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The Truth Behind Changing Your Mind in Specific Manifestations

Being specific has its ups and downs. Then again, anything does.

In life, my actions always reflected a core belief of “I want this so I am going to have it – nothing else, nothing less!” which led me to certain manifestations that looked nothing like I had imagined.

Once upon a time in college, I wanted a specific internship. The company seemed goal-oriented in my specific taste and I was excited about the interview. I had already decided that I would get it and dressed up for the interview only to be disappointed as soon as I got there. The building wasn’t in the best shape, their offices were unappealing and the job description I had read was already altered. The interviewers were describing responsibilities not listed in the job description that sounded plain boring and I walked out of there motivated to find something else.

I thought to myself, “I would fall asleep on the job every day if I had to work here!” And it would have probably been more exciting.

Upon my return to campus, I asked about some additional internship options and was told of another one. However, this company’s executive had already been to campus to conduct some interviews and left. One of the candidates he had interviewed was a friend of mine who wanted that position like I wanted my first choice before actually seeing what it looked like, and I didn’t expect a call at first. However, something was telling me to keep an open mind. I just had a feeling they would call me anyway.

About an hour later, the phone rang. It was the executive who had been to campus asking me to come in for an interview. He heard there was another candidate on campus interested in them, as I had listed them last minute, and wanted to meet. I agreed and found out that I would be interviewed by him and another female executive.

Two days later, reaching their offices proved to be a positive experience and the job position sounded as great as it did on paper. I was offered the position on the spot; however, I told them I wanted to interview with the last company I had put down on my list of internship options first. That final interview was scheduled the following day and I promised to call them straight after. Later that evening, I sat down with a friend who wanted the job I was offered and told him about the offer and that I wanted to take it. I wanted him to hear it from me. Being a wonderfully heartfelt person, he was fully supportive and even said he didn’t expect to get the job himself because the interview hadn’t gone as fascinatingly as he had thought it would. This friend of mine ended up getting a job in the first company I interviewed for and performed it with absolute ease whereas I am sure I would have done it poorly.

The next day, I skipped the final interview and called my new bosses to tell them I was accepting their offer. Apparently, they’d been on pins and needles waiting for my call. The job I skipped interviewing for that morning went to another friend of mine who loved it and wanted it for herself whereas I was only planning to go out of principle (and missed it out of that same principle in the end).

Deciding that I wanted something specific without finding out too much about it first hadn’t bothered me even when it turned out like this. I always thought that no matter how much I knew something or someone, I could always change my mind later anyway…or not. Time never meant too much to me in these cases, as I never viewed it as a sign of security in my feelings.

If the fact is that I could always change my mind, no matter how much I know (we all can), why not dive in from the beginning? Why not follow my good feelings, even if I change my mind tomorrow?

If I waited until deciding that something was either right for me or not before making a move, nothing would ever happen. Also, sometimes you simply must try to decide. If I’m not sure about wanting to try it, I usually don’t or at least wait until the moment I do. If I know immediately, great. If I know that I’ll never be interested in something no matter how much I tried, I move onto something else. However, I move with my feelings. If I want something but then change my mind, I know that changing my mind will last for a while if not forever. I know these things because that is who I am – each one of us is a different blend of awareness, wishes and preferences, and it is of utmost importance to not judge yourself for changing your mind when you do. You’re allowed to!

Being specific sometimes shows me that what I thought I wanted isn’t exactly what I had imagined and sometimes, that’s a good thing. It can be even better than you imagined! But at other times, it isn’t as good so you change your mind. This is completely normal but many have been conditioned to see it as a problem or a sign of immaturity when in fact it is a common factor in life.

If had I said that I would wait until after the interviews before deciding which of these internships I wanted, it wouldn’t have changed anything. I would have ended up in the exact same place. The goal is what’s important and when it comes to successful manifestation, it is all about focusing on one’s end goal and never worrying about the way everything will unfold.

The moment I felt that the company I ended up working for was going to call, I had made a decision to work for them. Even if I wasn’t aware of it at the time, I had made that decision. I had attracted working for them and didn’t worry about how everything happen which caused it to unfold in the most amazing way. That is the basis of Law of Attraction – keep it light, stay positive and feel good but be calm and certain.

 

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Thought of the Day

Whenever I expect something to go well but it goes perfectly instead, it’s good to be wrong. 

Thought of the Day 

I had no worry about leaving any job that no longer served my wellbeing, ever. 

The lesson learned was,

Law of Attraction works easily when something you want is just not a big deal (to you). It’s normal, natural and it always works out. 

If what you want feels like a big deal, it might not be natural to you. The goals is for living your desire to feel normal because normal equals no resistance.

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Thought of the Day

Experiences define you only if you allow them to.

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Thought of the Day

If you know that anything can be manifested, what is there to be sad about?

What is there to worry about?

Nothing.

Guideline of the Day

Act like success is the only choice, the only possible result, the only solution.

Know that success is your only choice, the only possible result, the only solution.

Note: This is one of the most important posts I will ever write. This is everything you need.

The Awareness You Carry (and, Project)

It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it – this phrase is LoA.

Two people could do the same thing, one with confidence and one without. One could feel good and the other could feel poorly. Which do you think would succeed?

One could do more than the other but their actions would mean nothing unless they felt right. The other could take much less action but feel like they got what they wanted already and manifest accordingly.

See what I mean?

“Class is in you. Either everything you do is classy or nothing at all, no matter what you do. You can’t teach that,” a friend of mine once said.

Some do whatever they want and they are tolerated or praised. Even when their actions are something that could evoke judgement, it usually doesn’t. When it does, they are understood, their behavior justified or daring nature secretly admired. Others do what is “right” because they fear life going wrong. They are so focused on the right and wrong that they forget their own happiness. They put everything else before their own happiness because of some sort of guilt. They feel insufficient and hope they might be deserving of their desires if they were “a good person.”

A happy person is a good person.

Class, grace, magnetism or anything similar always starts with you! Often, projecting these qualities means being able to deal with yourself, your life and your decisions. Often, this also means self love and self comfort. Make your own decisions and stand by them; allow the ultimate you to shine.

Do You Think About Living Your Greatest Desires?

Knowing your desire is manifesting is the key to your success. When you know, you are guided by it or at least I am which means you can be, too.

To those of you who like to think about your desire a lot, remember that I told you you could as long as those thoughts are happy and reflect living the life of your dreams? Well, I’ve manifested that way, too. This is a perfectly valid manifestation method but only if you are happy and you nurture the thoughts of living your desire.

If you love to drown in the thoughts of your desire, you want those thoughts to be happy, positive, fulfilling, filled with love and as confident as your energy.

When manifesting love, I imagine it as the most magical thing. I dare to get excited about it and I imagine finding all the magic I want in real life while I am living my relationship. I imagine needing nothing but happiness about being together and loving each other while nothing else matters. If you accept someone, accepting their entire life is the best choice you can make and all I care about is having an amazing time just being together.

When manifesting professional opportunities, I love being the person others love to work with because she delivers even greater results than imagined. I don’t necessarily focus on easily getting along with everyone I work with, as I accept a difference in opinions and admittedly, workplace relationships have had only limited importance to me. It isn’t that I want to be difficult but I live in the awareness of having immense patience for the people I want to work with but wanting to walk away from those I don’t; that type of awareness serves as a reminder to level the bumps in collaboration and be patient when knowing that a particular collaboration is ultimately beneficial. For all these reasons, I focus on the end result when manifesting professional accomplishments.

I have additional examples but I chose these two to compare and contrast.

If you reread the passages written above, you will see that the nature of all these thoughts is one of having my desire in my life. You can do the same.

If you practice seeing yourself living your desire, you will soon begin to gravitate towards those thoughts.

We cannot skip letting go. Remember that letting go is knowing your desire will manifest and living your life happily in the present moment. You don’t have to forget about your desire in order to let go but if you continue to nurture the thoughts of having it in your life, letting go will be easier because you will fill your heart with knowing and remove the need. Sometimes, visualizing once is enough to let go but if you like to think about having your desire, think about it. You will have gotten used to the idea of having it, remove the need for it to manifest in your life and then, it will appear.

Manifestation Epidemic – Blowing it Up in Your Mind

This goes hand in hand with making too big of a deal of your desire (additional stories on the Big Deal phenomenon here and here).

When you are unable to think about receiving your desire without some sort of concern coming up inside you, chances are you have made a big deal out of it rather than just enjoying all the excitement related to it. Excitement and nervousness might feel the same initially but when you decide your desire belongs to you, start from there and stick to it, these moments of tingles passing through your body are excitement and energy that attracts.

People often say,

“I want to do this-and-that but I’m nervous/unsure.”

I say,

“It’s natural to share happiness so do it only if it makes you happy, without expecting anything in return.” But if you just know you are going to get something you want in return, good for you!

These individuals evoke resistance instead of going along with positive feelings. However, this also includes recognising those positive feelings. If the thought of doing something doesn’t make you happy, simply avoid doing it.

However, if you focus on self love first and your desires second, the happy opportunities for manifestation and inspired action will come to you more often because your personal happiness will be on the rise.

Self love solves everything. Focus on yourself before anything else makes life manageable, exciting, within reach and manifestation easy. Suddenly, you are open to receiving because  the idea of living your desires feels natural to you. 

Here comes the most fascinating part.

One blows the thoughts of their desired manifestation out of proportion when they fear negative thoughts because they want to think perfect thoughts out of fear of their negative ones manifesting.

Oftentimes, one isn’t even afraid of negative manifestation – just their negative thoughts.

Here are some tips for changing your focus to self love instead of worrying about your current circumstances or future manifestations.

Be unaffected by your current circumstances; moreover, be grateful for them because of everything you’ve learned, started, discovered, found and everyone you met. Once, I had to leave my current life to focus and finally start doing what I wanted to do. I had to remove myself in order to change my life because my current one was distracting but it was worth it. Soon, I found out that I could accomplish what I never did in my previous “life” and started to think about everything I wanted in the long run.

If you can be grateful for your current circumstances, you will have manifested your desired reality even faster due to zero resistance. On the other hand, the no resistance factor will be just as strong if you simply practice self love and pay no conscious attention to your current reality. Even if you complain about your current reality sometimes, you will know how to fix it and know that you can. Whether you believe it or not, self love solves every manifestation hiccup.

Living your desire must be natural to you. Think about it – you rapidly manifest everything you see as “no big deal.” If you saw your biggest desires that way, how fast do you think you’d manifest?

You’d believe that you can and you would do it; this energy also allows for letting go. Every time I have a specific desire, I see myself living it just because I want it.

Think about the person you want to be. Who are you? Who do you want to be? Firstly, accept that you are good enough, just as you are; second, think about the kind of person you want to be, what you want to accomplish and how you want to feel and live every day. Remember that your inner energy has nothing to do with your looks or any other physical factors and neither does the power of your manifestation.

When you see your desire just like any other thing in life, you see it being yours right away. No resistance, no worry, no nervous feelings, no negative thoughts.

No overthinking.

Affirmation of the Day

I put a lot of thought into wording this affirmation optimally in order to make it work in every possible context. It is meant to be used in moments of struggle to keep your mood up; it can repair any and every form of taking a detour into negativity.

Best thing about this affirmation is that using it whenever you want regardless of your mood constantly keeps you in a positive mood. When used that way, this affirmation allows you to understand why negative thoughts are insignificant and why you may feel free to write them off as such.

No matter how I feel right now, thank You that I got what I wanted.

No matter how you feel at any given moment, what you want belongs to you. No matter how you feel at this very moment, you got it. Be happy now because your dreams are truly yours.