No matter what I do and regardless of any negative thoughts I face, what I want is mine.
Law of Attraction is one of the most natural concepts to use and the most difficult to understand; sticking to imagining that you have what you want already and being grateful that it’s yours is enough to believe and achieve.
Make the process easy on yourself and stick to its simplicity.
Face your worries without judging yourself for having them. You can remove them simply by understanding them.
Experiences define you only if you allow them to.
When you are unable to think about receiving your desire without some sort of concern coming up inside you, chances are you have made a big deal out of it rather than just enjoying all the excitement related to it. Excitement and nervousness might feel the same initially but when you decide your desire belongs to you, start from there and stick to it, these moments of tingles passing through your body are excitement and energy that attracts.
People often say,
“I want to do this-and-that but I’m nervous/unsure.”
“It’s natural to share happiness so do it only if it makes you happy, without expecting anything in return.” But if you just know you are going to get something you want in return, good for you!
Several days ago, I was asked to give an opinion on the topic of verbally discussing a desire during its manifestation period.
Some like to discuss their desires while manifesting them and other don’t. Some are aware of LoA sources advising against talking about one’s desire during its manifestation period while other sources advise manifestation practitioners to discuss their desires in a bold manner.
Whenever I felt like talking about my desire of the moment, confident in its manifestation, I enjoyed this specific discourse. When it made me happy to stay quiet about my desire until the manifestation, confident in the said manifestation, I enjoyed keeping it to myself and sharing my manifestation once it was done. Much like any desire, they all manifested when I focused on what made me happy.
There are no specific rules here – if you do what makes you happy, you will manifest fast due to a boost of your positive energy which allows you to let go.
Both approaches have their benefits. This is also why one must decide which of the two approaches makes them happy – talking about their desire or, not. Some people are private while others enjoy sharing their plans. Sometimes, the choice depends on the specific desire. Some feel more comfortable and therefore happier staying silent, confident that this is the way to manifest in peace (I have done this many times). Others enjoy sharing their grand plans with whomever they choose, their manifestation process filled with audience (I have done this many times).
Only do what makes you feel good. Every action you could possibly take is meant to make you feel good!
If you look back on your life, you will have noticed manifestations following either of the two approaches. Sometimes, talking about your manifestation helped you. Other times, you manifested without having even considered sharing your plans with anyone.
Don’t overthink it – see how you feel. The approach chosen will be a result of your preference, confidence, the nature of your desire and, your overall personality. See how you feel and if you choose to share your manifestation plans with anyone.
While talking about your manifestation could raise your vibration and make you feel like you have it, it is not required. If you want to try this, go for it! Share your desire with someone you trust and see how you feel afterwards.
Do you feel more confident in your manifestation having shared it with someone you trust? How about after sharing it with your fellow blog readers and myself? Did it help?
If it did, great! It’s exactly what we’re here for.
When it comes to men and women especially, a difference in behaviors, reasons for those behaviors, habits and approach methods can cause a riff between the two sides, resulting in arguments and resentment. One side feels that the other should act a certain way if they care while the other feels that they did nothing wrong but lived their life while also building a potential relationship and expressed their feelings.
Let’s deal with the side of an intentional manifestation practitioner who wants to know their desired relationship is manifesting.
A manifestation practitioner who feels this way wants to see evidence of their desire manifesting now. However, letting go is the only way to see results now but instead, they incessantly check their phone, email and social media hoping to see something there.
They are displaying the need for their desire to manifest instead of love and trust that it will.
I know you know this by now but this is not criticism. We are simply discussing it because that type of behavior prevents you from manifesting your desired relationship. In addition, it prevents you from being happy now since looking for something that you feel is missing is enough to make you miserable.
The knowing of your desired relationship manifesting is inside you, not among the signs you receive or the reactions you get. All of those things follow your awareness.
You could do every couple thing with someone and still not be a couple. Or, you could not even have communicated with another for a long time and suddenly, you became a couple. You have to realize that this is where creation rests, not in the number of texts you receive.
This type of conflict happens between men and women for various reasons.
There was a period of my life when I entered relationships faster than you could blink. Not flings, relationships. I would be introducing my new boyfriend around, not caring whether or not I might want him a month from then. I was living in the moment. I was positive it was the right thing to do and I still am convinced it was so. I was enjoying loving feelings for as long as they lasted, expressing myself freely. I was going with the flow of the relationship. At the same time, I would see others in miserable long-term relationships yet staying together. I was in a long-term relationship once as well, for as long as I was happy in it. However, I manifest and have relationships when I want them because I don’t condition them to last forever. I want to be happy. I focus on the love instead of things that have nothing to do with a happy relationship. It can last or it doesn’t have to but let’s see how it goes.
However, not all my exes took that as lightly. After a while, one took me for granted, thinking a relationship would last just because he had found someone he wanted to settle down with. He thought I would stay with him just because we were together for a long time but I ended it because he had stopped trying. Once I knew I wanted out, I ended it. Two others expected that I would want a long-term relationship with them just because they did but had put their needs before mine. They thought I should give them what they wanted by default but relationships are a choice. I choose to be with someone or, not. However, they depended on me for their happiness and self-esteem. So, I left.
Do you see what I mean? Because this is something men and women have in common.
You cannot expect to only be happy around your specific person or with them in your life and expect to stay attractive to them. Why? Because depending on another for happiness doesn’t make you feel good either. You must have your own life, work, activities, hobbies, interests, purpose, friends and the things you love. You can share as much as you want with your specific person but not be practically incapable of living without them. This is especially important for women to know.
Trying to rush your manifestation frantically shows that you cannot feel good unless you have it in your life. This energy blocks it from coming just like depending on another for your happiness blocks them from seeing you as someone they want to be in a relationship with.
You don’t have to be superwoman – just a woman who feels comfortable with herself, values herself and loves everything she is, which gives her confidence. Only when you love you will you able to love another.
A happy relationship is created when you love the person enough to allow them to be themselves instead of wanting them to cater to your needs. A happy relationship is created when you think positively enough about the person to want to give to them and the relationship instead of thinking what they should want to give to you. Imagine wanting to spend time with them and wanting to make them happy!
Now, let’s talk about those of you who know that someone is “the one” for life. If I can be relaxed without needing a relationship to last, why couldn’t you be happy knowing you have found someone with him you will manifest a lasting relationship? You have it figured out so be happy! You know you can manifest this so why entertain the thoughts that make you miserable, such as those of you two being apart?
Do you see how many good things you have to look forward to? If you focus on them, you will allow the Universe to work out the details for you.
A reader pointed out her area of struggle, believing her desire belongs to her already, saying:
“Would you please kindly address more how can I be sure myself that I can have it and how to gain that strong intention–”
I could once again say “capture the feeling of having it” or “visualize having it once and stick to it” but a permanent solution to this problem can be achieved by looking within and asking yourself why you don’t feel that you can have and live your desire.
Once you realize why you are blocking yourself from receiving your desire, why you believe to be undeserving, you can remember that we all manifest what we believe. Then, think about what you want to believe. How do you want to see yourself? Because the way you see yourself is the way others see you.
If you fear away from exploring your limiting beliefs, it will be difficult to manifest what you want. Some have told me they felt embarrassed after looking within and finding guilt, shame and an inferiority complex.
However, I have an easy answer which will make you see that exploring and resolving limiting beliefs can be easy.
You don’t have to be afraid or ashamed – nobody feels amazing every minute. Let a negative feeling go and move on. In the moments you feel less than great, you can again feel great when you stop pretending, admit how you feel and stop seeing it as a big deal or something embarrassing.
Be confident about your feelings, no matter what they are. I can openly say how I feel and move on. If I ever felt embarrassed, I would say it and as soon as I did, it went away. That was how I eventually lost the grasp of what embarrassment felt like. If I feel sad, I say it and feel better immediately. You could vocalize negative emotions with the purpose of releasing them and then move on from them.
You could also admit to someone you trust that you feel inadequate (including your fellow readers on this blog) and not only will they remind you of how worthy you are, you will feel that it is false as soon as you say it. As you explore your feelings, you will see how much there is in your life to be grateful for and feel positively about. You are surrounded by people who love you and you have so much! You cannot put all of life’s importance to a desire you are now wanting to manifest. You have to be complete before it comes to you.
Awakening all of these ideas inside you is enough to make you see that you can have anything you want but have to have a life outside of it, too. Clinging to a desire too much makes you feel like you don’t have it, blocking your desired manifestation. However, realizing there is no reason to cling to this desire is very important. You already have a rich life.
If you could see yourself as rich, valuable and colorful as you want to be, you will easily accomplish your goals. Confidence is the answer to everything, if you ask me. Tell yourself you are ready to receive and live your desire and then, visualize having it. Thank the Universe for it, let it go and in the moments of doubt, remind yourself that since you asked for your desire, you must receive it because the Universe knows what you want. You have to trust it to give you what you want – that way, you are allowing it to do the work for you.
Since I mentioned this in my last few blog comments, I will elaborate on it now.
Some find themselves to be capable of keeping a limited amount of focus on their end goal while overthinking its potential development or painful past experiences in the meantime.
Several times, I’ve manifested using the following set of personally devised steps.
- Capture the feeling of having/living your desire now. See yourself in it. Dare to feel overwhelmed with love, having received your desire. Feel it! Then, say “Thank you.”
- Ask the Universe to give your desire to you and then, thank the Universe for having received it. You will end up using almost the exact same words for both. I think both of those because I know that as soon as I ask, my desired reality is created. Then, the only thing left is to receive it.
- Every time you feel tempted to entertain your negative thoughts (if you do at all), remember that since you asked for your desire, you must receive it.
- Whenever you want to (if you do), remember the feeling of having/living your desire from step one. If you would rather let go completely and forget about your desire until it manifests, you can.
This exceptionally brief series of steps often allows me to manifest within six, twelve or twenty-four hours. Other times, immediately, depending on the desire in question or how quickly I let go/am ready to receive what I had asked for.
WHY FOCUS ON YOUR END GOAL?
For one, focusing on the path your desire takes to manifest into your life will only lower your vibration. You will most likely want it to manifest faster, losing grasp on the gratitude you should feel for it.
Instead, be grateful that your desire is coming to you. Be grateful for your reality of living it, which will manifest soon.
Another reason why you should stop thinking about the path of your manifestation is your awareness of not having it yet. You can playfully imagine how it might happen but not cling to any of those ways.
Focusing on the “how” part can induce a sense of fear almost effortlessly. In my case, I don’t want to know how my desire will manifest – that part holds amazing surprises so why spoil it?
Be open to the most amazing surprises of your life! Be confident in yourself because you are unique and beautiful. Admire the person you are!
All of this sounds so simple only because it is.
Enjoying “me” time removes need and excessive attachment to one’s desire, allowing them to enjoy their life fully and rapidly manifest entirely new miracles.
“Me” time is another positive concept which society has spun into negative, pegging it selfish and unnecessary. “Me” time allows you to reconnect with your essence and true desires, giving you a chance to be grateful for everything you have.
I love my personal time. Going to a spa, reading a book, watching movies, long walks, meditation, even shopping all by myself in some cases can give me exactly what I need. I love and deserve it; my private time reminds me of everything I love, have and deserve in life. You can feel the same way and you know it!
Much of my work is also created in private but that is an entirely different story.
Many Law of Attraction teachers advocate pampering oneself as a method of expressing self-love as well as raising awareness of one’s value. I absolutely agree.
When you start to treat yourself the way you deserve, you will only accept the same from others.
“Me” time allows you to raise your vibration as you remind yourself of how rich and wonderful life is.
Nothing raises my vibration as effectively as a song that describes my feelings. I’m a music fan that manifests the perfect song of the moment without effort and recommend this to everyone. So many of us love music and can use this extremely easy way of raising our vibration.
Personally, I can kill an entire day listening to the same song on repeat while going about my work and errands. Connected to my desire, this particular song gives me effortless visualizations and makes me happy, preparing me for receiving and living my desire.
Your private visualization time with music on makes for fantastic “me” time.
I find it necessary to explain in further detail the process of one’s feelings when manifesting a relationship. Yes, we all know to ask and allow ourselves to receive but what about those unable to let go without understanding why? Those who feel uncomfortable without understanding why?
Just because I tell you it can all be overcome doesn’t mean I don’t understand your struggle. As always, I will also tell you how I do it and trust that it will help you.
Manifesting relationships requires absolute certainty of wanting a specific person and a relationship with them. I have to want to be with the man in question. Being aware of my preferences in choosing this man helps, as I am aware of why I like him and want to be with him. To give you an idea, I tend to admire a man with an open heart.
After deciding on a specific man, I love being absolutely intoxicated with the idea of being in a relationship with him as often as I can. When it comes to calmer moments, I still visualize situations of simply thinking, “I’m so happy with him.” That sentiment can come to me in any situation and I can feel it just by looking at him. I love to create our relationship in my mind and heart, with the help of my feelings. Imagining I have it already is always supported by vivid visualization of the relationship I love and enjoy. I love that the relationship is mine already simply because I’ve decided so. Feeling that I have it already motivates my actions from the start.
In the past, I shared my happy feelings for a specific man with my friends. If I didn’t, one of my closest friends knew there was a problem (with my feelings). She would then say,
“If you haven’t mentioned his name in a few days, it means there’s trouble in paradise.”
Today, I verbalize it less and differently. I am comfortable with change which allows me to accept my new preferences. However, the feeling of loving my relationship and the happiness of being in it (already) remain strong.
Once I calm down from the euphoria, I realize that all those positive feelings have truly made me believe my desire belongs to me already. This is the benefit of any positive feelings – they reshape your awareness. This is the reason why, if ever experiencing a lack of positive feelings, you are advised to go out and do something nice for yourself or someone else. You will automatically be filled with love!
In the moments of resistance, I already know it’s false because I believe in my relationship. Resistance feels weak because my belief is strong. This is why I only advocate working on the belief, as it obliterates anything else.
Once you begin putting all your energy into your belief and make a commitment to stop reacting to your fears, the belief will grow. It will feel real, strong and the resistance will actually feel false and slightly paranoid. Resistance never makes sense – many tend to come up with outrageous scenarios in their minds.
I have been called an amazing girlfriend in the past. I think one of the main reasons for it was because I dared to feel a tremendous amount of love for the man in question, our relationship and myself. If I wasn’t being called an amazing girlfriend anymore, I had already started to feel uncomfortable in the relationship.
The knowing my relationship belonging to me already is mostly calm. Various situations will give me butterflies but the overall feeling of knowing is steady and calm. The feeling of having everything I wanted evokes gratitude in me but is also calm because it is organic.
Being in your specific relationship has to feel natural to you – then, you’ll be open to living it. Living in your house feels natural so you remain in it. Your physical appearance is something you’re used to seeing in the mirror every day – you offer no resistance to accepting that it’s real, as you see it every day. See what I mean?
Your relationship has to feel real and natural to you. In the cases of conscious creation, you simply have to develop new habits allowing you to perceive the relationship as real.
Be mentally ready to live your relationship. You can achieve this with simply feeling love and letting go. I believe one must truly feel good about themselves in order to be ready for their desired relationship. Happy relationships require happy and confident individuals who are also courageous and comfortable with themselves.
You might be looking for a solution that will change your thought process without you having to do it yourself – that is why some keep searching for the perfect LoA technique. However, the answer lies in a conscious decision being made on your end.
You might be wondering why so many suggest feeling gratitude for your desire, as if you have it in your life already. Well, the reason is gratitude evokes and increases the love inside you. Feeling truly grateful for your desire will expand your heart energy, allow you to feel love for your desire and appreciate your life.
Today, I’m just excited to see my parents and give them a hug. It’s enough.