Attracting to Fulfill Momentary Need – Yes or No?

I used to attract out of need…but not in the way it sounds.

I would have a need to be in a relationship, manifest one and then, after my need was fulfilled, I would move on to my next momentary need (which was usually travel).

During this phase, I was thinking short term. I hadn’t thought about the things I permanently loved. I was living for the experiences rather than love.

And do you know when I realized that living for experiences meant acting out of need in my case?

When I realized I was more focused on not being bored than enjoying my life. I was focused on not experiencing what I feared instead of experiencing what I loved.

For as long as this phase lasted, I was all about keeping my life interesting. And then, I realized I could make it interesting no matter what I loved to do, even if it wasn’t something I ever imagined loving or enjoying in the past. So, this phase brought on something great. It brought answers. It brought me to the core of my passions and made me see what it was all about.

Love for what we do is enough to make the thing in question interesting for ourselves. When we accept what we love and accept that it can bring us an interesting life, we achieve blissfully relaxed awareness. What if tomorrow, I decided to become a mother when I couldn’t see myself ever doing so in the past? I would enjoy everything it entailed. What if I decided to completely turn my lifestyle around and become someone I never thought I wanted to be? If it was something that truly made me happy, I would enjoy it very much.

It’s not what you do – it’s how much you value it. And if you do, and stand by your choice, you will enjoy it and you will make it interesting. Which is great because in order to attract it into your life, you must be able to see it being yours – and what we enjoy, we can see ourselves having.

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A Lack of Enthusiasm for Your Manifestation Equals A Lack of Forgiveness

Today, I started to think about forgiveness.

However, only in a very specific context.

I realized that a lack of enthusiasm for one’s manifestation is ultimately always connected to the lack of forgiveness. If we don’t forgive the past, the present, the negatives of our person or the situation, we will continue to focus on what made us upset rather than a positive future with our person or another desire. We will not be excited by a potential positive future with our person or another desire because we will keep thinking about what’s wrong with it or what caused us disappointment in the past; if we do that, we will continue to manifest those negatives in the present instead of manifesting a positive future we are excited about.

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You might be upset by your negative past or present with the person whose love you want to manifest. You keep thinking about how much your person disappointed you which prevents you from seeing a happy future with them. When you think about being with them, you are not excited – you honestly think about whether or not this is even possible, as you have no idea if positive feelings about your situation could ever be revived.

You will be happy to know they can. And let me offer specific guidance as to how!

Positive feelings about your situation must be connected to forgiveness of the past because only forgiveness can make us put something behind us and stop thinking about it. For as long as we are bothered by any past or present negatives, we will continue to think about them because they easily evoke emotion in us; at the same time, when we forgive those past or present negatives, the only emotion left to focus on is the positive anticipation of our manifestation.

No one truly means to hurt you. The person you can’t seem to forgive never meant to hurt you in the first place. People do the best they can but sometimes, their best isn’t all that great when directed at you. Their best might have seemed like the right choice when they made it but it probably wasn’t the best they could have done overall, and they also probably know it.

People can lack courage and make the choices they are not proud of. They can be sorry after but their apology or knowing that they’re sorry might not mean so much to you, especially after you have already been hurt. You might say that no matter how sorry they are, they can’t ever go back and take back your hurt. They can’t go back and undo what they did, and they can’t go back and undo the hurt they caused you.

I want you to think about the following – is what they did truly so horrible that it must mean the end of the world to you? Were you in a relationship when it happened? Were their choices intended for hurting you or just a result of some poor decisions? Was everything you think you missed out on really that perfect or did you have a pretty great life in the meantime, filled with all kinds of wonderful experiences?

Was the time you spent apart from someone you wanted to be in a relationship with truly so depressing or did you enjoy your life in many other ways? If you had been in that relationship already, how many other things and experiences would you have missed out on? Was the result of your unhappy relationship, if we’re talking about an ex or a present partner, truly all on you or was it dependent on your mutual dynamics? Why feel inferior when every relationship problem comes from two sides, not just yours? It wasn’t about you – it was about your mutual connection at the time, a lack of happiness included. It was about your communication and the feelings that drove it.

Your specific person might have made some wrong choices but they might also not have been aware of the impact those choices were going to have. They might have made some wrong decisions because you hadn’t been together that long or at all, or they weren’t sure if you would still wanted to be with them. Maybe you were both bothered by certain things and didn’t know how to express yourselves.

But it’s okay. You’re human. You don’t always know how you feel straight away and you don’t always know how to change an unpleasant situation without some guidance.

If you decide that what they did was unforgivable, it’s probably time for you to walk away. But if you look closer and see that they made certain choices because you weren’t together or because they simply made a mistake, allow yourself to repaint a positive picture of them and allow for your positive expectations to allow them to make it up to you.

Say, “He/she will show me how much he/she cares. I’m going to give him/her time to do that.” But see, when you give someone time, you won’t ever wait for years – when you develop true patience, you will experience instant manifestation. Patience leads to knowing and letting go and impatience leads to prolonging of your manifestation.

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Admit that their decisions resulted in poor choices but none of them meant the end of the road for your relationship. These choices only caused a difficult situation but were they really so unforgivable? I don’t know your specific situation but I do know that it’s possible for these wrong decisions to have been and still be forgivable. A little time has probably passed by now which can only make it easier for you to forgive – with time, the impact of the hurt we once experienced will inevitably diminish and offer us perspective instead.

Today might be the day to remind ourselves of it. Let go of the past and forgive your specific person for hurting you. Forgive them for the choices they made while you were apart. Forgive them for all the ways they left you out during your relationship, as they didn’t think they were causing you such pain to begin with. After it was all said and done, your specific person might have regretted their choices so believe them if they say so. Put yourself in their shoes and consider whether their actions should hold such consequences for the rest of your lives or not.

Anyone Can Be Fearless By Turning Every Circumstance to Their Benefit

Losing touch with who you are is what causes unhappiness, not the change in external circumstances. Yes, this type of change can be confusing, but if we look at any changing circumstance and say, “It’ll improve,” then it truly will.

And how do you lose touch with who you are? You start to feel that you are not someone you like.

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To me, this meant being afraid. I am only happy when I’m fearless and in the recent years, I had become aware of the things I cared about, a.k.a. had to lose. However, it doesn’t have to be that way but those were the thoughts I had had to eradicate in the recent past. It wasn’t even as bad as I thought it was going to be – I just needed to remind myself that no matter what happens, we just choose what we want. If a parent falls ill, we say they’ll get better. If one doesn’t find their ideal partner by the age of thirty, one should say to oneself that the person is coming and the relationship will only be even better than it would have been before age thirty. Turn everything into a positive because that is how we create a better life.

It is not what happens to us, it is the way we say and believe that things will get better and nothing could never derail us – that is what I’ve always said. No matter what happens, say to yourself that even this circumstance or event brought you closer to your ultimate goal. This is fearlessness, whether or not you see yourself as a fearless person. Fearlessness, courage and dauntlessness simply feel good.

When you don’t feel daunted by a change in circumstances, you begin to attract only the change in circumstances you appreciate, at least for the most part. The fact that something we dislike will occasionally happen isn’t a big deal because it will never happen with the most important things for as long as our mindset towards it remains positive.

Say that even all your negative thoughts got you closer to your goal – I do.

Say to yourself that your latest or most annoying change in circumstances is irrelevant because you and/or others involved in it will come out the other side as if nothing ever happened. As a person who used to live for new experiences, I had devised this affirmation to prevent myself from being derailed in life. And it works.

See how anyone can be fearless in practising Law of Attraction with this one simple approach? And it doesn’t even require anything besides being yourself. All it takes to be fearless is knowing that nothing can stop you from achieving your dreams and that manifesting your desires is guaranteed because the Universe loves you.

How to See Your Relationship or its Manifestation as Abundant

It’s very easy to look at what we are not getting in a relationship or its manifestation, detailing the parts we wish we had never experienced or those that aren’t going our way for the moment. Today, we should ask ourselves, “Is the relationship I imagined going to be as good as the one I could have if I just allowed it to happen by letting my person express themselves the way they will? If I just gave it a chance?”

What if we didn’t scrutinize our specific person’s every move but allowed them to come to us and express themselves the way they will? What if we trusted that everything was about to work our and the current reality is simply not a big deal?

What if we loved our specific people for who they are, 100%, instead of thinking about the things we would love to change in them? What if we started thinking that the level of communication we do receive was enough instead of not enough?

You know what would happen?

We would grow. We would take the pressure off. We would start to think of ourselves as being in a relationship instead of not so. We would power through the period of dissatisfaction and started seeing our love life as abundant instead of lacking.

Let’s say you have a specific person in mind or are in a relationship with someone you love. But they don’t text enough. They don’t call enough. They don’t see you enough. You’re agreeing to things you didn’t want for yourself in life and half the time, don’t even feel like you’re in a relationship or are thinking about being alone instead of being with someone and feeling alone.

While thinking about what you don’t like in this setup can consume your life, what if you said, “Our relationship is great. I want him/her to be who they are. We talk plenty.” And then, you focus on your own life instead of thinking about what they are doing or what you want to do with them because it’ll happen. You talk plenty so you’ll see each other soon. What if you adopted this attitude?

If you did, you would attract even more amazing circumstances with this person than the ones you had originally imagined because complete love and acceptance first lead to immediate relaxation on your part and then to the person in question expressing themselves in an even better way than you had imagined.

When you begin to see your relationship (manifestation) so abundant in this way, you immediately create a presence in your own life which then makes you feel fully present in your relationship. You start to experience spontaneous visualizations of the two of you together. When someone asks, your initial instinct becomes “We talk a lot,” be that based on the visualizations or the current reality already (because if it’s based on just the visualizations, it will become your current reality soon enough!).

This is what I mean when talking about abundance. This is what I mean when I say we should relax around our manifestations. “We’ll talk.” “We talk a lot.” “We see each other plenty.” Even just based on the current reality because if what you have is recognized as abundant, you end up receiving even more.

Take a look at what you have in your relationship and recognize everything you’ve received, not everything you feel like you’re missing – soon, you won’t feel like you’re missing anything. You will start to feel like everything you have is plenty already.

And then, you will receive even more.

If we think of what our specific person “should” be doing to show love instead of allowing them to just get there, we will never feel like we’re receiving enough. This is how the human mind works and we must be aware of that. On the other hand, if we allow them to show it and allow ourselves to receive it authentically from their side, we will feel like they’re doing plenty to give us what we want.

This is love. This is acceptance.

This is you sending the message of, “You’re more than enough for me, just the way you are.”

And ultimately, this is what makes the Law of Attraction give you the love you want from the person you want. This is how you accept them, see yourself having a lot with them and once you do, this is how you manifest everything from them.

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Embracing New Beginnings Boosts Your Manifestation Powers!

If every new manifestation we bring into our lives equals starting over in one way or another, even if it’s just in that one area of life, why be afraid of new beginnings?

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Every new relationship means starting over, in the relationship area. Every new job means starting over – even every new gig, for the self-employed. Every new colleague at work marks a new beginning for the company. Every new outfit bought adds something your wardrobe has never had.

Every trip you take will include something you have never done before, even as small as getting a cup of coffee someplace you’ve never been.

So why be afraid of change, starting over or new beginnings?

Change or starting over is widely regarded as rare or uncommon; however, it’s actually a normal part of life. Visible from examples above, new beginnings are actually everywhere and we should stop seeing them as something unsettling or scary.

When it comes to Law of Attraction, welcoming new beginnings makes manifestation much easier. Those who welcome new beginnings also welcome change and are not intimidated by a new manifestation’s influence on their current life. Embracing new beginnings equals excitement over a new manifestation and its impact on one’s life, boosting the overall level of happiness for one’s desire and accelerating manifestation as a result.

Excitement speeds up manifestation as one’s love for change and new beginnings boosts that same excitement.

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Here’s something you might not have considered – change is exciting! Welcoming novelty is a thrill! You are giving yourself the opportunity to experience something you never have before which will enrich your life in every way. That new relationship you want to be in is going to be exciting so go ahead and allow yourself to have it! Don’t be afraid. That new job will be filled with new people and new knowledge, showing you things you’ve never seen before…and what could possibly be wrong with that?

Instead of being afraid, why not say, “I can’t wait!”?

You can’t only know what you desire but you must also have a desire to experience it. You must desire to live it! This is what invites excitement for change in your life.

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Where Do Positive Feelings About Our Desires Come From?

Hello everyone! I hope you had wonderful holidays and I wanted to start off 2019 with this discussion of a very common Law of Attraction occurrence.

Frustration with a person or situation we desire to attract will prevent manifestation until the said frustration is diminished. Until removed, one’s personal feelings of frustration only attract more frustration, be it from real events or one’s impression of what might be happening behind the scenes.

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I believe we’ve all experienced this in the past, and that’s okay. It happens. People are different and acceptance is the start of love and teamwork but let me explain how this works.

Let’s say you’re upset with the person you want to attract into your life or attract a better relationship with. Your focus on why they upset you is preventing further manifestation of anything except for more upset – in this case, you must forgive the reasons why they have upset you in the past and the present, be that actual forgiveness or simply deciding to put these reasons behind you. You might have been aware of this already.

You might be questioning whether this person is the right choice for your life partner after all, as you can only see how much they upset you while struggling to remember the good times you had together – this is where frustration prevents you from seeing the big picture and the person’s true self which comes from everything they do for you and others, not everything they don’t.

Here’s the trick thought – we cannot be frustrated with another person, even one we dislike, it we aren’t already frustrated with ourselves and projecting those upsetting feelings on our lives and other people. It all comes from us. It all starts with us.

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Admitting to ourselves that we become upset with others because we are already dissatisfied as a result of something within ourselves is not always easy. When we are fully happy with who we are, we don’t care about anyone’s negative character or mood but simply ignore them. Yes, it’s true – when we’re truly happy and now allowing anyone or anything to upset us, we just ignore those who dwell, hate and attempt to divide.

Some want to skip the part involving the creation of happiness and self-work. We often talk about creating positive feelings about a person or a circumstance we wish to attract, especially when we are in need of them. Sometimes, we want to be with someone who has upset us in the past. We might want to change our lives but don’t feel we deserve as much happiness and wealth we would love to manifest…so we tell ourselves that maybe we don’t need it after all.

Do you know why this happens? It’s because…

Waiting for the relationship one wants to manifest in order to be happy seems much easier than creating self-love and happiness first. Relationships seem like an easy fix for happiness which is why many don’t bother being happy on their own.

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This is exactly why feeling good about yourself equals feeling good about those you have feelings for which equals manifesting great relationships with them as a result. And reaching this point isn’t as difficult as it sounds but would be entirely worth it even if it were.

Because…

Feeling frustrated leads to a distortion of our true desires. It puts us in a bad mood and, more importantly, taints our impression of what our desires truly are. If we want to manifest our desire but are frustrated with it at the same time, annoyance with a romantic interest being prime example, our impression of this person is not fully positive which makes it impossible to manifest entirely positive experiences with them as a result.Frustration creates negative expectations which reflect what we don’t want, not what we do.

Most importantly, you know that frustration with another person only comes from already fully formed frustration with yourself.

Even when you state your desire to “feel better,” engaging in frustration instead of strictly focusing on what is already great about yourself and your life continues to distort either your manifestation or the impression you have of your desire. As soon as you decide that you are amazing, lovable, unique and irreplaceable, you will only be interested in receiving love, success, positivity and adoration.

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Facing Negative Past to Manifest a Positive Present

When we want to manifest something we have had an unpleasant experience with in the past, we tend to avoid any visualization of the said manifestation or affirming that it’s a done deal this time because those negative thoughts divert us whenever they come in. 

Instead, we need to feel like  a new person – the one who has what we want to have. We must think of ourselves not only of having this but of being the person who has it. and feel and act accordingly. 

Whenever I have a goal and think of myself as being the person living it, I must repeat this to myself even if I’ve had a negative experience with it in the past. However, this is the trick – any negative experience from the past is a lesson for the present on the right ways to think in order to manifest what you desire instead of what you fear. 

Anything can be reversed with the Law of Attraction. What happened to you is not final – nothing is!

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Sometimes, this is the only reminder we need. Anything can be reversed and that is the biggest truth of the Law of Attraction. 

In order to believe it truly will be better this time, we must visualize it being better even once.

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Facing past upset and the reasons why it happened is very therapeutic – it makes you stronger. However, we must visualize things going well this time even once in order to believe it. This visualization can come as a result of you deciding that things will go well or your intention to see it going well in order to believe it but either way, it is a necessary part of the process.

We have to be able to see it even once, for as little as two seconds, in order to believe it. And if we’re not, we can enable ourselves to do it with decisiveness and self-belief. We can see ourselves having whatever we want right after we affirm it to ourselves.

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My blog editor says “remove block” when I select inserting a gallery instead of writing text, and it couldn’t be more appropriate. Remove block is exactly the command we need to implement when thinking that the unpleasant past will repeat itself. 

Holiday Announcement – To My Current and New Readers and Clients

My dearest people,

Over the holidays, my email, blogging and all coaching and messaging services will be suspended from December 19, 2018 until January 11, 2019.

All texts, inquiries, emails, comments and other remarks received during this time will be answered starting January 12.

Until December 19, I am still taking appointments for all single coaching sessions and look forward to hearing from anyone interested.

Lots of love and thank you for your understanding!

Love,

Nina






	

Thought of the Day

Here’s a question – do we manifest what we truly want or are we usually lazy and only manifest what we absolutely need but not more?

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Do you manifest abundance and joy or just survival? Do you have more than you need or just the necessity? Think about it. And please share your thoughts! 

What do you believe you deserve?

We should be comfortable having more than just the needed.