The Law of Attraction is not about making your life seem perfect or pretending that it is.

It is about knowing that your positivity, happiness, choices and desires make you who you are, not a difficult day or circumstance that simply comes and goes.

Nearly every time anyone asked me if I had faced a specific challenge at some point in life, the answer was “yes.”  We all have, at least once. But it doesn’t matter. It’s not a big deal.

Challenges don’t define us – they only define those who don’t seem to want to recover from them but why let a difficult moment from once upon a time define your fate and personality?

This can particularly be applied to wanting to manifest happiness but blocking yourself with fears from your past negative experiences. If you look within, you will already see that those experiences are not who you are. For the most part, they didn’t even involve your decisions so how can they be defining you? Things we manifest unintentionally are often not what we intended but who cares?

If we manifest something we don’t like, we can just fix it. So why worry about life, ever?

This already shows us that we don’t need to worry about anything. Life is lightness – that is what it’s meant to be.

Years ago, my then boyfriend broke up with me. Break-ups are such a common topic so let’s discuss this one. I didn’t even like him all that much anymore, especially towards the end, but had gotten annoyed that someone I didn’t think much of ended it at the time. I wanted it to end as well but he had said it first so for a few days, I was irritated that someone I thought so little of ended it…until I remembered that the only relevant factor was that I wanted it to be over and that a hurt ego was simply not me. It wasn’t anything I had ever cared about before and I went back to not caring about it once again. I was just glad that it was over because my life was much happier without someone whose attitude I was finding depressing for the most part. But if you have been broke up with by a person you still care about, remember your love for them and start over. Rebuild that love and start to see them in a positive light again – in any breakup, mutual negativity and fears prevailed. If someone broke up with you, you will discover that you didn’t exactly think well of them either at that time but your positive feelings can always be rebuilt if you want to be with this person once again.

It doesn’t matter what happened and surprised you. It only matters what you choose.

It is your choices that make you who you are, not somebody else’s. If someone broke up with you, what will define you is the knowing that your relationship with them is a done deal, if you want to manifest it back, and not allowing any of life’s events but your choices alone to define you instead.