My Journal – An Insight into Negative Thoughts and Physical Discomfort

2:14 p.m.

I went out for a friend’s birthday last night. It was great until about 3:30 a.m. when the quality of music dropped. I became desperate to go home and this morning, I woke up with a headache. I feel like I must have attracted it due to complaining, even just to myself; on the other hand, it could have been due to slight exhaustion from staying up for twenty four hours, swimming for four in the morning and then dancing for another four in the middle of the night. Either way, I need a painkiller, as my second coffee alone isn’t helping right now.

When you live seeking out your personal joys, you also begin to desire a healthy amount of quiet, recovery days, which feel even better than you can imagine.

Living with the purpose of enjoying ourselves and also enjoying some quiet time prevents you from having enough energy to ever engage in overthinking or even negative thoughts, benefiting your well being and directing your focus to seeking out even more joys in the days to come. And today, all I wanted was some quiet time. I wanted to not think about anything besides some work, some food and some TV. I needed to unwind.

5:35 p.m.

As it tends to happen, physical pain can cause negative thoughts just like any other physical sensation does. I felt so bad physically that I started to have odd thoughts; however, I soon realized that it wasn’t any serious fear acting as a cause of these thoughts. I was just hungry and a body running on empty affects one’s mind accordingly.

This has happened before and I would always divert from negative thoughts…if I wanted to leave the situation badly enough. When I was hospitalized for appendicitis surgery, I summoned the motivation to start feeling better and be released. When I hated my second high school (our of three, in three different countries), I summoned all the motivation I need to manifest moving away with my family once again. But I didn’t want to leave my bed today which made it difficult to manifest a change in circumstances. So I just decided to manifest a headache away and magically found a painkiller even though I was convinced there were none left in the house. But the Universe always provides. I still have no idea where it came from.

7 p.m.

After the painkiller kicked in, I could feel my body relaxing and was sure my confusing thoughts were about to disappear. I wanted to sleep but also work at the same time. Then, one of my best friends called me which made me very happy. I needed something wonderful to do and I had found it. I knew that if I distracted myself, my negative thoughts would pass, even though they made no sense to me at all. I believed my brain was just tired.

And then…

Negative thoughts passed as soon as I took something meaningful from them. Suddenly, I got to know certain answers and believe it was the Universe’s way of helping me relax even more. The Universe had sent me a message that said, “Don’t even react. None of our negative thoughts ever make sense!” I knew it but then remembered that over the past week, I had been working on a new theory of removing them, all for the purpose of a new book I’ve been working on. Now, I was given a chance to test my own theory by observing the thoughts that came from physical discomfort, and I have gained new insight into dealing with them. I have been asked about this by several readers and clients, and have always looked for new ways of removing those thoughts that bother so many because it is my goal to make lives easier.

Let’s face it – most of our negative thoughts are self-imposed and not at all connected to the people or situations we assign them to. If you simply let them pass, no matter how weird and uncomfortable they feel, or remind yourself they are meaningless and irrelevant, you will come to a point where they feel so ridiculous that you won’t even understand where they came from in the first place.

Law of Attraction advice isn’t just about getting what you want – it is also about relaxing yourself so that you could imagine having what you want which is the necessary first step. Much of the Law of Attraction advice can be explained in elaborate stages but it always comes down to the simplest concepts – feel the positive, ignore the negative, believe in what you want before you see the proof of it and don’t be afraid. Maybe it is the reminder of those concepts that holds the biggest Law of Attraction lessons, as the point is to remind yourself of what you already learned in order to create new, positive habits.

9:21 p.m.

Negative thoughts seem even more distant now that I’ve just let them flow and had said to myself they were entirely self-imposed. I can look at their triggers and say, no. I have witnessed enough paranoia to make me realize that we don’t put ourselves into another person’s intentions by thinking negative thoughts about them but do so by thinking positive. We choose to engage in negative thoughts and perceptions about certain situations because of what we think, not because of the nature of that situation. We must stop perceiving our negative thoughts as some kind of threat – they’re simply here to tell us what not to think.

The less we think about how to remove any negative thoughts and the more we ignore them, the sooner they will go away. I could explain it in as many ways as you can imagine but it all comes down to this same idea. You might wonder how exactly you should distract yourself and the answer is, either by ignoring or persistence. Do something you enjoy until you forget about those thoughts you’ve been having, ask yourself why you have them for the purpose of realizing they only come from you or simply choose to think about something else. Just don’t think about “what they mean” or you’ll end up assigning meaning to them, scaring yourself in the process.

In short, if I only have negative thoughts when I’m tired, hungry and suffering a headache, they are completely self-imposed, not to mention circumstantial. Observe your own negative thoughts – do you recognize the same patterns?

11:24 p.m.

Still happy, over my headache and ready for bed. Good night!

Does Impatience Cause Resistance?

Yes.

Impatience equals resistance which leads to not manifesting. Impatience causes tension in the mind and the body, causing negativity and shielding us from positive thoughts!

Patience leads to instant manifestation because it doesn’t invite resistance or a lack of satisfaction with one’s current reality. With that, patience also leads to letting go.

If you are patient and grateful for your life as it is, you will be alright living without your desire which will allow you to let go and manifest.

The Right Food Combinations

When I was a teenager, I read an interview with a doctor in which she explain the “correct food combinations” for a healthy body, a fit figure and as I discovered, a happy and healthy state of mind.

These are the combinations:

  • Nothing but fruit before noon;
  • Yogurt with whole wheat bread;
  • Cereal with fresh fruit instead of dairy (I add pieces of fresh grapefruit to mine);
  • Cheese with vegetables (never with bread, any type of wheat or grains);
  • Fish with vegetables, potatoes with vegetables, pasta with vegetables;
  • Bread with butter;
  • Rice mainly with vegetables but can also be eaten with fish;
  • If you overdo it with sweets or junk food one day, eat only fruits and vegetables the next;
  • Spices, nuts and oils are important in a variety of ways;
  • Drink as much water as possible.
  • Don’t deprive yourself of anything but just combine it correctly!
  • Solve random moments of hunger with fruit or vegetables prepared to your liking.
  • In addition, choose any type of workout that makes you happy!

In my experience, this is the food for a healthy awareness.

You may also follow this regimen if you wish to lose weight.

We all know that an imbalanced food regimen can cause turmoil inside one’s mind. I notice that whenever I follow this particular regiment (which is most of the time), my mind is clear, I remain calm and my intentions are even clearer. I am naturally focused on happiness.

I believe that many health professionals have come to the same conclusions on their own, as it takes just a little observation to see what exactly makes the mind and the body work. When it comes to LoA, a healthy mind and body each serve as an invaluable aid to your positive attitude and successful manifestations.

Suddenly, you feel good and expect to keep on feeling good so you naturally assume that life is working out to your favor. This is only a natural next step from feeling good – when you feel good, positive expectations follow.

This regimen is simple and effective.

How to Break Free From “Not Having” Your Desire

The feeling of your desire missing from your life can be annoying, upsetting and can drive you into frantically working to change it in order to attract your desire instead.

I won’t even try to describe that feeling beautifully or eloquently because it isn’t; instead, this feeling is unpleasant and can lower your mood.

However, I am going to suggest several solutions for it.

Remain committed to staying in a good mood!

When your goal in life is to be in a good mood no matter what you do and where you are, knowing that bad mood is a waste of time, you will automatically want to go out and do something for yourself. Every time you fall into the bad mood, you will automatically want to change it.

When you get bored, think about what you would like to do to fix your mood. When you feel low, treat yourself (I hate that expression but it works). Go out and buy something for yourself, treat yourself to a meal you love, have a bubble bath, remember all the wonderful people in your life or, one of my favorites, donate money. In any way to anyone you want. Giving is something that will instantly raise your vibration.

Remember all those LoA sources telling you to get in a good mood first and then, think about having your desire in order to attract it even faster. To that, I want to add that when you remain in a good mood, when it becomes your goal, you will manifest your desires fast anyway.

Repeat affirmations!

When this dark feeling comes to you, you can change it by training your brain to automatically think opposite thoughts. You can repeat affirmations, self-devised or any you have read and liked, training your mind to automatically go to the positive when you think of the negative.

In addition…

You can always use the steps described here. You will notice the similarities.

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Why don’t you think you’re amazing?

I preach confidence non-stop because it makes manifestation easy. It helps you stay in a good mood. It makes everything in life easier. Many readers have told me they struggle with maintaining their confidence especially when manifesting relationships.

Confidence is a positive feeling, awareness and attitude. Confident individuals never judge themselves or others – one of the most important lessons we could ever learn. Confident people love their lives because they arrange them in all kinds of positive ways.

Now, do you love or need?

Loving the person you are allows you to love another. Feeling incomplete while thinking that another could complete you will inevitably trick you into thinking that you need them to be the person you always wanted to be.

Truth is, you don’t need anyone – relationships are a choice. You are capable of being happy on your own, allowing love to manifest into your life. Being happy on your own is also very healthy, allowing you to be the best possible partner to the person of your choice.

The most amazing partners are those who can be happy on their own.

Do You Cling to Specific Behaviors?

When it comes to men and women especially, a difference in behaviors, reasons for those behaviors, habits and approach methods can cause a riff between the two sides, resulting in arguments and resentment. One side feels that the other should act a certain way if they care while the other feels that they did nothing wrong but lived their life while also building a potential relationship and expressed their feelings.

Let’s deal with the side of an intentional manifestation practitioner who wants to know their desired relationship is manifesting.

A manifestation practitioner who feels this way wants to see evidence of their desire manifesting now. However, letting go is the only way to see results now but instead, they incessantly check their phone, email and social media hoping to see something there.

They are displaying the need for their desire to manifest instead of love and trust that it will.

I know you know this by now but this is not criticism. We are simply discussing it because that type of behavior prevents you from manifesting your desired relationship. In addition, it prevents you from being happy now since looking for something that you feel is missing is enough to make you miserable.

The knowing of your desired relationship manifesting is inside you, not among the signs you receive or the reactions you get. All of those things follow your awareness.

You could do every couple thing with someone and still not be a couple. Or, you could not even have communicated with another for a long time and suddenly, you became a couple. You have to realize that this is where creation rests, not in the number of texts you receive.

This type of conflict happens between men and women for various reasons.

There was a period of my life when I entered relationships faster than you could blink. Not flings, relationships. I would be introducing my new boyfriend around, not caring whether or not I might want him a month from then. I was living in the moment. I was positive it was the right thing to do and I still am convinced it was so. I was enjoying loving feelings for as long as they lasted, expressing myself freely. I was going with the flow of the relationship. At the same time, I would see others in miserable long-term relationships yet staying together. I was in a long-term relationship once as well, for as long as I was happy in it. However, I manifest and have relationships when I want them because I don’t condition them to last forever. I want to be happy. I focus on the love instead of things that have nothing to do with a happy relationship. It can last or it doesn’t have to but let’s see how it goes.

However, not all my exes took that as lightly. After a while, one took me for granted, thinking a relationship would last just because he had found someone he wanted to settle down with. He thought I would stay with him just because we were together for a long time but I ended it because he had stopped trying. Once I knew I wanted out, I ended it. Two others expected that I would want a long-term relationship with them just because they did but had put their needs before mine. They thought I should give them what they wanted by default but relationships are a choice. I choose to be with someone or, not. However, they depended on me for their happiness and self-esteem. So, I left.

Do you see what I mean? Because this is something men and women have in common.

You cannot expect to only be happy around your specific person or with them in your life and expect to stay attractive to them. Why? Because depending on another for happiness doesn’t make you feel good either. You must have your own life, work, activities, hobbies, interests, purpose, friends and the things you love. You can share as much as you want with your specific person but not be practically incapable of living without them. This is especially important for women to know.

Trying to rush your manifestation frantically shows that you cannot feel good unless you have it in your life. This energy blocks it from coming just like depending on another for your happiness blocks them from seeing you as someone they want to be in a relationship with.

You don’t have to be superwoman – just a woman who feels comfortable with herself, values herself and loves everything she is, which gives her confidence. Only when you love you will you able to love another.

A happy relationship is created when you love the person enough to allow them to be themselves instead of wanting them to cater to your needs. A happy relationship is created when you think positively enough about the person to want to give to them and the relationship instead of thinking what they should want to give to you. Imagine wanting to spend time with them and wanting to make them happy!

Now, let’s talk about those of you who know that someone is “the one” for life. If I can be relaxed without needing a relationship to last, why couldn’t you be happy knowing you have found someone with him you will manifest a lasting relationship? You have it figured out so be happy! You know you can manifest this so why entertain the thoughts that make you miserable, such as those of you two being apart?

Do you see how many good things you have to look forward to? If you focus on them, you will allow the Universe to work out the details for you.

A reader pointed out her area of struggle, believing her desire belongs to her already, saying:

“Would you please kindly address more how can I be sure myself that I can have it and how to gain that strong intention–”

I could once again say “capture the feeling of having it” or “visualize having it once and stick to it” but a permanent solution to this problem can be achieved by looking within and asking yourself why you don’t feel that you can have and live your desire.

Once you realize why you are blocking yourself from receiving your desire, why you believe to be undeserving, you can remember that we all manifest what we believe. Then, think about what you want to believe. How do you want to see yourself? Because the way you see yourself is the way others see you.

If you fear away from exploring your limiting beliefs, it will be difficult to manifest what you want. Some have told me they felt embarrassed after looking within and finding guilt, shame and an inferiority complex.

However, I have an easy answer which will make you see that exploring and resolving limiting beliefs can be easy.

You don’t have to be afraid or ashamed – nobody feels amazing every minute. Let a negative feeling go and move on. In the moments you feel less than great, you can again feel great when you stop pretending, admit how you feel and stop seeing it as a big deal or something embarrassing.

Be confident about your feelings, no matter what they are. I can openly say how I feel and move on. If I ever felt embarrassed, I would say it and as soon as I did, it went away. That was how I eventually lost the grasp of what embarrassment felt like. If I feel sad, I say it and feel better immediately. You could vocalize negative emotions with the purpose of releasing them and then move on from them.

You could also admit to someone you trust that you feel inadequate (including your fellow readers on this blog) and not only will they remind you of how worthy you are, you will feel that it is false as soon as you say it. As you explore your feelings, you will see how much there is in your life to be grateful for and feel positively about. You are surrounded by people who love you and you have so much! You cannot put all of life’s importance to a desire you are now wanting to manifest. You have to be complete before it comes to you.

Awakening all of these ideas inside you is enough to make you see that you can have anything you want but have to have a life outside of it, too. Clinging to a desire too much makes you feel like you don’t have it, blocking your desired manifestation. However, realizing there is no reason to cling to this desire is very important. You already have a rich life.

If you could see yourself as rich, valuable and colorful as you want to be, you will easily accomplish your goals. Confidence is the answer to everything, if you ask me. Tell yourself you are ready to receive and live your desire and then, visualize having it. Thank the Universe for it, let it go and in the moments of doubt, remind yourself that since you asked for your desire, you must receive it because the Universe knows what you want. You have to trust it to give you what you want – that way, you are allowing it to do the work for you.