The Expression of You

The Expression of You

Even when it involves others, everything one creates in life is an expression of themselves.

Two people can harbor a friendship while seeing it with completely different (pairs of) eyes. One of these friends may feel they have a friend who will always be there while the other might feel they sacrifice much of their time for a friend while getting less in return. This banal example means that each of these two individuals holds a different self-perception/awareness than the other, resulting in different events manifesting in their lives.

These two individuals think differently of themselves and therefore perceive their lives to be writing two different stories. The second friend might be less and less motivated to give to the first because something we are missing in life (a version of unconditional support, in this case) makes us unhappy. The second friend may also decide to improve the friendship or move on – also a sign of self-perception, one’s desires and everything they believe to have deserved.

Look around you – you have created everything you have. Your job, your house, your salary, the relationships you have with those you love – how you feel about them reflects how you feel about yourself. You may have taken what you have for granted at times while all of it would have meant the world to someone else.

On the other hand, someone else may have everything you do but feel differently about it. They might live in an apartment of equal square footage but consider it too small while deeming themselves incapable of owning one they truly want. They might hold the same kind of job as you but feel differently about it. They might see themselves owning something you want but are unsure you can have. They might not see themselves as someone who can have many friends while you do.

What do you value? What are you missing, if anything? Is there anything you desire but feel unworthy of? Is there something you know you will soon receive? I am asking because a change in your self-perception will result in a change in your life.

Just like you have created everything in your life, you can intentionally create what you want and for that to happen, you have to become someone who is convinced they’ve got it all. When you believe you’ve got it all, you will indeed. Abundance perceived is abundance obtained.

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In order to be a happy one, your life has to be a true expression of you.

Is your job a true expression of who you are? In what way are you expressing yourself throughout your job? Are there aspects of yourself you feel the need to mask at work?

Is your lifestyle a true expression of you? Do you live just as you wanted or do you compromise in order to satisfy the needs of your family, friends or partner?

Is your relationship a true expression of who you are? Are you living it just as you want to or have you compromised on its crucial aspects because you felt insecure to seek out what you truly wanted?

Are you receiving desired reactions from others? Do they see you as you see yourself?

Our lives are genuine expressions of ourselves if they are what we wanted them to be. It doesn’t matter when any of us realized what we truly wanted, just that we did. It doesn’t matter if throughout life, some of us have changed our minds about what we wanted, as long as we realized where our hearts were.

On the other hand, if one knows they’re not living the life they truly want, they have forgotten themselves. My question is, is it really worth it?

It’s never too late to start being yourself.

Life Coaching, Professional and Personal

Life Coaching, Professional and Personal

I love sharing personal examples in my coaching. I think that a good life coach should be an authentically positive person who is good at living life because someone like that will have stories, understand them in terms of the Law of Attraction and never suggest unrealistic visualization or other methods they can’t even connect with themselves.

Positivity is real. Negative thoughts exist but can be ignored – you don’t have to make an extraneous effort to remove them. Just knowing they are powerless over you if you decide as much is enough to ignore them (even if they rattle you at first). A good life coach will encourage you to do this because they know you can! You could wake up tomorrow and find that last bit of motivation you’ve been missing which should be the goal your coach has for you.

A personal story is powerful because it provides a lifelike analysis of LoA that makes the listener realize how they feel about things. Offer your own point of view and you will be doing someone else a favor, making them see how they would handle this, the feelings they would have and their opinion of the situation (which doesn’t belittle your choices in any way, even if they disagree with you). It is not you job to persuade others to follow – it is you choice to offer you perspective generously so that others could gain a second opinion and possibly find themselves in the process.

When your main focus in on yourself instead of other people’s thoughts, actions and life choices, you find yourself capable of generously sharing you examples without the need for approval or validation.

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Have You Earned a Great Relationship?

Have You Earned a Great Relationship?
This post first appeared on my (first) blog, https://improvingconfidence.wordpress.com/

I continuously encounter individuals who believe a great relationship is something they are entitled to.

A great relationship is something everyone deserves, just like any other blessing in life. Everyone deserves to experience happiness but those that receive it have in fact earned it with their positive mindsets, respect for others and gratitude for their lives.

Everyone deserves it but a positive individual earns it, allowing a happy relationship to come into their reality.

On the other hand, those projecting negative energy (be it frustration, desperation, negative self-image, impatience, rudeness or general dissatisfaction) are continuously preventing what they deserve, a great relationship in this case, to appear in their lives.

You get what you give; genuine appreciation for life, your own and those of others, ensures you will receive an abundance of goodness in return. You merely need to find that appreciation.

The idea of an amazing relationship being earned holds truth but requires explanation; stating this idea as simply as it looks in writing may evoke negative reactions instead of positive. One becomes worthy of a great relationship by viewing oneself in a positive light, focusing on everything they enjoy in life, respecting one’s unique qualities as well as the qualities of others and having personal integrity that ensures standing by one’s personal beliefs.

Many believe they must earn a great relationship by fulfilling requirements such as career success, a larger-than-life personality, financial wealth or being classically good looking. However, basic creation principles state that one’s beliefs create one’s awareness; for example, individuals who deeply believe they cannot earn a great relationship until they have a great job will encounter specific experiences reflecting those beliefs.

Truth is, the relationship you desire has nothing to do with your social status unless you decide to believe it. Those who stick to beliefs such as “Once I get a good job, I will have inner peace and be ready for a relationship” will most likely find that the job, the relationship and the inner peace continue to elude them. Postponing those experiences by masking them as future goals will ensure they remain distant goals, making it impossible to catch up to that “perfect future.”

Now, I am not saying your desires are irrelevant but for as long as you think “I’ll be confident once I have this,” you are creating a future goal that will always remain in the future. In reality, you must feel deserving of your goals now and be confident in yourself before you can obtain them.

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Contrary to popular belief, relationships have nothing to do with your social status, level of wealth, professional success or your looks. When it comes to relationships, you merely need to be confident in the person you are. You need to draw your confidence from internal factors instead of external. You need to recognize your personal qualities, the beauty of your physical traits, your intelligence and gratitude for everything you have in life.

One of the best ways to earn a great relationship rests in developing self-confidence, self-comfort and self-acceptance.

Amplifying those character traits with a positive mindset will allow you to focus on everything you love in life instead of everything you are currently missing. If you focus on your positive traits, you will effortlessly focus on your (potential) partner’s positive traits, enjoying your relationship immensely and solving problems in it easily. Suddenly, you will come to realize relationships were intended to be easy and enjoyable instead of being a constant ego battle between opposing sides. If you have an eye on a potential partner, you will be encouraged to communicate with them as you have recognized your own qualities while appreciating them for theirs. You will realize how much there is to be liked about you!

If you believe your looks are insufficient to evoke attraction in another, you will project an unhappy demeanor, tension and insecurity. The best part is, you can decide to focus on the aspects of your appearance you like instead. You can appreciate your beauty instead of focusing on the reasons it is less than perfect. This positive energy will evoke even more of the same, allowing you to feel increasingly great about yourself.

Ultimately, is there a real reason you should feel negatively about your appearance? Everyone holds a different idea of what beauty means. More importantly, we all respond to each other’s energy much stronger than any physical attributes – every time you were attracted someone who wasn’t your “type” proves that.

Do you compare yourself to others? This is another mistake which can prevent you from receiving life’s goods. Do you believe you must match an ideal another specific person represents to you while considering anything “less” to be insufficient? This mindset only states your lack of appreciation for yourself, as you feel undeserving of love. Even if you think your (potential) partner only wants the ideal you have imagined him/her wanting, it doesn’t mean you’re right.

We all know the story – one perceives their desired partner to be “too good for me.” “He/She is out of my league,” they imagine, never making a move or deeming themselves worthy. This thought process is perpetuated until the object of their affection meets someone else.

There are plenty of similar examples. However, it all comes down to the following.

Searching for the reasons to postpone living a happy relationship only shows that you doubt your own value. If recognizing the said value undoubtedly ensures finding a great relationship, what is the point of feeling inadequate?

The Awareness You Carry (and, Project)

The Awareness You Carry (and, Project)

It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it – this phrase is LoA.

Two people could do the same thing, one with confidence and one without. One could feel good and the other could feel poorly. Which do you think would succeed?

One could do more than the other but their actions would mean nothing unless they felt right. The other could take much less action but feel like they got what they wanted already and manifest accordingly.

See what I mean?

“Class is in you. Either everything you do is classy or nothing at all, no matter what you do. You can’t teach that,” a friend of mine once said.

Some do whatever they want and they are tolerated or praised. Even when their actions are something that could evoke judgement, it usually doesn’t. When it does, they are understood, their behavior justified or daring nature secretly admired. Others do what is “right” because they fear life going wrong. They are so focused on the right and wrong that they forget their own happiness. They put everything else before their own happiness because of some sort of guilt. They feel insufficient and hope they might be deserving of their desires if they were “a good person.”

A happy person is a good person.

Class, grace, magnetism or anything similar always starts with you! Often, projecting these qualities means being able to deal with yourself, your life and your decisions. Often, this also means self love and self comfort. Make your own decisions and stand by them; allow the ultimate you to shine.

Thought of the Day

Thought of the Day

For some, it is easier to remain in the present circumstances rather than change. When their minds attempt to draw them back into the negative, it is easier to listen than choose something better.

If this has happened to you, it is important that you start to see yourself as someone who deserves happiness.

Seeing yourself as the person living the life of their dreams will help you manifest that life.

The Phases of Loving Your Life

The Phases of Loving Your Life

Loving my life has always been a rich source of self-confidence and motivation; a passion for living and effortless feelings of value are produced easily in a life filled with love for itself.

Feeling deserving, riches of the world yours to choose from, being happy for everything you have while knowing that even more is coming… Loving one’s life is the essence of abundance.

Think about it.

No matter what it seems like, you do have plenty in your life to be grateful for. You have plenty to love. These may be different things and different people to each and every one of you.

But what happens on the days when we don’t love our lives?

I experience moments of annoyance with my life, during which I remind myself that everything I have, I created myself and am therefore capable of changing it. I can create everything I want and the Universe showed me that many times over.

I can easily experience frustration when someone tries to “keep” me around. A temporary workplace trying to keep me, friends wanting me to stay close to them when I plan on moving away, exes who refuse to accept the end our relationship or any other situation cause gratitude for being loved together with frustration for trying to be held down… And they make me run like the wind, never looking back. In moments such as those, I feel suffocated, followed by an immense need to remove myself from these individuals or groups as soon as possible.

Once I remember that I have created everything myself, I forgive myself for being frustrated, calmly keep my distance from those I want to be distant from and go back to creating my dream life. Or, I allow for those I want to stay on good terms with to realize what I need instead of what they would want for or from me.

Then, I put that energy towards increasing my burning desire to make my dreams come true. I feel grateful for the motivation.

We can turn anything into something beneficial for ourselves.


What does loving your life mean in relation to the Law of Attraction being all about you instead of the person you are attracting into your reality?

Loving one’s life increases one’s confidence when attracting another.

I have brought specific people into my life on numerous occasions boosted by the conviction of showing them something they’d never seen before. Owning my uniqueness makes me feel good and therefore, boosts my creation. How do you identify yourself? What makes you feel good to think of yourself?

It isn’t that you have to possess specific superficial qualities in order to attract your dream relationship; you simply have to own the person you like to be without allowing anyone else’s opinion to affect your true preferences. Any traits and preferences can be backed with confidence and turn you into an attractive person. Daring to be who you wish to be gives you confidence and produces your happiness, the most magnetic of qualities.

If you feel incapable of achieving this, think about it this way – are you happy when depending on the opinions of others? Or, are you happier when you only cherish your own approval of your desired activities and preferences, immersing yourself into them without caring what anyone else thinks?

Many deem their lives “nothing special,” creating bland events and circumstances as a result. Some deem their jobs boring and others, their general interests, forgetting (or, not knowing) those are circumstances external to love and therefore, irrelevant for it. Nothing is related to love but the feeling of love itself, causing many to forget that money, social status, occupation, distance and other falsely perceived obstacles are irrelevant. The world’s insisting on making them relevant allows us to see whose heart is closed and whose is open.

If you are displeased with your life, change it for you; it is you that has to be happy living your own life.