I wanted to share some personal and practical steps for positive thinking.
Your negative thoughts won’t manifest literally but if you should engage in them, they lead to easily dealt with hiccups in our day to day reality.
Even when it involves others, everything one creates in life is an expression of themselves.
Two people can harbor a friendship while seeing it with completely different (pairs of) eyes. One of these friends may feel they have a friend who will always be there while the other might feel they sacrifice much of their time for a friend while getting less in return. This banal example means that each of these two individuals holds a different self-perception/awareness than the other, resulting in different events manifesting in their lives.
These two individuals think differently of themselves and therefore perceive their lives to be writing two different stories. The second friend might be less and less motivated to give to the first because something we are missing in life (a version of unconditional support, in this case) makes us unhappy. The second friend may also decide to improve the friendship or move on – also a sign of self-perception, one’s desires and everything they believe to have deserved.
Look around you – you have created everything you have. Your job, your house, your salary, the relationships you have with those you love – how you feel about them reflects how you feel about yourself. You may have taken what you have for granted at times while all of it would have meant the world to someone else.
On the other hand, someone else may have everything you do but feel differently about it. They might live in an apartment of equal square footage but consider it too small while deeming themselves incapable of owning one they truly want. They might hold the same kind of job as you but feel differently about it. They might see themselves owning something you want but are unsure you can have. They might not see themselves as someone who can have many friends while you do.
What do you value? What are you missing, if anything? Is there anything you desire but feel unworthy of? Is there something you know you will soon receive? I am asking because a change in your self-perception will result in a change in your life.
Just like you have created everything in your life, you can intentionally create what you want and for that to happen, you have to become someone who is convinced they’ve got it all. When you believe you’ve got it all, you will indeed. Abundance perceived is abundance obtained.
In order to be a happy one, your life has to be a true expression of you.
Is your job a true expression of who you are? In what way are you expressing yourself throughout your job? Are there aspects of yourself you feel the need to mask at work?
Is your lifestyle a true expression of you? Do you live just as you wanted or do you compromise in order to satisfy the needs of your family, friends or partner?
Is your relationship a true expression of who you are? Are you living it just as you want to or have you compromised on its crucial aspects because you felt insecure to seek out what you truly wanted?
Are you receiving desired reactions from others? Do they see you as you see yourself?
Our lives are genuine expressions of ourselves if they are what we wanted them to be. It doesn’t matter when any of us realized what we truly wanted, just that we did. It doesn’t matter if throughout life, some of us have changed our minds about what we wanted, as long as we realized where our hearts were.
On the other hand, if one knows they’re not living the life they truly want, they have forgotten themselves. My question is, is it really worth it?
It’s never too late to start being yourself.
Only you decide what’s possible in your life.
What happens when you think your manifestation might arrive at a specific moment yet it doesn’t? You might have gotten signs or feedback that lead you to believe it was happening only to discover that it wasn’t what you hoped for, at least not just yet.
Have you ever, for any reason, forgotten this very simple idea?
You must not obsess about the “how” or any other details of your manifestation but only keep your eye on your ultimate goal!
I used to write poetry and fiction, became a published author in my preteens and eventually, decided that I preferred writing about real life. Fiction can never be as powerful as real life, no matter how much it is based on it.
Some people have asked me whether Law of Attraction was fiction or not. Some perceive visualization and the concept of living as if to be fiction for as long as it is different from “real life.” However, current reality and visualization of an ideal one are equally real, as one’s ideal reality must be seen as real in order to manifest into the current.
If you perceive visualization and living as if as fiction, how can you ever allow it to become your current reality?
You can’t. You have to believe in the possibility of your ideal reality becoming your life in order to allow it to happen.
Believing in living your ideal reality is not as scary as you think. I know it’s easy to hesitate to imagine living your ideal life for several reasons – fear of loss, fear of success, breaking out of your comfort zone… Yes, these things sound scary but as soon as you try, fear begins to fade. If you did it just a few times, it would go away completely.
Every relationship conflict starts with an internal conflict of not knowing what one wants, doubting one’s self-worth or the fear of being alone.
No one has ever entered a relationship feeling amazing about themselves and ending up in a miserable situation out of nowhere – this just doesn’t happen. One brings one’s own issues into a relationship which can only be an expression of one’s inner world, not an uncontrollable external force that has suddenly shattered one’s confidence. We can only work with what we bring in, whether or not this specific awareness changes throughout the course of a relationship. Even if one changes during a relationship, it was one’s choice to change.
My coaching clients who are reading this blog could tell you that every relationship problem goes back to self-perception and that is why we work on their self-love and personal confidence while creating a positive perception of relationship simultaneously. Looking back on your relationship history, it would soon become apparent to you that you held onto the same inner feelings every time (or at least most of the time). Our relationships can’t change until we start to feel better about ourselves, with or without them.
One must become aware of the fact that no relationship can fix their insecurities, mood or awareness.
What we bring into a relationship, we express.
I find that many struggle with staying relaxed about their desired manifestation. Staying relaxed leads to positive thinking and expectations yet worrying often takes over, leading to negative thoughts and fears.
Staying relaxed allows you to manifest miracles. Even with nothing in sight, you can attract miracles out of nowhere. Relaxation helps you believe and stay focused, and actually choose to focus on miracles instead of your fears. Staying relaxed is achieved by choosing to be happy and choosing to believe, no matter how impossible the concept of a belief being a choice sounds.
You might think your negative thoughts are blocking you but you can overcome them! Relaxation is achieved with decisiveness, belief, trust and letting go. It is also achieved by choosing to feel good at all times and deciding that what you want is yours which then allows you to trust and actually show that you want to be living your dream life by focusing on it instead of your fears. Choose to focus on what you want and imagine yourself living it – before you know it, you actually will.
What you focus on is what you keep manifesting. If you focus on your fears, you probably won’t manifest them most of the time but will manifest staying exactly where you are in life, not allowing yourself to move up the vibration ladder. If you focus on happiness, you choose to manifest your desires.