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Self-Love is Your Inner Strength, Relationship Confidence and Encompassing Personal Beauty

It is what you believe you have a difficult time manifesting that causes attachment in you.

Changing yourself to assume the lightness of character, endless self-confidence and unwavering belief is achieved with self-love. Those who doubt this notion haven’t tried engaging in self-love just yet.

Self-love is in your best interest. Read More

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Specific Wording and Manifesting Relationships – Use YOUR Words to Create Positive Manifestations!

Let’s talk about manifesting relationships because I have always found that the correct internal verbal expression of those relationships (which is different for every single individual) leads to positive thoughts and visualization which lead to belief.

Do you prefer to tell yourself that your desired relationship belongs to you already or internally state that it is going to manifest soon?

Which specific wording suits you better?

Some feel unnatural believing their relationships belong to them already but do feel good knowing that everything will come together soon. Others feel great about knowing that everything has already been worked out on an invisible level and just has to manifest in reality. Others genuinely feel good knowing that a relationship might manifest or that it might not, whatever feels best – there is a great deal of individuals out there who don’t practice LoA consciously when it comes to relationships because they feel it ruins the element of surprise.  Read More

Have You Earned a Great Relationship?

This post first appeared on my (first) blog, https://improvingconfidence.wordpress.com/

I continuously encounter individuals who believe a great relationship is something they are entitled to.

A great relationship is something everyone deserves, just like any other blessing in life. Everyone deserves to experience happiness but those that receive it have in fact earned it with their positive mindsets, respect for others and gratitude for their lives.

Everyone deserves it but a positive individual earns it, allowing a happy relationship to come into their reality.

On the other hand, those projecting negative energy (be it frustration, desperation, negative self-image, impatience, rudeness or general dissatisfaction) are continuously preventing what they deserve, a great relationship in this case, to appear in their lives.

You get what you give; genuine appreciation for life, your own and those of others, ensures you will receive an abundance of goodness in return. You merely need to find that appreciation.

The idea of an amazing relationship being earned holds truth but requires explanation; stating this idea as simply as it looks in writing may evoke negative reactions instead of positive. One becomes worthy of a great relationship by viewing oneself in a positive light, focusing on everything they enjoy in life, respecting one’s unique qualities as well as the qualities of others and having personal integrity that ensures standing by one’s personal beliefs.

Many believe they must earn a great relationship by fulfilling requirements such as career success, a larger-than-life personality, financial wealth or being classically good looking. However, basic creation principles state that one’s beliefs create one’s awareness; for example, individuals who deeply believe they cannot earn a great relationship until they have a great job will encounter specific experiences reflecting those beliefs.

Truth is, the relationship you desire has nothing to do with your social status unless you decide to believe it. Those who stick to beliefs such as “Once I get a good job, I will have inner peace and be ready for a relationship” will most likely find that the job, the relationship and the inner peace continue to elude them. Postponing those experiences by masking them as future goals will ensure they remain distant goals, making it impossible to catch up to that “perfect future.”

Now, I am not saying your desires are irrelevant but for as long as you think “I’ll be confident once I have this,” you are creating a future goal that will always remain in the future. In reality, you must feel deserving of your goals now and be confident in yourself before you can obtain them.

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Contrary to popular belief, relationships have nothing to do with your social status, level of wealth, professional success or your looks. When it comes to relationships, you merely need to be confident in the person you are. You need to draw your confidence from internal factors instead of external. You need to recognize your personal qualities, the beauty of your physical traits, your intelligence and gratitude for everything you have in life.

One of the best ways to earn a great relationship rests in developing self-confidence, self-comfort and self-acceptance.

Amplifying those character traits with a positive mindset will allow you to focus on everything you love in life instead of everything you are currently missing. If you focus on your positive traits, you will effortlessly focus on your (potential) partner’s positive traits, enjoying your relationship immensely and solving problems in it easily. Suddenly, you will come to realize relationships were intended to be easy and enjoyable instead of being a constant ego battle between opposing sides. If you have an eye on a potential partner, you will be encouraged to communicate with them as you have recognized your own qualities while appreciating them for theirs. You will realize how much there is to be liked about you!

If you believe your looks are insufficient to evoke attraction in another, you will project an unhappy demeanor, tension and insecurity. The best part is, you can decide to focus on the aspects of your appearance you like instead. You can appreciate your beauty instead of focusing on the reasons it is less than perfect. This positive energy will evoke even more of the same, allowing you to feel increasingly great about yourself.

Ultimately, is there a real reason you should feel negatively about your appearance? Everyone holds a different idea of what beauty means. More importantly, we all respond to each other’s energy much stronger than any physical attributes – every time you were attracted someone who wasn’t your “type” proves that.

Do you compare yourself to others? This is another mistake which can prevent you from receiving life’s goods. Do you believe you must match an ideal another specific person represents to you while considering anything “less” to be insufficient? This mindset only states your lack of appreciation for yourself, as you feel undeserving of love. Even if you think your (potential) partner only wants the ideal you have imagined him/her wanting, it doesn’t mean you’re right.

We all know the story – one perceives their desired partner to be “too good for me.” “He/She is out of my league,” they imagine, never making a move or deeming themselves worthy. This thought process is perpetuated until the object of their affection meets someone else.

There are plenty of similar examples. However, it all comes down to the following.

Searching for the reasons to postpone living a happy relationship only shows that you doubt your own value. If recognizing the said value undoubtedly ensures finding a great relationship, what is the point of feeling inadequate?

The Reasons for Focusing on a Specific Person

How did you choose the specific person you want(ed) to be in a relationship with?

Some just follow their feelings and don’t think about the reasons why. They know that they have found someone special and they make sure this person stays in their life.

Others like to know what specifically they liked about the person they choose and others choose to examine their behavior to realize what it is that attracts or motivates them to want to start a relationship.

This is how I do it.

I see myself with a specific man when I want to give, put in time, affection and live our lives together – I’ve said this before but would like to explain. I don’t think about what he can do for me but what I wish to do for him. I want to get to know his life, his friends, his passions and his heart. I want to be included and give him the most amazing reasons to include me by being an amazing person who makes him happy. I want to be around him and think about what I want to give to our relationship instead of what I want to take from it.

When I feel that way, I know that I have chosen well.

Knowing why I want a specific man helps me manifest because I know what I truly want. If the man in question displays the energy and the qualities I admire, I know I truly feel it. At the same time, every person is different and qualities can show in different ways so it is important for me to choose someone I admire exactly for who he is, someone I want to be with without ever wanting to change him.

If you think about it, you probably know why you want the person you want, love the one you love or appreciate the qualities which you do. Either way, be grateful for being with the one person of your choice.

Do You Cling to Specific Behaviors?

When it comes to men and women especially, a difference in behaviors, reasons for those behaviors, habits and approach methods can cause a riff between the two sides, resulting in arguments and resentment. One side feels that the other should act a certain way if they care while the other feels that they did nothing wrong but lived their life while also building a potential relationship and expressed their feelings.

Let’s deal with the side of an intentional manifestation practitioner who wants to know their desired relationship is manifesting.

A manifestation practitioner who feels this way wants to see evidence of their desire manifesting now. However, letting go is the only way to see results now but instead, they incessantly check their phone, email and social media hoping to see something there.

They are displaying the need for their desire to manifest instead of love and trust that it will.

I know you know this by now but this is not criticism. We are simply discussing it because that type of behavior prevents you from manifesting your desired relationship. In addition, it prevents you from being happy now since looking for something that you feel is missing is enough to make you miserable.

The knowing of your desired relationship manifesting is inside you, not among the signs you receive or the reactions you get. All of those things follow your awareness.

You could do every couple thing with someone and still not be a couple. Or, you could not even have communicated with another for a long time and suddenly, you became a couple. You have to realize that this is where creation rests, not in the number of texts you receive.

This type of conflict happens between men and women for various reasons.

There was a period of my life when I entered relationships faster than you could blink. Not flings, relationships. I would be introducing my new boyfriend around, not caring whether or not I might want him a month from then. I was living in the moment. I was positive it was the right thing to do and I still am convinced it was so. I was enjoying loving feelings for as long as they lasted, expressing myself freely. I was going with the flow of the relationship. At the same time, I would see others in miserable long-term relationships yet staying together. I was in a long-term relationship once as well, for as long as I was happy in it. However, I manifest and have relationships when I want them because I don’t condition them to last forever. I want to be happy. I focus on the love instead of things that have nothing to do with a happy relationship. It can last or it doesn’t have to but let’s see how it goes.

However, not all my exes took that as lightly. After a while, one took me for granted, thinking a relationship would last just because he had found someone he wanted to settle down with. He thought I would stay with him just because we were together for a long time but I ended it because he had stopped trying. Once I knew I wanted out, I ended it. Two others expected that I would want a long-term relationship with them just because they did but had put their needs before mine. They thought I should give them what they wanted by default but relationships are a choice. I choose to be with someone or, not. However, they depended on me for their happiness and self-esteem. So, I left.

Do you see what I mean? Because this is something men and women have in common.

You cannot expect to only be happy around your specific person or with them in your life and expect to stay attractive to them. Why? Because depending on another for happiness doesn’t make you feel good either. You must have your own life, work, activities, hobbies, interests, purpose, friends and the things you love. You can share as much as you want with your specific person but not be practically incapable of living without them. This is especially important for women to know.

Trying to rush your manifestation frantically shows that you cannot feel good unless you have it in your life. This energy blocks it from coming just like depending on another for your happiness blocks them from seeing you as someone they want to be in a relationship with.

You don’t have to be superwoman – just a woman who feels comfortable with herself, values herself and loves everything she is, which gives her confidence. Only when you love you will you able to love another.

A happy relationship is created when you love the person enough to allow them to be themselves instead of wanting them to cater to your needs. A happy relationship is created when you think positively enough about the person to want to give to them and the relationship instead of thinking what they should want to give to you. Imagine wanting to spend time with them and wanting to make them happy!

Now, let’s talk about those of you who know that someone is “the one” for life. If I can be relaxed without needing a relationship to last, why couldn’t you be happy knowing you have found someone with him you will manifest a lasting relationship? You have it figured out so be happy! You know you can manifest this so why entertain the thoughts that make you miserable, such as those of you two being apart?

Do you see how many good things you have to look forward to? If you focus on them, you will allow the Universe to work out the details for you.

A reader pointed out her area of struggle, believing her desire belongs to her already, saying:

“Would you please kindly address more how can I be sure myself that I can have it and how to gain that strong intention–”

I could once again say “capture the feeling of having it” or “visualize having it once and stick to it” but a permanent solution to this problem can be achieved by looking within and asking yourself why you don’t feel that you can have and live your desire.

Once you realize why you are blocking yourself from receiving your desire, why you believe to be undeserving, you can remember that we all manifest what we believe. Then, think about what you want to believe. How do you want to see yourself? Because the way you see yourself is the way others see you.

If you fear away from exploring your limiting beliefs, it will be difficult to manifest what you want. Some have told me they felt embarrassed after looking within and finding guilt, shame and an inferiority complex.

However, I have an easy answer which will make you see that exploring and resolving limiting beliefs can be easy.

You don’t have to be afraid or ashamed – nobody feels amazing every minute. Let a negative feeling go and move on. In the moments you feel less than great, you can again feel great when you stop pretending, admit how you feel and stop seeing it as a big deal or something embarrassing.

Be confident about your feelings, no matter what they are. I can openly say how I feel and move on. If I ever felt embarrassed, I would say it and as soon as I did, it went away. That was how I eventually lost the grasp of what embarrassment felt like. If I feel sad, I say it and feel better immediately. You could vocalize negative emotions with the purpose of releasing them and then move on from them.

You could also admit to someone you trust that you feel inadequate (including your fellow readers on this blog) and not only will they remind you of how worthy you are, you will feel that it is false as soon as you say it. As you explore your feelings, you will see how much there is in your life to be grateful for and feel positively about. You are surrounded by people who love you and you have so much! You cannot put all of life’s importance to a desire you are now wanting to manifest. You have to be complete before it comes to you.

Awakening all of these ideas inside you is enough to make you see that you can have anything you want but have to have a life outside of it, too. Clinging to a desire too much makes you feel like you don’t have it, blocking your desired manifestation. However, realizing there is no reason to cling to this desire is very important. You already have a rich life.

If you could see yourself as rich, valuable and colorful as you want to be, you will easily accomplish your goals. Confidence is the answer to everything, if you ask me. Tell yourself you are ready to receive and live your desire and then, visualize having it. Thank the Universe for it, let it go and in the moments of doubt, remind yourself that since you asked for your desire, you must receive it because the Universe knows what you want. You have to trust it to give you what you want – that way, you are allowing it to do the work for you.

Are You Ready?

I find it necessary to explain in further detail  the process of one’s feelings when manifesting a relationship. Yes, we all know to ask and allow ourselves to receive but what about those unable to let go without understanding why? Those who feel uncomfortable without understanding why?

Just because I tell you it can all be overcome doesn’t mean I don’t understand your struggle. As always, I will also tell you how I do it and trust that it will help you.

Manifesting relationships requires absolute certainty of wanting a specific person and a relationship with them. I have to want to be with the man in question. Being aware of my preferences in choosing this man helps, as I am aware of why I like him and want to be with him. To give you an idea, I tend to admire a man with an open heart.

After deciding on a specific man, I love being absolutely intoxicated with the idea of being in a relationship with him as often as I can. When it comes to calmer moments, I still visualize situations of simply thinking, “I’m so happy with him.” That sentiment can come to me in any situation and I can feel it just by looking at him. I love to create our relationship in my mind and heart, with the help of my feelings. Imagining I have it already is always supported by vivid visualization of the relationship I love and enjoy. I love that the relationship is mine already simply because I’ve decided so. Feeling that I have it already motivates my actions from the start.

In the past, I shared my happy feelings for a specific man with my friends. If I didn’t, one of my closest friends knew there was a problem (with my feelings). She would then say,

“If you haven’t mentioned his name in a few days, it means there’s trouble in paradise.”

Today, I verbalize it less and differently. I am comfortable with change which allows me to accept my new preferences. However, the feeling of loving my relationship and the happiness of being in it (already) remain strong.

Once I calm down from the euphoria, I realize that all those positive feelings have truly made me believe my desire belongs to me already. This is the benefit of any positive feelings – they reshape your awareness. This is the reason why, if ever experiencing a lack of positive feelings, you are advised to go out and do something nice for yourself or someone else. You will automatically be filled with love!

In the moments of resistance, I already know it’s false because I believe in my relationship. Resistance feels weak because my belief is strong. This is why I only advocate working on the belief, as it obliterates anything else.

Once you begin putting all your energy into your belief and make a commitment to stop reacting to your fears, the belief will grow. It will feel real, strong and the resistance will actually feel false and slightly paranoid. Resistance never makes sense – many tend to come up with outrageous scenarios in their minds.

I have been called an amazing girlfriend in the past. I think one of the main reasons for it was because I dared to feel a tremendous amount of love for the man in question, our relationship and myself. If I wasn’t being called an amazing girlfriend anymore, I had already started to feel uncomfortable in the relationship.

The knowing my relationship belonging to me already is mostly calm. Various situations will give me butterflies but the overall feeling of knowing is steady and calm. The feeling of having everything I wanted evokes gratitude in me but is also calm because it is organic.

Being in your specific relationship has to feel natural to you – then, you’ll be open to living it. Living in your house feels natural so you remain in it. Your physical appearance is something you’re used to seeing in the mirror every day –  you offer no resistance to accepting that it’s real, as you see it every day. See what I mean?

Your relationship has to feel real and natural to you. In the cases of conscious creation, you simply have to develop new habits allowing you to perceive the relationship as real.

Be mentally ready to live your relationship. You can achieve this with simply feeling love and letting go. I believe one must truly feel good about themselves in order to be ready for their desired relationship. Happy relationships require happy and confident individuals who are also courageous and comfortable with themselves.

You might be looking for a solution that will change your thought process without you having to do it yourself – that is why some keep searching for the perfect LoA technique. However, the answer lies in a conscious decision being made on your end.

You might be wondering why so many suggest feeling gratitude for your desire, as if you have it in your life already. Well, the reason is gratitude evokes and increases the love inside you. Feeling truly grateful for your desire will expand your heart energy, allow you to feel love for your desire and appreciate your life.

Today, I’m just excited to see my parents and give them a hug. It’s enough.

THOUGHT OF THE DAY

Today, I want to solve a specific issue several of my beloved readers stated in their blog comments.

Since Christmas or in some cases, January 1st, several of you have commented that you wished your soon-to-be significant others (because I believe in all of you) happy holidays to no reply. Or, some of you wished to receive a greeting from your specific person but didn’t.

You are hoping for a specific reaction from a specific person – a text or a reply to a text. But what if you got it and didn’t represent a significant shift you were hoping for in your relationship manifestation? Specific behaviors don’t always bring what you want just because you think they should – you have to let your specific person express themselves in the way they wish. That means letting them be and allowing them to come to you. This is why being relaxed about your desire is vital and completely natural when you allow the person to just be themselves. They might say what you want to hear over text or in an even better way. You want a reply but what if that reply makes you realize you’re still in the same place you were before it? What if there’s a better way to move forward but you refuse to allow it because you’re hooked on that reply?

You can stop needing that text or reply.

Do you want the reply or the relationship?

This isn’t criticism! It is nothing but advice on how to stop doing what’s making you feel awful. Needing specific steps or ways of manifestation (i.e. specific texts) makes you feel sad, needy and lowers your vibration too effectively. And I want you to be happy.

You have to assume that the relationship you want is yours and remain true to that belief.

You weren’t energetically open to receiving communication which doesn’t mean that he/she doesn’t care. Simply take a look at what your worrying says about you. What are your limiting beliefs? If you really love this person, you will believe that you can make them happy, want to make them happy and let them come to you.

Things are never as bad as they seem.

Do you want to be close to your person, live a life of closeness or want to manifest texts?

When you know your desire belongs to you, when you are deeply sure, you can text and do whatever else you want because you will continue to believe until you manifest.

Motivation, Determination and Knowing

When it comes to manifesting, your focus and confidence have to override all of the current circumstances, “reality” as you perceive it and all your negative thoughts. In other words, your determination and belief that you can create what you want, that your desire is yours already, have to be stronger than anything else. You just have to believe you can create your dreams simply because you have decided so and it is going to happen.

This state is naturally achieved once you deeply know you want to live or just experience your desire.

Weeks ago, I wrote about my resolve in creating (https://thelawofattractionandmylife.wordpress.com/2015/09/18/the-garage-door-metaphor/). That’s how I do it!

I manifested a move from Europe to USA at age fourteen. My parents’ friends thought my conviction that I was going to live in the States was “cute.” My school friends held less disbelief but didn’t hold too much belief in the idea either. However, nothing was going to rattle my belief – when it comes to LoA, it is you and only you, the only person whose feelings count when creating your reality. Other people can influence your feelings if you let them but they can never decide for you. I knew it was all happening without needing anyone’s approval.

Then, my father was sent to the States for work. My whole family moved, to the shock of many. However, it wasn’t shocking to me at all – this was exactly what I’d manifested. I had only focused on being there, living there, loving it.

When your focus on your decision to live your desire fails to be rattled by anything or anyone, you will have walked a very short path to your dream-come-true reality.

Over the past three weeks, I have received several gifts of organic and luxurious cosmetics. I received a Givenchy gift box of perfume, shower gel and body lotion. I was gifted a beauty treatment at Lush for a group of up to six people. Prior to receiving these gifts, I remembered how easily I attract beauty treatments and my favorite cosmetics. Gifts are also one of the ways in which I attract money, as many times I end up being gifted what I would ordinarily buy for myself.

You would imagine I feel pretty light and confident about manifesting gifts such as these, right? Well, I have definitely felt just as light about manifesting “bigger” things – moving countries, travel, university acceptance, money, renting apartments and most of my former relationships.

If you feel your desired manifestation to be “a big deal,” you will face a draining manifestation period of convincing yourself it is possible to have. However, if you accept that everything in life is created based on the same principle, you can start to believe your ideal relationship can be created just as easily. Relationships and love are beautiful experiences so why pass up the opportunity to gift yourself and someone you love with one?

Whenever I felt “heavy” about anything I wanted to manifest, it would move slowly. In truth, these occasions were rare and always involved the things and people I didn’t truly want (anymore). I didn’t want them because I didn’t believe that these jobs, friends or men could truly make me happy. I felt happy manifesting short-term linkage to them but not permanent. I only truly wanted to experience them.

I find relationships to be one of the most emotionally consuming, fear-inducing yet wonderful desires one could manifest. However, what if you could feel as light about manifesting relationships as you would manifesting beauty products I mentioned?

Your history with relationships or the specific person you are manifesting might decide your initial excitement or fears related to your current relationship desire. However, if your thoughts related to your desire are dissatisfying, you can work through them!

Is your potential desired relationship manifestation exhausting you? If so, you either don’t believe it could manifest or don’t like your specific person enough to feel good about them – this part depends on your personality and belief system, as well as your knowledge of yourself.

If you feel that the only potential partners who ever fall for you are those you don’t like that much, you don’t believe you could manifest the specific person and relationship you truly desire. If you keep thinking about the negative aspects of your past with them instead of the positive, you hold many negative feelings not just for the relationship but the person in question as well. Even when you briefly think about possibly being happy with this specific person, you don’t believe it could last. You don’t believe that this relationship is right but you want it to be.

It’s OK to feel whatever it is you’re feeling. It’s OK to be tired and frustrated. Once we reach the answers we need, we can calm down.

Now, you might be used to believing only after seeing external proof in life.

I believe this particular issue plagues many relationship manifestations – when not entirely believing yourself to be capable of manifesting your desired relationship, your energy can be practically lethargic, tiring and slow. You are drained and exhausted from trying to feel good. You keep changing your “manifestation technique,” hoping it’ll bring you what you want. However, it isn’t hope but profound knowing that manifests your desire.

An increase in motivation is all you need to achieve – it’ll make you feel great, raise your vibration and allow you to believe that your relationship is yours! An unconditional focus on your goal combined with motivation will make you see that your desire is in the bag!

Now, I am not saying you will be exhilarated every time you think about your desire but suddenly, you will be focused on it and be happy that it’s yours. Your determination, once truly achieved, will have let you know that your desire is yours already. Every time you think of your desire, you’ll be happy it’s yours!

Motivation equals positive energy. Motivation comes effortlessly once you clearly decide what you want your desire to be. What is it that makes you happy? In what way would living your desire make you happy?

When creating a love relationship, I only need my own belief that it’s mine. Even if I shared my belief with anyone else and they disagreed, I wouldn’t care because I know what I can create.

Motivation increases positive emotion. Allowing you to move towards your goal without the need to do any work, without impatience, letting you focus on life in the meantime while valuing your happiness and nothing less, motivation allows you to orchestrate your reality without the need for anyone’s approval.

Are You Enough?

Do you find the person you desire brilliant, fascinating, inordinately interesting or exceptionally intelligent and therefore consider yourself unworthy of being in a relationship with them? Do you believe they could effortlessly love you just as you are or do you feel that you have to improve yourself in order to be with them?

If you were to find or do something that makes you feel brilliant therefore becoming perceived as such, would you feel worthy of being with the person you desire?

This particular issue occasionally appears with those who feel almost as much admiration as they do love for the person they desire.

Some resist manifesting the person they desire due to feeling unworthy of being in a relationship with them. Their specific person may be successful, self-confident, intelligent, fascinating or attractive to them on the level they deem themselves below, having possibly grown up differently, nurturing different personality traits or currently living a different lifestyle.

If you feel good about yourself, the one you desire will feel the same about you. Every problem you perceive as an obstacle to the relationship of your dreams is a reflection of you and you alone; the person you desire may not even agree with your limiting beliefs, hold those same beliefs or want what you think they want in another. Your limiting thoughts might be completely unrelated to the thoughts or desires of the one you want, only showing that you two are not aligned just yet and therefore, still apart instead of being together.

This is exactly why your negative thoughts are false – they come out of fear instead of a loving, relaxed place. When relaxed, we see things clearly.

In order to resolve the issue of self-degradation, one must feel worthy of their loved one already – you already know this. If you feel confused about specific steps to take, let’s go over a few ideas.

1. Every single individual on the planet is unique, irreplaceable and worthy of respect. 

You may feel that some are more special than others but it is their self-perception that makes them stand out. Those who believe they are simply not enough to be considered special fall into the background, thinking that others were just born lucky.

Until you make yourself believe you are special and worthy of all the happiness you deserve, your dream life will continue to wait for you but will not make its way to you. Loving and appreciating yourself for everything you are, knowing you can add anything you desire to your life, is going to lead you to your dream life effortlessly.

You must feel worthy in order to believe that you can provide something irreplaceable to the person of your dreams… And the good news is, you already are. Own that feeling!

2. Nobody’s perfect. 

Truth be told, I don’t exactly know what this phrase means – I either want someone or I don’t. If the one I have my eyes on happens to be lacking important qualities I look for in a man, I move on.

Does perfection consist of possessing all the qualities one wants in a partner or just the most important ones? Does it consist of possessing the character traits one needs as a man or a woman, whether they’re aware of it or not?

Does it mean possessing all of the qualities one is looking for, both important and less so? What happens if one’s taste changes?

As you can see, perfection is a relative term.

However, one can use the phrase of “Nobody’s perfect” to their advantage when it comes to clearing their energy.

If you feel that nobody’s perfect, not even the person you might be idealizing, you will be able to relax and stop looking at yourself as if you were below them. Everyone possesses likeable as well as unlikable traits, the impressive and the annoying.

It is the way one carries themselves in every context that is truly attractive. It is their energy, what they project and how they perceive themselves that makes them the one you desire.

Once you start feeling good about yourself (and your relationship with them), they will see you the same way.

Are you enough?

Yes. You are. Own that feeling! And, be grateful.

Questions to Your Specific Relationship

Have you ever focused on a specific person so much that you felt them looking for you, too?

This is a common experience with a relationship manifestation, whether or not you are aware of it. When holding specific feelings for another, loving them as well as the said feelings, you are going to evoke the same in them.

When any of us realizes we like someone new, there is little thinking as to why. Things either seem to have perfectly aligned or taken us completely by surprise – either way, we know what we want when we want it without much thought put towards why we want it.

Whenever I was fascinated with a man, he was with me, too. Whenever I rendered him insufficient, he didn’t feel entirely comfortable with me either, regardless of the specific reasons. There is no room for ego when it comes to energy flow – what we give equals everything we receive.

If this concept reads confusing to you, let me explain. Feeling that someone is perfect yet being desperate to be with them means you are aware that a relationship with them is missing from your life. However, if you feel that another is perfect for you and are genuinely happy about it, excited for the current phase of your life without them to end and a new one with them to begin, happily making space for them in your home or taking any other action you relate to your relationship, you are aware that this relationship is the right life path for you.

Are you ready to abandon the current phase of your life without your specific person and be their partner from now on? Are you ready to include them into various aspects of your life?

Several times, I knew that the relationship with someone I had chosen to be with was happening unstoppably but since I had failed to feel 100% comfortable with it every time, I would leave all these relationships fast. I knew I had them but I also knew I didn’t want to keep them. Do you see the difference?

What are some of the reasons one might feel negatively about their specific person?

Do you truly believe you can make your specific person happy? If experiencing feelings of guilt, ask yourself why. Do you believe your person can make you happy but aren’t sure if you can provide the same to them?

Do you have any history left to forgive?

What we focus on is what we continue to receive. The way in which we view another will perpetuate until our point of view is transformed.

When you know that a specific relationship is yours, you are able to let it go effortlessly in order to manifest and feel nothing but happiness.