A Quick Thought…

A truly confident person feels great about their attributes as well as imperfections.

They love their kind heart. They love to fascinate others with their knowledge of art, music, literature or anything else. They know now amazing their sense of humor is. They take pride in their geeky hobbies. They love their girly side. They feel good even thought they might not have the perfect body. They giggle at their slightly slower math skills.

They love one and the other.

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The Art of Letting Go – Beauty, Lightness and the Magnitude of Life

Letting go entails accepting life until your desire manifests into it; letting go can also be made easier when you realize that your desire is not perfect.

This is how the acceptance of your desire’s current imperfections can actually help you let go while you allow it to transform into everything you want it to be.

None of us are perfect and there is nothing wrong with that yet when it comes to manifesting our desires, we magnify our imperfections in our minds to the point of turning them into self-imposed issues. We look for reasons not to manifest our desires within ourselves, wondering if we deserve to have what we want while perceiving life and its circumstances bigger than they are. We fear change and are intimidated by others instead of accepting that no human being is more deserving than the other.

Instead of worrying about our own worth, we need to accept that we are as worthy as we make our desires to be in our minds. We must find all the meaning within ourselves that we assign to our desires every day.

I know that being yourself can be difficult at times. I understand the courage to be yourself can be difficult to come by. At the same time, I feel that most of our worries come from idealizing certain situations, people and relationships while underestimating ourselves but I guess we prefer to do so over realizing that none of it is perfect…because if we think that what we desire is actually perfect, we have an ideal to strive for. And ideal realities are something we tend to crave. Ideal situations, ideal individuals, the perfect comfort – those are the things we crave until we find something real but better and more wonderful than anything we ever imagined.

Think of anything you ever imagined but then found something real, either in it or apart from it – which one made you feel alive? We can have anything we want and it doesn’t have to be impossible. Anything can be ours and simply real, once we open our hearts to accepting it as it is. This can only happen by accepting ourselves as we are, just as we accept those we admire. It is time to start admiring ourselves, too.

Being ourselves allows us to accept our desires in many ways and suddenly believe in ourselves more than we could have ever imagined.

Reverse Another Person’s Negative Influence on Your Life

Have you ever been involved with someone who has a negative influence on you in terms of you having a hard time accepting them yet still wanting to be with them and then, attracting problems into your own life as a result of a perpetually low vibration?

This usually happens when you love someone whose behavior in the current reality upsets you.

Want to know a secret? We’ve all been there and there is nothing that we can’t reverse in life with LoA so in reality, there is nothing to worry about. It doesn’t matter what situations you put yourself in – you can reverse them and their effect on your life.

LoA sometimes suggests that we can do anything without consequences but that’s not true. A low vibration due to whatever one has done is the worst consequence of all – that’s why we should always do good and expect good.

You will reverse someone’s impact on your low vibration by deciding that you are the most important person in your life and that nobody’s behavior should have the power to influence yours; with this, you will know that you must take care of your happiness first and attract a specific person second.

You will take care of your happiness first by pampering yourself, enjoying your friends or manifesting new ones – oftentimes, manifesting friendships can be easier than manifesting relationships and you should use that! Create your own identity first with a desired career, lifestyle, friends and pampering yourself/knowing what makes you happy. Once you have defined yourself, manifest a relationship.

Unless we know who we are, we cannot be happy with another person because we won’t know what exactly it is that makes us happy. We first have to decide.

In the past, I thought that one could simply wait to discover what they want and then manifest it; however, when I thought that, I had forgotten an important point I had always known in life.

One cannot grow into the person they wish to be unless they think about who exactly they want to be, what kind of person they wish to be and what exactly makes them happy. We have to think about these things until we find the answers – otherwise, we will go through life getting used to being in the comfort zone of “searching” for ourselves and never actually finding ourselves.

And once we know who we are and what we want, we will be able to manifest it.

We should expect nothing less than our desires manifesting and if we’re going to receive them, we must know that what happened in the past doesn’t matter because the moment you change your awareness and declare your intention, your present life is going to change. Your desire isn’t to be manifested in the future but in the present; the moment you ask for it, it’s yours entirely.

We can only produce miracles if we see no boundaries.

Thought of the Day

Change the outcome by changing your attitude, awareness and behavior.

Change the outcome by engaging in self-love and putting yourself first.

Stop putting your desired partner before yourself, no matter how much you miss them – put yourself first at all times. And do so by knowing that your ideal relationship with them is a done deal.

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Removing My Own Manifestation Blocks

We like to imagine ourselves having what we want but we also like to think about who we are.

Everyone has a Law of Attraction block to overcome at one point or another. To some, this is distrust in the process; to others, it’s a lack of faith in their abilities. To others, it’s focusing on the current reality and being so upset about it that it prevents them from thinking about the ideal. To me, this was forgiveness.

At some point in my life, I became very unforgiving. I had created an idea in my mind that those who deserve me simply don’t make a certain kind of mistakes one should never make in a friendship or a relationship and if they did, I would discard them and move on (in most cases).

And then, I realized that I simply didn’t think these people were worth forgiving and I didn’t truly want them in my life. That moment, I knew that I would someday choose a partner who was too good of a person to make the deal-breaker type mistakes but still wondered how I would react if they committed less serious errors out of poor momentary judgement.

I started looking around and realized that most of those close to me occasionally committed these casual errors already. When I observed my reactions to those errors, they were usually harsh and, as if the person had forever let me down, resulted in a deep change in perception I had of this person. Even when I knew these errors didn’t mean that the person who committed them was entirely wrong about everything, I still held them to poor esteem simply because I didn’t want to forgive, thinking that their casual error never should have happened and that their judgement simply never should have been so off.

And then, I realized that if I never forgave even the smallest errors, those unintentional, casual and forgivable mistakes, I would never keep anyone in my life. I needed to stop being so upset and unforgiving of others’ mistakes, and focus on the people who were actually worth forgiving.

Focusing on why the person is worth forgiving and on who they are was the key. If someone simply needs to think a little more before acting because their spontaneous reactions hurt you, bring it to their attention or simply visualize them treating you with all the attentiveness you wish to receive (and then believe they will – simply choose to believe in them!). Focus on what they did right and magically, they will start making all the right moves very soon. However, if you continue to be upset with them, they will keep making the moves you dislike. Feeling good about someone now ensures their more than positive displays towards you in the near future.

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All Life’s Challenges Are Blessings in Disguise

Let’s be honest – we do not truly enjoy too many challenges life throws at us. At one time or another, we all felt that the permanent state of bliss was out of our reach. Just when we thought we might have reached an optimism nirvana, a challenge may have come along to derail our level of enthusiasm and force us to acknowledge we have not truly achieved inner bliss.

After the fact, we may be grateful for the challenges that helped us learn and turned us into better people but for the duration, we sometimes allow ourselves to be destroyed by them.

Having faith in your dreams coming true is often difficult when you have been exhausted by life’s excruciating circumstances. All of these circumstances are or have been challenges in their own right. Challenges exist to help us grow – this is my firm belief. Embracing this notion and accepting them when they appear will make getting through them a lot easier. There is no challenge that appears for no reason and there is none we do not learn at least one new thing from. Having said that, we truly need to accept them when they appear; if we resist them, they will remain. Changing our outlook on life’s challenges will stop us from trying to prevent them and will make them wash away.

After all, doesn’t everything we give no feeling to simply fade away?

Let’s go over the benefits challenges can bring if approached in the right way.

Your connection with your inner self becomes your only guide.

Look back on your life and you will find one or several regrets you harbour to this very day.

How many times did you make a specific choice in your life simply because you were expected to? It was not what you truly wanted but you succumbed to external pressure. We all did it at least once now, it is time to stop. If you already have regrets at this point in your life, what makes you think you will not have them in the future? You will unless you change and the time to make that change is now.

The pressures of the world can be painful to deal with but only our own thoughts are responsible for our lives. When faced with pressure coming from anyone (or yourself), focus on what your heart is saying to you. Focus on what you want and what makes you happy. You only live your life for yourself and those that try to tell you what to do are free to go ahead and live their own lives. Even when it comes from a good place, a piece of advice your heart is advising you against has to be ignored. Otherwise, you are not following your bliss and you will only have yourself to blame for the results of that.

When you are able to power through a challenge relying on your own beliefs, your self confidence will increase even more than you might realize. You will be happier and others will surely follow your example.

You are no longer easily shocked and the magnitude of any challenge is eventually minimized.

When accepted calmly, challenges are minimized in many ways. When you see them as opportunities, their effect begins to change. Challenges lose a lot of their power to rattle your thoughts and life while you only have yourself to thank for it. Imagine owning your inner power in the way that you never feel insecure about making a decision again. Imagine having the trust in your choices to be the only ones that could ever make you happy and feeling secure enough to make them.

You can.

Personally, I was never fond of the search process in life. Job search, searching for a Master’s thesis topic or searching for perfect clothes were all filled with ups and downs which nearly made me want to give up.

I reached my goal every single time. That was the only thing I knew I would do. The search process was my challenge. The waiting part and the sometimes necessary patience caused fewer problems for me than the search process, which with job hunting in particular was painful for me. Everything changed when one day, I decided to lighten (it) up because I knew there had to be an easier way to reach my goals since I knew with such conviction I would reach them every time. I decided I was going to appreciate the search process and learn everything there was to learn from it. Suddenly, I was able to draw into it anything I wanted with pure feelings, love and belief. This took a little practice but it was worth it.

Life may be giving us challenges in order to give us even more choices. This might sound odd but think about it – every time you were given a challenge you did not know what to do with at first, there were always several choices attached to it. Every challenge ultimately serves a single purpose – to allow you to confirm what it is you truly want. Challenges help us learn about ourselves and they appear to help us grow. Some have discovered what they wanted as a direct result of the challenge thrown their way and if this has happened to you, say ‘thank you.’

Say ‘thank you’ for any challenge you have ever been given, as it helped shape you into the amazing individual you are today.

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Thought of the Day

I find the majority of love advice to be encouraging of one’s constant focus on the relationship.

However, I personally find the perfect formula to be a mix of focus on the relationship and giving it the space it also needs by engaging in your own beloved life interests – they make us happier and then, we bring that happiness into the relationship.

The Expression of You

Even when it involves others, everything one creates in life is an expression of themselves.

Two people can harbor a friendship while seeing it with completely different (pairs of) eyes. One of these friends may feel they have a friend who will always be there while the other might feel they sacrifice much of their time for a friend while getting less in return. This banal example means that each of these two individuals holds a different self-perception/awareness than the other, resulting in different events manifesting in their lives.

These two individuals think differently of themselves and therefore perceive their lives to be writing two different stories. The second friend might be less and less motivated to give to the first because something we are missing in life (a version of unconditional support, in this case) makes us unhappy. The second friend may also decide to improve the friendship or move on – also a sign of self-perception, one’s desires and everything they believe to have deserved.

Look around you – you have created everything you have. Your job, your house, your salary, the relationships you have with those you love – how you feel about them reflects how you feel about yourself. You may have taken what you have for granted at times while all of it would have meant the world to someone else.

On the other hand, someone else may have everything you do but feel differently about it. They might live in an apartment of equal square footage but consider it too small while deeming themselves incapable of owning one they truly want. They might hold the same kind of job as you but feel differently about it. They might see themselves owning something you want but are unsure you can have. They might not see themselves as someone who can have many friends while you do.

What do you value? What are you missing, if anything? Is there anything you desire but feel unworthy of? Is there something you know you will soon receive? I am asking because a change in your self-perception will result in a change in your life.

Just like you have created everything in your life, you can intentionally create what you want and for that to happen, you have to become someone who is convinced they’ve got it all. When you believe you’ve got it all, you will indeed. Abundance perceived is abundance obtained.

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In order to be a happy one, your life has to be a true expression of you.

Is your job a true expression of who you are? In what way are you expressing yourself throughout your job? Are there aspects of yourself you feel the need to mask at work?

Is your lifestyle a true expression of you? Do you live just as you wanted or do you compromise in order to satisfy the needs of your family, friends or partner?

Is your relationship a true expression of who you are? Are you living it just as you want to or have you compromised on its crucial aspects because you felt insecure to seek out what you truly wanted?

Are you receiving desired reactions from others? Do they see you as you see yourself?

Our lives are genuine expressions of ourselves if they are what we wanted them to be. It doesn’t matter when any of us realized what we truly wanted, just that we did. It doesn’t matter if throughout life, some of us have changed our minds about what we wanted, as long as we realized where our hearts were.

On the other hand, if one knows they’re not living the life they truly want, they have forgotten themselves. My question is, is it really worth it?

It’s never too late to start being yourself.

Have You Earned a Great Relationship?

I continuously encounter individuals who believe a great relationship is something they are entitled to.

A great relationship is something everyone deserves, just like any other blessing in life. Everyone deserves to experience happiness but those that receive it have in fact earned it with their positive mindsets, respect for others and gratitude for their lives.

Everyone deserves it but a positive individual earns it, allowing a happy relationship to come into one’s reality.

On the other hand, those projecting negative energy (be it frustration, desperation, negative self-image, impatience, rudeness or general dissatisfaction) are continuously preventing what they deserve, a great relationship in this case, to appear in their lives.

You get what you give; genuine appreciation for life, your own and those of others, ensures you will receive an abundance of goodness in return. You merely need to find that appreciation.

The idea of an amazing relationship being earned holds truth but requires explanation; stating this idea as simply as it looks in writing may evoke negative reactions instead of positive. One becomes worthy of a great relationship by viewing oneself in a positive light, focusing on everything they enjoy in life, respecting one’s unique qualities as well as the qualities of others and having personal integrity that ensures standing by one’s personal beliefs.

Many believe they must earn a great relationship by fulfilling requirements such as career success, a larger-than-life personality, financial wealth or being classically good looking. However, basic creation principles state that one’s beliefs create one’s awareness; for example, individuals who deeply believe they cannot earn a great relationship until they have a great job will encounter specific experiences reflecting those beliefs.

The truth is, the relationship you desire has nothing to do with your social status unless you decide to believe it. Those who stick to beliefs such as “Once I get a good job, I will have inner peace and be ready for a relationship” will most likely find that the job, the relationship and the inner peace continue to elude them. Postponing those experiences by masking them as future goals will ensure they remain distant goals, making it impossible to catch up to that “perfect future.”

Now, I am not saying your desires are irrelevant but for as long as you think “I’ll be confident once I have this,” you are creating a future goal that will always remain in the future. In reality, you must be feel deserving of your goals now, feeling confident in yourself before you can obtain them.

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Contrary to popular belief, relationships have nothing to do with your social status, level of wealth, professional success or your looks. When it comes to relationships, you merely need to be confident in the person you are. You need to draw your confidence from internal factors instead of external. You need to recognize your personal qualities, the beauty of your physical traits, your intelligence and gratitude for everything you have in life.

One of the best ways to earn a great relationship rests in developing self-confidence, self-comfort and self-acceptance.

Amplifying those character traits with a positive mindset will allow you to focus on everything you love in life instead of everything you are currently missing. If you focus on your positive traits, you will effortlessly focus on your (potential) partner’s positive traits, enjoying your relationship immensely and solving problems in it easily. Suddenly, you will come to realize relationships were intended to be easy and enjoyable instead of being a constant ego battle between opposing sides. If you have an eye on a potential partner, you will be encouraged to communicate with them as you have recognized your own qualities while appreciating them for theirs. You will realize how much there is to be liked about you!

If you believe your looks are insufficient to evoke attraction in another, you will project an unhappy demeanor, tension and insecurity. The best part is, you can decide to focus on the aspects of your appearance you like instead. You can appreciate your beauty instead of focusing on the reasons it is less than perfect. This positive energy will evoke even more of the same, allowing you to feel increasingly great about yourself.

Ultimately, is there a real reason you should feel negatively about your appearance? Everyone holds a different idea of what beauty means. More importantly, we all respond to each other’s energy much stronger than any physical attributes – every time you were attracted someone who wasn’t your “type” proves that.

Do you compare yourself to others? This is another mistake which can prevent you from receiving life’s goods. Do you believe you must match an ideal another specific person represents to you while considering anything “less” to be insufficient? This mindset only states your lack of appreciation for yourself, as you feel undeserving of love. Even if you think your (potential) partner only wants the ideal you have imagined he/she must, it doesn’t mean you’re right.

We all know the story – one perceives their desired partner to be “too good for me.” “He/She is out of my league,” they imagine, never making a move or deeming themselves worthy instead. This thought process is perpetuated until the object of their affection meets someone else.

There are plenty of similar examples. However, it all comes down to the following.

Searching for the reasons to postpone living a happy relationship only shows that you doubt your own value. If recognizing the said value undoubtedly ensures finding a great relationship, what is the point of feeling inadequate?