How to Use the Law of Attraction to Stop Growing Older

How to Use the Law of Attraction to Stop Growing Older

There is an idea I continuously struggle with – why does ageing, the most normal concept in the world, absolutely must mean “growing older” by default? And I wouldn’t have a problem with this if, according to society, it didn’t automatically mean having to drop everything they loved about themselves or life because beauty, self love and joy are usually only associated with those aged twenty five or less (or older but rich and famous, worst case).

But should you really listen to society? Law of Attraction says that the way you see yourself is the way others will see you, and that you will attract people who agree with your positive awareness into your life and see you exactly as you see yourself.

You don’t have to see yourself as old just because you’re older than twenty five. You don’t have to perceive yourself as “older” with every passing year. You are simply moving forward chronologically but do not force yourself to become “older” as a result, especially not by engaging in negative thoughts about yourself due to age.

You only grow older if you feel older but the simple concept of ageing does not mean you have to lose your youthful spirit.

And I’m not going to lie to you, I have a hard time standing people who use their age as an excuse to stop trying and start feeling entitled in life. They are not attractive. They are undervaluing and underselling themselves every day for no good reason, yet they deserve as much love and happiness as any other (young) person or any person they admire and look up to.

Why is “young” only limited to your mean twenties and below? I’m thirty three which is still very young. Any age is too young for something. Two is too young to start school. Thirteen is too young to call yourself an adult, start working full time and live on your own. Sixty is too young to die. With all these examples, why can’t most individuals drop the concept of connecting youth or a youthful spirit to age?

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Me, age 1.

Considering yourself “too old” for what you want (or anything, for that matter) can potentially hurt your manifestation abilities. If you observe it from society’s regular point of view, feeling too old for something can ruin your mood and prompt you to consider yourself unworthy instead of deserving of making your dreams come true.

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With a seeing eye dog, age 25.

An easy way to beat your fear is to say the following.

The older I get, the better I look. 

You will notice we used the phrase “older” here even though we said we wouldn’t give it importance – this is because using a fearful word in a positive context takes away its power to make you feel negative. We have taken the word “older” and turned it into something good. The choice of words when using affirmations is important but not in the way you think I’m about to define.

I live by this affirmation and use it once a day…and I would never want to go back to looking the way I did at twenty five, given the choice. It’s not that it wasn’t good but what I have now is even better. Don’t you want to love yourself more with each passing year and not less?

When using affirmations, use the words that make you feel good! If you do this, you will feel good saying and thinking about those affirmations, and this positive energy will produce the very thing that you desire.

What would your perfectly worded version of this affirmation be?

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Me through several years and hairdos – ages 1, 27 and 29.

Allowing ourselves to find ourselves “too old” for the things we would truly love to have is a mistake. Seriously, what’s good about it? What would be the point? I have come to realize that a person’s sense of identity might be challenged or altered with age but there is a difference between being mature and feeling “old.” I can keep my youthful spirit while remaining a mature person with good values. I can remain positive while knowing that I should never stop trying new things in life, as they open my mind and allow me to keep getting to know myself. It doesn’t matter if I try something once or if it turns into my new favorite pastime – either way, it raises my vibration, making me realize who I am all over again while lightening my awareness and overall mood.

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In Brussels, age 26.

You can’t stop feeling and therefore dressing attractive(ly) just because your chronological age has increased. Ageing does not excuse you to stop being, feeling and dressing attractive because this type of awareness is reserved for young people. It isn’t. There is age-appropriate sexy but dropping it altogether is another big mistake you want to avoid. You can’t stop feeling like a woman, a man, a beautiful or a sexually viable person simply because you are now forty, fifty or sixty instead of twenty three. This can’t happen because you will not be happy if you set aside highlighting (and enjoying) your physical beauty. If you did, you would damage your confidence and end up exactly where you don’t want to be – depending on the approval of others because you don’t love yourself enough. 

Don’t do this. It goes against the very principle of self-love, a love that is necessary to make Law of Attraction work.

I mean, we all know at least one example of this. There is a wonderful person in every single on of our lives that is smart, beautiful and worthy but all they do is talk about the level of attractiveness they’re lacking. They  never talk about how good they feel about the way they look but merely refer to themselves as “old” or “unappealing.” They are perpetually focused on everything that’s wrong with their looks.

I know someone who used to be like this and changed. They used to constantly complain about how they “don’t need to bother dressing up.” They used to call others desirable but spoke of themselves as if they were the opposite. They were convinced others didn’t like them due to reasons that were entirely self-imposed. One day, they realized that those who are attractive view themselves as such first. They realized that age does not matter when it comes to beauty. Since, they have been enjoying their beauty, happily spent time pampering themselves and as they had no one but themselves to blame for their formerly negative attitude, they suddenly turned it entirely positive.

I’ve also helped others change from this (and this isn’t me bragging – I’m a life coach). I have seen the most beautiful, wonderful, amazing, the luckiest people look down on themselves because they had been focusing on the one thing they felt was missing from their life instead of focusing on what they had and let the Law of Attraction give them even more.

These are also the individuals who don’t understand the concept of “age appropriate.” This term doesn’t exist to make you feel older – it exists to help you look younger! If you wear the clothes appropriate for your figure and age, you will look younger, not older! Just because age-appropriate looks exist does not mean you’re being called “old.” These things exist to enhance your appearance in order to make you look younger!

If I were to wear a style appropriate for a ten year old at thirty three, I would definitely look even older; if I wore clothing appropriate to my age, I would actually look younger. This is an important factor many don’t understand but if you think about it, you’ll see what I mean. You can prolong the concept of age appropriate by manifesting younger looks but there is no shame in looking thirty when you’re forty five instead of absolutely having to look twenty because you think it’s what society respects. This is also why many stick to simplicity or different forms of a “classic” style – trends leave but the universally loved style works for and is adored by all ages. Classic is timeless and ageless. Some things work despite things like age and time, and this is shared by style lovers of any age.

We decide who we are and how attractive we are, and not society – they can only go by what we set for ourselves. Decide you are attractive and looking much younger, and you will attract others seeing you the same way. When it comes to you, your awareness and your life, you lead while others follow.

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Me in April, already 33.

I mean, does ageing really have to change you?

When You “Fail” to Manifest – A Guide to Starting Over!

When You “Fail” to Manifest – A Guide to Starting Over!

What happens when you think your manifestation might arrive at a specific moment yet it doesn’t? You might have gotten signs or feedback that lead you to believe it was happening only to discover that it wasn’t what you hoped for, at least not just yet.  Continue reading “When You “Fail” to Manifest – A Guide to Starting Over!”

Is Worrying a Way of Keeping Yourself Busy?

Is Worrying a Way of Keeping Yourself Busy?

Often, when you want to attract something you desire more than anything else in life, you don’t feel like doing anything in your current reality anymore until it comes. However, when you only think about one thing, that one thing, you are bound to run out of positive thoughts at some point and switch to negative ones.

Positive beliefs stick but a variety of positive thoughts comes and goes throughout the day. In the moments they go, it is important to switch your thoughts to something else that makes you happy instead of continuing to think about your desired manifestation. This is how the mind works so when you try to force yourself to keep the positive thoughts going, the forcing makes you switch to negative thoughts soon enough. Forcing yourself is unnatural, tension-creating energy that will ultimately rattle your brainwaves and produce negative thoughts.

Continue reading “Is Worrying a Way of Keeping Yourself Busy?”

Positivity Equals Maturity, Maturity Equals Confidence and Confidence Equals Appeal – Why?

Positivity Equals Maturity, Maturity Equals Confidence and Confidence Equals Appeal – Why?

When we stop expecting drama, does that mean we have actually grown up?

Does expecting abundance and peace around us instead of life’s curveballs void of personal growth potential but dramatic to the core mean we have finally figured out what it’s all about?

Does expecting the best instead of expecting the road to get bumpy mean we are ready to live at peace with ourselves, our minds and other individuals, and feel love for life while knowing that our dreams belong to us?

Does a desire to happily coexist with others mean that we are ready to love ourselves and everyone else?

Yes.

Because to me, positivity is maturity. Inner peace is maturity. Maturity is emotional stability which is both happy and attractive. When you’re at peace with yourself, don’t you just see the light and realize how much you have to offer, focusing on what you have instead of what you are lacking?

All these questions have a lot to do with your inner peace, your natural happiness and your appeal to other people, including those you have set your sights on.  Continue reading “Positivity Equals Maturity, Maturity Equals Confidence and Confidence Equals Appeal – Why?”

Reminder of the Day

Reminder of the Day

When you’re faced with negative thoughts, do the following.

  1. Remember they only have power if you allow them to. If you decide they are false and powerless, you can face them, even feel them, without being afraid of them messing up your life. You have to finally put yourself before your own negative thoughts. 
  2. Remind yourself that your negative thoughts might not be as clear cut as you think. Negative thoughts appear so that you could power through them and come out the other side ready to live your dreams. Negative thoughts can simply be a way of purging your energy from negativity and moving onto a more positive awareness but they will only be so if you allow them to come, help you uncover your personal blocks and help yourself release them.
  3. Your negative thoughts are a guide into the depths of your awareness. Your negative thoughts are not an indicator of what is happening but of the way you feel about yourself. Those thoughts are just a version of your self-perception and what you feel is possible for you right now, the manifestation of your fears in this case; instead, you must begin to believe that your dreams are most likely to happen to you, not your fears. You see how it all comes from you, how these are your ideas and not some sort of prophecy (besides the self-fulfilling kind, if you keep up the negative thoughts long enough)?
  4. Saying goodbye to negative thoughts leads to inner peace. When you learn to ignore them, your confidence grows with your newly found inner peace which takes over your awareness and makes you realize you deserve everything you want to have without it being a big deal. It’s natural. It’s yours.

Manifesting Relationships – Does it Matter What Kind?

Manifesting Relationships – Does it Matter What Kind?

When I say relationships, I mean friendships, love, family relationships, professional relationships and any other you can think of. Let’s discuss manifesting them!

I believe we all have something we absolutely love to manifest and manifesting specific people is what really turns me on. Attracting friendships, relationships and specific people I want professional opportunities from makes all of us happy simply because I have decided that I bring happiness.

Manifesting specific relationships brings love into our lives while making them everything we wanted them to be.

When manifesting relationships with specific people, I aim for the both of us to be happy, if not happier than ever.

Manifesting professional opportunities means just as much to me in terms of making people happy.

Some people get a rush from manifesting money. Others, career opportunities. They get a rush from feeling powerful and manifesting even more power into their lives. I love to manifest both those things and maintain my professional and financial lifestyle with ease but the purpose of my work is to inspire other people. I love it when my work offers me an opportunity to create my best work to date and when I motivate myself to create it. I love being financially compensated for my work because it achieved the expected result. I love feeling deserving of the compensation I wish to receive and enjoy it.

Feeling deserving of living the life I want and nurturing my interests and goals makes me feel even more convinced that I am bringing happiness, excitement and value into the lives of the people I manifest relationships with. Everything I do and everything I choose to do makes me a happier person.

When it comes to feeling deserving of desires manifested, I always push for self-confidence as the answer. You already know that. However, self-confidence doesn’t mean having to be someone you are not; self-confidence means being comfortable being the person you wish to be, being comfortable doing the things you wish to do.

Self-confidence means feeling deserving of living the life you want.

When it comes to friendships, for example, self-confidence means avoiding being affected by negative opinions of others while choosing friends according to their appreciation of you and your friendship. Truly loving friends will love you and be happy for you while also loving and being happy for themselves.

When it comes you, self-confidence and love mean refusing to engage in negative self-perception, fears and negative life anticipations.

Self-confidence means expecting to receive the happiness you truly deserve. By default, self-confidence also means sending love out into the world with your actions, words, feelings and your honest approach to people.

When it comes to manifesting relationships, self-confidence means believing that you are succeeding because your goal is to make the person you want in your life happy! They already make you happy and you have decided to make them feel the same way. That’s how I see it.

Do YOU Want to Like You?

Do YOU Want to Like You?

A great deal of your personal appeal rests in keeping your personal attitude unaffected by all the negativity in the world.

I am not saying that you shouldn’t care about the world but believing in it instead of faithlessly criticising it not only contributes to your happiness but to your personal appeal as well. In addition, a positive attitude allows you to emit positive energy, making the world a better place almost without realizing.

An attitude of belief in improvement is appealing. A positive game plan is appealing. Passion is appealing!

Honesty is appealing and when it comes to positive individuals, honesty will reveal their personal appeal.

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Whenever you meet someone whose truly positive personality shines through, don’t you find yourself wanting to communicate with this person? Do you not find yourself wanting to be near them, feeling that their happiness somehow makes you happier?

Those who are genuinely happy attract even more happiness to them – this is the Law of Attraction. Who you are and what you believe in attracts more of the same into your life.

LoA is life and those who claim that life is just not that simple are doing nothing but making excuses for not having what they want and being who they want to be. Choosing not to be who you want to be also translates into awareness, as you know that you are simply not as happy as you could be. Accepting this particular awareness/self-perception will probably reflect on your life and manifestations in a negative way, as you will most likely believe that you can have some things you want but not others. However, that is up to you. Your life is your choice, entirely.

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Many were raised and taught to focus on the external world first and internal second. Throughout their lives, many have come to realize their attitudes shape their realities yet some fail to work on changing their attitudes. If you truly want to make yourself happier, you will do what it takes and not see it as hard work, if this is your true heart’s desire. It doesn’t have to be as difficult as you fear.

Whether or not you actually like yourself matters. You deserve to feel good about yourself and can only do so if you nurture genuinely positive feelings. No anger, no engaging in negativity, no hate – just love.

Face your fears – you’ll be happy you did. Take it one step at a time because skipping self work will result in life staying exactly the same instead improving.

When One Doesn’t Need a Relationship…

When One Doesn’t Need a Relationship…

The more I think about it, the more I’m convinced that self-confidence and the ability to let go share a deep connection.

I was given permission to share this story. Recently, a friend of mine got out of a long-term relationship and while wanting to relax before hitting the dating scene, they became a target of some very interested individuals instead. My friend’s lack of interest in anything serious removed the internal need for a relationship which resulted in becoming magnetic to the opposite sex. However, these individuals who are targeting my friend overdo it to say the least, reciprocating every iota of interest with a snowball of excessive attention. With my friend’s breakup still fresh in their mind, causing some conflicted personal values, they have come to fear refusing these individuals’ advances and hurting their feelings.

There is no doubt that my friend needs to regain their confidence and values before entering a new relationship but the behavior of these two individuals who have their eye on this friend of mine shows attachment instead of confidence.

How do I know?

Let me explain.

My friend doesn’t feel that either of these two individuals is quite captivating. They feel that both individuals are sweet but overplaying their hand, possibly insecure and coming on strongly instead of respecting the need for space my friend (verbally) expressed. Instead of receiving the space requested, my friend is being chased which is a primal reaction on an energetic level but a poor choice on their admirers’ side.

I have said before that one can make moves only when certain that what he/she wants belongs to them already. On the other hand, making moves in order to “get” something one doesn’t have yet is generally a bad idea. Simple as that.

What my friend does have in this case is fulfillment in their single life – having come out of a relationship, they feel the need for a new one and attract admirers as a result. My friend feels good on their own right now which is a requirement for anyone wishing to attract new people.

At the same time, my friend is attracting the people they are not interested in having long term (or, any kind of) involvements with. This is because they are putting the pieces of their personal happiness back together yet none of the individuals pursuing my friend are convinced that they can make the relationship happen.

There are plenty of LoA lessons in this example. If one of my friend’s admirers decided that they wanted a relationship and had unconditional faith, that relationship could happen.

If one of my friend’s admirers loved themselves as much as they keep asking my friend to “love” them, my friend would feel much stronger attraction for them.

To sum up,

Those who love themselves and are confident in their abilities can let go of their desire to manifest. They already have much love in their lives…because they give it to themselves.