energy you wish to receive. The loving visualizations and energy you emit are your own personal communication of what you wish to receive.
When we stop expecting drama, does that mean we have actually grown up?
Does expecting abundance and peace around us instead of life’s curveballs void of personal growth potential but dramatic to the core mean we have finally figured out what it’s all about?
Does expecting the best instead of expecting the road to get bumpy mean we are ready to live at peace with ourselves, our minds and other individuals, and feel love for life while knowing that our dreams belong to us?
Does a desire to happily coexist with others mean that we are ready to love ourselves and everyone else?
Because to me, positivity is maturity. Inner peace is maturity. Maturity is emotional stability which is both happy and attractive. When you’re at peace with yourself, don’t you just see the light and realize how much you have to offer, focusing on what you have instead of what you are lacking?
All these questions have a lot to do with your inner peace, your natural happiness and your appeal to other people, including those you have set your sights on.
Successful manifestation is all about starting to believe you’re an individual for whom life is just easy and to whom success comes naturally. You know you deserve it.
Change your core, change your life.
Take your focus off “How long will it take to manifest?” and switch it to living life now!
If you’re waiting, you aren’t living life…and that is a mistake because life is worth living. You just have to find your inspiration and make it beautiful.
“Can you work with the Law of Attraction and still be a person? Can you like some aspects of life, dislike others and not feel bad about it? Can you still like some people and dislike others or do you have to like everyone and everything?”
I was asked these questions today.
Many fear that unless they are perfect, manifestation will never happen for them. Instead of enjoying themselves, they continuously judge both themselves and others.
Have you ever done that? If you did, it probably slowed down your manifestation process.
Law of Attraction says that giving love to ourselves means sending out love into the world and with that, receiving love back. If you focus on everything you like about yourself and your life, your perceived flaws will soon feel small. They will feel like nothing.
At the same time, you will start to see the good in others instead of the flaws you usually perceived in them.
You do not have to be a perfect person but those who are confident in themselves are good to others and make the world a better place. They spread love just by feeling good.
Many deal with their dislike for certain people most difficultly.
I like many people but also dislike some. Personally, I do everything I can to not react to the negative thoughts of my dislikes but imagine the causes of those dislikes to be changed and improved someday. Some individuals act negatively simply because their eyes and minds have not been opened or because they believe that no one ever loved them. Others might believe that acting the way they do is the only choice they have. Maybe they never knew that they could create their desired realities and live happier lives.
All of those reasons can be causes for forgiveness. If we never forgave anyone, the world would be an even more difficult place than many already consider it to be.
Seeing flaws in the world reflects back to your awareness – you perceive yourself as flawed so you focus on the flaws in others. Change that to noticing the good about yourself and you will believe that the world could become a much more beautiful place to live.
Since I mentioned this in my last few blog comments, I will elaborate on it now.
Some find themselves to be capable of keeping a limited amount of focus on their end goal while overthinking its potential development or painful past experiences in the meantime.
Several times, I’ve manifested using the following set of personally devised steps.
- Capture the feeling of having/living your desire now. See yourself in it. Dare to feel overwhelmed with love, having received your desire. Feel it! Then, say “Thank you.”
- Ask the Universe to give your desire to you and then, thank the Universe for having received it. You will end up using almost the exact same words for both. I think both of those because I know that as soon as I ask, my desired reality is created. Then, the only thing left is to receive it.
- Every time you feel tempted to entertain your negative thoughts (if you do at all), remember that since you asked for your desire, you must receive it.
- Whenever you want to (if you do), remember the feeling of having/living your desire from step one. If you would rather let go completely and forget about your desire until it manifests, you can.
This exceptionally brief series of steps often allows me to manifest within six, twelve or twenty-four hours. Other times, immediately, depending on the desire in question or how quickly I let go/am ready to receive what I had asked for.
WHY FOCUS ON YOUR END GOAL?
For one, focusing on the path your desire takes to manifest into your life will only lower your vibration. You will most likely want it to manifest faster, losing grasp on the gratitude you should feel for it.
Instead, be grateful that your desire is coming to you. Be grateful for your reality of living it, which will manifest soon.
Another reason why you should stop thinking about the path of your manifestation is your awareness of not having it yet. You can playfully imagine how it might happen but not cling to any of those ways.
Focusing on the “how” part can induce a sense of fear almost effortlessly. In my case, I don’t want to know how my desire will manifest – that part holds amazing surprises so why spoil it?
Be open to the most amazing surprises of your life! Be confident in yourself because you are unique and beautiful. Admire the person you are!
All of this sounds so simple only because it is.