Where Do Positive Feelings About Our Desires Come From?

Hello everyone! I hope you had wonderful holidays and I wanted to start off 2019 with this discussion of a very common Law of Attraction occurrence.

Frustration with a person or situation we desire to attract will prevent manifestation until the said frustration is diminished. Until removed, one’s personal feelings of frustration only attract more frustration, be it from real events or one’s impression of what might be happening behind the scenes.

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I believe we’ve all experienced this in the past, and that’s okay. It happens. People are different and acceptance is the start of love and teamwork but let me explain how this works.

Let’s say you’re upset with the person you want to attract into your life or attract a better relationship with. Your focus on why they upset you is preventing further manifestation of anything except for more upset – in this case, you must forgive the reasons why they have upset you in the past and the present, be that actual forgiveness or simply deciding to put these reasons behind you. You might have been aware of this already.

You might be questioning whether this person is the right choice for your life partner after all, as you can only see how much they upset you while struggling to remember the good times you had together – this is where frustration prevents you from seeing the big picture and the person’s true self which comes from everything they do for you and others, not everything they don’t.

Here’s the trick thought – we cannot be frustrated with another person, even one we dislike, it we aren’t already frustrated with ourselves and projecting those upsetting feelings on our lives and other people. It all comes from us. It all starts with us.

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Admitting to ourselves that we become upset with others because we are already dissatisfied as a result of something within ourselves is not always easy. When we are fully happy with who we are, we don’t care about anyone’s negative character or mood but simply ignore them. Yes, it’s true – when we’re truly happy and now allowing anyone or anything to upset us, we just ignore those who dwell, hate and attempt to divide.

Some want to skip the part involving the creation of happiness and self-work. We often talk about creating positive feelings about a person or a circumstance we wish to attract, especially when we are in need of them. Sometimes, we want to be with someone who has upset us in the past. We might want to change our lives but don’t feel we deserve as much happiness and wealth we would love to manifest…so we tell ourselves that maybe we don’t need it after all.

Do you know why this happens? It’s because…

Waiting for the relationship one wants to manifest in order to be happy seems much easier than creating self-love and happiness first. Relationships seem like an easy fix for happiness which is why many don’t bother being happy on their own.

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This is exactly why feeling good about yourself equals feeling good about those you have feelings for which equals manifesting great relationships with them as a result. And reaching this point isn’t as difficult as it sounds but would be entirely worth it even if it were.

Because…

Feeling frustrated leads to a distortion of our true desires. It puts us in a bad mood and, more importantly, taints our impression of what our desires truly are. If we want to manifest our desire but are frustrated with it at the same time, annoyance with a romantic interest being prime example, our impression of this person is not fully positive which makes it impossible to manifest entirely positive experiences with them as a result.Frustration creates negative expectations which reflect what we don’t want, not what we do.

Most importantly, you know that frustration with another person only comes from already fully formed frustration with yourself.

Even when you state your desire to “feel better,” engaging in frustration instead of strictly focusing on what is already great about yourself and your life continues to distort either your manifestation or the impression you have of your desire. As soon as you decide that you are amazing, lovable, unique and irreplaceable, you will only be interested in receiving love, success, positivity and adoration.

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Facing Negative Past to Manifest a Positive Present

When we want to manifest something we have had an unpleasant experience with in the past, we tend to avoid any visualization of the said manifestation or affirming that it’s a done deal this time because those negative thoughts divert us whenever they come in. 

Instead, we need to feel like  a new person – the one who has what we want to have. We must think of ourselves not only of having this but of being the person who has it. and feel and act accordingly. 

Whenever I have a goal and think of myself as being the person living it, I must repeat this to myself even if I’ve had a negative experience with it in the past. However, this is the trick – any negative experience from the past is a lesson for the present on the right ways to think in order to manifest what you desire instead of what you fear. 

Anything can be reversed with the Law of Attraction. What happened to you is not final – nothing is!

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Sometimes, this is the only reminder we need. Anything can be reversed and that is the biggest truth of the Law of Attraction. 

In order to believe it truly will be better this time, we must visualize it being better even once.

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Facing past upset and the reasons why it happened is very therapeutic – it makes you stronger. However, we must visualize things going well this time even once in order to believe it. This visualization can come as a result of you deciding that things will go well or your intention to see it going well in order to believe it but either way, it is a necessary part of the process.

We have to be able to see it even once, for as little as two seconds, in order to believe it. And if we’re not, we can enable ourselves to do it with decisiveness and self-belief. We can see ourselves having whatever we want right after we affirm it to ourselves.

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My blog editor says “remove block” when I select inserting a gallery instead of writing text, and it couldn’t be more appropriate. Remove block is exactly the command we need to implement when thinking that the unpleasant past will repeat itself. 

Holiday Announcement – To My Current and New Readers and Clients

My dearest people,

Over the holidays, my email, blogging and all coaching and messaging services will be suspended from December 19, 2018 until January 11, 2019.

All texts, inquiries, emails, comments and other remarks received during this time will be answered starting January 12.

Until December 19, I am still taking appointments for all single coaching sessions and look forward to hearing from anyone interested.

Lots of love and thank you for your understanding!

Love,

Nina






	

Thought of the Day

Here’s a question – do we manifest what we truly want or are we usually lazy and only manifest what we absolutely need but not more?

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Do you manifest abundance and joy or just survival? Do you have more than you need or just the necessity? Think about it. And please share your thoughts! 

What do you believe you deserve?

We should be comfortable having more than just the needed. 

Tuning Out Expected Fears and Negativity – How to Ignore Those Who Say “That’s just how it is!”

Earlier this week, I intentionally manifested something I had been told that “No one ever gets.” So what if they don’t? I was going to be the first. 

I wasn’t actually the first and I’m sure of it. The thing about manifestations is that someone has always done it before you. Whichever goal that seems to be impossible, someone has attracted it at some point in time. Rarely do we actually do something no one has ever done but when manifesting, our situation always seems unique, something that has never been done before. 

Where does that even come from, the never before seen and done? It comes from other people’s impressions and their stories. It comes from something they heard and experienced. It comes from them – not you – but it makes you feel like you will never get there if you listen to them. 

Tuning out those whose experience is the opposite of your goals is just good sense. Their life went the way it did because of their own attitude but where your life goes will depend of yours. 

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There are no universal rules of how and where one’s life will go except for what they expect. The fact that your expectations create your fate is the only universal rule there is. This is the essence of the Law of Attraction – what you expect to receive, be that your desire or the opposite, is what will end up happening. 

So, how can you tune out the voices from the outside and in your head telling you that you can’t manifest because it’s simply “not the way it goes?” Why should the way it was for them be the way it goes for you? 

It shouldn’t. But what we must be aware of is that if we believe them, the words of those around us will impact our manifestation. If we give them enough meaning to allow them to block our beliefs, we allow those blocks to actually become our own beliefs and keep us from living our dreams. 

At the same time, if the words of others are the only distraction we have, we’re lucky. It’s much more difficult to escape thoughts of the past in one’s mind and it is even easier to fear them. 

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The way to keep these voices out is to repeat to yourself what you want; then, immediately switch it with “It is what I must receive.” Do you want it? Does it make you happy? Then go for it! Acknowledging it as the only thing you must receive puts your focus on living your dreams and not someone else’s failed goals. 

The truth is, life doesn’t exist without belief. Sometimes, we manifest what we want and then want something better, faster and more profound. Other times, we manifest what we want but as it unfolds, we decide that we want an aspect of it to move faster (I’ve done this recently as well!) so we make that happen. And other times, we decide that the way we lived life until now was great and happy but we want and are ready for more so we step up our game. 

However you put it, life is beautiful and full of opportunities. All that matters is what we choose. And every time you manifest something you have never had before, it gets easier next time.

Think about this – if you got used to manifesting new things and experiencing the unconventional, you would never be afraid of attracting anything you’ve never done. So, practice. Attract something new every day. Attract a gift from someone. Let someone buy you flowers. Manifest some money from an unexpected source. Start small and soon, you will be changing your life entirely. 

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Reaching Personality Goals Doesn’t Have to Be Long, Painful or Difficult

I WANT YOU TO KNOW ME. 

Not a day goes by that I don’t consider whether I reveal enough about myself on this blog.

“Do they know everything I want them to know about me?” I wonder. 

“Do they really know who I am?” 

But at the same time, I want to grow. I want to constantly grow. Can I do the same thing in a different way, and realize that it’s the attitude, not the action, that makes me different? That it’s the attitude which makes me grow?

One of the things that causes on-and-off growth spurts in my life is giving unconditionally. Sometimes I do it and other times, I don’t. However, I have grown in the parameters of unconditional giving in the following way – the moments in which I don’t want to give unconditionally quickly pass as I realize that my giving unconditionally doesn’t come from any type of guilt but from my choice to make myself and the other person happy. 

Let me explain. 

WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT…

My goal is to give unconditionally because when I do, I worry about nothing and feel like everything I give will get back to me tenfold. This is not to say that one should give to the point of it damaging them but it is to say that when one feels safe and like nothing can damage them, nothing truly can. When you are sure that things are developing the way you want them to, that you are safe and nothing can hurt you, nothing can; on the other hand, when you feel exposed to something horrible happening, you increase your chances of it happening. 

I love knowing that everything I give, I get back, and that I can give as much goodness as I want to another person because it is for my own benefit as much as theirs. Giving unconditionally means giving good feelings and never allowing something to give you negative feelings. It means knowing that what you give will get back to you with even more goodness than you can imagine. 

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There were times when undesirable things happened to all of us and worst of all, I sometimes invited them because I didn’t know any other way for something to change. Sometimes, I invited situations that were not ideal either way because I wanted something to be different but didn’t know what. Most of the time, undesirable situations happen when you don’t truly know what you want. 

Not knowing what we want makes is too easy to invite undesirable situations but this is not an ultimate problem – nothing is – as anything can be reversed with Law of Attraction. 

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I’ve come to this place in less than three weeks. I decided that I wanted to be this positive, relaxed person nothing can phase again. This is not the same thing as being insensitive, as you can feel anything you want while staying strong, but in the recent years I had been slightly more sensitive than usual.

At first, I liked being more sensitive. I liked exploring this new personality but fast, it became about feeling the irrelevant things too much (meaning just as much as the relevant ones). It became about vocalizing all emotions but I soon noticed that vocalizing overreactions or even reasonable emotions in an overreacting fashion made me feel awful. I thought that verbalizing all of my emotions would be liberating but more than anything, it drove me into being someone I didn’t like. It drove me into the occasional complaining which I didn’t enjoy doing. 

We can still vocalize all the emotions we want but with the purpose of feeling positive, not dumping negativity on other people. When our goal is to be positive instead of telling someone how much they’ve upset us for any other purpose, such as showing them how hurt we are or trying to hurt them back, we automatically distinguish the positive emotion from the negative.

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At rare times, I felt the need to show someone who bothered me what I thought of them which would soon invite even more negative feelings into my life. For the most part though, I didn’t care about those who bothered me and would only care about my own happiness. Then, I realized I never wanted to return any negative feelings but protect my own positive feelings instead. Being upset with someone is just not worth it because it’s a waste of my time. My time is what matters more than someone who upsets me. Your time matters more than the person who upsets you. 

This is the person I am, consistently. Maybe I wasn’t 100% of the time in the past, even if I was so most of it, but knowing who you want to be is wonderful. I always wanted to be more relaxed and even more positive than ever. I’ve always known I would come to this place. 

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Did You Know That Negativity Makes Us Forget All About Our Desires?

Sometimes, it’s almost like we forget what we want and therefore forget to stay focused on it.

Think about it – if you stay focused on what you want for several minutes at a time but then refocus on something else and later forget what it is you wanted while allowing your negative thoughts to take over? If this happens, it means you didn’t put enough positive feeling into the idea of having what you want.

When you think about having what you want, how do you truly feel? Are you happy? Because if you are, even a little bit, you won’t be able to convince yourself of not being where you want to be even if you tried!

We have to remember what it is we want as much as we have to remember that it’s ours already. More often than not, it’s as if one forgets what they want and simply start thinking about what they don’t want.

This revelation came completely unexpectedly but it makes perfect sense. If the Universe knows what we want, why would we ever engage in what we don’t? The Universe knows but we have to put our faith in it in order to receive!

There are multiple desires we have which make us happy. I love to think about a world that treats all animals lovingly – this goal fills me with love. It feels like the most important goal in the world. This is why I also encourage nothing but positive thoughts and treatment of others. Fair enough, I haven’t always nurtured positive thoughts about others but I know how unhappy it made me; then, I realized that I and my obvious, well-deserved happiness are the only important factors whereas those I dislike are simply insignificant to me. Let them find their own company that likes them. We must earn our likeability by being a good person and feeling good about ourselves because no one likes the negative, the arrogant or the empty. Nothing impresses me less than the people who contribute nothing to the world, and the only thing one needs to contribute is their self-love. That’s right, self-love, because those who have it also love others and actually change other people’s lives.

A positive person can change someone’s life with just one encounter.

When you’re happy and positive, it’s easier to stay focused on your desires; when you’re negative, it’s easy to forget them altogether.

New Job Updates

Days ago, I decided to manifest new work. And now, I have the first updates on that.

This morning, I received an invite from a familiar network to apply for a position in Japan. I will pass on this full time opportunity but am grateful to have received it anyway.

Then, I received an invite to give a lecture in Europe in January. Sounds good, right?

THOUGHT OF THE DAY

Adapt the manifestation process to yourself. If you’re a go-getter, say to yourself that it’s yours and once you’ve convinced yourself of it, make the moves to make it happen.

If you prefer the things you love to just come to you, be sure that what you want is coming, then sit back and relax. Visualize it coming in the way that makes you feel so grateful and more love for life and the world than you can imagine.

If you’re a combination of both, mix and match.

You don’t have to be anyone other than yourself to make your dreams come true.

You deserve to have what you want.