Let me start by saying this – this post is not about you changing your personality. It is not about saying that who you are is insufficient to you manifesting your dream life. It is not about saying you aren’t good enough. We needed to be clear on that first.
The effect we have on another person when living the kind of life that makes us happy every day is one of their attraction for us being ignited.
It’s important to consciously choose not to engage in behaviors that are comfortable but ultimately make us feel like we’re standing still.
It’s important to consciously engage in the behaviors and habits that make us feel optimistic, fulfilled and abundant.
Sometimes, we tend do what we’re used to, almost oblivious as to how horrible it makes us feel. We watch the movies that make us depressed. We engage in social media stalking. We start arguments. And for what? To end up feeling like we just never, ever get what we want?
I don’t think that’s our goal.
Do you know why we do it though? Because we’re bored.
Unless we happily imagine having what we want and make an effort to choose good thoughts in other areas of our lives, we are going to end up bored and set our manifestations back just so we have something to do. Unless we make a conscious effort to engage in hobbies, music, movies and people we actually enjoy, not worrying that there’s such a thing as too much joy (there isn’t), we will keep going back to depressing but addictive behaviors.
Unless we care to act like the person we admire ourselves for being, we will continue to be whatever personality we can simply be bothered to inhabit.NG
You know what else we might be worried about? Once manifested, our desires feeling exactly as they do now. Not better, not as great as we thought but just as they do now – empty and uncertain, meaning we’re stuck. Leaving us disappointed and feeling like we made a mistake. Feeling like we should have dropped it and never manifested in the first place.
Sometimes, we count on our desires to change our lives. And, they can – just not after we manifest them but before. Yes, that’s right – a manifestation can change our lives if we have decided to change them first by knowing it belongs to us. Life moves from believing to seeing, and happiness a manifestation brings is no different.
We need to engage in positive action towards ourselves; that way, we will turn our manifestations into what we want them to be. In every way.
Note – I used the word depressing for a lack of a better one. I don’t consider you depressing. Or myself.
But we shouldn’t ever engage in anything that makes us negative. If we end up feeling negative as a result of our own activities and thoughts, we will just be wasting our lives. And continue to be bored.
Hello everyone! I hope you had wonderful holidays and I wanted to start off 2019 with this discussion of a very common Law of Attraction occurrence.
Frustration with a person or situation we desire to attract will prevent manifestation until the said frustration is diminished. Until removed, one’s personal feelings of frustration only attract more frustration, be it from real events or one’s impression of what might be happening behind the scenes.NG
I believe we’ve all experienced this in the past, and that’s okay. It happens. People are different and acceptance is the start of love and teamwork but let me explain how this works.
Let’s say you’re upset with the person you want to attract into your life or attract a better relationship with. Your focus on why they upset you is preventing further manifestation of anything except for more upset – in this case, you must forgive the reasons why they have upset you in the past and the present, be that actual forgiveness or simply deciding to put these reasons behind you. You might have been aware of this already.
You might be questioning whether this person is the right choice for your life partner after all, as you can only see how much they upset you while struggling to remember the good times you had together – this is where frustration prevents you from seeing the big picture and the person’s true self which comes from everything they do for you and others, not everything they don’t.
Here’s the trick thought – we cannot be frustrated with another person, even one we dislike, it we aren’t already frustrated with ourselves and projecting those upsetting feelings on our lives and other people. It all comes from us. It all starts with us.NG
Admitting to ourselves that we become upset with others because we are already dissatisfied as a result of something within ourselves is not always easy. When we are fully happy with who we are, we don’t care about anyone’s negative character or mood but simply ignore them. Yes, it’s true – when we’re truly happy and now allowing anyone or anything to upset us, we just ignore those who dwell, hate and attempt to divide.
Some want to skip the part involving the creation of happiness and self-work. We often talk about creating positive feelings about a person or a circumstance we wish to attract, especially when we are in need of them. Sometimes, we want to be with someone who has upset us in the past. We might want to change our lives but don’t feel we deserve as much happiness and wealth we would love to manifest…so we tell ourselves that maybe we don’t need it after all.
Do you know why this happens? It’s because…
Waiting for the relationship one wants to manifest in order to be happy seems much easier than creating self-love and happiness first. Relationships seem like an easy fix for happiness which is why many don’t bother being happy on their own.NG
This is exactly why feeling good about yourself equals feeling good about those you have feelings for which equals manifesting great relationships with them as a result. And reaching this point isn’t as difficult as it sounds but would be entirely worth it even if it were.
Feeling frustrated leads to a distortion of our true desires. It puts us in a bad mood and, more importantly, taints our impression of what our desires truly are. If we want to manifest our desire but are frustrated with it at the same time, annoyance with a romantic interest being prime example, our impression of this person is not fully positive which makes it impossible to manifest entirely positive experiences with them as a result.Frustration creates negative expectations which reflect what we don’t want, not what we do.
Most importantly, you know that frustration with another person only comes from already fully formed frustration with yourself.
Even when you state your desire to “feel better,” engaging in frustration instead of strictly focusing on what is already great about yourself and your life continues to distort either your manifestation or the impression you have of your desire. As soon as you decide that you are amazing, lovable, unique and irreplaceable, you will only be interested in receiving love, success, positivity and adoration.
Have you ever been involved with someone who has a negative influence on you in terms of you having a hard time accepting them yet still wanting to be with them and then, attracting problems into your own life as a result of a perpetually low vibration?
This usually happens when you love someone whose behavior in the current reality upsets you.
Want to know a secret? We’ve all been there and there is nothing that we can’t reverse in life with LoA so in reality, there is nothing to worry about. It doesn’t matter what situations you put yourself in – you can reverse them and their effect on your life.
LoA sometimes suggests that we can do anything without consequences but that’s not true. A low vibration due to whatever one has done is the worst consequence of all – that’s why we should always do good and expect good.
You will reverse someone’s impact on your low vibration by deciding that you are the most important person in your life and that nobody’s behavior should have the power to influence yours; with this, you will know that you must take care of your happiness first and attract a specific person second.
You will take care of your happiness first by pampering yourself, enjoying your friends or manifesting new ones – oftentimes, manifesting friendships can be easier than manifesting relationships and you should use that! Create your own identity first with a desired career, lifestyle, friends and pampering yourself/knowing what makes you happy. Once you have defined yourself, manifest a relationship.
Unless we know who we are, we cannot be happy with another person because we won’t know what exactly it is that makes us happy. We first have to decide.
In the past, I thought that one could simply wait to discover what they want and then manifest it; however, when I thought that, I had forgotten an important point I had always known in life.
One cannot grow into the person they wish to be unless they think about who exactly they want to be, what kind of person they wish to be and what exactly makes them happy. We have to think about these things until we find the answers – otherwise, we will go through life getting used to being in the comfort zone of “searching” for ourselves and never actually finding ourselves.
And once we know who we are and what we want, we will be able to manifest it.
We should expect nothing less than our desires manifesting and if we’re going to receive them, we must know that what happened in the past doesn’t matter because the moment you change your awareness and declare your intention, your present life is going to change. Your desire isn’t to be manifested in the future but in the present; the moment you ask for it, it’s yours entirely.
We can only produce miracles if we see no boundaries.
Is there a person in your life or relationship that makes you feel inadequate or like you’re always coming second? And are your feelings continuously being made worse by your partner who seems to pay more attention to this person and their feelings than you in a variety of ways? If you have answered yes to any of these questions, you probably feeling like there is a person in yours or your partner’s life you have to compete with.
This person could be your partner’s close friend, a nagging ex or even a family member – whoever they are, you feel queasy in their presence or from the very mention of their name. You might even feel that their feelings are more important to your partner than your own and you might be torn between wanting to fix the problem and even considering leaving the relationship.
Before you decide, there are several important points you need to consider.
First of all, it is important to know that no one is forcing you to compete with another person…ever. You choose whether or not to engage in competition, just like you choose everything else in your life.
Personally, competition is beneath me. If I feel like I am being forced to compete with another person, I simply walk away. If you don’t want to walk away immediately, having an open conversation with your partner or whoever it is that makes you compete is always a good idea and it might just solve the problem if you express your feelings openly, honestly and with confidence. Remember that you have the power to solve any problem in your life, either by compromising or leaving.
You have to start living your life from the awareness of being a person of value. Great value isn’t determined by what you have or have accomplished – it is determined by who you are. If you decide to connect with your confidence and stop accepting being treated poorly by another, you will naturally gravitate towards other confident people and positive situations.
You have to start having more fun in your own life, without the need for approval from anyone, your partner included. When you focus on making your own life fun, you will stop being upset by all those people whose behavior is simply not on your level. Making life fun for yourself will help you reconnect with your own confidence and maybe even lead you to new people and new experiences.
And instead of fearing the person you think you have to compete with, use some ingenious ways to get them on your team. If they have a particular skill set, ask them to do something for you. If they are the person who is constantly trying to make you compete, laugh off their attempts and refuse to let them upset you (or pretend that they don’t) as this particular approach will throw them off. Whatever you choose to do, do it with confidence.
Getting this person on your side might just be the inspired action that makes you feel good which will prompt LoA to bring even more positive change into your situation. When you do what makes you feel good instead of worrying about any particular situation, you begin to make better, lighter and more positive decisions which attract even more positive change as a result. This is how LoA works when you take a positive step in your current reality!
Making sense of the current reality is challenging enough but what can happen in a manifestation process is noticing the absence of a desire becoming one’s entire point of focus on the current reality.
This never happens intentionally. I mean, who would actually want to notice the absence of their desired manifestation?! No one. However, without proper guidance, strong focus and belief, distraction could come and take you away from your goal.
Knowing that everything you want is yours implies unconditional belief (which doesn’t mean that belief absolutely must be challenged during a manifestation process but if it is, so what – you choose your reality anyway) which is exactly what keeps you focused on your goal.
When you believe, your belief is all you need. Belief doesn’t ask for proof or a timeline. Belief is just there, like your desire is already there as far as your feelings are concerned and when you feel like it’s there already, you start manifesting.
Belief is everything. Belief allows you to experience everything you want immediately, let it go and allow yourself to manifest. Belief creates the fulfillment of having your desire.
I express gratitude for what I want being mine already until I don’t feel like thinking about it anymore – to me, that is the easiest way to let go. I love my desire but I also love having other interests in life besides my desire. I love manifesting new talents because I love when life is easy for me yet I sense a great deal of apprehension when I ask others how easy life is for them.
Many feel uncomfortable with the idea of an easy life, preferring it to be a fantasy rather than reality. Growing up, many were indirectly told they would only be valued individuals if blood, sweat and tears were involved, leaving those people untrusting of anything life offers them for free.
However, Law of Attraction wants you to be given as many things for free as you want. It wants your life to be easy and give nothing but positive feelings while receiving everything in return. You don’t actually need to bargain in life, especially for the things you care most about. You can have everything.
Think about it – if the Universe wants everything to be easy, what good is it to make our lives hard?
Making our lives difficult is the way to prevent manifesting our desires.
When you perceive difficulty, more of it comes and you dislike it. That is proof enough of difficulty going against our nature and purpose.
It doesn’t matter why you want it – it only matters that you do.
Let the thought of having it make you happy. Visualize having it in the way that would make you too happy to think or even speak.
Sound impossible? It won’t after you allow yourself to imagine this kind of happiness.
I suggest you celebrate yourself and your life.
You have to play the lead role in your own reality instead of putting the person you want to manifest a relationship with first. You can prioritize them but imagine the relationship and your love as you want it and as it makes you happy!
I mean, being able to love someone the way you want to and have them love you back…don’t you love the thought of that?
Don’t you want that?