By conscious repetition, you change your core beliefs.
Choose what you change them into.
Choose love and abundance.
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By conscious repetition, you change your core beliefs.
Choose what you change them into.
Choose love and abundance.
The other night, I was in a deep discussion with a friend as we were driving around the city at 2 a.m.. Sharing experiences of recent and not-so-recent encounters with men, her accurate grasp of relationships absolutely amazed me.
Insightful and astute, my friend instantly pinpointed the gist of any story she or I shared. I was humbled in the most amazing way, in adoration and respect of this fresh mind – not perspective but the mind itself, as she managed to angle her perception any which way in order to reach the necessary answers. Her mind was just flawlessly on.
My own mind wasn’t entirely on that particular night. I found myself drifting from jokes to listening without responding verbally, focused as my listening was. The night was fun but after a while, I wanted to change my current state of mind. My moments of disconnect happen rarely but I have long decided to own them when they do, admitting to thinly veiled jokes and my entirely honest thoughts. Calling it as I feel it, I feel better when I admit it anyway. Secrets have no use and pretence has no place in a happy and more importantly, free individual’s life.
Keeping secrets is a burden, mostly when you keep your own…and every individual pretending to be someone else keeps the biggest secret of all. Avoiding authenticity has no place in happy relationships and if you wish to attract them, loving and accepting yourself fully is what attracts love and acceptance from your desired partner, even in moments of disagreement.
Pretending to be anyone other than who you are equals keeping a secret.
My friend openly expressed her current views and faced the evolvement of her situation with acceptance and positivity; much to her glee, she experienced a positive turnaround less than an hour after I dropped her off. In regard to one particular discussion, she opened my mind – a gesture I was immensely grateful for. In another discussion, her kind words appealed to my already open heart.
She had made me think.
My friend attracted what she wanted by accepting the current reality for what it was, feeling good about herself and the other person, and lovingly imagining the future.
She helped me back into my sense of inner peace which I attracted with her help.
Best part, this discussion didn’t even seem heavy. I am used to feeling so light that either anything feels light or what feels heavy I apologize for bringing up but this was serious yet normal, natural and typical of the way life goes. It was comforting and positive.
I am a person with specific preferences that knows what she wants. I like my mind clear and respectfully expressive which usually leads to rediscovering that most people aren’t used to honesty. When it comes to relationships, I also experienced moments of thinking that a profoundly happy love was the simplest thing to ask for yet the most complicated goal to achieve but when I say moments, I literally mean moments – my positive mind would allow me to snap out of it momentarily and remember what I believed instead. Fleeting is not a problem as long as it doesn’t equate one’s core belief (and then, it isn’t fleeting anyway). That night, my friend reminded me of my goals instead of allowing me to indulge in short-term distractions. She helped me out of that moment and back into my positive thoughts while her story inspired me.
My relationship goals are my core and mental distractions are temporary – I feel like I’ve been coming to terms with this particular lesson since the beginning of the year.
My friend also reminded me of something unexpected – when faced with conflicted thoughts, talking them out helps. I prefer talking about my conflicted thoughts to be as brief as possible, never going into overtime, as my fastest track to their (dis)solution tends to be calling them what they are and moving forward. Indulging in them has never made me happy and I doubt it ever could. Indulging in negative thoughts is nothing but mental hibernation.
Those who indulge in negative thoughts about relationships continue to attract the same type of person and relationship over and over. If you are currently attracting the type of person and relationship you don’t want anymore, you simply must change focus.
My friend had – starting off conflicted about her relationship, she eventually began to feel good about it and manifested its improvement. She attracted improvement with the same person.
I needed to self-improve that night and she helped me. I am a better person for it, as I have faced and resolved my latest annoyances with her help.
If instead of your true heart’s desire you accept one deemed easier to manifest, it isn’t fair to anyone involved.
If you should accept any goal you consider easier to manifest than your true heart’s desire, this isn’t fair to you or anyone else.
What we want wants us back.
The Universe wants to give you what you want.
Your true heart’s desire wants you just as much as you want it.
I manifested two new trips last week just because I had been visualizing that I was on an airplane. I’m not sure why but the thought of being on a plane just felt good; it always does but I think it was peaceful because of the idea of traveling somewhere specific, knowing where I’m going, reaching a destination. Deciding on a goal just brings a sense of peace.
We like to know where we’re going and that is why deciding on a specific goal leads to rapid manifestation of one’s desire.
Being specific has its ups and downs. Then again, anything does.
In life, my actions always reflected a core belief of “I want this so I am going to have it – nothing else, nothing less!” which led me to certain manifestations that looked nothing like I had imagined.
Once upon a time in college, I wanted a specific internship. The company seemed goal-oriented in my specific taste and I was excited about the interview. I had already decided that I would get it and dressed up for the interview only to be disappointed as soon as I got there. The building wasn’t in the best shape, their offices were unappealing and the job description I had read was already altered. The interviewers were describing responsibilities not listed in the job description that sounded plain boring and I walked out of there motivated to find something else.
I thought to myself, “I would fall asleep on the job every day if I had to work here!” And it would have probably been more exciting.
Upon my return to campus, I asked about some additional internship options and was told of another one. However, this company’s executive had already been to campus to conduct some interviews and left. One of the candidates he had interviewed was a friend of mine who wanted that position like I wanted my first choice before actually seeing what it looked like, and I didn’t expect a call at first. However, something was telling me to keep an open mind. I just had a feeling they would call me anyway.
About an hour later, the phone rang. It was the executive who had been to campus asking me to come in for an interview. He heard there was another candidate on campus interested in them, as I had listed them last minute, and wanted to meet. I agreed and found out that I would be interviewed by him and another female executive.
Two days later, reaching their offices proved to be a positive experience and the job position sounded as great as it did on paper. I was offered the position on the spot; however, I told them I wanted to interview with the last company I had put down on my list of internship options first. That final interview was scheduled the following day and I promised to call them straight after. Later that evening, I sat down with a friend who wanted the job I was offered and told him about the offer and that I wanted to take it. I wanted him to hear it from me. Being a wonderfully heartfelt person, he was fully supportive and even said he didn’t expect to get the job himself because the interview hadn’t gone as fascinatingly as he had thought it would. This friend of mine ended up getting a job in the first company I interviewed for and performed it with absolute ease whereas I am sure I would have done it poorly.
The next day, I skipped the final interview and called my new bosses to tell them I was accepting their offer. Apparently, they’d been on pins and needles waiting for my call. The job I skipped interviewing for that morning went to another friend of mine who loved it and wanted it for herself whereas I was only planning to go out of principle (and missed it out of that same principle in the end).
Deciding that I wanted something specific without finding out too much about it first hadn’t bothered me even when it turned out like this. I always thought that no matter how much I knew something or someone, I could always change my mind later anyway…or not. Time never meant too much to me in these cases, as I never viewed it as a sign of security in my feelings.
If the fact is that I could always change my mind, no matter how much I know (we all can), why not dive in from the beginning? Why not follow my good feelings, even if I change my mind tomorrow?
If I waited until deciding that something was either right for me or not before making a move, nothing would ever happen. Also, sometimes you simply must try to decide. If I’m not sure about wanting to try it, I usually don’t or at least wait until the moment I do. If I know immediately, great. If I know that I’ll never be interested in something no matter how much I tried, I move onto something else. However, I move with my feelings. If I want something but then change my mind, I know that changing my mind will last for a while if not forever. I know these things because that is who I am – each one of us is a different blend of awareness, wishes and preferences, and it is of utmost importance to not judge yourself for changing your mind when you do. You’re allowed to!
Being specific sometimes shows me that what I thought I wanted isn’t exactly what I had imagined and sometimes, that’s a good thing. It can be even better than you imagined! But at other times, it isn’t as good so you change your mind. This is completely normal but many have been conditioned to see it as a problem or a sign of immaturity when in fact it is a common factor in life.
If had I said that I would wait until after the interviews before deciding which of these internships I wanted, it wouldn’t have changed anything. I would have ended up in the exact same place. The goal is what’s important and when it comes to successful manifestation, it is all about focusing on one’s end goal and never worrying about the way everything will unfold.
The moment I felt that the company I ended up working for was going to call, I had made a decision to work for them. Even if I wasn’t aware of it at the time, I had made that decision. I had attracted working for them and didn’t worry about how everything happen which caused it to unfold in the most amazing way. That is the basis of Law of Attraction – keep it light, stay positive and feel good but be calm and certain.
Successful manifestation is all about starting to believe you’re an individual for whom life is just easy and to whom success comes naturally. You know you deserve it.
Change your core, change your life.
Let’s talk about manifesting relationships because I have always found that the correct internal verbal expression of those relationships (which is different for every single individual) leads to positive thoughts and visualization which lead to belief.
Do you prefer to tell yourself that your desired relationship belongs to you already or internally state that it is going to manifest soon?
Which specific wording suits you better?
Some feel unnatural believing their relationships belong to them already but do feel good knowing that everything will come together soon. Others feel great about knowing that everything has already been worked out on an invisible level and just has to manifest in reality. Others genuinely feel good knowing that a relationship might manifest or that it might not, whatever feels best – there is a great deal of individuals out there who don’t practice LoA consciously when it comes to relationships because they feel it ruins the element of surprise.
It doesn’t matter which of these groups you belong to – with positive wording, the wording that feels good to you, you can allow yourself to let go of your relationship to manifest.
Any positive wording you choose will instantly be followed by the feeling as well as spontaneous visualization of your desire as if it has manifested already; however, some prefer to say to themselves that the relationship belongs to them already while others like to say it’ll happen soon. Choose the words that feel good because feeling good leads to manifesting rapidly and effortlessly.
You can also opt for an expression that has no timestamp – without defining the manifestation time of a specific desire, you can use one of the two sayings I have suggested in the past:
“It’s happening right now!” or “It’s a done deal – thank You!”
Using one of these expressions is perfect for removing your thoughts from any specific time your manifestation might come about. You just know that it’s yours without obsessing about the details.
Timestamp-free expression of your desired relationship is perfect for you if your attachment to the relationship you desire is high enough to cause negative feelings.
Timestamp-free expression will remove your attachment. If you have been experiencing attachment so strong you are aware of it, commit to this new way of describing your desired manifestation today.
I have used the timestamp-free method on several occasions of attracting people into my life. This method is highly effective because it leads to knowing while removing the need to know when. Using this method will remind you that the sooner you let go, the sooner you will manifest and refusing to worry about “how” or “when” is going to allow for letting go.
Try it and you’ll see. And, of course, report back!
Experiences define you only if you allow them to.
Just like every time I manifest a life change, my current reality seemingly starts to fall apart; there’s beauty in that because that makes it easier to leave.
In order to manifest a new reality, you must be prepared to give up the current, even in a single aspect. If you want a relationship, you must be ready to give up being single, especially if it has become your comfort zone. If you want wealth, you must be ready to deal with having money from now on – taxes, an accountant and banking might be take up a little more of your time from now on. If you want a job, you must be ready to work and want to spend your days doing so. You must want to wake up and go to work.
I believe I have found the way of ignoring my current reality every time I want to manifest a new and better one. This is also a way of turning the negative into the positive.
I always say one must be happy in their current reality in order to manifest a better one. Our minds keep us away from what we believe is negative for us.
Every time I start to manifest a new reality, I am grateful that my current one is hectic in a very particular way because that means I’m leaving soon.
I have also manifested desired change when I felt perfectly happy and satisfied in my current reality. Both ways work because they both mean no resistance which allows letting go.
When my current reality isn’t enough, I seek happiness elsewhere. I visualize and soon manifest the current reality I truly desire. When focusing on my new reality, I find it OK to be in my current because current boredom makes it easy for me to see a happier one. We naturally gravitate toward happiness.
There are several desires I have been entertaining thoughts about and for the past few days, I have been increasingly happier about them. Yesterday, that happiness escalated, leaving me to feel super calm and loving about those desires while prompting my current reality to start to fall apart.
The following occurred yesterday and it shows exactly why living my life happens to be the most exciting thing that has ever happened to me. While we manifest our new realities, our personal energies rearrange and make room for the new by weeding out the old – sometimes, this turns into chaos. A chaotic rearrangement might confuse some, making them think that their life is falling apart but in truth, it is actually coming together to become what they want it to be.
My hairdresser called me at noon to come in at one. On the way out, I ran through a pavement cleaning project, muddying it slightly. Even though I hoped to make the bus to my destination because it practically leaves me at its door, I tried to do some banking beforehand, missed the bus and had to cab it. Somewhere on the way, a man slipped me his phone number which I forwarded into the paper recycling container in the street. My hairdresser had a scheduling conflict but having plenty of time, I backed out of my appointment and asked if I could have another attempt at the bank while she took care of business. No one else was at that bank so I was done in a minute but on the way back, one of my sandals completely fell apart in the middle of the street and I had to walk back to the salon completely barefoot. There was no supermarket nearby to even buy an emergency pair of flip flops in. My hairdresser gave me cleaning wipes and lent me a pair of shoes while my mother, whose appointment was booked later on, brought me another pair to wear home, as I had to throw out my entirely broken platforms which I’d owned for five years. I tend to love to wear my shoes until they break but this was the first time they ever broke on me. While I was in the hairdresser’s chair, drinking coffee and getting my hair done, I got a sudden case of violent cough. And I never get sick, not even when I’m tired. Everyone knows that! From the chair next to mine, I heard a sign of one of my current desires which I had even seen coming and immediately knew it was coming true. I like to think that a lesser woman would have been worried if her desires would still want her in this state but I refused to be rattled.
If you want to see the sexy pair of shoes I had to wear home, scroll down to my Instagram shots. The good part was that they were ridiculously comfortable. After getting my hair done, I had to pick something up at the mall with several passers-by staring at my shoes.
Paying zero attention to the current reality means being OK without my desire until it manifests. For me, letting go is all that comes with accepting the current reality.
For as long as my current reality is filled with good stories, I stop paying attention to “improving” it. I like a dynamic reality and eventful day-to-days. There is no comfort zone here.
My feet still ache from the hot concrete pavement I had the pleasure of feeling yesterday. The featured photos are of me yesterday evening, tired but safe at home.
Knowing your desire is manifesting is the key to your success. When you know, you are guided by it or at least I am which means you can be, too.
To those of you who like to think about your desire a lot, remember that I told you you could as long as those thoughts are happy and reflect living the life of your dreams? Well, I’ve manifested that way, too. This is a perfectly valid manifestation method but only if you are happy and you nurture the thoughts of living your desire.
If you love to drown in the thoughts of your desire, you want those thoughts to be happy, positive, fulfilling, filled with love and as confident as your energy.
When manifesting love, I imagine it as the most magical thing. I dare to get excited about it and I imagine finding all the magic I want in real life while I am living my relationship. I imagine needing nothing but happiness about being together and loving each other while nothing else matters. If you accept someone, accepting their entire life is the best choice you can make and all I care about is having an amazing time just being together.
When manifesting professional opportunities, I love being the person others love to work with because she delivers even greater results than imagined. I don’t necessarily focus on easily getting along with everyone I work with, as I accept a difference in opinions and admittedly, workplace relationships have had only limited importance to me. It isn’t that I want to be difficult but I live in the awareness of having immense patience for the people I want to work with but wanting to walk away from those I don’t; that type of awareness serves as a reminder to level the bumps in collaboration and be patient when knowing that a particular collaboration is ultimately beneficial. For all these reasons, I focus on the end result when manifesting professional accomplishments.
I have additional examples but I chose these two to compare and contrast.
If you reread the passages written above, you will see that the nature of all these thoughts is one of having my desire in my life. You can do the same.
If you practice seeing yourself living your desire, you will soon begin to gravitate towards those thoughts.
We cannot skip letting go. Remember that letting go is knowing your desire will manifest and living your life happily in the present moment. You don’t have to forget about your desire in order to let go but if you continue to nurture the thoughts of having it in your life, letting go will be easier because you will fill your heart with knowing and remove the need. Sometimes, visualizing once is enough to let go but if you like to think about having your desire, think about it. You will have gotten used to the idea of having it, remove the need for it to manifest in your life and then, it will appear.