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Self-Love Equals Smooth Manifestation

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For days, I’ve been thinking about the single most important part of effortless manifestation. Most of us wanted to know the answer to successfully avoiding negative thoughts and stopping ourselves from engaging in doubt yet we didn’t find it until we started to feel unconditionally good about ourselves.

They don’t tell us that love is the key to LoA for nothing. Some might wonder why love is such a boost and why self-love in particular means so much in this process but when you think about it, you end up realizing that self-love leads to positivity and positivity leads to relaxation, trust and letting go. A relaxed mind boosted by loving emotions leads to attracting one’s desired life without effort.

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The Truth Behind Changing Your Mind in Specific Manifestations

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Being specific has its ups and downs. Then again, anything does.

In life, my actions always reflected a core belief of “I want this so I am going to have it – nothing else, nothing less!” which led me to certain manifestations that looked nothing like I had imagined.

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Are You Comfortable With Relationships and Your Specific Person?

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Do you feel comfortable interacting with the person you have feelings for? With those you are generally interested in? Or, do you feel tense, nervous or just plain scared about talking to the person of your choice? Are you afraid you might get hurt or do you welcome any interaction with those you are interested in, wanting to get to know them even better?

When you think about your specific person coming for you, wanting to be in a relationship with you, do you feel excited or scared? Do you feel ready for it or not?

The answers to these questions will decide whether an interaction with the person you are interested in presents a happy or an exhausting event for you.

If an interaction with the person you are interested in or have feelings for presents conflicting feelings for you, you are not alone. Many have had questions about removing the fear of interacting with someone with enjoyment instead of fearing what could go wrong (which they do due to a lack of comfort).

How can good courtship advice translate into good LoA advice?

Firstly you must know that comfort in receiving a relationship you have asked for makes manifestation happen. Feeling comfortable about living your desire removes resistance.

On the other hand…

If you feel uneasy at the thought of receiving and living your desire now, a part of you is preventing manifestation and thinking of paranoid scenarios instead of letting go to receive. This is a problem when manifesting relationships with the people you feel at least partially negatively about –  exes usually fall into this category. This might also happen with new people you don’t know that much about but you should assume the best about them.

If you feel good about the person you want, you can see yourself with them; if you feel uneasy about them for any reason, tendency to fall into negative thoughts with little to no basis in reality might take over. If you aren’t entirely comfortable around the person you want to manifest a relationship with, you might become slightly negative and entertain paranoid thoughts. 

Once you become comfortable with yourself, your qualities and everything you have to offer, you will be comfortable at the thought of being with your specific person. You will be excited instead of nervous!

HOW TO FIX YOUR RELATIONSHIP PERCEPTION

Good relationship tips are based on good self confidence tips, just like anything else. Self confidence leads to self comfort which makes you comfortable with manifesting and living your desires. Comfort means no resistance, right?

Self love plays into all of that perfectly as it increases self confidence as well as self comfort.

When becoming interested in a man, I want to get to know him even better. However, others have told me they fear getting to know the people they’re interested in, in fear of learning something they might dislike; this mindset probably comes from loneliness and wanting to finally manifest something with someone instead of “having to give up” yet again.

Beware – feeling lonely while wanting to manifest a relationship throws off your intention so give into the feeling of living your relationship 100%! Don’t be afraid. Loneliness makes focusing on your desired reality difficult and puts pressure on your interactions with the people you are interested in while you fear that you might ruin everything and continue to go through life alone.

To some, relationship happiness and safety are foreign. Occasionally, they visualize and actually feel happiness in the relationship they want to manifest but are not used to feeling satisfaction from a happy relationship. To some, this makes it difficult to visualize a happy relationship; to those who are determined and ready to use their imagination as well as connect to their natural manifesting abilities, nothing is a problem. The latter group is ready to do whatever it takes to manifest their desires.

I have observed that both men and women are largely uncomfortable with the prospect of relationships. More than ever, many assume that the person they are interested in would fail to reciprocate, at least fully. Some others struggle with other issues, such as not being excited about relationships in general.

In truth, a lack of relationship excitement has to do with one’s inner self, not relationships. We produce the circumstances we feel so if one isn’t excited about relationships, one has to resolve their own limiting beliefs and inner obstacles.

Do You Trust Your Specific Person and/or Yourself?

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When manifesting a relationship, it is always with a specific man I chose. When there is one I want to be with, I see us together and I easily visualize the situations in which we are together, as I want our relationship to be. If I imagine something I want to live, it makes me feel good.

Sounds simple, right?

If you want to manifest a specific relationship, do you feel good when imagining the two of you together? If you don’t, why don’t you?

Is it because you think a relationship should happen a certain way? If that’s the case, either accept that you can change things or if you don’t want to, you can always find someone else who will give you an even better feeling. You must believe that you can have what you want with the person you want in order to manifest it.

Is your mutual past still bothering you? Or your past with someone else which you fear repeating? Get over it and move on. This is not criticism, just a suggestion. Get over it because you deserve to. You don’t deserve to be an emotional slave to someone else or worse, yourself because you choose to hold onto the hurt from the past. The person who hurt you is not better than you – more importantly, they are someone you will be happier staying away from so it’s good that they keep their distance from you, right? After all, you choose to feel hurt by someone else’s actions or, not. No one can hurt you if you refuse to allow it and if you ever did, change that today. You deserve to be happy instead.

Are you afraid of getting involved with this person? Maybe you don’t trust them or just don’t trust that they could make you happy. You must feel good about this person in order to believe that you could actually be with them which means appreciating what you do about them and accepting the rest.

These are just a few examples but you see what I mean.

You don’t have to be or feel perfect – just positive. Happy. Happiness is all you need. Happiness is everything.

Why I Love to Manifest

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When it comes to LoA, I know that some fear it, don’t believe in it, find it too difficult or simply don’t believe in themselves. I am positive that most individuals realize that there are ways of making their dreams a reality but don’t believe the process can be easy; I am sure that some of those individuals believe LoA to be real but resist using it for various reasons.

Every time I attract things many don’t believe to be possible within hours, days or weeks, I realize how much I love to manifest all over again. I love it when I receive the exact work gigs I wanted. I love it when I manifest living somewhere I wanted to live. I love being offered even greater professional fees than I had imagined. I love manifesting contact from anyone I wanted to talk to. And, I love the feeling of immense excitement and gratitude every time I manifest intentionally.

Today, I loved manifesting one of my closest friends coming to visit me just weeks after I had taken a trip to see her. We’ve been close for twelve years and never failed to visit each other wherever we lived after college, the first day of which we had met. We spent a week together in June and wanted that to continue; we’d been talking about another week together since parting and today, an hour after I expressed gratitude for her coming to visit me, she informed me that she had booked her tickets.

In moments like these, my love for intentional manifestation seems to be the greatest whenever I do something to make both myself and others happy. When it comes to friendships and loves, we manifest mutual love and adoration. When it comes to manifesting the happiness, prosperity and well-being of others, we also manifest mutual love that is both ours for directing happy feelings at another and theirs for receiving the abundance of all sorts. If you wish someone well, their life will get even better.

Always wish others well – it will come back to you tenfold. Always manifest loving friendships and relationships, and cherish all those amazing individuals in your life. Always be convinced of your personal power and your ability to make others happy, and you will have the most amazing friendships and relationships in your life; your friends will support your relationships and your friendships will be even richer in love and value.

How Do Others See You?

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Do you ever think about the perception of yourself some people seem to hold? Not that it matters; we are looking at this just for fun.

Or…does the perception of you held by others ever upset you?

This may have happened rarely overall but at one point, it happened several consecutive times. Some would see me as overly kind or a “good girl” simply because I was willing to help people, work very hard when I loved my job or simply agreed to be in a relationship with someone who had the idea it would last forever without giving me enough reason to want to stay. Those misconceptions ended as soon as these individuals displayed such behaviors. As soon as they hinted at overstepping boundaries, I would fire back. Then, they were confused; having had a different picture in their mind, they didn’t know what to do when suddenly having to show integrity. I never kept in touch with most of them – spending even a minute with downers whose goal is to not feel better but stay in their negative comfort zone instead is a waste of life. However, I always wished them well. These individuals need compassion more than anything else.

Does this sound familiar to you?

I have once quit working for someone who expected me to work full time for insufficient compensation. When I refused and quit, this person was shocked but why would anyone have to do that? Nobody does and by disagreeing, in addition to it being a job offer I didn’t love, I remained true to myself.

I swiftly ended most of my relationships as soon as I didn’t enjoy them anymore. One of my closest friends once said, matter-of-factly, that most people vocalize their issues with a relationship, give things a chance to turn around but I didn’t and always left instead. However, she did say that some attempt to “resolve issues” not out of love but out of attachment, habit and the fear of being alone. I always knew that someone wasn’t “it” just before I left, proven by the fact that I never went back.

Today, I find myself choosing kind but truly confident men, those who are comfortable with themselves and grateful for everything they have. And I am proud of myself for it. I don’t have the will to choose men who are kind but seem to need another to build them up – I want a complete, confident person. I always felt good about myself but do so even more as the years go by so maybe that has something to do with it.

Those who truly love their exes find a way back to them. The examples above were just my situations. You have to know yourself. You also have to know that things don’t go the same way for all of us – your life depends on your beliefs. However, anyone can improve their beliefs and manifest the life they want.

Most of the time I left, my exes knew I couldn’t appreciate them because they didn’t fully appreciate themselves. Feeling insecure is one thing but allowing it to dictate your life and relationship is quite another. Self-love is enough to turn yourself and your life around.

You cannot use another for your personal happiness – you have to enjoy it before you can share it with them.

These are just several examples showing how completeness, self confidence and perception create our lives and relationships.

Bring Out the Best by Giving Your Best

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Weeks ago, I experienced a problem with a business associate. A slip had happened and finances suffered. At first, I barely reacted and just said, “It’ll all be resolved.” Easily obtaining the money to patch up the financial end of the story, I then got into a slight disagreement with the said associate over the entire situation. I openly expressed my disapproval to them and they reacted accordingly.

Then, I stopped to reassess.

I genuinely liked working with this person and I knew they meant well but had gotten upset because I blamed them for the problem. However, studying energy reminded me it was me who had attracted those problems in the first place and I knew exactly how. I also knew that this entire event was happening due to a raise in vibration I had been experiencing and would only make room for something even better in my life.

Over the next few days, I was able to calm down about everything. After a week or so, I emailed my associate and we spoke as if nothing happened. Prior to that, I had asked the Universe for our relationship to bounce back and become positive again. We continued to talk as if nothing happened whenever we had something to discuss. Then, I did something that mattered to me because I care about who I am as well as my own integrity and happiness. I apologized to my associate for my reaction to the entire thing and decided to put it behind us. After all, there are more important things in life than disagreements, in my opinion. The only thing that mattered was whether or not I wanted this to change our relationship.

I hadn’t gotten an apology in return but let the whole thing go anyway. I worked with my associate as if nothing happened, fully moving on or starting over (depending on how you see it). Over the next few weeks, up until yesterday, my associate surprised me in the ways I never thought were possible. They arranged for the entire situation to be fully resolved through new contacts, making all the effort to solve it for good. They handled all the paperwork and the story ended yesterday when I found out that I would be reimbursed for all the charges that had been made.

I never asked for this but received even more miracles than I had asked for. All I did was accept the situation, apologized for the bad and saw the good in my associate. I had decided that the entire situation was irrelevant because I did my part in attracting it into my life and could then move on, deciding that I didn’t want my professional relationship to suffer as a result.

After the final meeting I had taken yesterday to resolve the issue for good, I went for breakfast with my mother. Then, we did a little shopping (buying things we’d both been thinking about for weeks) and I headed home, making an appointment for a beauty treatment several hours later. In the meantime and after my visit to the beauty salon, I got work done. Everything aligned perfectly, showing me all over again that Law of Attraction is a way of life.

This story provided several valuable lessons.

Appreciating another person just as they are and focusing on the good in them comes back to you tenfold. When you give love, appreciation or acceptance, you always receive even more of it in return.

Also…

Feel good about yourself. Be convinced that you bring quality into everyone’s reality and every situation. Feel deserving of the good things in life.

I was convinced I brought something amazing into the situation by apologizing. I felt good about myself due to this particular approach.

Always do what makes you feel good. Follow your heart. Make the decisions you will stand by.

Because ultimately…

Giving your best to another makes them want to do their best for you.

Do You Cling to Specific Behaviors?

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When it comes to men and women especially, a difference in behaviors, reasons for those behaviors, habits and approach methods can cause a riff between the two sides, resulting in arguments and resentment. One side feels that the other should act a certain way if they care while the other feels that they did nothing wrong but lived their life while also building a potential relationship and expressed their feelings.

Let’s deal with the side of an intentional manifestation practitioner who wants to know their desired relationship is manifesting.

A manifestation practitioner who feels this way wants to see evidence of their desire manifesting now. However, letting go is the only way to see results now but instead, they incessantly check their phone, email and social media hoping to see something there.

They are displaying the need for their desire to manifest instead of love and trust that it will.

I know you know this by now but this is not criticism. We are simply discussing it because that type of behavior prevents you from manifesting your desired relationship. In addition, it prevents you from being happy now since looking for something that you feel is missing is enough to make you miserable.

The knowing of your desired relationship manifesting is inside you, not among the signs you receive or the reactions you get. All of those things follow your awareness.

You could do every couple thing with someone and still not be a couple. Or, you could not even have communicated with another for a long time and suddenly, you became a couple. You have to realize that this is where creation rests, not in the number of texts you receive.

This type of conflict happens between men and women for various reasons.

There was a period of my life when I entered relationships faster than you could blink. Not flings, relationships. I would be introducing my new boyfriend around, not caring whether or not I might want him a month from then. I was living in the moment. I was positive it was the right thing to do and I still am convinced it was so. I was enjoying loving feelings for as long as they lasted, expressing myself freely. I was going with the flow of the relationship. At the same time, I would see others in miserable long-term relationships yet staying together. I was in a long-term relationship once as well, for as long as I was happy in it. However, I manifest and have relationships when I want them because I don’t condition them to last forever. I want to be happy. I focus on the love instead of things that have nothing to do with a happy relationship. It can last or it doesn’t have to but let’s see how it goes.

However, not all my exes took that as lightly. After a while, one took me for granted, thinking a relationship would last just because he had found someone he wanted to settle down with. He thought I would stay with him just because we were together for a long time but I ended it because he had stopped trying. Once I knew I wanted out, I ended it. Two others expected that I would want a long-term relationship with them just because they did but had put their needs before mine. They thought I should give them what they wanted by default but relationships are a choice. I choose to be with someone or, not. However, they depended on me for their happiness and self-esteem. So, I left.

Do you see what I mean? Because this is something men and women have in common.

You cannot expect to only be happy around your specific person or with them in your life and expect to stay attractive to them. Why? Because depending on another for happiness doesn’t make you feel good either. You must have your own life, work, activities, hobbies, interests, purpose, friends and the things you love. You can share as much as you want with your specific person but not be practically incapable of living without them. This is especially important for women to know.

Trying to rush your manifestation frantically shows that you cannot feel good unless you have it in your life. This energy blocks it from coming just like depending on another for your happiness blocks them from seeing you as someone they want to be in a relationship with.

You don’t have to be superwoman – just a woman who feels comfortable with herself, values herself and loves everything she is, which gives her confidence. Only when you love you will you able to love another.

A happy relationship is created when you love the person enough to allow them to be themselves instead of wanting them to cater to your needs. A happy relationship is created when you think positively enough about the person to want to give to them and the relationship instead of thinking what they should want to give to you. Imagine wanting to spend time with them and wanting to make them happy!

Now, let’s talk about those of you who know that someone is “the one” for life. If I can be relaxed without needing a relationship to last, why couldn’t you be happy knowing you have found someone with him you will manifest a lasting relationship? You have it figured out so be happy! You know you can manifest this so why entertain the thoughts that make you miserable, such as those of you two being apart?

Do you see how many good things you have to look forward to? If you focus on them, you will allow the Universe to work out the details for you.

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A reader pointed out her area of struggle, believing her desire belongs to her already, saying:

“Would you please kindly address more how can I be sure myself that I can have it and how to gain that strong intention–”

I could once again say “capture the feeling of having it” or “visualize having it once and stick to it” but a permanent solution to this problem can be achieved by looking within and asking yourself why you don’t feel that you can have and live your desire.

Once you realize why you are blocking yourself from receiving your desire, why you believe to be undeserving, you can remember that we all manifest what we believe. Then, think about what you want to believe. How do you want to see yourself? Because the way you see yourself is the way others see you.

If you fear away from exploring your limiting beliefs, it will be difficult to manifest what you want. Some have told me they felt embarrassed after looking within and finding guilt, shame and an inferiority complex.

However, I have an easy answer which will make you see that exploring and resolving limiting beliefs can be easy.

You don’t have to be afraid or ashamed – nobody feels amazing every minute. Let a negative feeling go and move on. In the moments you feel less than great, you can again feel great when you stop pretending, admit how you feel and stop seeing it as a big deal or something embarrassing.

Be confident about your feelings, no matter what they are. I can openly say how I feel and move on. If I ever felt embarrassed, I would say it and as soon as I did, it went away. That was how I eventually lost the grasp of what embarrassment felt like. If I feel sad, I say it and feel better immediately. You could vocalize negative emotions with the purpose of releasing them and then move on from them.

You could also admit to someone you trust that you feel inadequate (including your fellow readers on this blog) and not only will they remind you of how worthy you are, you will feel that it is false as soon as you say it. As you explore your feelings, you will see how much there is in your life to be grateful for and feel positively about. You are surrounded by people who love you and you have so much! You cannot put all of life’s importance to a desire you are now wanting to manifest. You have to be complete before it comes to you.

Awakening all of these ideas inside you is enough to make you see that you can have anything you want but have to have a life outside of it, too. Clinging to a desire too much makes you feel like you don’t have it, blocking your desired manifestation. However, realizing there is no reason to cling to this desire is very important. You already have a rich life.

If you could see yourself as rich, valuable and colorful as you want to be, you will easily accomplish your goals. Confidence is the answer to everything, if you ask me. Tell yourself you are ready to receive and live your desire and then, visualize having it. Thank the Universe for it, let it go and in the moments of doubt, remind yourself that since you asked for your desire, you must receive it because the Universe knows what you want. You have to trust it to give you what you want – that way, you are allowing it to do the work for you.

THOUGHT OF THE DAY

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Today, I want to solve a specific issue several of my beloved readers stated in their blog comments.

Since Christmas or in some cases, January 1st, several of you have commented that you wished your soon-to-be significant others (because I believe in all of you) happy holidays to no reply. Or, some of you wished to receive a greeting from your specific person but didn’t.

You are hoping for a specific reaction from a specific person – a text or a reply to a text. But what if you got it and didn’t represent a significant shift you were hoping for in your relationship manifestation? Specific behaviors don’t always bring what you want just because you think they should – you have to let your specific person express themselves in the way they wish. That means letting them be and allowing them to come to you. This is why being relaxed about your desire is vital and completely natural when you allow the person to just be themselves. They might say what you want to hear over text or in an even better way. You want a reply but what if that reply makes you realize you’re still in the same place you were before it? What if there’s a better way to move forward but you refuse to allow it because you’re hooked on that reply?

You can stop needing that text or reply.

Do you want the reply or the relationship?

This isn’t criticism! It is nothing but advice on how to stop doing what’s making you feel awful. Needing specific steps or ways of manifestation (i.e. specific texts) makes you feel sad, needy and lowers your vibration too effectively. And I want you to be happy.

You have to assume that the relationship you want is yours and remain true to that belief.

You weren’t energetically open to receiving communication which doesn’t mean that he/she doesn’t care. Simply take a look at what your worrying says about you. What are your limiting beliefs? If you really love this person, you will believe that you can make them happy, want to make them happy and let them come to you.

Things are never as bad as they seem.

Do you want to be close to your person, live a life of closeness or want to manifest texts?

When you know your desire belongs to you, when you are deeply sure, you can text and do whatever else you want because you will continue to believe until you manifest.