Your negative thoughts won’t manifest literally but if you should engage in them, they lead to easily dealt with hiccups in our day to day reality.
What happens when you think your manifestation might arrive at a specific moment yet it doesn’t? You might have gotten signs or feedback that lead you to believe it was happening only to discover that it wasn’t what you hoped for, at least not just yet.
Do you fear losing what you have or worse, losing your desired manifestation before you attract it?
Fear of loss (or, fear of failure, if you prefer) usually happens after experiencing an unexpected loss in life – loss of a job, a relationship or one’s happiness or confidence at the least expected moment. The moment one finds oneself blindsided by something they thought would never happen to them, usually a break-up or something of similar magnitude – big enough to cause confidence issues but not so big that the damage is irreversible – fear of loss is created, causing insecurity and self-doubt. And when it comes to manifesting one’s desires, fear of loss works even before one manifests their desire, keeping it at arm’s length.
One’s desired manifestation is closer than they think but the fear of loss keeps it from manifesting in the first place.
I don’t want to say that you can’t lose what you never had in the first place because you can have anything you want if you believe it; however, I will say that the desire to have specific things in life always comes with fear if it stems from need.
Every relationship conflict starts with an internal conflict of not knowing what one wants, doubting one’s self-worth or the fear of being alone.
No one has ever entered a relationship feeling amazing about themselves and ending up in a miserable situation out of nowhere – this just doesn’t happen. One brings one’s own issues into a relationship which can only be an expression of one’s inner world, not an uncontrollable external force that has suddenly shattered one’s confidence. We can only work with what we bring in, whether or not this specific awareness changes throughout the course of a relationship. Even if one changes during a relationship, it was one’s choice to change.
My coaching clients who are reading this blog could tell you that every relationship problem goes back to self-perception and that is why we work on their self-love and personal confidence while creating a positive perception of relationship simultaneously. Looking back on your relationship history, it would soon become apparent to you that you held onto the same inner feelings every time (or at least most of the time). Our relationships can’t change until we start to feel better about ourselves, with or without them.
One must become aware of the fact that no relationship can fix their insecurities, mood or awareness.
What we bring into a relationship, we express.
You might be familiar with this situation – you want to attract a relationship with a specific person only to find yourself diving into negative thoughts instead of planning the relationship you say you want to have.
First of all, engaging in negative thoughts is always a choice – they can come unexpectedly but we either choose to engage in love or fear. Many of us have engaged in both at different times in our lives. At any moment, we have the power to change our thoughts to positive so when you notice yourself in an upsetting thought process, choose belief instead!
Choosing belief goes a long way in manifesting love because by engaging in the thoughts of having what you want already, you are consciously choosing to see the best in the person you love and emit the loving energy you wish to receive. The loving visualizations and energy you emit are your own personal communication of what you wish to receive.
The time has come to discuss the idea of negative thoughts, resistance, inner blocks, limited beliefs and fears – in short, anything that feels like an energy block.
I truly believe that blocks and resistance MUST BE ALLOWED TO APPEAR AND PASS. Resisting these sensations makes them stick in your mind, up to the point of attaching emotion to them, attracting unpleasant events and circumstances into your life as a result.
That makes me think it’s only our reaction to resistance we need to overcome; maybe that reactions is resistance in itself.
From my experience with negative thoughts, they are unreal, irrational and practically borderline paranoid. The ones I experienced never, ever manifested in their imagined form – they merely perpetuated a specific feeling in my mind until I decided to check their accuracy in life, causing trouble over nothing as a result. My negative thoughts served as a warning that I hadn’t spent enough time getting clear on what I genuinely wanted.
When dedicated to resisting and being upset over negative thoughts, my energy attracted other unpleasant events into my life which were completely unrelated and unnecessary. The point of negative thoughts is NOT to warn you about something or someone plotting against you – they exist to give you a chance to resolve any negative feelings you hold about yourself. Once I realized this, I welcomed any form of resistance as a chance to get to know myself better as well as clear my energy in the process of becoming the person I’ve always wanted to be. The refusal to react to these thoughts emotionally took brief practice but as we all know, practice leads to mastery.
Resistance can work for you, giving you a chance to feel deep gratitude over your life transforming already (as you feel it happening). A technique to use can be switching to feeling gratitude that your life has changed and that you now have your desired reality whenever resistance appears.
Another trick I learned from The Secret – proclaim to the Universe that your positive thoughts are powerful while your negative thoughts are weak. Then, only focus on the positive thoughts. I liked this technique because it’s a one-time action and once completed, easy to remember if one ever becomes swept away by their negative thoughts.
There are various ways of dealing with blocks I had used in the past. When manifesting a relationship I didn’t feel 100% about, I would find an aspect of it I loved to focus on. This aspect may have been my being the woman who dated a younger man, a woman who proved she could manifest anything she wanted, a woman who found love with one of her closest male friends… As the Law of Attraction is all about you, the way my relationship made me feel was the key to my success. At the time I was amused by being the woman who had suddenly begun to date a younger man, breaking conventions and showing even modern day individuals in their mid-20s and early 30s (many of whom still nurtured aged values) that it was possible to enjoy life fearlessly, I became that woman.
A great technique for overcoming resistance – love change instead of fearing it.
Change is beautiful and it can take any form you desire. Without change, you cannot go from your old to your new life – at least a little change is going to occur. All these steps will lead you to the main event:
The greatest form of breaking resistance is simply opening your heart.
Love is the most powerful force in the Universe. There are various forms of expressing love but the intention behind them is the same. Personally, I use heart energy to open my heart to the newness I am manifesting. To some, mind energy is the way to manifest but I am a heart energy type.
A significant block I had to overcome in life was setting aside fantasies I had been harboring since childhood in order to make room for my current desires. While manifesting a new reality, I would occasionally experience a reflex attempting to return me to the plans burned deep into my memory; I had to remind myself that I could always return to them if need be.
My self-confidence is my core value, if you will. I know that I can have anything I want. The awareness of always having what you want brings endless benefits when it comes to using the Law of Attraction – it is what I personally rely on when it comes to manifesting.
One of the most important factors of overcoming blocks was admitting that I only needed my own support. That’s the only thing that makes me happy. We can’t rely on anyone’s support – not even our parents’ or loved ones. At any time, an action you take could make your loved one change their minds about supporting you unconditionally, leaving you frustrated and feeling alone. They might not agree with every single step you make, even though they love you; even when they disagree with you, you have to trust yourself. Your parents love you but some parents won’t admit that they want at least some part in your decision making. They might think they know what makes you happy or know better than you do. Parenthood has all the most loving intentions but when it comes to the aspect of support it should provide, it can be a confusing practice.
When needing your support alone, everyone else is suddenly eager to give it to you. Believing in yourself is magnetic to all desirable circumstances and manifestations.
Resistance is inevitable but the ways of dealing with it are optional. View it as an opportunity to get to know yourself. Know that it cannot hold any power over you unless you choose so – we add meaning and therefore, energy, to anything we choose.
That’s what life is and what creation means – everything is of the same magnitude while we merely choose what we wish to experience.