The Truth Behind Changing Your Mind in Specific Manifestations

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Being specific has its ups and downs. Then again, anything does.

In life, my actions always reflected a core belief of “I want this so I am going to have it – nothing else, nothing less!” which led me to certain manifestations that looked nothing like I had imagined.

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Why The Universe Doesn’t Decide For Us

I narrowed it down to two things.

1. We make choices. If the Universe decided what we could have or not, we would not be free to choose. What would be the point of choosing?

This idea raises the question of where one’s choice begins and ends.

There are several areas which many would like to be set in stone and meant to be. This often refers to marriages – many (not all, of course) who marry want to believe it is supposed to be forever regardless of the quality, if you will. They marry for security instead of love, thinking that no matter how loveless they allow the relationship to get, their spouse should never leave them. However, it is much easier to criticize the one we’re with instead of accepting that two partners are equally responsible for the quality of their relationship.

Marriage is intended to feed on mutual love instead of existing as some kind of a safety net. People choose to marry and when they do, they still don’t own each other and never will. Marriage is a choice. When a marriage breaks, it happens by as much of a choice as entering it once did. We are free to choose where and with whom we want to be.

If the Universe decided for us, none of these life factors would be present. You truly are free to choose and create whatever you want.

2. If Universe decided for us, there would be limits and we wouldn’t know of choices. If one could truly create some things but not others, the Universe would be deciding on one’s destiny; however, it tells each and every one of us that we can choose it ourselves. There are no limits to creation, as anything we decide we can create and any energy we choose to produce can manifest.

If the Universe decided on who, what and where, there would be no such things as career change, ups and downs, perceived success and failure according to one’s awareness, divorce, break-ups or any change of heart. We would feel no change or consequences as the Universe wants to give us what makes us happy quickly and perfectly – we would all just be in a pre-decided place yet we’re not. We make choices, we change our minds, we fall in and out of love and we choose those that are special to us. If our choices become unsatisfactory over time, we may change them. We admire some individuals but not others even though we can choose to respect absolutely anyone. We choose careers but sometimes change our minds and go in a different direction. If the Universe decided on what we could have, there would be no choices or changes.

You might be thinking, “Shouldn’t there be some things that are meant to be? How much confidence do I need to have to keep what I want in my life? How much love do I need to feel for something in order to bring it about?”

You might be thinking how difficult it is to feel confident about your desires in a negative world.

However, if you don’t feel good about the relationship you want to manifest, why should the person you want to be with? If you avoid looking for ways to be happy in life, what do you expect to receive? Especially since we get what we give.

Energy works in a simple way, if you ask me.

If You Love You, Do So Unconditionally!

This is one of the most important posts I have ever written.

I often stress the importance of directing feelings of love and appreciation towards oneself regardless of one’s current life circumstances, physical appearance, social or financial status. Some may think they need specific external validation in order to achieve their desired self-confidence, a notion entirely untrue.

Six years ago, I manifested weight loss of about 20 lbs. I thought it would make me as confident as I always wanted to be. However, I felt exactly the same and was shocked over that very fact. My awareness and with it, my self-confidence, never changed until I faced my limiting beliefs.

Every time I manifested a relationship I desired, I felt the same after I’d received it. I wasn’t permanently happier – I was only more excited. After the excitement wore off, I was the same person. Each time, I was expecting that the relationship would bring out an even better side of me, forgetting that I and I alone had the capability of doing so. My absolute best always rested in me, not in my relationship.

I’m only thirty years old and back then, I was in my mid twenties. I hadn’t learned everything I needed to just yet.

If you think your life circumstances, current job, physical appearance or financial status stand in the way of being the person you desire to be, this is the person you never were. An amazing person is amazing regardless of what is happening around them. Energy movement ensures that once you are capable of being the person you desire to be, you will manifest all your desires. You have to believe before receiving – the essence of LoA.

Directing feelings of love and happiness towards oneself expands one’s self-confidence, which is an essential element of effortless manifestation.

If you love who you are, never criticize yourself for your negative thoughts. Learn to love your appearance just as it is, knowing that you can change it whenever you want. If you hate your job, do you want to be the person who embraces the misery or one who changed their circumstances? Once you opt for the latter, use LoA. Decide that your dream job is yours now and never abandon that resolve. Every time you encounter a negative thought, simply replace it with a positive one.

You might think you would approach the person you love if you were more attractive or wealthier. You might think that these external attributes would offer you a needed confidence kick but in reality, they would only distract you from dealing with your deep-seeded issues.

And, you know it.

Being the person you desire to be requires strong resolve. 


When you feel like you’re drowning in your negative thoughts, say to yourself,

“My dream life is mine right now. Thank you.”

Your happiness and focus will change effortlessly. LoA is a way of living and your awareness will change as a result of evoking happiness within.


When you encounter an undesirable thought, say to yourself,

“I forgive myself for those thoughts. I am manifesting my dream life right now. My desires are a done deal.”

As soon as you say it, you will feel warmth around your heart. Your happiness will change your awareness and you will let your desire go effortlessly, allowing it to manifest.

Be happy forgiving yourself for your negative thoughts and be happy that your dream life belongs to you. Feeling this much happiness excludes all resistance, allowing you to allow your desires to come to you in the most natural flow imaginable. 


If you encounter an undesirable circumstance, say to yourself,

“I am grateful because there is an even better way for my desire to manifest than this would have been.”

Believe it and then, let it go.


The essence of your life lies in your love for the person you are. You are capable of effortlessly being everything you desire to be. Directing love towards yourself when you feel your best, your worst, your happiest, your most hopeless is going to take you there. 

The Meaning of Expectation and Receiving

“We receive exactly what we expect to receive.” (John Holland)

Always start from this thought. Be willing to know your desire is yours simply because you have decided so. Settle for nothing else, less or other; only what you love and want.

When you know your desire belongs to you already and is on its way to manifesting, you naturally expect to receive it and prepare your world for its arrival. This is the place your actions should flow from.

Sometimes, it seems to me that this conviction is the only aspect of the Law of Attraction one should essentially work on.

You’ve heard this advice before: “Make room in your closet for his/her clothes.” I say, when you know your desire of a relationship with your perfect person belongs to you and feel nothing but love and gratitude for it, you will naturally come to taking this particular or similar action – it will be an idea coming from your heart because you’ll be thrilled about being in this amazing relationship already. You will want to do everything for this person. You will want to make room in your world for him/her.

When desiring a specific job, you will want to interview for it, apply for it and the process will make you happy because you will know the job is yours already. You will go through the process happily because you will see every stage as an opportunity to prepare for this job, showing what a perfect fit you are and feeling grateful. You will be excited about your daily commute. Any kind of pressure or anxiety about having this job will be absent from your mind, as well as the unnecessary thoughts about today’s economy or how difficult it is to obtain work.

This kind of action flows effortlessly when we are truly happy and excited about our desires. When we love our desires that much, having them in our lives is the only option. You know it’s coming, making it the only scenario you expect to receive.

Do you love your desire so much that if you could have anything or anyone else in your life today, you would still choose the said desire? If you could live any other reality today, would you still choose your current desire?

My heart is my compass in life while my sense of self-value, self-confidence and self-respect decide who deserves to have it. At the same time, I am able to respect and accept anyone as well as their choices, whether or not I want them in my life. I highly recommend this approach to anyone willing to try.

The Illness of Settling

The necessity of giving what we expect to receive in life became apparent to me yet again after a member of my extended family shared the following story with me.

She was once in a relationship that caused disapproval from various sides. At first, they didn’t care but eventually allowed themselves to, failing to realize that those who refuse to support you are those that don’t accept you fully. They hadn’t paid much attention to the disapproval at first but eventually gave in, trying to make everyone else happy instead of only paying attention to each other. The opinions of the world infiltrated every aspect of their relationship, causing a riff between them. Dealing with these problems continued to be postponed until one of them decided the relationship was over and left.

I was baffled at the course of this tale, wondering why so many still fail to understand that listening to opinions of the world is the easiest (and often, the most effective) way to make their lives utterly unhappy.

Here is the Law of Attraction explanation for this principle – making a life changing decision with the intention of making others happy, pleased or satisfied, thinking it’s “the right thing to do” will only lead to having to do more of the same. You will continue to comply and feel that you should “do the right thing,” waiting for the day things change (which will only lead to more waiting). After sacrificing your true happiness, you would suddenly end up sacrificing all your happiness. Along the way, you will have lost all motivation to even strive for future happiness, thinking you have missed the boat. And what will your life look like? You will be living it for others instead of yourself until the feeling of emptiness renders you incapable of contributing to anyone or anything. You will simply be wondering why you hadn’t made the choices you truly wished to make but were too afraid to upset others. Then, you will resent yourself as well as those you allowed to dictate the course of your life, realizing you’d given your freedom away (to them).

You must give what you wish to receive and if you put yourself second while allowing others to dictate the way you live your life, no one else will put you first. Worst of all, you will be the only one to blame.

Even worse, you know how you would feel if you saw another doing this to their own life. You would mock them, feel sorry for them and never be able to respect them.

Human beings tend to seek permanent security in external factors of the world, failing to understand that this sense of endless security is somewhere inside of them. All it takes to bring this sense of security into every orifice of one’s life is intention.

To bring this intention to the surface, think about what it is that truly gives you a sense of security in life. On the other hand, what does settling for something you don’t truly want give you? A feeling of having absolutely nothing. You may not agree with me now but if you allow yourself to live like this, you will agree someday.

In order to attract an amazing person, you have to be an amazing person. This is why the Law of Attraction is all about you. Being a person who settles will bring even more of the same, more to have to settle for – is that what you want?

In order to attract the person you want, you have to be the person you wish to be yourself, otherwise you will never feel deserving of being with them. The way to start being the person you wish to be starts with full self-acceptance, moving into changing the traits you dislike about yourself in the most painless way possible.

Accepting yourself fully means accepting yourself regardless of where you are in life or what you have. If you don’t, no one else will.

What kind of person do you wish to be? Do you accept yourself fully? You cannot make the Law of Attraction work if you avoid examining yourself while focusing on everyone else. Settling in order to make someone else happy is one of the easiest ways to avoid taking a look within.

You have the right to justify these ideas any way you wish, thinking you absolutely must settle in one way or another. However, what you feel is what you are going to attract.

The choice is yours.