Manifesting a relationship with someone special requires loving thoughts about the relationship, visualizing the two of you together and enjoying your belief and trust in the Universe.Continue reading
You know you want to be with him/her. You know that you aren’t together yet. You want to manifest a relationship but it upsets you to be apart, and potentially see or think of them with someone else.
You may or may not already know that accepting the current reality is essential to manifest the ideal. You want to be unfazed by whatever you’re seeing and only visualize the ideal…and it’s hard. It’s hard to disconnect from everything in front of you in order to connect with everything you want. It’s difficult to not be sad, especially when missing someone.
There is sadness in the missing and happiness in togetherness. However, perception is something that keeps us inside an awareness. We either think about being with our specific person and start picturing it or we dwell on being apart. If you look at it logically, these are the only two options.
Fortunately, energy works by attracting to us what we spend our time thinking about.
It isn’t that you receive something first, and then believe it can be yours – it works the other way around.
Yet when noticing an absence of something we aren’t used to having, we can forget that affirming and visualizing can make us feel like we have it already, and change our reality.NG
So you can choose to think about your ideal life and see change happen.
People manifest what they are used to, at least on autopilot. Unintentionally, we tend to attract what we are used to having over and over. Someone who sees their financial wealth as the basis of their life will continue to manifest a life in which that wealth remains on their comfort level. Someone whose perception is being a single person will continue to attract and engage in situations that support it.
Our habitual perceptions must be changed in order for our life to change. These changes are achieved with affirming, visualizing and knowing that the Universe is manifesting them into our realities. Knowing that the Universe has already created them and is placing them into our lives right now. Our only job is to be open to that change, to be accepting of it. To be ready for it now; a.k.a., to be sure it’s about to show up, to be looking forward to it, to be excited about it.
Because if you know your desire is cemented into the path of your fate, you have nothing to worry about.NG
Here are the practical steps on what to do if knowing that your desire isn’t here yet is causing you sadness.
- Remember that you aren’t together yet, so you have time to prepare. That’s a good thing! If you feel uncomfortable or not ready for your manifestation just yet, don’t you want to get ready? Get comfortable? You will be in a much more of a receiving mode if you are comfortable, which means your desire will manifest faster. (When we have fears, we block our manifestation. Whether it’s about getting hurt or wondering what kind of partner you are going to make, fear will continue to keep your manifestation from you and make you feel unworthy. And you don’t want that.)
- Sadness is a sign of focusing on not having what you want – you must affirm and/or visualize to lighten your energy. If what you want is missing from your life, Our energy is light when we either know that what we want is ours, or feel that we would be okay either way. Work on the knowing and you will be able to focus on other things, allowing your desire the space to manifest.
- You are winning your person over with positive thinking and love. You aren’t making them come to you/come back but because of the love you feel, they’re choosing to come to you/come back! Stay positive not just for yourself but for them as well. You will be much more attractive to your person and, energetically, to your goals, if you create a wonderful mood for them. If you’re happy and sure, you attract faster; the happier we are, the more powerfully we entice our miracle. And the person we want will be attracted to a happy individual. You won’t find attractive those who don’t enjoy life either.
Remember, you are an amazing person. You are someone who knows happiness and wants it back. To make that happen faster, you want to choose to believe that your goals are a done deal. Don’t think that they’re still so far and have to come much closer. Believe that they’re close already, even if you can’t see it. Because we manifest everything we deeply believe.
Let’s talk about manifesting relationships because I have always found that the correct internal verbal expression of those relationships (which is different for every single individual) leads to positive thoughts and visualization which lead to belief.
Do you prefer to tell yourself that your desired relationship belongs to you already or internally state that it is going to manifest soon?
Which specific wording suits you better?
Some feel unnatural believing their relationships belong to them already but do feel good knowing that everything will come together soon. Others feel great about knowing that everything has already been worked out on an invisible level and just has to manifest in reality. Others genuinely feel good knowing that a relationship might manifest or that it might not, whatever feels best – there is a great deal of individuals out there who don’t practice LoA consciously when it comes to relationships because they feel it ruins the element of surprise. Continue reading
This post first appeared on my (first) blog, https://improvingconfidence.wordpress.com/
I continuously encounter individuals who believe a great relationship is something they are entitled to.
A great relationship is something everyone deserves, just like any other blessing in life. Everyone deserves to experience happiness but those that receive it have in fact earned it with their positive mindsets, respect for others and gratitude for their lives.
Everyone deserves it but a positive individual earns it, allowing a happy relationship to come into their reality.
On the other hand, those projecting negative energy (be it frustration, desperation, negative self-image, impatience, rudeness or general dissatisfaction) are continuously preventing what they deserve, a great relationship in this case, to appear in their lives.
You get what you give; genuine appreciation for life, your own and those of others, ensures you will receive an abundance of goodness in return. You merely need to find that appreciation.
The idea of an amazing relationship being earned holds truth but requires explanation; stating this idea as simply as it looks in writing may evoke negative reactions instead of positive. One becomes worthy of a great relationship by viewing oneself in a positive light, focusing on everything they enjoy in life, respecting one’s unique qualities as well as the qualities of others and having personal integrity that ensures standing by one’s personal beliefs.
Many believe they must earn a great relationship by fulfilling requirements such as career success, a larger-than-life personality, financial wealth or being classically good looking. However, basic creation principles state that one’s beliefs create one’s awareness; for example, individuals who deeply believe they cannot earn a great relationship until they have a great job will encounter specific experiences reflecting those beliefs.
Truth is, the relationship you desire has nothing to do with your social status unless you decide to believe it. Those who stick to beliefs such as “Once I get a good job, I will have inner peace and be ready for a relationship” will most likely find that the job, the relationship and the inner peace continue to elude them. Postponing those experiences by masking them as future goals will ensure they remain distant goals, making it impossible to catch up to that “perfect future.”
Now, I am not saying your desires are irrelevant but for as long as you think “I’ll be confident once I have this,” you are creating a future goal that will always remain in the future. In reality, you must feel deserving of your goals now and be confident in yourself before you can obtain them.
Contrary to popular belief, relationships have nothing to do with your social status, level of wealth, professional success or your looks. When it comes to relationships, you merely need to be confident in the person you are. You need to draw your confidence from internal factors instead of external. You need to recognize your personal qualities, the beauty of your physical traits, your intelligence and gratitude for everything you have in life.
One of the best ways to earn a great relationship rests in developing self-confidence, self-comfort and self-acceptance.
Amplifying those character traits with a positive mindset will allow you to focus on everything you love in life instead of everything you are currently missing. If you focus on your positive traits, you will effortlessly focus on your (potential) partner’s positive traits, enjoying your relationship immensely and solving problems in it easily. Suddenly, you will come to realize relationships were intended to be easy and enjoyable instead of being a constant ego battle between opposing sides. If you have an eye on a potential partner, you will be encouraged to communicate with them as you have recognized your own qualities while appreciating them for theirs. You will realize how much there is to be liked about you!
If you believe your looks are insufficient to evoke attraction in another, you will project an unhappy demeanor, tension and insecurity. The best part is, you can decide to focus on the aspects of your appearance you like instead. You can appreciate your beauty instead of focusing on the reasons it is less than perfect. This positive energy will evoke even more of the same, allowing you to feel increasingly great about yourself.
Ultimately, is there a real reason you should feel negatively about your appearance? Everyone holds a different idea of what beauty means. More importantly, we all respond to each other’s energy much stronger than any physical attributes – every time you were attracted someone who wasn’t your “type” proves that.
Do you compare yourself to others? This is another mistake which can prevent you from receiving life’s goods. Do you believe you must match an ideal another specific person represents to you while considering anything “less” to be insufficient? This mindset only states your lack of appreciation for yourself, as you feel undeserving of love. Even if you think your (potential) partner only wants the ideal you have imagined him/her wanting, it doesn’t mean you’re right.
We all know the story – one perceives their desired partner to be “too good for me.” “He/She is out of my league,” they imagine, never making a move or deeming themselves worthy. This thought process is perpetuated until the object of their affection meets someone else.
There are plenty of similar examples. However, it all comes down to the following.
Searching for the reasons to postpone living a happy relationship only shows that you doubt your own value. If recognizing the said value undoubtedly ensures finding a great relationship, what is the point of feeling inadequate?
How did you choose the specific person you want(ed) to be in a relationship with?
Some just follow their feelings and don’t think about the reasons why. They know that they have found someone special and they make sure this person stays in their life.
Others like to know what specifically they liked about the person they choose and others choose to examine their behavior to realize what it is that attracts or motivates them to want to start a relationship.
This is how I do it.
I see myself with a specific man when I want to give, put in time, affection and live our lives together – I’ve said this before but would like to explain. I don’t think about what he can do for me but what I wish to do for him. I want to get to know his life, his friends, his passions and his heart. I want to be included and give him the most amazing reasons to include me by being an amazing person who makes him happy. I want to be around him and think about what I want to give to our relationship instead of what I want to take from it.
When I feel that way, I know that I have chosen well.
Knowing why I want a specific man helps me manifest because I know what I truly want. If the man in question displays the energy and the qualities I admire, I know I truly feel it. At the same time, every person is different and qualities can show in different ways so it is important for me to choose someone I admire exactly for who he is, someone I want to be with without ever wanting to change him.
If you think about it, you probably know why you want the person you want, love the one you love or appreciate the qualities which you do. Either way, be grateful for being with the one person of your choice.
When it comes to men and women especially, a difference in behaviors, reasons for those behaviors, habits and approach methods can cause a riff between the two sides, resulting in arguments and resentment. One side feels that the other should act a certain way if they care while the other feels that they did nothing wrong but lived their life while also building a potential relationship and expressed their feelings.
Let’s deal with the side of an intentional manifestation practitioner who wants to know their desired relationship is manifesting.
A manifestation practitioner who feels this way wants to see evidence of their desire manifesting now. However, letting go is the only way to see results now but instead, they incessantly check their phone, email and social media hoping to see something there.
They are displaying the need for their desire to manifest instead of love and trust that it will.
I know you know this by now but this is not criticism. We are simply discussing it because that type of behavior prevents you from manifesting your desired relationship. In addition, it prevents you from being happy now since looking for something that you feel is missing is enough to make you miserable.
The knowing of your desired relationship manifesting is inside you, not among the signs you receive or the reactions you get. All of those things follow your awareness.
You could do every couple thing with someone and still not be a couple. Or, you could not even have communicated with another for a long time and suddenly, you became a couple. You have to realize that this is where creation rests, not in the number of texts you receive.
This type of conflict happens between men and women for various reasons.
There was a period of my life when I entered relationships faster than you could blink. Not flings, relationships. I would be introducing my new boyfriend around, not caring whether or not I might want him a month from then. I was living in the moment. I was positive it was the right thing to do and I still am convinced it was so. I was enjoying loving feelings for as long as they lasted, expressing myself freely. I was going with the flow of the relationship. At the same time, I would see others in miserable long-term relationships yet staying together. I was in a long-term relationship once as well, for as long as I was happy in it. However, I manifest and have relationships when I want them because I don’t condition them to last forever. I want to be happy. I focus on the love instead of things that have nothing to do with a happy relationship. It can last or it doesn’t have to but let’s see how it goes.
However, not all my exes took that as lightly. After a while, one took me for granted, thinking a relationship would last just because he had found someone he wanted to settle down with. He thought I would stay with him just because we were together for a long time but I ended it because he had stopped trying. Once I knew I wanted out, I ended it. Two others expected that I would want a long-term relationship with them just because they did but had put their needs before mine. They thought I should give them what they wanted by default but relationships are a choice. I choose to be with someone or, not. However, they depended on me for their happiness and self-esteem. So, I left.
Do you see what I mean? Because this is something men and women have in common.
You cannot expect to only be happy around your specific person or with them in your life and expect to stay attractive to them. Why? Because depending on another for happiness doesn’t make you feel good either. You must have your own life, work, activities, hobbies, interests, purpose, friends and the things you love. You can share as much as you want with your specific person but not be practically incapable of living without them. This is especially important for women to know.
Trying to rush your manifestation frantically shows that you cannot feel good unless you have it in your life. This energy blocks it from coming just like depending on another for your happiness blocks them from seeing you as someone they want to be in a relationship with.
You don’t have to be superwoman – just a woman who feels comfortable with herself, values herself and loves everything she is, which gives her confidence. Only when you love you will you able to love another.
A happy relationship is created when you love the person enough to allow them to be themselves instead of wanting them to cater to your needs. A happy relationship is created when you think positively enough about the person to want to give to them and the relationship instead of thinking what they should want to give to you. Imagine wanting to spend time with them and wanting to make them happy!
Now, let’s talk about those of you who know that someone is “the one” for life. If I can be relaxed without needing a relationship to last, why couldn’t you be happy knowing you have found someone with him you will manifest a lasting relationship? You have it figured out so be happy! You know you can manifest this so why entertain the thoughts that make you miserable, such as those of you two being apart?
Do you see how many good things you have to look forward to? If you focus on them, you will allow the Universe to work out the details for you.
A reader pointed out her area of struggle, believing her desire belongs to her already, saying:
“Would you please kindly address more how can I be sure myself that I can have it and how to gain that strong intention–”
I could once again say “capture the feeling of having it” or “visualize having it once and stick to it” but a permanent solution to this problem can be achieved by looking within and asking yourself why you don’t feel that you can have and live your desire.
Once you realize why you are blocking yourself from receiving your desire, why you believe to be undeserving, you can remember that we all manifest what we believe. Then, think about what you want to believe. How do you want to see yourself? Because the way you see yourself is the way others see you.
If you fear away from exploring your limiting beliefs, it will be difficult to manifest what you want. Some have told me they felt embarrassed after looking within and finding guilt, shame and an inferiority complex.
However, I have an easy answer which will make you see that exploring and resolving limiting beliefs can be easy.
You don’t have to be afraid or ashamed – nobody feels amazing every minute. Let a negative feeling go and move on. In the moments you feel less than great, you can again feel great when you stop pretending, admit how you feel and stop seeing it as a big deal or something embarrassing.
Be confident about your feelings, no matter what they are. I can openly say how I feel and move on. If I ever felt embarrassed, I would say it and as soon as I did, it went away. That was how I eventually lost the grasp of what embarrassment felt like. If I feel sad, I say it and feel better immediately. You could vocalize negative emotions with the purpose of releasing them and then move on from them.
You could also admit to someone you trust that you feel inadequate (including your fellow readers on this blog) and not only will they remind you of how worthy you are, you will feel that it is false as soon as you say it. As you explore your feelings, you will see how much there is in your life to be grateful for and feel positively about. You are surrounded by people who love you and you have so much! You cannot put all of life’s importance to a desire you are now wanting to manifest. You have to be complete before it comes to you.
Awakening all of these ideas inside you is enough to make you see that you can have anything you want but have to have a life outside of it, too. Clinging to a desire too much makes you feel like you don’t have it, blocking your desired manifestation. However, realizing there is no reason to cling to this desire is very important. You already have a rich life.
If you could see yourself as rich, valuable and colorful as you want to be, you will easily accomplish your goals. Confidence is the answer to everything, if you ask me. Tell yourself you are ready to receive and live your desire and then, visualize having it. Thank the Universe for it, let it go and in the moments of doubt, remind yourself that since you asked for your desire, you must receive it because the Universe knows what you want. You have to trust it to give you what you want – that way, you are allowing it to do the work for you.
I find it necessary to explain in further detail the process of one’s feelings when manifesting a relationship. Yes, we all know to ask and allow ourselves to receive but what about those unable to let go without understanding why? Those who feel uncomfortable without understanding why?
Just because I tell you it can all be overcome doesn’t mean I don’t understand your struggle. As always, I will also tell you how I do it and trust that it will help you.
Manifesting relationships requires absolute certainty of wanting a specific person and a relationship with them. I have to want to be with the man in question. Being aware of my preferences in choosing this man helps, as I am aware of why I like him and want to be with him. To give you an idea, I tend to admire a man with an open heart.
After deciding on a specific man, I love being absolutely intoxicated with the idea of being in a relationship with him as often as I can. When it comes to calmer moments, I still visualize situations of simply thinking, “I’m so happy with him.” That sentiment can come to me in any situation and I can feel it just by looking at him. I love to create our relationship in my mind and heart, with the help of my feelings. Imagining I have it already is always supported by vivid visualization of the relationship I love and enjoy. I love that the relationship is mine already simply because I’ve decided so. Feeling that I have it already motivates my actions from the start.
In the past, I shared my happy feelings for a specific man with my friends. If I didn’t, one of my closest friends knew there was a problem (with my feelings). She would then say,
“If you haven’t mentioned his name in a few days, it means there’s trouble in paradise.”
Today, I verbalize it less and differently. I am comfortable with change which allows me to accept my new preferences. However, the feeling of loving my relationship and the happiness of being in it (already) remain strong.
Once I calm down from the euphoria, I realize that all those positive feelings have truly made me believe my desire belongs to me already. This is the benefit of any positive feelings – they reshape your awareness. This is the reason why, if ever experiencing a lack of positive feelings, you are advised to go out and do something nice for yourself or someone else. You will automatically be filled with love!
In the moments of resistance, I already know it’s false because I believe in my relationship. Resistance feels weak because my belief is strong. This is why I only advocate working on the belief, as it obliterates anything else.
Once you begin putting all your energy into your belief and make a commitment to stop reacting to your fears, the belief will grow. It will feel real, strong and the resistance will actually feel false and slightly paranoid. Resistance never makes sense – many tend to come up with outrageous scenarios in their minds.
I have been called an amazing girlfriend in the past. I think one of the main reasons for it was because I dared to feel a tremendous amount of love for the man in question, our relationship and myself. If I wasn’t being called an amazing girlfriend anymore, I had already started to feel uncomfortable in the relationship.
The knowing my relationship belonging to me already is mostly calm. Various situations will give me butterflies but the overall feeling of knowing is steady and calm. The feeling of having everything I wanted evokes gratitude in me but is also calm because it is organic.
Being in your specific relationship has to feel natural to you – then, you’ll be open to living it. Living in your house feels natural so you remain in it. Your physical appearance is something you’re used to seeing in the mirror every day – you offer no resistance to accepting that it’s real, as you see it every day. See what I mean?
Your relationship has to feel real and natural to you. In the cases of conscious creation, you simply have to develop new habits allowing you to perceive the relationship as real.
Be mentally ready to live your relationship. You can achieve this with simply feeling love and letting go. I believe one must truly feel good about themselves in order to be ready for their desired relationship. Happy relationships require happy and confident individuals who are also courageous and comfortable with themselves.
You might be looking for a solution that will change your thought process without you having to do it yourself – that is why some keep searching for the perfect LoA technique. However, the answer lies in a conscious decision being made on your end.
You might be wondering why so many suggest feeling gratitude for your desire, as if you have it in your life already. Well, the reason is gratitude evokes and increases the love inside you. Feeling truly grateful for your desire will expand your heart energy, allow you to feel love for your desire and appreciate your life.
Today, I’m just excited to see my parents and give them a hug. It’s enough.
Today, I want to solve a specific issue several of my beloved readers stated in their blog comments.
Since Christmas or in some cases, January 1st, several of you have commented that you wished your soon-to-be significant others (because I believe in all of you) happy holidays to no reply. Or, some of you wished to receive a greeting from your specific person but didn’t.
You are hoping for a specific reaction from a specific person – a text or a reply to a text. But what if you got it and didn’t represent a significant shift you were hoping for in your relationship manifestation? Specific behaviors don’t always bring what you want just because you think they should – you have to let your specific person express themselves in the way they wish. That means letting them be and allowing them to come to you. This is why being relaxed about your desire is vital and completely natural when you allow the person to just be themselves. They might say what you want to hear over text or in an even better way. You want a reply but what if that reply makes you realize you’re still in the same place you were before it? What if there’s a better way to move forward but you refuse to allow it because you’re hooked on that reply?
You can stop needing that text or reply.
Do you want the reply or the relationship?
This isn’t criticism! It is nothing but advice on how to stop doing what’s making you feel awful. Needing specific steps or ways of manifestation (i.e. specific texts) makes you feel sad, needy and lowers your vibration too effectively. And I want you to be happy.
You have to assume that the relationship you want is yours and remain true to that belief.
You weren’t energetically open to receiving communication which doesn’t mean that he/she doesn’t care. Simply take a look at what your worrying says about you. What are your limiting beliefs? If you really love this person, you will believe that you can make them happy, want to make them happy and let them come to you.
Things are never as bad as they seem.
Do you want to be close to your person, live a life of closeness or want to manifest texts?
When you know your desire belongs to you, when you are deeply sure, you can text and do whatever else you want because you will continue to believe until you manifest.