The Reasons for Focusing on a Specific Person

How did you choose the specific person you want(ed) to be in a relationship with?

Some just follow their feelings and don’t think about the reasons why. They know that they have found someone special and they make sure this person stays in their life.

Others like to know what specifically they liked about the person they choose and others choose to examine their behavior to realize what it is that attracts or motivates them to want to start a relationship.

This is how I do it.

I see myself with a specific man when I want to give, put in time, affection and live our lives together – I’ve said this before but would like to explain. I don’t think about what he can do for me but what I wish to do for him. I want to get to know his life, his friends, his passions and his heart. I want to be included and give him the most amazing reasons to include me by being an amazing person who makes him happy. I want to be around him and think about what I want to give to our relationship instead of what I want to take from it.

When I feel that way, I know that I have chosen well.

Knowing why I want a specific man helps me manifest because I know what I truly want. If the man in question displays the energy and the qualities I admire, I know I truly feel it. At the same time, every person is different and qualities can show in different ways so it is important for me to choose someone I admire exactly for who he is, someone I want to be with without ever wanting to change him.

If you think about it, you probably know why you want the person you want, love the one you love or appreciate the qualities which you do. Either way, be grateful for being with the one person of your choice.

Why The Universe Doesn’t Decide For Us

I narrowed it down to two things.

1. We make choices. If the Universe decided what we could have or not, we would not be free to choose. What would be the point of choosing?

This idea raises the question of where one’s choice begins and ends.

There are several areas which many would like to be set in stone and meant to be. This often refers to marriages – many (not all, of course) who marry want to believe it is supposed to be forever regardless of the quality, if you will. They marry for security instead of love, thinking that no matter how loveless they allow the relationship to get, their spouse should never leave them. However, it is much easier to criticize the one we’re with instead of accepting that two partners are equally responsible for the quality of their relationship.

Marriage is intended to feed on mutual love instead of existing as some kind of a safety net. People choose to marry and when they do, they still don’t own each other and never will. Marriage is a choice. When a marriage breaks, it happens by as much of a choice as entering it once did. We are free to choose where and with whom we want to be.

If the Universe decided for us, none of these life factors would be present. You truly are free to choose and create whatever you want.

2. If Universe decided for us, there would be limits and we wouldn’t know of choices. If one could truly create some things but not others, the Universe would be deciding on one’s destiny; however, it tells each and every one of us that we can choose it ourselves. There are no limits to creation, as anything we decide we can create and any energy we choose to produce can manifest.

If the Universe decided on who, what and where, there would be no such things as career change, ups and downs, perceived success and failure according to one’s awareness, divorce, break-ups or any change of heart. We would feel no change or consequences as the Universe wants to give us what makes us happy quickly and perfectly – we would all just be in a pre-decided place yet we’re not. We make choices, we change our minds, we fall in and out of love and we choose those that are special to us. If our choices become unsatisfactory over time, we may change them. We admire some individuals but not others even though we can choose to respect absolutely anyone. We choose careers but sometimes change our minds and go in a different direction. If the Universe decided on what we could have, there would be no choices or changes.

You might be thinking, “Shouldn’t there be some things that are meant to be? How much confidence do I need to have to keep what I want in my life? How much love do I need to feel for something in order to bring it about?”

You might be thinking how difficult it is to feel confident about your desires in a negative world.

However, if you don’t feel good about the relationship you want to manifest, why should the person you want to be with? If you avoid looking for ways to be happy in life, what do you expect to receive? Especially since we get what we give.

Energy works in a simple way, if you ask me.

The Illusion of “Steps” – The Traps of Postponing Your Desire

The idea that your desire must manifest through a series of steps is an illusion. Your desire can manifest immediately, skipping every “step” you think it may require.

You can go from not talking to someone to being in a relationship with them. You could go from not knowing someone to being close friends in what seems like an instant. You could be homeless and manifest wealth. Anything you believe is possible will be.

However, life often makes many believe they need to go through stages before their desire can manifest. These stages are “steps” others have perceived as necessary in their own lives, passing those limiting ideas on to their offspring, friends, collaborates or any individuals asking for their advice.

You will begin to live your dream life once you accept that the Universe is limitless.

You’ve probably experienced the following.

  • Someone you know struggles to find employment. This person could have also been you. They send their CV out without result which in turn deteriorates their self-confidence. On the other hand, you’ve seen someone who sent out one application, a few at most, confident in getting what they want and, they did. This person could have been you.
  • Someone you know struggles to find a relationship. They might date or want a specific person but nothing is happening. Their frustration slowly takes over their desire. This could have been you. On the other hand, someone else seems to flow through relationships (or lives a relationship they love) effortlessly and as soon as they are single, usually by their own choosing, new potential partners seem to wait in line to be with them. This individual believes in their own high value. This could have been you.
  • Someone you know (or yourself) continuously struggles with money. These struggles never end, even during times of employment. No matter how much money this individual may earn, they fear losing it and almost feel as if the world tries to rob them of it. Another individual, or you, comes into and enjoys money easily. They earn competitive fees. They receive gifts. They travel as often as they want. They own beautiful clothes. They often donate money to charity and give gifts themselves. They enjoy money and see an abundance of it.

The second group of individuals in the examples above doesn’t feel the need to postpone their desire in any way. Their energy causes rapid manifestation because they effortlessly work in accordance with the Universe that wants to give us our desires now!

One perceives or even prefers to go through steps if they feel the need to earn their desire, showing they don’t feel worthy of it just yet. This is also a trait of individuals who want their desire to manifest at a specific point in the future – after college, after they lose weight or after they get their dream job/desired salary. “Steps” are nothing but an indicator one doesn’t feel worthy of their desire just yet, or believe they can manifest it.

Have you ever tried to visualize your desire and it just didn’t work? You couldn’t see yourself having it. After asking yourself whether or not you truly wanted it, you concluded that you did. Then, you either had a choice of repeating your visualization until it felt natural to you or diving into your fears, preventing yourself from manifesting the said desire.

You might be unemployed today but have a job you love soon. You might be earning next to nothing today, receiving a large amount of money shortly. You might be single today but could be in a relationship in just a few days. Just because someone told you you have to work hard for anything you want doesn’t make it true. Only if you accept and agree with this idea will you find it to be true, continuing to see those who believed in their own value manifesting rapidly.

You are enough. You are good enough to live your desire now, let alone after you start to feel even better about yourself.

My Crucial Manifesting Factor

Yesterday, I discussed one’s resolve being a crucial factor in the process of attracting one’s dream life. This is certainly true in my case.

One of my closest friends once said to me, “If you don’t have a burning desire to do something or be with someone, it seems to encounter problems. You’re bored after only being amused with it short-term. You sometimes even want a reason to leave.”

I completely agree.

It all rests in my resolve to live my desire. This resolve is always boosted by love and gratitude for the said desire.

On rare occasions, my resolve had come as a result of being sick of questioning and experiencing some negative thoughts. I would observe and entertain these negative thoughts, sometimes even using them to reevaluate my desire. I would say,

“If my desire is strong enough, these questions can’t hurt it but can even help.”

You receive what you ask for and this type of energy, one that offers no resistance even to the thoughts of resistance, can only strengthen one’s resolve.

Do you desire your desire strongly, with all your heart?

Has your resolve been damaged by your own negative thoughts, a lack of faith in your manifesting abilities and the refusal to believe? If this happened to you, don’t worry, as everything can be fixed once your point of view has changed. As soon as you redirect your attention and your feelings to positive, to the ideas you love instead of those you fear, so will your reality.

Listen to what your heart says about your desires – it’ll strengthen your resolve. Any feeling of happiness around your desire comes from your heart. The human heart produces strong energy. Focus on the happiness (the idea of) your desire gives you, love it and even more will be produced. Look back on your life – you gained everything you have today because you felt positively about it. Everything that left your life did so once you started feeling negatively about it in one way or another.

Does your resolve respond to your self-respect? If you feel that being with another would mean disrespecting yourself, your resolve may falter. The person you had your eye on might turn out to be the opposite of what you thought before you manifested them; they might be weak or unremarkable, all showing through your time together. Their best might never be enough for you. If you feel that settling for a specific job would mean you’ve said yes to the second best, this may produce a manifesting block; however, if you feel this way, you are unsure of the potential for your happiness.

My resolve must encompass:

  • True love for my desire. Is my desire truly the place I want to wake up every morning?
  • Patience around the concepts of time and possible negative thoughts. When patience is present, things happen rapidly. The idea of having one’s desire in their life is instantly (or, soon) believable. Ultimately, we all know – don’t we feel silly when we attach impatience or some negative meaning to our desires due to a lack of signs or a borderline paranoid idea? We know that nothing has anything to do with our desires except for the desires in question.
  • Gratitude for having my desire in my life already. If one isn’t automatically experiencing the feelings of gratitude, they aren’t directing enough positive feeling towards living their desire. However, any frustration, negativity or fear around one’s desire can be removed.
  • The ability to picture living my desire. If this is the life I want, at least for a little while, I will manifest it.
  • True excitement for my desire. If I enjoy almost childlike excitement while thinking of my desire, I will experience rapid manifestation. However, this is not a prerequisite – any kind of happiness and positive feelings are. Looking back, I believe I haven’t experienced this type of excitement over every single desire but for some, it was definitely present. I enjoy it greatly and love to feel this way.

Law of Attraction, Colors and Style (In Short)

One of the signs of experiencing a vibrational raise may reflect in suddenly wearing brighter colors.

Being a fan of neutrals, this was an interesting experience for me.

I have heard many times that colors affect as well as reflect one’s mood. Using colors to improve one’s mood also makes sense, seeing how the bright ones were able to brighten up my own mood and motivational skills.

Yes, motivational skills. When a color motivates you, it also motivates you to motivate others.

On Wednesday, I wore black leggings and a silver top. Whereas this outfit would have reflected my signature style at certain points in my life, it now felt atypical. One day last week, I wore black pants with a grey sweater, also unaware of where the idea to do so came from.

When observing my recent purchases, they contain items such as a bright green thin sweater, an orange top, several multi-colored tops, a blue and white skirt and two multi-colored dresses. Furthermore, my leniency towards those colors is always enhanced when visualizing wearing them in my dream life.

Looking back, I have observed that my choice of colors vs. neutrals almost always reflected my current mood. At the same time, choosing colors when in need of a pick-me-up worked at least in part.

Has this ever happened to you?