As you love yourself more and more, you come to realize that you don’t want to be emotional to the point where it makes you uncomfortable.
It’s very easy to look at what we are not getting in a relationship or its manifestation, detailing the parts we wish we had never experienced or those that aren’t going our way for the moment. Today, we should ask ourselves, “Is the relationship I imagined going to be as good as the one I could have if I just allowed it to happen by letting my person express themselves the way they will? If I just gave it a chance?”
What if we didn’t scrutinize our specific person’s every move but allowed them to come to us and express themselves the way they will? What if we trusted that everything was about to work our and the current reality is simply not a big deal?
What if we loved our specific people for who they are, 100%, instead of thinking about the things we would love to change in them? What if we started thinking that the level of communication we do receive was enough instead of not enough?
You know what would happen?
We would grow. We would take the pressure off. We would start to think of ourselves as being in a relationship instead of not so. We would power through the period of dissatisfaction and started seeing our love life as abundant instead of lacking.
Let’s say you have a specific person in mind or are in a relationship with someone you love. But they don’t text enough. They don’t call enough. They don’t see you enough. You’re agreeing to things you didn’t want for yourself in life and half the time, don’t even feel like you’re in a relationship or are thinking about being alone instead of being with someone and feeling alone.
While thinking about what you don’t like in this setup can consume your life, what if you said, “Our relationship is great. I want him/her to be who they are. We talk plenty.” And then, you focus on your own life instead of thinking about what they are doing or what you want to do with them because it’ll happen. You talk plenty so you’ll see each other soon. What if you adopted this attitude?
If you did, you would attract even more amazing circumstances with this person than the ones you had originally imagined because complete love and acceptance first lead to immediate relaxation on your part and then to the person in question expressing themselves in an even better way than you had imagined.
When you begin to see your relationship (manifestation) so abundant in this way, you immediately create a presence in your own life which then makes you feel fully present in your relationship. You start to experience spontaneous visualizations of the two of you together. When someone asks, your initial instinct becomes “We talk a lot,” be that based on the visualizations or the current reality already (because if it’s based on just the visualizations, it will become your current reality soon enough!).
This is what I mean when talking about abundance. This is what I mean when I say we should relax around our manifestations. “We’ll talk.” “We talk a lot.” “We see each other plenty.” Even just based on the current reality because if what you have is recognized as abundant, you end up receiving even more.
Take a look at what you have in your relationship and recognize everything you’ve received, not everything you feel like you’re missing – soon, you won’t feel like you’re missing anything. You will start to feel like everything you have is plenty already.
And then, you will receive even more.
If we think of what our specific person “should” be doing to show love instead of allowing them to just get there, we will never feel like we’re receiving enough. This is how the human mind works and we must be aware of that. On the other hand, if we allow them to show it and allow ourselves to receive it authentically from their side, we will feel like they’re doing plenty to give us what we want.
This is love. This is acceptance.
This is you sending the message of, “You’re more than enough for me, just the way you are.”
And ultimately, this is what makes the Law of Attraction give you the love you want from the person you want. This is how you accept them, see yourself having a lot with them and once you do, this is how you manifest everything from them.
Here’s a question – do we manifest what we truly want or are we usually lazy and only manifest what we absolutely need but not more?NG
Do you manifest abundance and joy or just survival? Do you have more than you need or just the necessity? Think about it. And please share your thoughts!
What do you believe you deserve?
We should be comfortable having more than just the needed.
Letting anybody get to you is a waste of time.
Plenty of people will love and admire you if you believe it to be possible.
Unconditional love and acceptance, masked as not caring about what a person does or simply loving them for everything they are, allow us to manifest relationships rapidly. However, when forgiveness for the past or the present is involved, hurt feelings can get in the way of appreciating someone unconditionally.
It’s easy for us to accept the people we don’t care about or don’t perceive as important to our lives. On the other hand, those important to us are those we expect certain behaviors from and if our preferred behaviors are not immediately present, we can develop resentment or fear that our relationship is simply “not working out.”
The trick is to accept the person for who they are because then, we are able to imagine them treating us exactly the way we want to be treated. But if we don’t accept them to start, we won’t be able to imagine them being even better because we will continue to focus on their flaws and nothing else.
An dip into negative feelings can happen when we project our needs to the other person and expect them to fulfil those needs – in this case, we must ask ourselves if we are projecting onto them the needs we can only fulfil ourselves.
We don’t feel good when we are needy and this neediness often translates into wanting to receive more communication from the person. However, the way to achieve that is to imagine receiving this communication in the way that makes you feel good! You simply must give into good, positive feelings to make the Law of Attraction work – you want to imagine happily living your life with this person and being treated the way you want to be.
If you simply focus on them not doing what you want and not fulfilling your needs, you will lower your vibration and think permanently negatively of them as a result…and that will hurt your manifestation. Thinking poorly of someone translates into you seeing them not fulfilling your needs and not doing what you want, and your impression of the relationship growing in negativity.
Now is the time to ask yourself if you are asking your specific person to fulfil both sides of the equation – their own needs and your own? Because this doesn’t work. You have to do your part if you expect them to do theirs. Everything we give back, we receive in return.
When you love and accept a specific person unconditionally, they give the same to you.
On the other hand, when you are upset with a person’s behavior, they fail to give you the love and attention you desire and a relationship doesn’t manifest.
We must assume and visualize everything we wish to receive from a specific person while calling our negative thoughts false and paranoid. We simply must tell ourselves to think positive because only then can we assume the best of ourselves and everyone else.
We must only imagine the scenarios that make us the happiest.
Even when it involves others, everything one creates in life is an expression of themselves.
Two people can harbor a friendship while seeing it with completely different (pairs of) eyes. One of these friends may feel they have a friend who will always be there while the other might feel they sacrifice much of their time for a friend while getting less in return. This banal example means that each of these two individuals holds a different self-perception/awareness than the other, resulting in different events manifesting in their lives.
These two individuals think differently of themselves and therefore perceive their lives to be writing two different stories. The second friend might be less and less motivated to give to the first because something we are missing in life (a version of unconditional support, in this case) makes us unhappy. The second friend may also decide to improve the friendship or move on – also a sign of self-perception, one’s desires and everything they believe to have deserved.
Look around you – you have created everything you have. Your job, your house, your salary, the relationships you have with those you love – how you feel about them reflects how you feel about yourself. You may have taken what you have for granted at times while all of it would have meant the world to someone else.
On the other hand, someone else may have everything you do but feel differently about it. They might live in an apartment of equal square footage but consider it too small while deeming themselves incapable of owning one they truly want. They might hold the same kind of job as you but feel differently about it. They might see themselves owning something you want but are unsure you can have. They might not see themselves as someone who can have many friends while you do.
What do you value? What are you missing, if anything? Is there anything you desire but feel unworthy of? Is there something you know you will soon receive? I am asking because a change in your self-perception will result in a change in your life.
Just like you have created everything in your life, you can intentionally create what you want and for that to happen, you have to become someone who is convinced they’ve got it all. When you believe you’ve got it all, you will indeed. Abundance perceived is abundance obtained.
In order to be a happy one, your life has to be a true expression of you.
Is your job a true expression of who you are? In what way are you expressing yourself throughout your job? Are there aspects of yourself you feel the need to mask at work?
Is your lifestyle a true expression of you? Do you live just as you wanted or do you compromise in order to satisfy the needs of your family, friends or partner?
Is your relationship a true expression of who you are? Are you living it just as you want to or have you compromised on its crucial aspects because you felt insecure to seek out what you truly wanted?
Are you receiving desired reactions from others? Do they see you as you see yourself?
Our lives are genuine expressions of ourselves if they are what we wanted them to be. It doesn’t matter when any of us realized what we truly wanted, just that we did. It doesn’t matter if throughout life, some of us have changed our minds about what we wanted, as long as we realized where our hearts were.
On the other hand, if one knows they’re not living the life they truly want, they have forgotten themselves. My question is, is it really worth it?
It’s never too late to start being yourself.
Making sense of the current reality is challenging enough but what can happen in a manifestation process is noticing the absence of a desire becoming one’s entire point of focus on the current reality.
This never happens intentionally. I mean, who would actually want to notice the absence of their desired manifestation?! No one. However, without proper guidance, strong focus and belief, distraction could come and take you away from your goal.
Knowing that everything you want is yours implies unconditional belief (which doesn’t mean that belief absolutely must be challenged during a manifestation process but if it is, so what – you choose your reality anyway) which is exactly what keeps you focused on your goal.
When you believe, your belief is all you need. Belief doesn’t ask for proof or a timeline. Belief is just there, like your desire is already there as far as your feelings are concerned and when you feel like it’s there already, you start manifesting.
Belief is everything. Belief allows you to experience everything you want immediately, let it go and allow yourself to manifest. Belief creates the fulfillment of having your desire.
I express gratitude for what I want being mine already until I don’t feel like thinking about it anymore – to me, that is the easiest way to let go. I love my desire but I also love having other interests in life besides my desire. I love manifesting new talents because I love when life is easy for me yet I sense a great deal of apprehension when I ask others how easy life is for them.
Many feel uncomfortable with the idea of an easy life, preferring it to be a fantasy rather than reality. Growing up, many were indirectly told they would only be valued individuals if blood, sweat and tears were involved, leaving those people untrusting of anything life offers them for free.
However, Law of Attraction wants you to be given as many things for free as you want. It wants your life to be easy and give nothing but positive feelings while receiving everything in return. You don’t actually need to bargain in life, especially for the things you care most about. You can have everything.
Think about it – if the Universe wants everything to be easy, what good is it to make our lives hard?
Making our lives difficult is the way to prevent manifesting our desires.
When you perceive difficulty, more of it comes and you dislike it. That is proof enough of difficulty going against our nature and purpose.
We often forget that relationship focus and coaching exist beyond simply manifesting the relationship you want. Once it’s manifested, you must keep it, and you will do so by dealing with your deepest issues which every one of your relationship problems came from in the past. If you deal with those, Law of Attraction will draw even more love into your romance than you had before because resolving your issues results in feeling good about yourself, finally attracting your dreams as a result.
That is how the process goes.
An existing couple is no different – they might get over a fight but the same issues will keep causing new ones in the future unless they are resolved. It’s not about the fight itself but about what causes it, and unless that issue causing a fight is addressed, it will keep coming back in different forms.
Some prefer to believe that the cause of a single fight was their partner’s reaction to our words, their words or specific actions; however, the cause of a fight lies in one’s (or both parties’) issues that have existed long before they even met their partner. When a fight happens, we don’t react to something we don’t care about. We actually react because our partner’s words or actions reminded us of an unpleasant feeling we’ve been holding onto for a while before we met them. We then project their words onto those feelings and end up upset, disregarding the notion they never meant to upset us and were just expressing themselves while we took it the way we did.
Fights can take over a relationship and we shouldn’t let them. Actually facing and dealing with those issues leading to them by causing us to be upset at someone’s words are what we should actually be facing. We have to be honest with ourselves about those issues if we want them to disappear and stop making us miserable, and we can make LoA work for us by doing so.
Issues can be dealt with in two ways – by thinking positive about ourselves and everything in our lives which leads us to easily resolving them by realizing we have outgrown them, or by facing them and realizing why they don’t matter anymore. Either way, it is by devaluing them because negative thoughts can cause misery if we choose to give them meaning.
We are much better off knowing our true self is stronger than any negative thoughts we may be holding on to. What hurts you doesn’t deserve you, and it certainly doesn’t deserve your attention.
Think well of yourself and think about those you love and admire. Focus on the people whose company you adore, and imagine spending time with them. All these things will shift your focus to personal happiness which leads to confidence in yourself and seeing yourself having what you want.
I have always had a very specific trigger to negative feelings in a relationship. I value feeling special and seeing myself as such, and when a boyfriend makes me feel anything but, my taste for the relationship starts to wane. In a relationship, I always give what I wish to receive by expressing how much my partner means to me yet my patience for being with someone who doesn’t express himself well enough has left me over the years. I want someone who dares to say what he means, has the courage to dive into love, be romantic and show me how much I mean to him.
In the past, I would summon enough love to see beyond hearing what I didn’t like but today, I want someone who sees and realizes that I want to be put first, because I put my partner first. Those who have no interest in doing this can move along.
Sometimes, it is easier for us to say that we “feel like this is happening, that’s how it’s gonna play out” and let the Law of Attraction work – this particular mindset can be an easy way out when it comes to manifesting relationships, as we sometimes feel more natural thinking that the outcome is our of our control. However, even when we “can feel the relationship will go this way,” we are choosing this outcome for our lives!
Every “feeling” you think may have come from somewhere else was also your choice to acknowledge and embrace, and with that, give meaning to and decide that it was to be the outcome of your manifestation; now, since you know that, choose the outcome you want and decide that that one was meant to be!
We choose the outcome of every situation, even when we don’t think we do.
And at times, I focused on what I didn’t like to the extend that I had to decide if whether I wanted to stay or leave the relationship.
If the situation doesn’t suit you and you don’t want to fix it, walk away. Time is much better spent thinking about having what you want than disliking what you have. Some issues in a relationship we don’t care to fix.
If you want to fix your own issues on the other hand, preventing them from interfering with your future relationship with the right person, face them and realize that they’re probably outdated. Chances are you already spent a sufficient amount of time dealing with them and it is time to put them behind you – this very notion is often enough to stop thinking about a problem.
If you want closure, visualizing a positive scenario in which your issue has been resolved. Visualize injustice corrected and a chance to tell someone what you wish to tell them. Imagine this playing out in your perfect but positive scenario because visualizing it in a negative and upset way will not make it go away.
Then, you will automatically put it behind you for good.
I suggest you celebrate yourself and your life.
You have to play the lead role in your own reality instead of putting the person you want to manifest a relationship with first. You can prioritize them but imagine the relationship and your love as you want it and as it makes you happy!
I mean, being able to love someone the way you want to and have them love you back…don’t you love the thought of that?
Don’t you want that?